Gene Roddenberry: lol I’m totally gonna make Kirk and Spock Soul Mates HAHHAHAHAH how great is that right like actual soul mates heck I’m even gonna make up a word for it in Vulcan to make it even more legit t'hy'la it is YUP YESSIR Vulcan soulmates not just ur regular earth soul mates but like ancient Vulcan desert warrior bond soul mates ENJOY NO NEED TO THANK ME just send a fruit basket maybe cheers Gene out .
I want to talk about the origin of t'hy'la, as well as the ‘editor’s note’ we get explaining it away. The word has become so commonplace within the fandom that there’s probably not much I have to say that hasn’t been said already. Nonetheless, I noticed a few new things that I want to bring up.
We learn of this mysterious Vulcan word in Gene Roddenberry’s novelization of Star Trek: The Motion Picture. As Spock prepares himself to have all remaining emotion purged from his mind, he says a mental farewell to the most important person in his life:
“Jim! Good-bye my … my t’hy’la. This is the last time I will permit myself to think of you or even your name again.”
While the reader gets to experience his internal monologue in English, there is one unrecognizable word. Lucky for us, they included a footnote to define it:
“Editor’s note: The human concept of friend is most nearly duplicated in Vulcan thought by the term t’hy’la, which can also mean brother and lover.”
Let’s start with the diction of Spock’s silent goodbye to Jim. He hesitates in the middle of his sentence, which sounds kind of strange, seeing as we are meant to be hearing his thoughts. He then randomly shifts into Vulcan. The pause implies that either
Spock takes a moment to find the proper word, unable to find an appropriate term to describe his feelings.
The idea is too difficult for Spock to articulate without stirring up emotion.
Keep in mind that in the movie, this entire scene is spoken in Vulcan. The novelization is written in English for the ease of the reader’s understanding. Especially when you consider that Spock is deliberately trying to cleanse his mind of his humanity, it is only logical to assume that he was thinking in Vulcan.
So why then, is the word “t'hy'la” not translated? If he only intended the meaning of “friend” or “brother”, why not just use one of those words?
The definition of “t'hy'la” states that it “most nearly duplicate[s]” the human concept of friend- it does not mean exactly the same thing. Rather, it defines a relationship encompassing all three definitions: friend, brother, and lover. Otherwise, it would be illogical for Vulcans to use a word with such a loose and variable definition.
The word t'hy'la is used here because it describes their relationship as it truly was, including all three human ideas.
The word comes up again later, brought to the front of Spock’s mind as he sees Kirk again for the first time:
“And on the bridge—Kirk! The mere name made Spock groan inwardly as he remembered what it had cost him to turn away from that welcome. T’hy’la!”
Here, it makes even less sense for the word to be in Vulcan. Spock is among humans, so it is logical to assume that he is thinking in a human language. It’s significant to note that it is not only the narrator that makes this distinction, it is Spock himself. He reverts to Vulcan, unable to find an appropriate human word to express the depth of his feelings for Jim.
So how exactly does this relationship work? It seems strange to think of a relationship being both brotherly and romantic. But consider this.
Spock and Kirk have displayed a deep bond since the very inception of their friendship in 1966. At this time, homosexual relationships were considered so radical that they were largely invisible in popular culture. It was also somewhat uncommon to see deep platonic male/female love in works of fiction. Such relationships existed, but they were largely overshadowed by romance.
Nowadays, we say things like “I love him like a brother” to differentiate between the different types of love that have become commonplace. At the time, the ideas may not have been so separate. Now, of course “brotherly love” did not mean the same thing as “romantic love”, I am merely suggesting that it did not have the connotation it has picked up in recent years as a term of differentiation. Instead, the term “brother” is used to imply a sense of loyalty, equality, and permanence in their relationship.
If the idea still seems strange, take a look at this. During Kirk’s separation from Spock, he became involved for some time with a woman named Lori. Here’s how he describes their relationship:
“She had been perfection—lover, friend, wife, mother, and in every other role and joy she supplied as he slowly recovered from the fatigue and emotional wounds of those five long years out there. They had lived the basic and simple one-year arrangement together—but those months had been memorable ones. He had not been aware, at least not consciously, that during that time she had been something of a surrogate Enterprise to him.”
Interesting. While she explicitly fulfilled the role of a "lover” to Kirk, she also fulfilled the role of “friend”, “wife”, “mother”… even starship. Here, the word mother is used to imply her tendency to nurture and help him, although their relationship was clearly not that of a parent and a child. It’s no different with Spock, who fulfills the emotional role of a brother as well as a lover.
It’s a good thing Vulcans are so much more concise with their language than humans, right?
Now if this seems too good to be true, it is. There’s a little more to it than that. At the time of the novel’s release,The Star Trek franchise was extremely popular, and unfortunately, the American culture was still largely homophobic (although there was already a major improvement over the attitudes of the 60’s). Roddenberry wasn’t really in a position to explicitly acknowledge the homosexual subtext of their relationship, even in novel form. Several years earlier, a Star Trek novel, Killing Time, had been published that depicted Spock and Kirk acting, well, a little too close. Although the novel was essentially just fan fiction with an official logo on the cover, it received several complaints and was eventually recalled and edited (Reportedly, Roddenberry was unhappy with the forwardness and inappropriate characterizations within the novel, although he was generally supportive of fan fiction and even slash fiction).
So to diminish any backlash, this explanation was included in the footnote:
Spock’s recollection (from which this chapter has drawn) is that it was a most difficult moment for him since he did indeed consider Kirk to have become his brother. However, because t’hy’la can be used to mean lover, and since Kirk’s and Spock’s friendship was unusually close, this has led to some speculation over whether they had actually indeed become lovers. At our request, Admiral Kirk supplied the following comment on this subject:
“I was never aware of this lovers rumor, although I have been told that Spock encountered it several times. Apparently he had always dismissed it with his characteristic lifting of his right eyebrow which usually connoted some combination of surprise, disbelief, and/or annoyance. As for myself, although I have no moral or other objections to physical love in any of its many Earthly, alien, and mixed forms, I have always found my best gratification in that creature woman. Also, I would dislike being thought of as so foolish that I would select a love partner who came into sexual heat only once every seven years.”
I find it very interesting that Roddenberry chose to have the character of Kirk supply the explanation. He could have easily written something along the lines of “As it turns out, this speculation was false, they merely shared a close platonic bond.” Instead, we get this wordy non-answer from Kirk.
The third-person narrator has the power to make objective statements about the characters and their relationships. The narrator is not himself a character, and has no goals or motives thereof. Having a character step out of the story to answer a question is a tactic rarely seen in literature, and it raises some new questions: what is this character’s motivation, and can they be trusted?
And in this respect, even as well as we know Kirk, there’s a lot that we still don’t know. When was this “interview” conducted? Were they in a relationship at that point? What does Spock have to say about all this? An emotion as intimate as love must be a sensitive topic for Vulcans. Is Kirk protecting Spock’s privacy? Is he protecting his own privacy? His reputation? If there’s really nothing going on, why doesn’t he just say that?
Let’s take a closer look at what exactly he says, because he never actually denies it.
First, he notes that Spock employs a similar tactic of not actually denying it when confronted, opting instead to lift his eyebrow instead. It seems that Spock is annoyed at invasive questions about emotional topics. Does that surprise anyone? Moving on.
Next, we have Kirk basically saying that love is love regardless of gender or species. Aw.
Then there’s this: “I have always found my best gratification in that creature woman."
Um… Kirk? The word "best” kinda implies that you have some other frame of reference to compare it to.
But it is true. Kirk has had numerous relationships with various women (for various reasons), and perhaps he does feel that a women are where he finds his “best” gratification. That’s perfectly valid. To me, that sentence tells us that Kirk is bisexual with a preference for women, or at least a sexual preference for women (his next sentence implies that he is referring specifically to sexual gratification). As to his romantic preferences? Well, that’s up for debate. But I’m gonna leave this quote here:
“It still felt painful to be reminded so powerfully and unexpectedly of his friendship and affection for Spock—theirs had been the touching of two minds which the old poets of Spock’s home planet had proclaimed as superior even to the wild physical love which affected Vulcans every seventh year during pon farr.”
I never read the original version of “Killing Time”, but it’s hard to believe it was gayer than this book.
Finally, we have Kirk’s quip that “I would dislike being thought of as so foolish that I would select a love partner who came into sexual heat only once every seven years.”
And after all that, he still didn’t actually answer the question. As I listed above, there are a whole handful of possible, in-character reasons for him to do this. It’s an interesting concept, keeping your readers guessing by giving the characters reasons not to be forthcoming with information.
If Roddenberry wanted to definitively settle the issue and say they were not lovers, there was ample opportunity to say so. He instead used an in-character statement to talk around the issue.
If Roddenberry wanted to leave their relationship open for interpretation, he didn’t need to do anything other than what he was already doing. He could have had Spock call Jim his brother, or his friend, or defined t'hy'la to mean one of these. Instead, he created this word in an original language specifically for this instance. There was not reason to include "lover” in the definition of the word unless that was exactly what he meant.
I gotta put this all down or I'll implode: Why I Think Spirk Is Canon
For real though. Hear me out:
Gene Roddenberry was like “Hell yeah, it is!!”
If you’d rather interpret the entirety of the Star Trek TV and movie canon on its own, that’s cool too. After Gene’s death, the spirkiness dwindled considerably (Generations was like a giant middle finger - admittedly, I haven’t seen it, but that’s what I hear). But if you’re like me, you’d find a helluva lot of solace in knowing the creator’s opinion - that Gene supported the heck out of it. I’m not kidding.
Okay - this puppy right here, to me, is endgame - and I honest-to-God feel like that’s how it was meant to be interpreted. (For those who don’t know: this is out of the novelization of The Motion Picture - which Gene wrote. I know novels aren’t typically counted as cold, hard canon… but to me, when it’s straight from the creator, I think that might even make it MORE canon! SUPER-CANON!!)
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It really kinda annoys me when people assume that Kirk and Spock are complete opposites.
Like sure physically they are very much different - tall and lean and dark vs shorter and stockier and tan and blonde, but it’s really not true of their personalities and likes/dislikes and views.
Kirk places a huge amount of importance on the sanctity of life - which hmm interestingly enough is one of the core principals of Surakian philosophy - hence the Vulcan adherence to vegetarianism and non-violent resolution. Throughout the 5 year mission we see Jim sacrifice or willingly give himself up to danger to save his crew - essentially the needs of the many outweigh the needs of the few or the one (however he will still fight to the end just to save the ‘one’) yet another core principal in Vulcan ideology. These principals are very obviously just as important to Spock as they are to Kirk - it’s the founding basis for a lot of their joint command decisions and just one of the reasons they balance each other and work so well together.
They both share a passion and desire to explore and discover space and the infinite possibilities it provides - Spock’s scientist complements the explorer in Kirk.
Both are well read and continuously, to the chagrin of Bones probably ( and to my glee eheh) quote classic terran poetry and literature - I mean they aCTUALLY FINISH EACH OTHERS QUOTES LORD HAVE MERCY. And they both seem to have a fascination with history.
The joint love of strategy and chess is pretty darn obvious.
Rather than 'opposites attract’ as might seem the case on the surface Kirk and Spock have a complex relationship dynamic that is defined by their mutual passions and loves and is strengthened by their differences.