ship: danny and mindy

Why I Don’t Watch The Mindy Project Anymore

Approximately one year ago, I sat impatiently on the Hulu home page refreshing constantly until the season premiere of my favorite show, The Mindy Project, was available. I also tweeted about saving it every day just months before when Fox cancelled it. And I’ve seen the first two seasons so many times that I could probably recite most of it verbatim. And I’ve made quite a few fan videos (including this one). 

This year? I forgot it was even premiering until I saw a couple of people talking about it on my timeline.

The Mindy Project was flawed from the very beginning. It always seemed like more of a string of jokes than a consistent storyline, every week it seemed like a regular had left and a new character had taken their place, and Mindy’s dating habits were just plain unrealistic. Now, before you accuse me of being a meninist or something absurd like that, let me explain. Mindy dating a new guy every week is just plain unrelatable…she never actually had any dating struggles. It was just one date after another and it seems like every single guy she met fell in love with her. As a relatively unlucky in love 20-something, I wanted to see more of the struggle of dating, and how it’s okay to be alone. Instead, I turned on the TV often feeling bad I wasn’t dating as many hotties as Mindy. Sometimes, I even (subconsciously) emulated her personality because I thought it may make me more desirable. (Do I need therapy? maybe.) Despite its many flaws, The Mindy Project remained my favorite show for one specific reason: Danny and Mindy. 

If Mindy Kaling can do anything well, it’s create a good romantic story. Yes, she builds off of popular romantic relationships from the past like Harry & Sally and Sam & Diane, but man, did she set up an electric relationship in Danny and Mindy. Danny was a lovable grump—he had his major flaws, but they could all be explained and forgiven, and Mindy was the slightly self-absorbed extrovert he fell for. The Yin to his Yang. They fought all the time, but it was obvious they cared deeply for each other. Part of the reason I love TV much more than movies is that it leaves a lot of room for some great character development, and that was imminent from day one for Danny Castellano. We learned that his wife cheated on him and his father left him. He could be a real jerk, but he could also be wonderful and hilarious. In the earlier seasons, even if he didn’t say it, it was clear he was attracted to Mindy just as she is. The problem is, he stopped developing. He started taking one step forward and two steps backwards. Soon, you realized that none of these characters were really being developed. How is Mindy SO smart sometimes and SO stupid other times? How is Morgan a registered nurse? Why are these characters nothing more than the butt of a joke?

I continued to let my frustrations go because Danny and Mindy are still such a great couple, and Danny was still very lovable (for the most part). Their relationship was developing. With all of their ups and downs, they finally got together, had a baby, and got engaged.

Then, Danny disappeared for the most stupid reason (I know he was shooting a movie, but still) and when he showed back up, it was like he was the Danny from the pilot again, but even worse because he didn’t seem to respect Mindy as a professional anymore. This guy wasn’t really Danny Castellano, this was some emotionally abusive jerk. This great couple, who had just had a baby, disintegrated before our very eyes. I have never seen anything so frustrating.

The worst part of all of it was that Mindy Kaling and Matt Wharburton gave us the most ridiculous and convoluted explanations for totally destroying this relationship and this interesting character (Danny Castellano). Don’t lie to us and say this was in the plan all along. Tell your fans who have fought for your show to stick around the truth (which I’m assuming is Chris Messina wanted out of his contract). 

Anyway, I was mad and my rose colored glasses broke. All of the sudden, I could only see the flaws that I’d always overlooked (that I mentioned earlier): What is the actual plot of this episode? None of these jokes are even that funny! How does Mindy attract every single guy she meets (and how can I relate to that)?

So now, I’m done. Mad respect to all of the fans who still watch (including our resident Mindy Project expert/magical unicorn Hasti), but I can’t do it anymore.

I guess you can consider this a cautionary tale: try not to get too invested in one aspect of a show, because if it’s taken from you, you won’t care about the rest.

I’m so far behind with the mindy project and I just watched the season 4 finale and oh my gosh I’m in love with dandy again (although Danny is being an asshole for not telling Mindy and just going for it in an elevator. AND THEN THE ENDING) 

But say what you want about this show but everyone truly makes their character come to life and they are so funny! I’ve always loved mindy but I’m so proud of her and this show! I really do love the mindy project (even though Jody creeps me out. I love his sister though!)

Originally posted by ilovemoobys

So I’ve had time to calm down and digest the Messina news…

Also reading this post from Matt’s mom has helped me to come to terms with what’s going on.

I’m just so so so so so sad we’re not going to get Danny, Mindy, and Leo living in the brownstone decorated by Mindy and being a family. I wanted years of I Love Lucy moments. Years of gingerbread houses. Years of parenting together. Years of waking up and going to bed together. Years of being a TEAM! Years of this couple that I fell in love with. I’m so sad that we’re not going to get all that. Maybe we’ll get it in the end, but we won’t get to see much of the journey, if it even happens.

I can’t imagine and cannot fathom seeing Mindy fall in love with someone else. And creating a home and a life with someone new. And Leo being raised by someone else. Sure, dating for one episode or two, but real long-term relationship? I really really don’t think I can watch that. :(

I don’t envy the writers at all. (Though this Jody crap is not the way to go, I’ll say for sure.) To have to take the story that the entire show was based around and now go a brand new direction or at least halfway new direction? That’s tough. And to try to appease fans, but tell good story, and make it all cohesive and funny? Not an easy job.

I guess I maybe understand their “spring” feel for this half of the season now? Because something has to happen. But what?

Should they focus on work more? Make it into a work place show and not a romantic comedy anymore? Or focus on their families, both?

Do I understand why Jody has a bigger role? A very very tiny amount.  Ed Weeks was hoping to have his pilot picked up, so he could have been gone. So they had to bring in some new people.

But I just wish they were using Tamra and Beverly more. Bring in a female doctor! And then have Mindy’s parents and brother in for some episodes and create family drama. Bring Annette and Dot in for some episodes and have that craziness. Bring back her friends! Or get her some real friends to deal with kid stuff, mom stuff, work stuff, and just friend drama.

I think it can be done without this Jody crap. But that’s just because I want it to be Mindy and Danny and no one else. I see now why they’re doing the dating scene again, because it’s nothing long term. And now that I know Danny won’t be around much, I’m okay with that. I just need them to lose Jody.

And I really feel like we didn’t get a chance to mourn Danny and Mindy. Mindy grieved more for Casey and Josh than for Danny. Maybe that’s coming? But I need to mourn it if I’m able to ever move on. Not that I’m even sure I can do that.

Again, just so so so so so so so so sad.

I see a lot of people saying how Danny was blindsided by Mindy and Mindy is at fault by not being honest about what she wants from her relationship with Danny from the beginning.

It’s like we’re not watching the same show, lol. Throughout the first half of season 4, Danny has consistently assumed that the more children, a bigger family, stay at home life is what Mindy wants. Add that to the fact that Mindy has always had to second guess herself while in a relationship with Danny, including him not being motivated to marry her until her parents brought up the idea of arranged marriage and so forth…Mindy surely feels as if she’s gonna lose him if she says something that might disturb his poor “I’ve been divorced before and I’ll never believe in the sanctity of marriage” heart.

How can y'all just assume it’s easy for Mindy to outright say that she does not want more kids at the moment, she wants to work, she wants to be able to follow her dreams and not choose between things that she loves? For ya’ll to say that Mindy fucking blindsided him when the whole relationship has been walking on eggshells since the beginning is beyond ridiculous. Danny shouldn’t have assumed that Mindy will take on the role of the housewife/stay at home mother just because to him, obviously, a caring mother and would-be wife should be a mode of production for his “perfect” family and give him more babies!!!!

The Suffering of a Shipper

Do you remember your first ship? The couple that you wanted to be together SO BADLY that it consumed your thoughts? All you could dream about was the day that couple became “canon”. My first ship was Clark and Lana from Smallville. I know, I know, they’re not canon, but I’m sorry, the heart wants what it wants. Ever since Clana ripped my heart into a million pieces, I’ve hated the pain that comes with shipping a couple. But I just can’t help it; I ship a couple on almost every TV show I watch. Actually, it’s kind of a necessary criterion for me. I hate the pain, and I love it. Also, because I’m a masochist, I seem to pick the pair that’s having the hardest time, or may not even end up together. I’m ashamed to admit it, but I’ve quit several shows just because it didn’t look like “my” couple would end up together.

I’m sure you’re wondering why I’m not using the popular acronym OTP. It’s a soft spot for me because I have a really hard time picking my one true pairing. There are honestly a million that I love and it all depends on whichever show I’m most into at the moment. So, basically all of my couples are my OTPs. Because I’ve obsessed over all of them equally.

Here’s a popular/important question for all shippers: How do you know if you’re a casual shipper or a total crazy fangirl?

Here are the signs for both:

Casual: *watches show with friends/family* Oh they’re a cute couple. I hope they get together.

Total Crazy Fangirl: *all by yourself in a dark room right in front of your tv/computer screen* OH MY GOD THERE ARE MY BABIES. Please get together please please please. *Searches gifs on Tumblr and watches fan videos for hours at a time*

There is nothing wrong with either kind of shipper. As a crazy fan girl shipper, I’m quite jealous of casual shippers. I wish I didn’t get so emotionally attached to fictional characters, but I do. I’ve laughed with my ships and cried with my ships (mostly cried). Sometimes, we win and my ships become canon. Sometimes we lose and they don’t and I pitch a fit and quit the show. I’m mature.

Now I’d like to know: Are there others like me out there? Do you like to have a ship on every show? Who are some of your OTPs? Are you a crazy fangirl shipper or a little more casual?