shes my favorite forever

submitted by  KJ

Hi Phin!

As an “original” nirvana fan i have to thank you for what you do here. ALL of the info you relay is exactly how i remember it. You are amazing!

The post about your mom really resonated with me. 10 years ago I lost the closest person to me: my grandma. She was 82 and people would tell me “she had a full life” or “you were lucky to have a grandma at your age” or my favorite “what did you expect that she would live forever?” Just because someone is old and had a full life doesn’t make you miss them any less. My grandma raised me and when Kurt died she was the ONLY person over age 30 (hell, she was 70) who understood my grief. She didn’t once tell me “you didn’t even know him” or “he was a whiny, ungrateful drug addict” like the other “adults” did. She sat with me and watched MTV for days, she brought me tissues and hot tea and held my hand and let me cry. She told me she felt the same way when JFK died and she pulled out a quote she saved from Jackie Kennedy that read:

“I have been through a lot and have suffered a great deal. But I have had lots of happy moments, as well. Every moment one lives is different from the other. The good, the bad, hardship, the joy, the tragedy, love, and happiness are all interwoven into one single, indescribable whole that is called life. You cannot separate the good from the bad. And perhaps there is no need to do so, either.”

She also told me that the best way to honor Kurt’s memory is to listen to his music, treat everyone with kindness and respect because you have no idea what they’re going through and to be the person I truly want to be. 

Ten years later, I still miss her and to be honest I don’t want to “get over it.” 

I’m truly sorry for you loss. I know how difficult it is to lose someone close. Just know that you are loved.

what a great person your Nana was!   that’s IT.

She also told me that the best way to honor Kurt’s memory is to listen to his music, treat everyone with kindness and respect because you have no idea what they’re going through and to be the person I truly want to be. “

I remember that quote from Jackie Kennedy.   and she’s right, you know.

it’s life.  parts suck,  parts are great.   but OTHER people shouldn’t dictate to you how to live yours.   or manage your grief.  

thanks dear.  another ORIGINAL fan.   we are on here!  I am glad to get some backup on stuff.  I hear, “you aren’t remembering things right” or whatever.

I WAS AROUND at that time.

Yesterday I finished my day off with my better half. We talked, well, I listened to her talk for a while. I always enjoy just listening and watching her talk. I talked also after she asked me to explain why I said I needed to see her, why I needed her to lift my spirits. Per usual for me I didn’t want to talk but I did anyway. Because she’s been asking me to communicate more. And what I found, that served as a… security blanket of sorts is that this woman actually knows me. She explained us to me, our dynamic and how we finally arrived here, and also explained me to me. She knows that I’m not a talker in situations of conflict, that I’m more inclined to not say anything in the moment but to sit back and think, and then maybe (which I usually don’t) I’ll say something. She knows that I can be reactionary instead of communicating through my feelings. This was eerie yet comforting because those were her exact words; this woman knows me. She knows a lot and has gotten on my ass about it all but has also more importantly created a space where I feel comfortable voicing my concerns. Even if (which it usually does to this day) means that she has to reach out to me and start that conversation, she does. I know we were talking about something unrelated to us/our relationship, but I found myself so captivated by how much we have grown, by how far we’ve come in learning how to be in each other’s lives. I thought I was the only one who “knew” her, but baby girl knows my ass too, if not just as much. That for me is the very reason why, after alllllll we’ve gone through these soon to be four years past, I’m still in her world, and she’s still in mine.

anonymous asked:


That my best friend. 

Who doesn’t have a tumblr but checks up on my blog anyways. And is going to be across the world living with nuns for 6 months. I’m going to miss her terribly.


I don’t care if this is my “art” account or not but I just have to get this off of my chest. A lot of people only know Taylor Swift for her “ex boyfriends” or whatever because the media punches those story’s. It makes me really sad because that’s nothing that defines her character in any way.
THIS ⬆️ is what she’s really like and I wish more people would see it.
Whenever you like Taylor or not, look how happy she made these kids and their family’s even if it was just for a few hours. And she did none of this for publicity.
This is why she will forever be my favorite human being and I’m sure if more people would be as kind and generous as her this world would be a better place.

A huge thanks to @griffinteen for sending me this adorable #rainbowrowell tote and pin set! I was so excited when they emailed me that they wanted to send me a RR package because she is one of my absolute favorite authors! I will forever #readrainbow and encourage everyone else to Read Rainbow also! 😊 #books #bookstagram #griffinteen

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