submitted by KJ
As an “original” nirvana fan i have to thank you for what you do here. ALL of the info you relay is exactly how i remember it. You are amazing!
The post about your mom really resonated with me. 10 years ago I lost the closest person to me: my grandma. She was 82 and people would tell me “she had a full life” or “you were lucky to have a grandma at your age” or my favorite “what did you expect that she would live forever?” Just because someone is old and had a full life doesn’t make you miss them any less. My grandma raised me and when Kurt died she was the ONLY person over age 30 (hell, she was 70) who understood my grief. She didn’t once tell me “you didn’t even know him” or “he was a whiny, ungrateful drug addict” like the other “adults” did. She sat with me and watched MTV for days, she brought me tissues and hot tea and held my hand and let me cry. She told me she felt the same way when JFK died and she pulled out a quote she saved from Jackie Kennedy that read:
“I have been through a lot and have suffered a great deal. But I have had lots of happy moments, as well. Every moment one lives is different from the other. The good, the bad, hardship, the joy, the tragedy, love, and happiness are all interwoven into one single, indescribable whole that is called life. You cannot separate the good from the bad. And perhaps there is no need to do so, either.”
She also told me that the best way to honor Kurt’s memory is to listen to his music, treat everyone with kindness and respect because you have no idea what they’re going through and to be the person I truly want to be.
Ten years later, I still miss her and to be honest I don’t want to “get over it.”
I’m truly sorry for you loss. I know how difficult it is to lose someone close. Just know that you are loved.
what a great person your Nana was! that’s IT.
“She also told me that the best way to honor Kurt’s memory is to listen to his music, treat everyone with kindness and respect because you have no idea what they’re going through and to be the person I truly want to be. “
I remember that quote from Jackie Kennedy. and she’s right, you know.
it’s life. parts suck, parts are great. but OTHER people shouldn’t dictate to you how to live yours. or manage your grief.
thanks dear. another ORIGINAL fan. we are on here! I am glad to get some backup on stuff. I hear, “you aren’t remembering things right” or whatever.
I WAS AROUND at that time.