With regards to an ask you answered about lana and that barcelona con i think the reason she gets asked so much sq questions is because most of the sq fandom feel like she's the only ally they have. Most of the cast and especially adam & eddy put c$ on a pedestal and ignore the fact that they say alot of mean and hurtful stuff to the sq fans whiles complaining that the sq fandom are the ones causing trouble
yeah, i mean i’m pretty clear on what brought fans to this point, and i sympathize–i’m in the same position. i’m not denying the 6+ years of harassment from m/f-shipping groups or the writer’s habit of baiting and stringing us along for the sake of viewership, all without ever once considering swan queen a viable option for the show. but while i’m with you on the marginalization of swan queen fans as a collective group within fandom (in partic b/c while there are obviously LGBT people throughout broader ouat fandom, swan queen fans as a group are positioned as non-straight because their ship is non-straight, and a majority of us are wlw) that doesn’t mean all of us are perfect or that our behavior is above reproach.
even if lana hasn’t been perfect, i think she (more so than any other cast member) recognizes everything you’ve mentioned in this ask, and has bent over backwards to accommodate us because of this. in return, it’s our responsibility to acknowledge her position as a woman of color at the whims of an all-white cast and crew, who’s discussed drastically altering her speech and appearance to get roles in the industry. lana isn’t in the same position as jen, colin, bobby et al. and she’s still been far more gracious toward us than any of them.
at the very least, i think swan queen fans should ask themselves “would this make me uncomfortable if it were me?” before asking lana leading questions or giving her inappropriate things to sign. i’m not saying don’t ask questions about swan queen/swan mills family! what i am saying is that there’s a very big difference between polite, respectful questions (“how would you say emma/regina’s relationship has changed over the course of the seasons?”/“how are emma and regina different kinds of mothers to henry?”/“will we see emma and regina combine their magic in upcoming episodes?”/etc.) and, like: “can you read this vaguely sexual line for us just so we can post clips of you doing it on twitter, wink wink, nudge nudge?” especially when you consider that she can’t really say no when fans back her into these kinds of corners, even if she feels uncomfortable.
all i’m saying is…i get that people are hungry for validation after being ignored, called delusional or outright harassed over the past few years, but that’s not a get-out-of-jail free card for treating lana like a receptacle for our feelings instead of a human being! when you ask her a question, it’s probably a good idea to expect…her answer, not the one you’ve already formulated in your head and are waiting to record and post on twitter.