sorry just wanted to jump on your thought train about the whole "you don’t know you’re beautiful, that’s what makes you beautiful" thing. i never liked stuff like that because it's like saying you can only think you're beautiful once someone has vindicated your beauty. like no, fuck you. i can think im beautiful without anyone saying so.
re: she’s pretty but she knows it post
YES!! This is such a healthy mindset to have but I feel like women aren’t always encouraged to have it. :( Because of rhetoric like this, it’s easy to confuse humility with low self-esteem.
Anyway, I think this comment goes really well with @based-on-fiction’s tags:
#I could rant about this for days #but i’ll just say that this is another way to control women #the excerpt says it all #men want to define women themselves #on their own terms and without input from the woman herself #that way the man’s individual desires and preferences are laid out for her to attempt to live up to #instead of him caring about who she is and what she likes about herself #because the one thing men find the most unattractive #is the idea that women have opinions on what they want in a man #as opposed to automatically being beholden to a man who deigns to find her beautiful #seriously i could write an essay about this #ask me about it after class #beauty #sexism (via based-on-fiction)
This is so interesting and exactly up my alley, wow. Very well-put.
EDIT: Also gotta add this article I was reading about that very same 1D song. Summary:
I think there are a few things potentially going on here:
First, being unaware of one’s beauty could be a marker for “innocence,” “purity,” or “virginity.”
Second, for a woman, being unaware of your beauty means that you are not confident, cocky, or narcissistic.
Third, being painfully insecure makes you a damsel for the guy to ride in and save.
I was just sitting here reading this like “!!!!”