I accidentally came out as bisexual to my mom yesterday after a heated argument about fascism, which is not how I wanted to come out but it was probably the most ‘me’ way I could have done it. I started crying and she held me and told me that she would love me regardless and she apologized for how our home hasn’t been very LGBT+ friendly for me growing up. She let me know that she doesn’t want to pressure me to marry a guy for grandkids, and that my happiness and compatibility with my partner is what matters. And that was exactly what I needed to hear and I never believed this could actually happen. I feel so much freer and I wish I’d done this sooner because I felt so much shame and fear of how my parents would react.
Then my mom and I were talking on the train today about this time in February when I called home about leaving college for a semester and I’d lied about having my first kiss with my “boyfriend”. (It had really been with a girl.) She said she and Dad were expecting me to say that I’d kissed and dated a girl when I told them, like they already knew.