she's doing a better job for women than lena dunham is

anonymous asked:

There's an international woman's day to remind everyone that women need equal rights, to show everyone how far we have come but that we are not yet fully equal. Men, especially white men, already have all possible rights. No one is trying to take away from a man. We simply want to be equal. Not by tearing people down but by building each other up

I’d say men are a bit less equal than women, ykno’? If a parent or doctor wanna snip ya vagina then everybody gets in an outrage, but the moment they wanna do it to a man its “MUH RELIGIOUS FREEDOM” and how it looks better (sounds kinda pedophilic, does it not? Hell, I mean why does your parent decide if your dick gon look gud or nah?  They gon’ fuck it or? Nah son.)

Do you also wanna talk about how if you call a man a rapist/pedophile the media/everyone around will eat it up and even if its found out that he is innocent his name will still be tarnished and put out there as a rapist while the bitch who got him into this whole mess goes of scott free anonymous?

Or do you wanna talk about how a woman can write in a book about how she molested her fucking little sister (even when said sister was a BABY!) cough Lena dunham cough

- Mod Punny

Okay now Pun has responded I’m adding my 2 cents as well. First of all, and I am a woman, just a heads up, you don’t sound like someone who should be on this blog. No offense whatsoever, but we’re kind of dicks when it comes to these things. “Men, especially white men, already have all possible rights.” But consider:

  1. Men can’t be raped or molested, or should enjoy it.
  2. Women are the ones to usually get custody regardless of the history.
  3. Men can’t be assaulted by women, and,
  4. a man who got beat up by a woman is weak.
  5. Men can’t be fat and still deemed attractive according to society (all body positivity is towards women)
  6. Men’s anorexia or other ED’s aren’t taken seriously enough
  7. “Man tears” need I say more?
  8. Women still get butthurt over No Shave November
  9. Men also get objectified in the media but can’t whine about it because that’s ~unmanly~
  10. On that note, all of our female problems are somehow caused by guys?? We’re strong and independent, right? Don’t hold them responsible.
  11. Men are pretty much guilty until proven innocent when it comes to being accused of rape
  12. But women can get away with a sad face and promise not to do it again
  13. When women don’t want to date men because of his body, she’s “strong and thinking for herself”, but when it’s the other way around the man is a dick
  14. International Men’s Day does exist but there’s a good fucking reason I’d never heard of it. Where’s the google doodle? The Facebook notification?
  15. Suicide rates being way higher in men than in women, but most help still focusing on women?
  16. And deaths on the job as well?
  17. And oh yeah homicide rates too?

Listen, I think that if we truly need gender equality we gotta focus on both sides. Instead of getting mad at one another we should work together. There will always be some form of inequality, because men and women are different. But what international women’s day should actually be about is the countless women who still get punished for wanting to divorce their abusive husband, the child brides and sex trafficing, and the wage gap that exists in 2nd and 3rd world countries.

So do the right thing today, try to help end human trafficing and child marriage. Happy international equality day.

- Mod Jewel

Supermodel Karlie Kloss Talks Taylor Swift, Wearing Dior to Prom, and Life Off the Runway

Karlie has always been the sort of girl who thinks “family first” is a better motto than “first class.” Her ascent began at 13, when she walked in a St. Louis charity fashion show and caught the eye of a local scout, who brought her to an agency in New York. That’s when her career took off in a way that can only be described as a fashion fairy tale: In September 2007, one month after her fifteenth birthday, she appeared in her first New York show, for Calvin Klein. The following spring she walked on more than 31 runways in New York alone. Then came big breaks in campaigns for Christian Dior and Marc Jacobs, and a stint as a Victoria’s Secret Angel. Today she has a much-coveted gig as a face of L’Or??al Paris—and a spot on Forbes’ Highest-Paid Models list.

And that’s just her day job. In 2012 Karlie founded a line of vegan, gluten-free baked goods that raises money for the Feed charity. This past summer, after taking a coding course (that’s right—during the summer!), she established the Kode With Karlie scholarship, which aims to get young women involved in the world of technology. Later this year she’s launching her own YouTube channel—and this month she’s heading back to school as a college freshman at New York University.

DEREK BLASBERG: My little sister is all grown-up and going off to college. Why now?

KARLIE KLOSS: I didn’t want to wait until I’m 30 to continue learning and challenging myself in new ways. I am 23 and at a very busy point in my career, but I hope it’s just the beginning. I want to do it all.

DB: What will you study at NYU?

KK: Like most kids starting college, my major is still “undecided.”Next year will be a big balancing act—but how exciting! I haven’t written a paper in years, so I may be calling you for homework help.

DB: Did you ever take that BuzzFeed quiz I emailed you: “Are You More Cara Delevingne or Karlie Kloss?”

KK: Yep. And you’ll be relieved to know that I got Karlie Kloss.

DB: Phew! I got Cara Delevingne.

KK: I am very confused how you got Cara. Should I be offended?

DB: According to BuzzFeed, “[Karlie Kloss] is as sweet as apple pie.” They say you’re “an amazing friend and always put others before yourself.” Have you ever wanted to shake off that image of being fashion’s sweetest supermodel?

KK: There are worse things than being called sweet. And I think the way that both you and I were raised was to be grateful to people. I’m a nice girl, and I’ve embraced it.

DB: You do have a lot of friends. FYI: This is when I ask you about Taylor Swift.

KK: And here we go! Taylor and I met at the Victoria’s Secret Fashion Show two years ago. [Model] Lily Aldridge introduced us. She was like, “OK, you two are kindred spirits. How have my two nice American friends never met?” And that was it.

DB: Immediate BFFs?

KK: Our friendship is the same as yours and mine. Many of my closest friends are traveling all the time, so it takes constant effort—texting, Facetiming—on all ends to maintain close relationships.

DB: Let’s talk about that “Bad Blood” video. Selena Gomez, Hailee Steinfeld, Cara, Lena Dunham, and you: It was four minutes of major celebrity cameos. That couldn’t have been easy.

KK: But how often do you get to work with all your best friends on such a fun project? I think Taylor is the only person who could’ve pulled something like that off.

DB: Like Taylor, you’re becoming a role model for young girls. How does that feel?

KK: I’m still wrapping my head around it; I do feel a responsibility to be an example for young women in general. That’s what Kode With Karlie is about: supporting girls to try coding even if they’re not interested in being a programmer. If I can inspire one girl to try it, I’ll be happy.

[ … ]

DB: I remember you doing schoolwork backstage at shows. I thought it was wonderful how you managed to exist in both the fashion world and the real world.

KK: It was a bizarre double life…but at school no one really cared. It’s not like anyone in my high school was reading Vogue Italia.

DB: What did you wear to prom?

KK: I knew you were going to ask me that! Yes, I wore Dior couture to my prom. I probably peaked at my prom, and it’s all downhill from there. [Laughs.] I should say, though, that I wouldn’t have considered myself a high-fashion high-schooler. I lived in a ballet bun and comfy clothes. I still opt for comfort, even today.

DB: How has the business of fashion changed since you started?

KK: Social media. The fashion industry has had to become less elitist and more accessible. When I started, only a few hundred people could see a fashion show live. Now anyone with a computer and Internet access can. It’s put a bigger spotlight on what we do.

DB: Which, I think, has been good for fashion and good for models.

KK: It’s been a great thing for my career, but also as an individual, because I get to show my personality.

DB: Do you ever read the comments? Do you get those nasty trolls?

KK: I read some of them, sure. The vast majority of comments are positive. But there are bullies out there. I’ve learned to ignore them. Because in my life, that’s just noise.

In the second part of her first column, Jaime King shares her advice for making your own girl gang.

JAIME KING ON HOW THE TAYLOR SWIFT SQUAD WENT PUBLIC

What is a girl squad? From whence did they come? And why should we give a flock? All week long ELLE.com will be exploring the covenant of one of the trendiest forms of social currency: gal pals.

Jaime King, actress (films such Pearl Harbor and Sin City; TV shows such as Hart of Dixie), model (everything from Abercrombie to Chanel), wife, and mother (baby number two is on the way) has been in the limelight since she was 14. And after two decades in the industry, the 36-year-old multihyphenate is ready to speak out about the obstacles women face in and out of the industry—from body shaming to online abuse. In Xo, Jaime, a new, bimonthly column for ELLE.com, King will break down how and why these issues should change. In part two of her inaugural column, King talks about how the Taylor Swift squad went public, her advice for making healthy, girl gang-worthy friendships, and what we can do to make things better for women everywhere. Catch up on part one of her column here.

When you hear “squad, squad, squad,” that word came up at the Golden Globes when Taylor Swift and I decided that we were going to go to the Golden Globes because our friends Lorde and Lena Dunham were nominated. We were like, “You know what? We’re just going to go as a squad. It’s not about us. It’s about supporting our friends. We’re not going to do solo pictures; we’re going to let our friends shine for their moment, and we’re just going to go as one squad who loves each other.” And that’s where the word started happening.

People were frustrated because they were like, “We want pictures of everybody’s fashion!” And we were just like, “Too bad! This isn’t about fashion. This is about us supporting each other, supporting our friends that have made an incredible achievement.”

But, truthfully, the “squad” mentality applies to both the red carpet and the office. It’s about saying, “Hey! You know that project the other day? Are you nervous about it? Do you have a deadline? What is going on with you, and how can I help? Where are you stuck?” By helping your friends at work, you can start to break down the barriers of who’s going to be the “favorite” in the boss’s eye and diminish the cattiness that happens when you work in an office, on a film set, or even if you’re a stay-at-home mom.

We’re all dealing with the same thing. It may be in a different setting, but it’s the same feeling.

When people are like, “Oh well, you guys are famous, so it’s different…” It’s not different. We don’t come from famous families. We’re just people going through the same experiences that everyone else is going through. I think that by publicly reconfirming that we all love each other, and want to support each other, other women will understand that they can have that, too.

It’s so hard to find healthy friendships when you’re young. It’s so hard. I still think about that to this day because sometimes it hits you and you’re like, Holy crap! I’m giving so much to this person, yet I feel so alone. There’s a lot of friendships and relationships in which you give and you give and it’s fine until, all of a sudden, it’s not. All of a sudden you need them. You’re really vulnerable and you’re going through a break up or you’re sick or you’re going through something with your family—whatever trauma that you’re going through. And you’re like, Wait a second. Why is my friend not calling to ask me if I’m okay? Why are they not paying me a visit and coming over to see if I need anything? Why aren’t they…? Even at 36 I experience that feeling.

It’s very interesting because I have friends who are 15 and I have friends who are 50. We all have to create our own surrogate families because we all play different roles for each other. Some are the older sisters; some are the younger sisters. It just really varies.

But when you’re in your twenties, the thing to look for in friendships is this: How is the other person living her life? What are her goals, her dreams? What is her routine like, and does it match mine? Is this person passionate about what they do?

You have to find liked-minded people. You also have to look for people who bring you joy. When you’re around her, does she make you happy? Are you excited at the prospect of seeing this person?

These may seem like benign, stupid questions, but they’re not. The biggest thing I always ask myself before anything is, Does this make me feel excited? If I’m being offered a job or I meet someone new, I always think about how I feel.

It’s not easy living in the world today. There’s so much stress; there’s so much anxiety. Everybody is glued to their devices so we don’t get that honest one-to-one interaction we crave. In the future I would love—if we start examining the media—to abandon things like Fashion Police, entertainment that’s about women tearing each other down and getting joy out of that. More than anything, I would love to see women performing little acts of kindness for each other, standing by each other, and supporting each other.

It’s simple, yes, but it’s my squad’s manifesto.

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WARNING! If you love Blaine, Sam or Klaine DO NOT read!

So here is what you missed on glee: …oh who the hell cares, it doesn´t matter anyways

Tonight on glee: same old bullshit, turn off the tv, go hug your kids or make a sandwich, go have crazy sex or something. All way better alternatives than watching this crap, then again, punching yourself in the face or runnng repeatedly against a wall head first is also better then glee. At least you know that headache will be gone by tomorrow and not a year from now.

I had to force myself to watch this episode. I realized there is nothing left that i want to see. Also whatever happens in this episode it will not really matter with the time jump and i don´t care about these people anymore.

By now it´s not an excited “uhhh i wonder what will happen this week” it´s an “ugh!I wonder what shitfest will happen this week”

Let´s get this over with…

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Celebrities talk about feminism

Lena Dunham-
“Women saying ‘I’m not a feminist’ is my greatest pet peeve. Do you believe that women should be paid the same for doing the same jobs? Do you believe that women should be allowed to leave the house? Do you think that women and men both deserve equal rights? Great, then you’re a feminist. People think there is something taboo about speaking up for feminism.”

Ellen Page-
“I don’t know why people are so reluctant to say they’re feminists … but how could it be any more obvious that we still live in a patriarchal world when feminism is a bad word? … Feminism always gets associated with being a radical movement — good. It should be. A lot of what the radical feminists [in the 1970s] were saying, I don’t disagree with it.”

Beyonce-
“Humanity requires both men and women, and we are equally important and need one another. So why are we viewed as less than equal? These old attitudes are drilled into us from the very beginning. We have to teach our boys the rules of equality and respect, so that as they grow up, gender equality becomes a natural way of life. And we have to teach our girls that they can reach as high as humanly possible.”

Joseph Gordon-Levitt-
“We would always watch Lakers games as a family, but my mom would always point out every time the cheerleaders came on, ‘OK, so look, here’s the story that gets told: The men get to be the heroic skilled athletes and the women just get to be pretty. She wanted me and my brother to be aware of it because we see these images on TV, in the movies, and in magazines all the time. And if you don’t stop and think about it, it just sort of seeps into your brain and that becomes the way you perceive reality.“

John Legend-
“All men should be feminists. If men care about women’s rights, the world will be a better place. We are better off when women are empowered — it leads to a better society.”

Miley Cyrus-
MC: I’m just about equality, period. It’s not like, I’m a woman, women should be in charge! I just want there to be equality for everybody.
MC: I still don’t think we’re there 100 percent. I mean, guy rappers grab their crotch all f–king day and have hos around them, but no one talks about it. But if I grab my crotch and I have hot model bitches around me, I’m degrading women? I’m a woman—I should be able to have girls around me! But I’m part of the evolution of that. I hope.

Kate Nash-
“FEMINISM is not a dirty word. It does not mean you hate men, it does not mean you hate girls that have nice legs and a tan, and it does not mean you are a ‘bitch’ or ‘d-ke’, it means you believe in equality.”

Patrick Stewart-
“The truth is that domestic violence and violence against women touch many of us. This violence is not a private matter. Behind closed doors it is shielded and hidden and it only intensifies. It is protected by silence — everyone’s silence. Violence against women is learned. Each of us must examine — and change — the ways in which our own behavior might contribute to, enable, ignore or excuse all such forms of violence. I promise to do so, and to invite other men and allies to do the same.”

It’s been two weeks since I’ve brought you a Girls recap and here are my two excuses: one is that recapping is a young person’s game and staying up until 1AM on a Sunday when you know you have to get up four hours later for your actual J-O-B is really hard. And the other is because I’ve been so incredibly bored with this season and I’m not sure if it’s because I’m so tired from my actual life or because the show is actually boring. Regardless, several times this season I’ve sat down to start a recap and just wanted to write, “Shut up!” over and over again until my word count reached 1,000. This season has made me rethink my every feeling about each and every one of these characters many times over and I suppose the thesis of this, and every previous season of Girls, is that we are complicated and there really is so much to love and to hate about each of us.

I was angry at how much Hannah made her father’s coming out about her. Of course her behavior wasn’t surprising, but it was still upsetting to watch, especially when seeing in the last few minutes of this week’s “Home Birth” how incredibly miserable he is. He made the big leap to stand in his truth but is still stuck in this life that he’s created for himself. I suppose that this is exactly the type of fear that leads our protagonists. It’s the fear that you can’t go back and the misguided and untrue belief that what you do in your early 20s is at all definitive of who you are.

Jessa has for so long played the part of the damaged and manipulative friend who’s only around when it’s convenient for her, whether it’s because she needs something from you or simply because she finds your situation entertaining. It could have been that she showed up to Caroline and Laird’s apartment during their meticulously unplanned bathtub birth for either of those reasons, but it was her who took control of the situation when no one else would. She gets Laird to pull a stubborn Caroline from the tub and the three of them, along with Adam and Hannah, carry her to the hospital where she gives birth. They name the baby Jessa Hannah and Jessa is so moved by this gesture and Laird’s insistence that Jessa played a crucial role in that baby’s life that she decides she wants to be a therapist. It’s not unlike any of the decisions we’ve seen these women make – it’s quick, it’s baseless but for one instance that may be far less significant that they want it to be, it’s rooted in the fear that you are not where you’re supposed to be, and yet it’s just a few steps away from being completely ridiculous. Maybe Jessa will be a great therapist. Or maybe it doesn’t take much to convince a weeping Laird to help his partner before he loses her and their baby. Either way, it’s satisfying to hear from Jessa that she wants something for herself that is good and not destructive.

Desi and Marnie have continued to be Desi and Marnie, which are completely insufferable twats. He proposed because he was afraid of losing Marnie even though it’s clear he doesn’t even know if he wants Marnie. Both of them seem to be more infatuated with the idea of the two of them together than they do with each other as individuals. This story for them is a good one because it fits into this quirky little musician narrative even if their narratives are different. For Marnie it’s about the fear of being alone and having to start over again in more ways than one because if she loses Desi she loses her artistic partner as well as her romantic one and having to make something work on her own is terrifying. But then she does it because Desi is exactly the fuck up and try again guy that Ray predicted he was and he deserts Marnie at their show, leaving her to go on stage alone. And nothing comes crumbling down. She does great! They really like her! Marnie can do this on her own and now that she knows that I hope she changes her locks and never speaks to that that booty eatin’ manic pixie fuccboi ever again.

Shoshanna propelled herself into Ray’s political campaign after a series of bad interviews and has found some comfort in a bad interview turned new relationship with a soup entrepreneur. It would have been easy for her to get complacent here, but instead she’s been inspired by Ray’s determination and passion for change (even if it began with the simple hatred of his loud and impatient neighbors) and has decided to finally make the move from interviewing for positions she doesn’t really care about to trying to land the job of her dreams. Of course she can get a job when she’s trying, but it’s in Tokyo and she’s afraid of leaving this cozy and safe relationship she’s found herself in. You would think it would make her decision easier when she finds out that Soup Man is disgustingly selfish when he begs her not to go because he might be in love with her soon. Instead, she needs to check in with the always practical Ray for help but is met by his boss, Hermie, who delivers a better Lean In speech than Sheryl Sandberg herself, telling Shoshanna to “be the walker, not the dog.” And so she decides to go, creating her own Iowa moment, and I have all of my fingers crossed for her meeting a rich Japanese man and the two of them taking over the world together and her never coming back because good god, Shoshanna, you’re boring as hell.

For Hannah, it’s fear that her actual destined path isn’t exciting that won’t allow her to take a god damn breath and really figure out what she wants to do with herself. Hannah’s lack of boundaries with her students, particularly the very cool Cleo who lives in Shia LaBeouf’s building, felt predatory and a little unexpected even for someone like her who is so often inappropriate, but it made it clear that she is absolutely not meant to be a teacher. When she has a panic attack in the middle of class I’m sure that it has less to do with her father and more to do with the fact that she, once again, has no idea what she’s doing. And so it’s surprising when she later takes her power back by refusing to give in to Adam as she has so many times before because it would have been so easy and we can tell that it was a hard decision for her to make. It must be that reality is furiously smacking Hannah in the face like this way too meta Lena is Hannah is Lena is Hannah has been hitting me all season.

What on Earth am I to do with you Hannah/Lena? I know I’ve said it before but it bears repeating after the most mind-fuck of a season: Dunham & Co may want us to think that Girls is satire and a critique on the way we view and talk about young women, with their topical pop culture references and the forced discussion on triggers and over-sharing on the internet, but you cannot for a second convince me that this is not simply an attempt to shield us from what’s really happening and that is that Girls is Lena Dunham’s memoir and it was Not That Kind of Girl that we took a little too seriously. God bless you Lena Dunham for making me think far too long and too hard about a television show I’m not even sure I like anymore.

And while I call bullshit on that clever flash-forward to Hannah’s sweet relationship with Fran, let’s keep that going. I like him. And you know I’ll be back.

Ramou Sarr is a writer living in Boston