what's so interesting to me is i always assumed amy hates/doesnt want kids, but this season didnt she mention something about freezing her eggs? so she definitely sees herself having kids in the future. i dunno im seeing a couple complaints about how making her have a baby is slaughtering her character and her being a parent is ooc, but i disagree. dan is the one im skeptical about
I think I’ve talked a lot about Amy and pregnancy already, so I hope you won’t mind my skipping that for now.
In some ways, I think the pregnancy is almost going to force more development of Dan’s character than of hers, and it’s going to be fascinating to watch.
Because Dan had it both ways with Amy for a very long time, and it clearly suited him down to the ground. He was the most important man in her life, the centre of all her emotional energy (the emotions weren’t always positive, needless to say, but they were there), and her first phone call. Amy abandoned her anniversary dinner, with her boyfriend, so she could talk to Dan. He had her companionship all the time - we know they would have meals together and go for drinks, in addition to working together - and he never had to date her. He could sleep around as much as he chose, and even have the pleasure of seeing Amy look…dispirited at the thought of it.
And on some level, I think Dan fooled himself into thinking things could always be like that, that she’d always like him so much, she’d put up with the way he was treating her. Which was never the case - it was always a completely unsustainable situation, on his side as much as hers (something that would have become clear much earlier, I think, if Ed had been more of a threat to Dan’s position).
Dan has basically been dancing around this dilemma since season 2. He wants to have Amy’s undivided attention and love and desire… and he wants to be a completely free agent, able to sleep with anyone and everyone - and he has tried to duck the obvious problem that those desires are completely incompatible all through the show.
Except, (and I’ve written about this elsewhere), when the status quo of their relationship collapses in season 5 and Amy effectively abandons him for Buddy, Dan gets what he wants (in a way).
He can sleep with everyone - and does - and he doesn’t have anyone developing irritating expectations of him, like that he’ll be nice to them.
Turns out, Dan doesn’t actually like that.
We have to look at his actions here, not his words, because the two send very different messages about what he wants. He held back from developing anything with Amy in seasons 3 and 4, even after he knew she was interested, and yet he leaps at the opportunity to sleep with her the first time it comes up in season 6. Not only that, he invites her to join him at the consultancy (making this what, the third time Dan has tried to keep her working with him?). And, the moment Amy eludes to the night they slept together, he is on it - making it very clear he would be interested in going there again. (He has the exact same tone of voice as he did when he asked her out after Sophie - which I think confirms that that was definitely a come-on - and, given their history, Amy probably knew that).
I think it’s a safe assumption that if Amy hadn’t become pregnant, they probably would have fallen into some kind of relationship pretty damn quickly anyway - the way they were making googly eyes at each other across the table is pretty unmistakable - and that, in a weird way, the pregnancy is going to become yet another obstacle they have to navigate. It immediately puts a lot of pressure on everything in the relationship.
And, while Amy may have absolutely minimal expectations of Dan (understandably), that really is more a sign of her fears than anything else. Given his reaction Dan at least knows that’s not an option for him. He’s already had to spend a year with every woman in the world who’s not Amy… and he doesn’t like it.
So I think Dan is going to take whatever steps are necessary to keep her in his life, now that he knows what the alternative is. He’ll take them slowly, and begrudgingly, and he’ll probably be insufferable throughout, but he’ll take them all the same.
Put it another way - if Brie got pregnant, I have no doubt she’d be on her own. (I mean, he’d probably pay child support, but not much more than that). With Amy, it’s a whole different question - he is going to have to grow up, at long last, whether he likes it or not, because the other option is not having her in any way, shape or form, and he already knows he doesn’t want that.
(And all of this is before the child - who I really hope will be a girl, because it would be so karmically fitting for Dan to have to raise a girl after the way he’s treated women for so long - becomes in any sense a reality to him. I would expect his possessive tendencies to only increase in this scenario).