she really has the best tweets

Being Tom’s Girlfriend and Also Super Opinionated Headcannon

Requested: Anon

This is my first request and will probably be my favorite request of all time because it describes me. I am super opinionated and yell at a lot of people. 

  • Let’s be honest Tom is not overly opinionated at all
  • That man has no opinions unless it’s like memes or something
  • But dating someone super opinionated was super new and honestly very exciting
  • It always frustrates you when something happens and he doesn’t acknowledge it like you do and then you realize not everyone is as opinionated as you
  • That doesn’t stop you from being angry
  • Like when Charlottesville happened you retweeted everything that talked about white supremacy and nazis and about how the president needs to step up
  • Fans were happy you said something but of course you got hate
  • What really worries Tom is when you visit your parents and end up in fights with your family
  • Arguing with your mom on women and trans rights is a huge thing
  • Tom always worries about you because you’re not afraid to call someone out and he doesn’t want you to get hurt
  • One day when you’re walking downtown with Tom and your best friend
  • My best friend is trans so let’s say this friend of yours is too
  • You guys end up at a restaurant and someone misgenders your friend and Tom is scared tbh
  • This is the angriest he’s ever seen you
  • Completely calling out the person and almost screaming at them in the middle of the restaurant
  • Luckily they apologize after some yelling and even your friend was surprised but it angers you when people don’t respect others
  • Going to the women’s march with Tom and him loving it
  • He loves seeing you happy and seeing all the women there with their signs and chanting 
  • It makes you so happy when you can win an argument with a bigot and make them look stupid
  • It’s your favorite thing to do
  • Homeboy loves it when you call out bigots online
  • Especially donald trump
  • He disapproves of the president just as much as you do
  • Someone once told you that men were inherently better than women and that was the biggest argument ever
  • It ended up with the guy having a broken nose
  • Tom wasn’t the one who punched him 
  • Zendaya loves you so much
  • Honestly she would be your best friend
  • Always going to protests with her and tweeting about things together
  • Calling people out together like the queens you are
  • Harrison is scared of you tbh
  • He doesn’t want to ever mess with you
  • He’s glad Tom loves you but he really is scared of you
  • Especially after you broke that guys nose
  • Tom’s dad has definitely brought that story up in his comedy shows
  • He thinks it’s hilarious
  • However, at the end of the day what Tom loves most is that you love him just as much as you love human rights
  • maybe a bit more
Funny/interesting/cool MJ things

So since I’ve gotten @dahm-sub into Michael Jackson, I want to share for her and for everyone some awesome, little known things about him.

1) Michael’s favorite store was the Salvation Army. 

2) Michael personally paid for the funeral of a Chicago shooting victim

3) Michael’s daughter, Paris, is named so due to a bet he had with Kathy Hilton. “Whoever has a daughter first names her Paris.” Thus we have Paris Hilton and Paris Jackson.

4) Michael’s “second family” were the Cascios… here he is giving free advertising for their Italian restaurant.

3) In their book, “Defending a King,” Michael’s former bodyguards tell a heartwarming story of when he pulled into a vacant lot in a limousine and handed out handfuls of $100s to homeless people

4) Lisa Marie Presley (who was married to Michael in the early 90s) bragged to her friends that Michael was a freak in bed, and loved standing up, roleplay, and was even a screamer.

5) Related: the 45th President allegedly has a tape of them having sex in one of his hotels

6) Michael’s 2nd wife, Debbie Rowe, was a nurse in his dermatologist’s office, and knew him for several years before she agreed to have his kids. Despite the rumors, she publicly tweeted once that they naturally conceived their children.

7) It’s well-known to Michael’s close friends that he lost his virginity to Diana Ross in the early 80s

8) Michael’s late friend, former husband of Liza Minelli, David Gest, said he had to take care of Michael several times after he got really drunk and started throwing up everywhere

9) Michael was best friends with Ryan White, a boy famous for contracting AIDS and spearheading the movement in the 1980s. He dedicated the song and video “gone too soon” for him.

10) Corey Feldman was friends with Michael for many years and remains to be one of his biggest defenders. He publicly admitted to being sexually abused by a producer, and alleges that Hollywood is full of pedophiles, but that Michael never did anything to him. 

11) Michael was also good friends with Emmanuel Lewis of Webster fame.

12) Michael was a Jehovah’s Witness for most of his life and still went door to door during the height of Thriller, although in disguise

13) Michael loved going out in disguise because he could fool just about anyone, including his own family… this is from his brother Jermaine’s book “you are not alone”

14) Michael’s taste in women included: French women, Black/Asian biracial women, women from the Middle East, and Japanese women. The biological mother of Blanket, his 2nd son, was a nurse who was part Italian, part Mexican.

15) Michael once asked Katie Couric on a date, but she turned him down because she was dating someone else at the time

16) MICHAEL LOVED BEYONCE

17) Michael’s favorite meal was fried chicken, mashed potatoes and gravy, and green beans, and this dish was served almost daily at the Neverland cafe

18) Michael obsessively chewed Bazooka Bubblegum, and was in fact buried with some.

19) Michael allegedly tried pot after Barry Gibbs told him it enhanced creativity

20) Michael loved reading about Eastern religion, and was good friends with Deepak Chopra

21) Michael did several commercials for Pepsi, but he never drank it. This photo is also from his brother’s book and was taken backstage at the 1984 Victory tour.

22) Although hotly debated in the fan community, here is Michael in a secret recording (called the Glenda tapes) in which he mentions to a close friend that he had anorexia

23) Michael also suffered from Discoid lupus erythematosus (DLE), which made it hard for him to heal after suffering third degree burns in 1984.

24) Michael sustained a severe back-sprain during a special concert in Munich in 1999, in which he fell 50 feet from a platform onstage. Despite being in horrible pain, he finished the concert before passing out and being rushed to the hospital.

25) Michael almost died from a stomach illness in 1995

26) Michael experienced an earthquake at his Neverland Rach in 1993, and called a friend panicking that it was the apocalypse

27) Michael is purported to have contacted medium Bonnie Vent after his death in 2009, and gave details which she verified with the help of Brooke Shields. (I’ve personally spoken to her, she’s legit)

There are some facts! Hope you enjoyed. :)

anonymous asked:

Hi there! I've read somewhere that 2x18 was going to be a Magnus heavy episode which made me really happy, but I don't know if it's true or if I misread it? Or did I mistake it for a Malec heavy episode? If you find the time to answer me : Thank you very much! :D

They referred to malec, not Magnus. I’ll link some of the tweets so you can judge for yourself (thnx to @laffbending for digging up these); just keep in mind they never said malec heavy, only that there would be good malec content and that there would be more than one scene (longer than a minute). what each individual defines as heavy is up to them.

They’ve also tweeted that there’s going to be some really great Luke and Maia content, and Isaiah has tweeted about Luke’s appearance in this episode, too, which he seems very excited about.

Dating Erik Durm would include...

•constant jokes about his rosy cheeks
•like his girlfriend would say cheesy or cringe stuff just to see the colour rush to his cheeks because she found it cute
•i feel like at first erik can be really closed off because he wants to make sure people have good intentions
•but once he trusts you he is one of the loudest, sweetest and bubbly people you’ve ever met
•he’s constantly cracking jokes or giving people compliments
•he showers his teammates with compliments so much his girlfriend has become convinced that he secretly fancies Burki
•(not that she can blame him)
•he constantly references embarrassing moments of hers
•particularly from her 2014 relatable tumblr, one direction and bieber phase, which is oh so detailedly documented on her twitter
•like why did she not think to delete her tweets before she started dating a literal Greek god???
•'babe, why won’t you talk to me?’
•'soz, ur not harry styles lol’
•(referencing a literal tweet of hers that kills her with embarrassment)
•'really erik, really?’
•'sorry, i just can’t help it. i’m so stressed, well dressed and justin bieber obsessed’
•(yet again, another directly quoted tweet)
•regardless of how much he teases her, he’s still a massive sap towards her
•i’m talking tulips delivered to work, because she hates roses, and fancy dinner dates to the best restaurants dortmund has to offer, regardless of how much she insists that mcdonalds is completely fine
•all in all erik durm is a literal sappy asshole to his girlfriend

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IS IT THAT OBVIOUS? 
1.05  //   1.20

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Essa garota da foto me provou que grandes heróis são bonitos e memoráveis, mas não são comparáveis perto de grandes heroínas. E essas grandes heroínas as vezes é uma garota de 20 anos, que as vezes tem alma de 13, que cruzou a fronteira pra ir atrás dos seus sonhos, que entrou no palco de um programa de TV, fazendo piada pra disfarçar o nervosismo, e que hoje ganhou o mundo e é o meu mundo. Camila seria minha melhor amiga se eu tivesse nascido em uma vida que se chocasse com a dela. Bom, talvez ela seja mesmo assim.
      É… com certeza ela é mesmo assim.

- wordstocamila
___________________________

This girl from the photo proved to me that great heroes are beautiful and memorable, but they are not comparable near great heroines. And these great heroines are sometimes a 20-year-old girl, who sometimes has a soul of 13, who crossed the border to go after her dreams, who entered the stage of a TV show, joke to disguise the nervousness, and who today has won the world and is my world. Camila would be my best friend if I had been born into a life that would hit hers. Well, maybe she really is.
 Yeah … she sure is.

anonymous asked:

can u do some hcs of how jared and his daughter would interact on social media (twitter, snapchat, IG). p.s. i loved the fic you just wrote it was so sweet and it reassured me that jared is ok

I’m so glad thank you!

She always comes up with the best memes and sarcastic one liners about him to tweet and all the echelon likes/retweets.

Jared really takes advantage of throw back thursdays and always posts a picture of the two of them.

She tries to make fathers day special for him since it’s a sensitive topic and post something cute.

She has to text him to remove his embarassing comments off her posts when hes acting too sappy or making dad jokes.

His trolls are constantly trying to talk to her so shes blocking them left and right.

Jared is always trying to maintain it or prevent his life and career from affecting her.

Shes more open and liberal in what she posts and doesnt like to hide vs his extremely privae and vague way of posting.

She always jumps to his defense when people are being nasty but he has to remind her theyre not important and thats the way of the internet.

Inside jokes back and forth that everyone is trying to understand but no one besides them does.

don't ask dumb questions if you are not ready for the response

whoever talked over lana after not being pleased by her opinion is a fool, whenever that woman speaks (I don’t care what you ship) you shut up and listen. People at cons sometimes need to realize what appropriate questions are. I heard 90% of her panel was about ships…ewww? Like come on…is that all the show really is now? Lana has the BEST character on all of the show…and you guys sit here and speak of ships her character isn’t even connected to? Just asking Lana shit about C$ knowing that puts her in an uncomfortable position? That’s fucked up. Lana has done a lot for swen. Remember she’s given us a microphone when no one heard our voices and she’s spoken to us when no one else did. Don’t forget that. Also to take note she deadass explained what happened with Leanne because she SAW all of the tweets towards her and she made sure she clarified what Leanne misquoted. Be fucking grateful because at the end of the day she’s given a list of things she can and cannot say. And she’s said A LOT.

anonymous asked:

Is Arisha closest to Rikyako than the other seiyuus? Based on their tweets and pics and the way they tease each other, it seems to me the they are some kind of bestfriends.

Good thing I waited for Rikyako’s Young Jump gravure release. Rikyako has definitely taken notes from Arisha during their dates. :3

Jokes aside. I can say that Arisha is pretty close with the rest of the members in Aqours and being best friends with one another, given their working relationship. She was seen going out with Kin-chan in the past (when AZALEA first formed) and often tweeted one another. She is also really close with Aiai due to the Kurosawa sister relation, and with Aikyan and Anchan because of Gu~RinPa radio show. Arisha being close to.

Rikyako is one of the many relationships she has, and I’m not trying to say that is just another one. However there are many other instances of other Seiyuus too, including with Himitasu (from iRis) 

However I do like their interactions :3 especially when Arisha roasted her for her cooking (and being all smug about it coz Arisha is a good cook too) and all the other times they went out together. 

(It might also be that Arisha and Rikyako’s interests and schedule also happened to coincide with one another, given how busy Arisha always is)

My Better Half - Joe Sugg

“Come on, Y/N, I’m sure they don’t mean any of it!” Joe tries to calm you down. You’ve been spending your spare time on twitter ever since you and Joe had gone public a few months back. At first you would get a ton of support from all the fans, but after a while, they decided they were going to turn their backs on you.

“Joe, they wouldn’t tweet it to you if they didn’t mean it,” You said back through tears. You had been struggling with self-confidence your entire life. You always thought your stomach was too soft or your thighs were too big. Sometimes you’d even get to the point where you just wanted to stay in bed and hide from everyone because you didn’t feel like facing them.

Once you had started dating Joe 8 months ago, all that changed. He had a special way of making you feel beautiful, even if you had just woken up and you knew for a fact that he was just trying to be sweet. However, the fans have gotten a bit too harsh on you, and you’ve started falling back into your old mindset.

“Y/N, they love you. Besides, it doesn’t matter what they think,” Joe sighed. Walking over to the couch and pulling you onto his lap. “You’re beautiful and amazing and everything all rolled into one.”

You pulled away from Joe and that’s when he knew something was incredibly wrong. He looked at you with fear in his eyes, having an idea of what you were about to say. You sighed, “That’s easy for you to say because you’re not the one the hate is targeting!” You just about screamed. You were completely broken inside and you needed to get away and be alone for a bit. You wiggled out of Joe’s arms and walked towards the bedroom that the two of you shared.

Joe realized that you needed to be alone and left you go. But 15 minutes later he thought it was about time to go and check on you. When he opens the door he sees you packing an overnight bag. “What are you doing?” he asks, his voice cracking. Tears threatening to spill over.

“I think I should spend some time over at my sister’s. It would be best for both of us if we would take a little break.” You told him quietly. Not even being able to face him. You knew you would back out and regret it if you dared look in his eyes. No, you were dead set on this. “The fans have gotten way too harsh. You and I both know I’m not the most confident girl in the world.”

“I thought you were better with that?” Joe asked, not ashamed to hide his tears.

“I was, but it takes a long time to change your personal opinion of yourself, Joe. I don’t think I can handle the fans.” You cried. “Just face it, they love you, and hate me. They hate me so much, and I don’t even know what I did wrong! That’s the part that’s absolutely terrifying to me.

The both of you were quiet for a while. The only noise being made was you zipping up your bag and walking to the door. Joe grabbed your arm and turned you around before you got the chance to open it.

“But…but I love you, Y/N.” Joe said.

You were in shock. Neither one of you have ever said the “L word” to each other yet. You thought to yourself He’s probably just saying that because he’s too scared to be single. He thinks the same about you as the fans. He’s only dating you out of pity.

“I’m sorry, Joe…but I have to leave now. My sister’s here.” You told him, avoiding his confession.

“How long are you going to be staying there?” Joe asked, wiping the tears off his face, only to be quickly replaced by fresh ones.

“I don’t know…all I know is it will be for a while. I just need to clear my head and the only way to do that is to get away from the core of the drama.” You turned and opened the door. “I’m sorry, Joe. I really am.”

And with that, you closed the door behind you and ran to your sisters car before you changed your mind and went back to the house.

Joe violently kicked and punched the wall, not afraid to let all his emotions out. He had just lost the best thing that has ever happened to him. All because of the fact that his fans couldn’t accept the fact that he was with Y/N. He never felt so angry before in his lifetime, and thought to himself: Maybe if I show Y/N how much I really care, she’ll come back. She has to love me back, she just has to.

He whipped out his phone and typed out a tweet and pushed send.

 Now, all he had to do was wait…     

You guys! One of my best friends is boycotting Reputation and is even going as far as Shit talking it (EVEN THOUGH SHE HASN’T HEARD IT) and its really getting on my nerves because she has said a million times that you shouldn’t judge a book by its cover and it’s honestly getting on my nerves (and she can see that) and shes tweeting about it. What the hell do i do?! I honestly lost a little respect for her over this.

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10 year old with Cerebral Palsey has the best Halloween costume!
[October 31st, 2015]

Facebookers Eric and Christy Knight has uploaded some awesome photos along with an amazing story involving their 10 year old daughter, Gracie:

This is Gracie Knight…. She is 10 years old and has Cerebral Palsey. She LOVES wrestling, and wanted to be Kane this year for Halloween, so her Dad and I made it happen!! She really wants Kane to see this, so please help by sharing!!
Thank you P1s!!!
Eric and Christy Knight, Gaffney, SC

Please, if you have a moment, tweet this link to Kane. I’m sure he’d be honored by the gesture!

Link: http://shitloadsofwrestling.tumblr.com/post/132472690981/10-year-old-with-cerebral-palsey-has-the-best

anonymous asked:

I saw some twitter posts by m2k that his big love is going to die very very soon (today?). But he deleted his tweets and I am not a lot into the smash scene. You got more info? Why she died? Wish m2k the best!

Ok so I’m gonna try to explain this as short as possible but there’s a really lengthy reddit thread about this that I’ll link in the end. So M2K had a friend called “Meiying Jun”. She told him she has huntington’s disease BUT last night a bunch of people started digging into that account and found out that she had some pictures but those turned out to be fake and was some japanese pornstar named  Serina Hayakawa. They also found out that that account has been used to catfish people before and “she” has also done the whole i’m dying thing before.
Before any of you guys tweet at m2k just know that hes going trough a tough time and hearing that his bestfriend was all a lie and somebody trolling him could destroy him so please just keep this here. Go show M2K some love and shit on his twitter since he isn’t feeling his best. His twitter is @MVG_Mew2King.
Here’s the link to the whole reddit thread: https://redd.it/4pqysf

LOFT 89 Chicago!

I just wanted to write a quick post to share my experience when I got to meet Taylor Swift. So many people have asked me about it and I figured that writing it all out in a post would make it as clear as possible and I can get into details without forgetting anything!

So I had the opportunity to see Taylor Swift this weekend at Soldier Field on Saturday and Sunday. I had pit seats on Saturday, which is a general admission section on both sides of the runway. It’s as close as you can be. I had the most fantastic night of my life and I never thought anything could be better than seeing Taylor for the 6th time that up close and personal. Here are some pictures I managed to capture of her walking down the runway near us.

I had so much fun and couldn’t have wished for a better night. I had heard via Twitter that Taylor hadn’t been feeling well and was on vocal rest. I figured that she wouldn’t be doing Loft 89 in Chicago that night.

I woke up Sunday morning so unbelievably excited to see Taylor perform AGAIN! I was super excited to wear my costume that my friend Kiley and I had made.

After getting an insane amount of weird looks on our way to Soldier Field, we were finally in! We immediately went to find the Taylor Nation booth, where the workers for TN hang out, take photos of concert goers, and have Taylor’s outfits on display for fans to take pictures of. We wanted to wait in line and go through the experience, but it was very long. We were looking at the costumes on display when a few different groups of people wanted to take photos with us! It was really awesome, everyone was so nice and were complimenting our outfits.

It was really funny how this ended up because we were talking to all of these people right in front of one of the TN workers. If you’re not familiar, these people have a lot of influence regarding who gets to meet Taylor Swift in Loft 89. I was really happy that one of the workers saw everything happening.

We went to go get shirts and we sat down to watch Shawn Mendes. He was just as good as he was on Saturday and really knew how to get the crowd going. I was so excited to see Vance Joy and HAIM again: I have been fans of theirs for awhile and knew all of their songs.

We took a quick bathroom break between Vance and HAIM and we were asked to take a ton of photos with people again! It was so funny and strange to be asked for a photo. We hurried back to our seats as HAIM was starting their first song. I knew every word and got SO into it. I noticed the same woman who worked for Taylor Nation walk around our section about three or four times between Shawn and HAIM’s performance and I was getting butterflies in my stomach, but I didn’t want to get my hopes up.

Taylor came on around 9:15 and I was so excited to see her perform again, I forgot about being distracted about Loft 89 and just enjoyed the performance. I was particularly really into “I Knew You Were Trouble” because Tay sang the majority of the song on the runway, which was super close to my seats. About a minute or two into the song, I felt someone tap me on my left shoulder on the aisle. As soon as I turned around it was ANDREA SWIFT and I immediately knew what was coming. I just started crying and hugged her before I said a word and she was so smiley and couldn’t stop laughing! My friend Kiley and I couldn’t stop freaking out and Andrea goes, “WELL HELLO THERE! I have a question for you ladies. Have you ever met Taylor Swift?” And I started FREAKING OUT and I honestly don’t even think I responded, I just kept crying. Kiley kept telling her “NO NO NO! NO WE HAVEN’T MET HER!” And Andrea goes, “Well do you want to meet her after the show?” And we said “YES!!!!” And she said, “Are you sure you haven’t met her before?” Clearly just giving us a hard time because it was so amusing. We kept saying no we haven’t met her! And a woman next to Taylor (I honestly didn’t even look at her) Took my arm and put a Loft 89 bracelet on and Andrea put one on Kiley. We kept freaking out as they walked away and we couldn’t stop shaking! We saw that a couple girls two rows in front of us had gotten Loft 89 too and we were so happy! We were in such shock that we missed the entire next song, “I Wish You Would.” I don’t remember any of it!

We tried to enjoy the rest of the concert and not think about what we were POSSIBLY going to say to Taylor. The concert continued and it was as fantastic as the first night. I will never get tired of seeing her perform.

As the finale ended, we hurried to the section designated for us and watched as people walked by us saying “Congrats!” It was so surreal. I was really meeting Taylor after wishing for this moment since I was 12? I still am in shock.

Sierra from Taylor Nation made sure we all had our wristbands and quickly told us the rules.

1) When you get into Loft 89, you can take as many photos as you’d like, but no videos. If you are seen taking videos, you will be asked to leave.

2) When Taylor comes in, you have to put your phones away. If you are caught taking photos of her, you will be asked to leave.  You can have your phone out when you are getting ready to take the photo with her.

3).  You get one photo per group with Taylor. No videos, no vines, no snap chats, etc.

4) You cannot have your phone out even after you have had your time with Taylor.

Here are a few photos I took while waiting for Taylor!

After about twenty five minutes or so, Taylor came in!! She walked in and threw her arms up in the air and goes “HEY GUYS! I’M NOT ON VOCAL REST BECAUSE I HAVE FIVE DAYS OFF!” And everyone cheered!

I was the third group to talk to her and while waiting for my turn, I couldn’t stop STARING at her. She was so attentive with each group she talked to and made everyone feel so welcomed and like she really wanted to hear what we had to say.

When she finally came up to Kiley and I, she said “HEY GUYS!” And hugged Kiley first. She started talking about “great we looked” and how we must have been getting a lot of stares. As she turned to hug me as we made eye contact, I immediately started crying! She gave me a hug and we started telling her how we groups of people were taking pictures of us before the concert (Kiley said most of it, I couldn’t get many words out without blubbering like a baby). I finally started to calm down and she started asking us our names. As I said “Kristin,” she looked up from the ticket that she was signing for me, and said, “I LOVE your eyebrows!” I said “thank you!” and she goes, “You make me wish I had eyebrows!” I was laughing so much and couldn’t believe she said that (I take pride in my eyebrows).

As she finished signing my ticket, I asked her to write out “fearless” for me. Sidenote: I’ve always told myself since the album “Fearless” came out that if I ever met her, I would get her to write it down for me so I can it tattooed. I’m hoping to get it done soon!

The way that Kiley spells her name made Taylor think of “a band that she really likes,” and she said that they sing the Grey’s Anatomy theme song. THEN SHE STARTED SINGING THE THEME SONG. TAYLOR SWIFT SANG TO ME. I was trying not to completely collapse on the ground. Then we started talking about her cats and how “Olivia had a really good day, I woke up this morning and her head was right by my head.” And Taylor did the silliest gesture referencing to waking up to her cat. It was amazing.

Then we took a photo:

After the photo, we all hugged again, and she thanked us for waiting to meet her while she showered after the show because “You wouldn’t have wanted to hang out with me when I smell bad” LIKE SHE HAS TO THANK US FOR BEING INVITED TO MEET HER FOR FREE. She’s literally an angel.

Since we were third to meet her, we had a lot of time to hang out while she talked to everyone else, so we were talking to Andrea and got a couple photos with her as well!

It was honestly one of the best nights of my life. I am still in complete shock. Thank you so much for reading this and I really hope you were entertained by this post (as well as my Tweets, if you read them). I have been waiting to meet Taylor since I was thirteen and I cannot believe it finally happened. I am FOREVER GRATEFUL :)

taylorswift THANK YOU FOR EVERYTHING!


**Side note: Someone who reblogged this mentioned that the band Taylor was referring to is called Rilo Kiley**

The Blacklist 2x08 "The Decembrist" Discussion
  • That was one of the most frantic episodes of the show. The entire time I was just

  • I guess I can appreciate that nearly every possible Liz Keen ship got a bit of something something from the episode. But obviously the Keens got the most attention because IMO Tom and Liz love each other.

  • I didn’t think Tom did before but after listening to Red warn him THAT many times to stay away from Liz… it’s pretty clear that he does in some way love her the way she loves him. And for the record, I get why Liz still loves him but it’s disappointing for me because 1. I’m a hardcore Keenler shipper and 2. I couldn’t love a man like that. But it’s realistic for her to still care. You don’t fall completely in love with someone and marry them then just walk away without some residual feelings.
  • Best part was OF COURSE jealous!Ressler.

  • IMO he was just a bit hurt to see that Liz still loved Tom, especially when she called Tom an informant and compared him to Red and Ressler was like “the difference is you’re not in love with Reddington.” Then he told her he couldn’t be a part of keeping her secret but HE STILL COVERED FOR HER ANYWAY. Bravo, s1 aka “always there for Liz” Ressler is back.
  •  I swear this entire season so far, every time I see Ressler I just

  • btw I was SO disappointed that we didn’t get to see Ressler actually rough up Tom :(
  • Seriously though, Tom-

  • A double agent? Really? Red has single handedly done a bang up job of screwing up/with Liz’s life. It’s not even funny. Manipulative, much?
  • The other best part of tonight was following the cast on Twitter live tweet, especially this

  • One last Keenler thought- Ressler is the one good person that she trusts and that is in her life. That has to count for something. She DOES care a lot about him and is terrified to live without him but as long as she has feelings for Tom, it’s going to be hard for her to love like that again. The execs had already said that there won’t be a Keenler romance this season, so I guess we all have to be extremely patient and just enjoy the moments we get.
  • IN CASE YOU HAVEN’T NOTICED I’M KIND OF DISAPPOINTED. HELP KEENLER SHIPPERS. HOW DO I SURVIVE UNTIL FEBRUARY?

anonymous asked:

top 10 favorite things about brendon. go

in descending order

  • NUMBER 10: his beautiful smile and laugh! it is truly one of the best things in the world. god looks at brendon urie’s smile and is like “shit. fuckk. i messed up.” the angels are envious of his perfect and great smile. he smiles and everyone in the room falls a little bit in love. his laugh is very loud and obnoxious, like a shriek, but it’s beautiful and wonderful. when he laughs i can feel my heart fall right out of my ass. fuck that guy honestly! fuck brendon urie!
  • look at him
  • he is beautiful
  • NUMBER 9: his twitter. he uses twitter like twitter is meant to be used. all celebrities need to use it the way he does. he only tweets when he has something funny or positive to say and i love it. leaves no room for error. he uses twitter in the best way
  • look at it
  • look at him
  • god
  • NUMBER 8: his humor. he is really very funny and wonderful. he has the best dumb face and makes the best dumb faces and everyone who’s ever met him has talked about how funny he is. he is so funny and beautiful and great. remember that time a fan asked him to do something weird so she could have a memorable meet and greet and he literally got on top of a table and zack had to get him down? he’s so funny. he’s so great and funny. look at him. he is the funniest
  • NUMBER 7: his perseverence! oh my god! after losing ryan and jon, two MAJOR songwriters, and in ryan’s case the main lyricist, brendon literally had to become the main songwriter and lyricist like, overnight. imagine how weird that was? how daunting? the fanbase was so used to ryan’s words and melodies and brendon had to just take up where he left off and i cant imagine how hard that was. but he did it!!! he did it!!! he has worked so hard for this band. he works SO hard. he does so much. he wants this band to succeed because he loves it so much and that is one of my favorite things about him. he perseveres. he is so brave and strong and im so appreciative of all he does for this band !!!!!
  • NUMBER 6: his talent. oh my god!!! he is so talented. he can play like a million instruments. that video where he plays every instrument on this is gospel like, kills me. he can play anything and he does it so well. and his voice!! he has the most beautiful voice. his talent comes from how hard he works and i love it. i love it so much. he is so talented and great. and HIS SONGWRITING! he has such an ear for melodies and loves to experiment with instruments and make things sound cool and different and i am so inspired by him. his lyrics are great, they are simple and beautiful, his songs in general.. the ones he writes by himself… the end of all things makes me cry every time. he is a wonderful writer and an emotionally moving lyricist and musician and i love him so much
  • NUMBER 5: how much he loves sarah! god! sometimes i look at the way he looks at her and it just fills me with so so so much warmth. the way he talks about her like she is the best person alive, like she is the only person in the world worth talking to. i love it. he loves her so much, and he respects her and appreciates her and sings songs for her and raises dogs with her and they are wonderful together. you can tell how much he loves her every time his eyes light up when he talks about her! and how giggly and happy he is when she’s with him in vines and stuff! he loves her so much and it makes me feel so happy
  • NUMBER 4: how he literally does not care about masculinity. at all. and that might seem like a weird thing but i really appreciate it. like, he regularly reads feminist novels. his favorite book is tina fey’s book and he’s read it like six times. not only does he really love taylor swift, but he also said that he admires her writing and it inspires him how “honest” she is. he never seems worried about liking things that are traditionally ~~for girls~~ and i like that so much. i’ve never had to worry about him bashing his female fans, which he’s never done, and i’ve never had to worry about him making fun of girl groups or famous women. he respects them! and he thinks they are talented and they inspire him! i love that about him. as a female fan in his largely female-dominated fanbase, it makes me feel really secure. a lot of band dudes will look down on the female fanbase but i never worry about him doing that which is really awesome. love him
  • NUMBER 3: how much of an attention whore he is. that’s like one of his best traits. he loves being the center of attention and he draws attention to himself effortlessly and i love it? he’s just like “look at me, im great” and everyone in the room is like “wow, yes, true” and he commands attention really well. this is because he’s so funny and charismatic but also because he just loves attention. i love how he sometimes lies in interviews for the positive attention. i love how sometimes he’ll like, flash the audience and laugh really big whenever people freak out because he loves it. he was made to be onstage. when all eyes are on him he is at his happiest and best and i think that’s so charming.
  • NUMBER 2: the way he treats fans. man i could go on about this for years probably. it’s a close second for my favorite thing about him. he is just so kind and friendly and as i mentioned before, never belittling. i mean let’s be honest… most of the panic! fanbase are young teenage girls. and brendon has had his fair share of bad run-ins with fans. let’s not forget the hair cookie incident or the notorious panic! stalker. but even though he’s had a lot of negative experiences with fans, he never seems to tire of meeting them. he is always so appreciative and genuine with fans. i especially love the way he treats his young female audience… i remember reading about uriemo meeting him and it stuck with me because she was fourteen at the time. fourteen!! and he never talked down to her. he never acted like “im the adult rockstar and you’re the child fan” and that’s something i think about a lot. he is so down to earth and humble and he treats fans with so much respect. remember that video where the fans were touching his face and one of them was crying “you’re real??” and he kept laughing and saying “yes im real! im real!” and he never once looked creeped out and he continued signing things. he is so fucking nice and i think he knows how much he owes these fans… the fanbase is a big reason why they still continue to get press and he knows it and he appreciates it so much. i just love that about him. every single fan who’s ever met him has talked about how humble, and kind, and sweet, and funny he was. he is such a genuine person. he loves his fans and it shows.
  • NUMBER 1: his heart. this really goes hand and hand with the way he treats fans but it bears repeating. he is an incredibly kind person. he loves people. he just has so much love in his heart and he works so hard and he is so genuine and kind… he has a huge heart and it shows on his sleeve all the time. the way he treats fans, the way he talks about his wife, the silly pictures and vines he takes of his pups, the way he talks about spencer, the way he writes his music… he has so much love in him. his heart is so big and he is really just a genuinely wonderful person.
  • i love brendon urie with every bit of me. he is incredible. please appreciate him
Taylor Swift Should Apologize

Bare minimum. Apologize. Publicly, sincerely and correctly.


Taylor Swift is not an idiot. You don’t get to be someone in her position being an idiot. She should know the kind of platform she has and should be held responsible for how she uses it.


Nicki Minaj’s tweet did not have anything to do with her directly. It was about the system where Ms. Swift benefits financially and critically. Nicki Minaj is not afforded the same privilege.


Taylor Swift made a bad assumption and tweeted to all of her followers that assumption.


I think what she should have done if she was confused and really wanted to not have two women pitted against each other in the media as she claims, then she should have sent Nicki a message asking for clarification in private. Then the best thing she could have done was favorited and retweeted to her millions of followers. This would have been a show of solidarity and support for her fellow artist. If she was then asked about it or had other comments she could have shared them or better yet just keep retweeting what Nicki had to say because Ms. Minaj can explain herself.


Please apologize taylorswift.  We all make mistakes. There have been times we have all rushed to conclusions. Please show everybody, now that you have the attention you diverted, how to graciously and correctly apologize. How to recover from a mistake. It’s an important lesson. It’s unfortunate that it had to come at Nicki Minaj’s expense.

time.com
How Trolls Are Ruining the Internet
They’re turning the web into a cesspool of aggression and violence. What watching them is doing to the rest of us may be even worse

This story is not a good idea. Not for society and certainly not for me. Because what trolls feed on is attention. And this little bit–these several thousand words–is like leaving bears a pan of baklava.

It would be smarter to be cautious, because the Internet’s personality has changed. Once it was a geek with lofty ideals about the free flow of information. Now, if you need help improving your upload speeds the web is eager to help with technical details, but if you tell it you’re struggling with depression it will try to goad you into killing yourself. Psychologists call this the online disinhibition effect, in which factors like anonymity, invisibility, a lack of authority and not communicating in real time strip away the mores society spent millennia building. And it’s seeping from our smartphones into every aspect of our lives.

The people who relish this online freedom are called trolls, a term that originally came from a fishing method online thieves use to find victims. It quickly morphed to refer to the monsters who hide in darkness and threaten people. Internet trolls have a manifesto of sorts, which states they are doing it for the “lulz,” or laughs. What trolls do for the lulz ranges from clever pranks to harassment to violent threats. There’s also doxxing–publishing personal data, such as Social Security numbers and bank accounts–and swatting, calling in an emergency to a victim’s house so the SWAT team busts in. When victims do not experience lulz, trolls tell them they have no sense of humor. Trolls are turning social media and comment boards into a giant locker room in a teen movie, with towel-snapping racial epithets and misogyny.

They’ve been steadily upping their game. In 2011, trolls descended onFacebook memorial pages of recently deceased users to mock their deaths. In 2012, after feminist Anita Sarkeesian started a Kickstarter campaign to fund a series of YouTube videos chronicling misogyny in video games, she received bomb threats at speaking engagements, doxxing threats, rape threats and an unwanted starring role in a video game called Beat Up Anita Sarkeesian. In June of this year, Jonathan Weisman, the deputy Washington editor of the New York Times, quit Twitter, on which he had nearly 35,000 followers, after a barrage of anti-Semitic messages. At the end of July, feminist writer Jessica Valenti said she was leaving social media after receiving a rape threat against her daughter, who is 5 years old.

A Pew Research Center survey published two years ago found that 70% of 18-to-24-year-olds who use the Internet had experienced harassment, and 26% of women that age said they’d been stalked online. This is exactly what trolls want. A 2014 study published in the psychology journal Personality and Individual Differences found that the approximately 5% of Internet users who self-identified as trolls scored extremely high in the dark tetrad of personality traits: narcissism, psychopathy, Machiavellianism and, especially, sadism.

But maybe that’s just people who call themselves trolls. And maybe they do only a small percentage of the actual trolling. “Trolls are portrayed as aberrational and antithetical to how normal people converse with each other. And that could not be further from the truth,” says Whitney Phillips, a literature professor at Mercer University and the author of Why We Can’t Have Nice Things: Mapping the Relationship Between Online Trolling and Mainstream Culture. “These are mostly normal people who do things that seem fun at the time that have huge implications. You want to say this is the bad guys, but it’s a problem of us.”

A lot of people enjoy the kind of trolling that illuminates the gullibility of the powerful and their willingness to respond. One of the best is Congressman Steve Smith, a Tea Party Republican representing Georgia’s 15th District, which doesn’t exist. For nearly three years Smith has spewed over-the-top conservative blather on Twitter, luring Senator Claire McCaskill, Christiane Amanpour and Rosie O’Donnell into arguments. Surprisingly, the guy behind the GOP-mocking prank, Jeffrey Marty, isn’t a liberal but a Donald Trump supporter angry at the Republican elite, furious at Hillary Clinton and unhappy with Black Lives Matter. A 40-year-old dad and lawyer who lives outside Tampa, he says he has become addicted to the attention. “I was totally ruined when I started this. My ex-wife and I had just separated. She decided to start a new, more exciting life without me,” he says. Then his best friend, who he used to do pranks with as a kid, killed himself. Now he’s got an illness that’s keeping him home.Marty says his trolling has been empowering. “Let’s say I wrote a letter to the New York Times saying I didn’t like your article about Trump. They throw it in the shredder. On Twitter I communicate directly with the writers. It’s a breakdown of all the institutions,” he says. “I really do think this stuff matters in the election. I have 1.5 million views of my tweets every 28 days. It’s a much bigger audience than I would have gotten if I called people up and said, ‘Did you ever consider Trump for President?‘”

Trolling is, overtly, a political fight. Liberals do indeed troll–sex-advice columnist Dan Savage used his followers to make Googling former Pennsylvania Senator Rick Santorum’s last name a blunt lesson in the hygienic challenges of anal sex; the hunter who killed Cecil the lion got it really bad.

But trolling has become the main tool of the alt-right, an Internet-grown reactionary movement that works for men’s rights and against immigration and may have used the computer from Weird Science to fabricate Donald Trump. Not only does Trump share their attitudes, but he’s got mad trolling skills: he doxxed Republican primary opponent Senator Lindsey Graham by giving out his cell-phone number on TV and indirectly got his Twitter followers to attack GOP political strategist Cheri Jacobus so severely that her lawyers sent him a cease-and-desist order.

The alt-right’s favorite insult is to call men who don’t hate feminism “cucks,” as in “cuckold.” Republicans who don’t like Trump are “cuckservatives.” Men who don’t see how feminists are secretly controlling them haven’t “taken the red pill,” a reference to the truth-revealing drug in The Matrix. They derisively call their adversaries “social-justice warriors” and believe that liberal interest groups purposely exploit their weakness to gain pity, which allows them to control the levers of power. Trolling is the alt-right’s version of political activism, and its ranks view any attempt to take it away as a denial of democracy.

In this new culture war, the battle isn’t just over homosexuality, abortion, rap lyrics, drugs or how to greet people at Christmastime. It’s expanded to anything and everything: video games, clothing ads, even remaking a mediocre comedy from the 1980s. In July, trolls who had long been furious that the 2016 reboot of Ghostbusters starred four women instead of men harassed the film’s black co-star Leslie Jones so badly on Twitter with racist and sexist threats–including a widely copied photo of her at the film’s premiere that someone splattered semen on–that she considered quitting the service. “I was in my apartment by myself, and I felt trapped,” Jones says. “When you’re reading all these gay and racial slurs, it was like, I can’t fight y’all. I didn’t know what to do. Do you call the police? Then they got my email, and they started sending me threats that they were going to cut off my head and stuff they do to ‘N words.’ It’s not done to express an opinion, it’s done to scare you.”

Because of Jones’ harassment, alt-right leader Milo Yiannopoulos was permanently banned from Twitter. (He is also an editor at Breitbart News, the conservative website whose executive chairman, Stephen Bannon, was hired Aug. 17 to run the Trump campaign.) The service said Yiannopoulos, a critic of the new Ghostbusters who called Jones a “black dude” in a tweet, marshaled many of his more than 300,000 followers to harass her. He not only denies this but says being responsible for your fans is a ridiculous standard. He also thinks Jones is faking hurt for political purposes. “She is one of the stars of a Hollywood blockbuster,” he says. “It takes a certain personality to get there. It’s a politically aware, highly intelligent star using this to get ahead. I think it’s very sad that feminism has turned very successful women into professional victims.”

A gay, 31-year-old Brit with frosted hair, Yiannopoulos has been speaking at college campuses on his Dangerous Faggot tour. He says trolling is a direct response to being told by the left what not to say and what kinds of video games not to play. “Human nature has a need for mischief. We want to thumb our nose at authority and be individuals,” he says. “Trump might not win this election. I might not turn into the media figure I want to. But the space we’re making for others to be bolder in their speech is some of the most important work being done today. The trolls are the only people telling the truth.”

The alt-right was galvanized by Gamergate, a 2014 controversy in which trolls tried to drive critics of misogyny in video games away from their virtual man cave. “In the mid-2000s, Internet culture felt very separate from pop culture,” says Katie Notopoulos, who reports on the web as an editor at BuzzFeed and co-host of the Internet Explorer podcast. “This small group of people are trying to stand their ground that the Internet is dark and scary, and they’re trying to scare people off. There’s such a culture of viciously making fun of each other on their message boards that they have this very thick skin. They’re all trained up.”

Andrew Auernheimer, who calls himself Weev online, is probably the biggest troll in history. He served just over a year in prison for identity fraud and conspiracy. When he was released in 2014, he left the U.S., mostly bouncing around Eastern Europe and the Middle East. Since then he has worked to post anti–Planned Parenthood videos and flooded thousands of university printers in America with instructions to print swastikas–a symbol tattooed on his chest. When I asked if I could fly out and interview him, he agreed, though he warned that he “might not be coming ashore for a while, but we can probably pass close enough to land to have you meet us somewhere in the Adriatic or Ionian.” His email signature: “Eternally your servant in the escalation of entropy and eschaton.”

While we planned my trip to “a pretty remote location,” he told me that he no longer does interviews for free and that his rate was two bitcoins (about $1,100) per hour. That’s when one of us started trolling the other, though I’m not sure which:

From: Joel Stein

To: Andrew Auernheimer

I totally understand your position. But TIME, and all the major media outlets, won’t pay people who we interview. There’s a bunch of reasons for that, but I’m sure you know them.

Thanks anyway,

Joel

From: Andrew Auernheimer

To: Joel Stein

I find it hilarious that after your people have stolen years of my life at gunpoint and bulldozed my home, you still expect me to work for free in your interests.

You people belong in a f-cking oven.

From: Joel Stein

To: Andrew Auernheimer

For a guy who doesn’t want to be interviewed for free, you’re giving me a lot of good quotes!

In a later blog post about our emails, Weev clarified that TIME is “trying to destroy white civilization” and that we should “open up your Jew wallets and dump out some of the f-cking geld you’ve stolen from us goys, because what other incentive could I possibly have to work with your poisonous publication?” I found it comforting that the rate for a neo-Nazi to compromise his ideology is just two bitcoins.

Expressing socially unacceptable views like Weev’s is becoming more socially acceptable. Sure, just like there are tiny, weird bookstores where you can buy neo-Nazi pamphlets, there are also tiny, weird white-supremacist sites on the web. But some of the contributors on those sites now go to places like 8chan or 4chan, which have a more diverse crowd of meme creators, gamers, anime lovers and porn enthusiasts. Once accepted there, they move on to Reddit, the ninth most visited site in the U.S., on which users can post links to online articles and comment on them anonymously. Reddit believes in unalloyed free speech; the site only eliminated the comment boards “jailbait,” “creepshots” and “beatingwomen” for legal reasons.

But last summer, Reddit banned five more discussion groups for being distasteful. The one with the largest user base, more than 150,000 subscribers, was “fatpeoplehate.” It was a particularly active community that reveled in finding photos of overweight people looking happy, almost all women, and adding mean captions. Reddit users would then post these images all over the targets’ Facebook pages along with anywhere else on the Internet they could. “What you see on Reddit that is visible is at least 10 times worse behind the scenes,” says Dan McComas, a former Reddit employee. “Imagine two users posting about incest and taking that conversation to their private messages, and that’s where the really terrible things happen. That’s where we saw child porn and abuse and had to do all of our work with law enforcement.”

Jessica Moreno, McComas’ wife, pushed for getting rid of “fatpeoplehate” when she was the company’s head of community. This was not a popular decision with users who really dislike people with a high body mass index. She and her husband had their home address posted online along with suggestions on how to attack them. Eventually they had a police watch on their house. They’ve since moved. Moreno has blurred their house onGoogle maps and expunged nearly all photos of herself online.

During her time at Reddit, some users who were part of a group that mails secret Santa gifts to one another complained to Moreno that they didn’t want to participate because the person assigned to them made racist or sexist comments on the site. Since these people posted their real names, addresses, ages, jobs and other details for the gifting program, Moreno learned a good deal about them. “The idea of the basement dweller drinking Mountain Dew and eating Doritos isn’t accurate,” she says. “They would be a doctor, a lawyer, an inspirational speaker, a kindergarten teacher. They’d send lovely gifts and be a normal person.” These are real people you might know, Moreno says. There’s no real-life indicator. “It’s more complex than just being good or bad. It’s not all men either; women do take part in it.” The couple quit their jobs and started Imzy, a cruelty-free Reddit. They believe that saving a community is nearly impossible once mores have been established, and that sites like Reddit are permanently lost to the trolls.

When sites are overrun by trolls, they drown out the voices of women, ethnic and religious minorities, gays–anyone who might feel vulnerable. Young people in these groups assume trolling is a normal part of life online and therefore self-censor. An anonymous poll of the writers at TIME found that 80% had avoided discussing a particular topic because they feared the online response. The same percentage consider online harassment a regular part of their jobs. Nearly half the women on staff have considered quitting journalism because of hatred they’ve faced online, although none of the men had. Their comments included “I’ve been raged at with religious slurs, had people track down my parents and call them at home, had my body parts inquired about.” Another wrote, “I’ve had the usual online trolls call me horrible names and say I am biased and stupid and deserve to be raped. I don’t think men realize how normal that is for women on the Internet.”

The alt-right argues that if you can’t handle opprobrium, you should just turn off your computer. But that’s arguing against self-expression, something antithetical to the original values of the Internet. “The question is: How do you stop people from being a–holes not to their face?” says Sam Altman, a venture capitalist who invested early in Reddit and ran the company for eight days in 2014 after one of its many PR crises. “This is exactly what happened when people talked badly about public figures. Now everyone on the Internet is a public figure. The problem is that not everyone can deal with that.” Altman declared on June 15 that he would quit Twitter and his 171,000 followers, saying, “I feel worse after using Twitter … my brain gets polluted here.”

Twitter’s head of trust and safety, Del Harvey, struggles with how to allow criticism but curb abuse. “Categorically to say that all content you don’t like receiving is harassment would be such a broad brush it wouldn’t leave us much content,” she says. Harvey is not her real name, which she gave up long ago when she became a professional troll, posing as underage girls (and occasionally boys) to entrap pedophiles as an administrator for the website Perverted-Justice and later for NBC’s To Catch a Predator. Citing the role of Twitter during the Arab Spring, she says that anonymity has given voice to the oppressed, but that women and minorities are more vulnerable to attacks by the anonymous.

But even those in the alt-right who claim they are “unf-ckwithable” aren’t really. At some point, everyone, no matter how desensitized by their online experience, is liable to get freaked out by a big enough or cruel enough threat. Still, people have vastly different levels of sensitivity. A white male journalist who covers the Middle East might blow off death threats, but a teenage blogger might not be prepared to be told to kill herself because of her “disgusting acne.”

Which are exactly the kinds of messages Em Ford, 27, was receiving en masse last year on her YouTube tutorials on how to cover pimples with makeup. Men claimed to be furious about her physical “trickery,” forcing her to block hundreds of users each week. This year, Ford made a documentary for the BBC called Troll Hunters in which she interviewed online abusers and victims, including a soccer referee who had rape threats posted next to photos of his young daughter on her way home from school. What Ford learned was that the trolls didn’t really hate their victims. “It’s not about the target. If they get blocked, they say, ‘That’s cool,’ and move on to the next person,” she says. Trolls don’t hate people as much as they love the game of hating people.

Troll culture might be affecting the way nontrolls treat one another. A yet-to-be-published study by University of California, Irvine, professor Zeev Kain showed that when people were exposed to reports of good deeds on Facebook, they were 10% more likely to report doing good deeds that day. But the opposite is likely occurring as well. “One can see discourse norms shifting online, and they’re probably linked to behavior norms,” says Susan Benesch, founder of the Dangerous Speech Project and faculty associate at Harvard’s Internet and Society center. “When people think it’s increasingly O.K. to describe a group of people as subhuman or vermin, those same people are likely to think that it’s O.K. to hurt those people.”

As more trolling occurs, many victims are finding laws insufficient and local police untrained. “Where we run into the problem is the social-media platforms are very hesitant to step on someone’s First Amendment rights,” says Mike Bires, a senior police officer in Southern California who co-founded LawEnforcement.social, a tool for cops to fight on-line crime and use social media to work with their communities. “If they feel like someone’s life is in danger, Twitter and Snapchat are very receptive. But when it comes to someone harassing you online, getting the social-media companies to act can be very frustrating.” Until police are fully caught up, he recommends that victims go to the officer who runs the force’s social-media department.

One counter-trolling strategy now being employed on social media is to flood the victims of abuse with kindness. That’s how many Twitter users have tried to blunt racist and body-shaming attacks on U.S. women’s gymnastics star Gabby Douglas and Mexican gymnast Alexa Moreno during the Summer Olympics in Rio. In 2005, after Emily May co-founded Hollaback!, which posts photos of men who harass women on the street in order to shame them (some might call this trolling), she got a torrent of misogynistic messages. “At first, I thought it was funny. We were making enough impact that these losers were spending their time calling us ‘cunts’ and ‘whores’ and ‘carpet munchers,'” she says. “Long-term exposure to it, though, I found myself not being so active on Twitter and being cautious about what I was saying online. It’s still harassment in public space. It’s just the Internet instead of the street.” This summer May created Heartmob, an app to let people report trolling and receive messages of support from others.

Though everyone knows not to feed the trolls, that can be challenging to the type of people used to expressing their opinions. Writer Lindy West has written about her abortion, hatred of rape jokes and her body image–all of which generated a flood of angry messages. When her father Paul died, a troll quickly started a fake Twitter account called PawWestDonezo, (“donezo” is slang for “done”) with a photo of her dad and the bio “embarrassed father of an idiot.” West reacted by writing about it. Then she heard from her troll, who apologized, explaining that he wasn’t happy with his life and was angry at her for being so pleased with hers.

West says that even though she’s been toughened by all the abuse, she is thinking of writing for TV, where she’s more insulated from online feedback. “I feel genuine fear a lot. Someone threw a rock through my car window the other day, and my immediate thought was it’s someone from the Internet,” she says. “Finally we have a platform that’s democratizing and we can make ourselves heard, and then you’re harassed for advocating for yourself, and that shuts you down again.”

I’ve been a columnist long enough that I got calloused to abuse via threats sent over the U.S. mail. I’m a straight white male, so the trolling is pretty tame, my vulnerabilities less obvious. My only repeat troll is Megan Koester, who has been attacking me on Twitter for a little over two years. Mostly, she just tells me how bad my writing is, always calling me “disgraced former journalist Joel Stein.” Last year, while I was at a restaurant opening, she tweeted that she was there too and that she wanted to take “my one-sided feud with him to the next level.” She followed this immediately with a tweet that said, “Meet me outside Clifton’s in 15 minutes. I wanna kick your ass.” Which shook me a tiny bit. A month later, she tweeted that I should meet her outside a supermarket I often go to: “I’m gonna buy some Ahi poke with EBT and then kick your ass.”

I sent a tweet to Koester asking if I could buy her lunch, figuring she’d say no or, far worse, say yes and bring a switchblade or brass knuckles, since I have no knowledge of feuding outside of West Side Story. Her email back agreeing to meet me was warm and funny. Though she also sent me the script of a short movie she had written (see excerpt, left).

I saw Koester standing outside the restaurant. She was tiny–5 ft. 2 in., with dark hair, wearing black jeans and a Spy magazine T-shirt. She ordered a seitan sandwich, and after I asked the waiter about his life, she looked at me in horror. “Are you a people person?” she asked. As a 32-year-old freelance writer for Vice.com who has never had a full-time job, she lives on a combination of sporadic paychecks and food stamps. My career success seemed, quite correctly, unjust. And I was constantly bragging about it in my column and on Twitter. “You just extruded smarminess that I found off-putting. It’s clear I’m just projecting. The things I hate about you are the things I hate about myself,” she said.

As a feminist stand-up comic with more than 26,000 Twitter followers, Koester has been trolled more than I have. One guy was so furious that she made fun of a 1970s celebrity at an autograph session that he tweeted he was going to rape her and wanted her to die afterward. “So you’d think I’d have some sympathy,” she said about trolling me. “But I never felt bad. I found that column so vile that I thought you didn’t deserve sympathy.”

When I suggested we order wine, she told me she’s a recently recovered alcoholic who was drunk at the restaurant opening when she threatened to beat me up. I asked why she didn’t actually walk up to me that afternoon and, even if she didn’t punch me, at least tell me off. She looked at me like I was an idiot. “Why would I do that?” she said. “The Internet is the realm of the coward. These are people who are all sound and no fury.”

Maybe. But maybe, in the information age, sound is as destructive as fury.

Taylor Swift

I have so many problems with all this shit going down I’m pissed. It’s 2:30 AM and I’m just gonna say this:

I feel that, even as a feminist, Taylor is overreacting. Sometimes you just need to ignore it or learn to laugh at yourself. The victim card is starting to wear out and it’s getting old. I don’t blame her for being mad, because I feel that Kim and Kanye didn’t share all the lyrics with her. She might have had a different response if she knew and I feel like there is something they’re not telling us.

I don’t condone girls tearing each other down but sometimes it just needs to be done. Taylor has been flying really high recently and she’s been getting out of control. I think it’s best to her if she just lets Calvin go instead of claiming his song as her own. No doubt was she on the record but it’s a mediocre song anyway and she doesn’t need it. She’s trying to stir the pot and it’s best if she just moves right along.

I’m also peeve with Selena’s tweet. Why doesn’t she use HER platform to speak out. She’s being hypocritical about it all. She has the most Instagram followers out of all of her friends and I think all of the world. She has such a huge platform to build off of. I want to see her supporting black lives matters, speaking up against police brutality, speaking out against gun violence. It isn’t fair to everyone she’s calling out because she has an even bigger following than all of them.

It was not right of Kim and Kanye to record Taylor but we all know that if there was no recording, it would be much easier for Taylor to turn on them. I hope there aren’t any big lawsuits but we will have to see.

I think everyone’s being irrational.