what she means: Ashley. Katchadourian. You were supposed to be watching the door. YOU.
WERE SUPPOSED TO BE WATCHING THE DOOR. YOU WERE SUPPOSED TO BE WATCHING
THE DOOR. ASHLEY KATCHADOURIAN. DO YOU KNOW WHAT THESE ARE, ASHLEY
KATCHADOURIAN? THESE ARE A LITTLE GIRL’S ARMS. A LITTLE GIRL WITH
DREAMS, WITH LEGS, WITH A HEAD. SHE’S A PENCIL. SHE’S A SWIZZLE STICK!
YOU CAN USE HER AS A POOL NOODLE! AND NOW I’M HOLDING UP HER ARMS! I’M
HOLDING THEM BECAUSE YOU DIDN’T WATCH THE DOOR. A GIRL LOST HER ARMS,
ASHLEY KATCHADOURIAN. A GIRL LOST HER FUCKING ARMS. DO YOU NOT KNOW WHAT
HAS TRANSPIRED WHILE YOU WERE IN PEARL HARBOR? SEEING A FUCKING
JAPANESE MUSEUM? WE HAD OUR OWN PEARL HARBOR HERE TODAY. OH MY GOD. HOW
COULD YOU DO THIS TO US? YOU LITERALLY BOMBED US! LIKE THE JAPANESE YOU
ARE. AND ME. I’M BEN AFFLECK. I’M BEN AFFLECK, AND I’M HOLDING TWO
FUCKING GIRL’S ARMS. AND YOU’RE CUBA GOODING JUNIOR, DISAPPOINTING
EVERYBODY. LIVE WITH THAT!”
One night after a difficult mission made Bruce even gruffer than usual, his children gathered for a group complaining session that featured sarcastic Bruce-impressions and comments like “it would be nice to get positive feedback every once in awhile”
“I get that he loves us and all, but he could stand to show it” “Or say it, even. Never heard him do that”
At that point Cass, who had been sitting quietly, confused all of her siblings by replying, “He says that a lot”
See, Cass’s understanding of language is different. She reads body language, and it allows her to understand how people feel when they aren’t necessarily communicating it to others. Technically, Cass has never heard Bruce say “I love you.” But she’s certainly seen him say it many, many times
And since her siblings found that hard to believe, she set about proving it to them. Through the rest of the mission, every time she saw Bruce say “I love you,” she approached the nearest sibling and whispered “There”
[Bruce adjusts Damian’s cape on his way past] “There”
[Bruce rolls his eyes as Dick and Tim strike intentionally melodramatic poses on the rooftop] “There”
[Bruce hands Duke a granola bar when his stomach starts growling] “There”
[Bruce uses excessive force on a villain that came slightly too close to Jason] “There”
[Bruce tells off the collective JLA for unprofessional behavior while they openly ignore him and continue said behavior] “There”
[Bruce turns away from the truly impressive kick flip Cass used to incapacitate three separate combatants with absolutely no change in expression] “There. See? He’s proud”
The others aren’t totally sure they believe her, but if she’s right…. wow. That kind of changes everything
And since Bruce had no idea any of that went on, she’s free to continue. Whenever Cass sees that one of her brothers is feeling down, she follows them around to act as Bruce’s translator. Somebody has to do it, she figures
I often think about the first out of two times my gay ass got “rejected”. it was back in high school, she was a straight girl, a friend, who heard from someone else that I “liked” her (which I did, she was very pretty and interesting) and she came to me telling me very gently “um so I heard you liked me and well i’m not gay so, i’m sorry but no” and I was standing there chuckling like.. “I literally didn’t ask and I knew all that but okay whatever imma go get a smoothie” and left her there; and then she spent the whole day coming back to me asking why I “wasn’t bothered” or “wasn’t even upset” smdkgsfkhfd straight girls are wild
This is Nimitz. She’s a pretty strong contender for title of World’s Best Cat. I’ve known her for about thirteen of the estimated fifteen years of her life, and we have a very strong bond. Nimitz is an exceptionally excellent cat, but a lot of it comes down to how I treat her.
I often see cat owners–people who genuinely love their pets–disrespect what their cats are trying to tell them. They pick up their cats, who squirm and try to escape, and just keep clutching them. They roll their cats over and tousle their bellies while their cat tries to bat their hands away. Doing things like that with your cat is going to decrease how willing they are to seek you out and voluntarily spend time with you.
it’s pretty common knowledge that cats have emotional centers that look like miniaturized versions of humans’. This means that your cat can experience pretty much any emotion you can, generally on a less complex level. Most cats have very strong likes and dislikes, and will communicate those things pretty clearly. The trick is figuring out what the heck they’re saying.
Nimitz likes to be carried with her back feet supported on an open palm and her front half draped over my shoulder. She prefers to be petted mostly on the head. She likes to be carried back into the house but likes to walk under her own power when we’re going away from the house. This sounds like the kind of things someone says when they’re anthropomorphizing a pet, but they’re not. I know these things because Nimitz communicates what she does and doesn’t like, and I know how to read those expressions.
If you pick your cat up and they squirm and struggle, try re-positioning them. If they don’t settle down, put them back on the ground right away. If you’re petting your cat and they keep meowing, they’re probably overstimulated; pet them somewhere else, or more gently. You need to listen when your cat tells you no. Don’t take purring alone as a sign that your cat is cool with what you’re doing; purring just means they’re open to socializing, and you’re a pretty big bad predator. Some cats will purr just because they don’t want to get on your bad side. A cat who’s happy with how you’re petting them will push harder into your hand; a cat that’s happy with how they’re being carried will remain in place after you stop holding them down. (Nimitz likes to basically be standing on me; my mom’s 23-lb beanbag of a cat, Yamamoto, wants to be held like a human toddler, and will wrap her front legs around my mom’s neck.)
If you respect what your cat tells you, your cat will learn to enjoy being around you and start seeking out your company. By continuing to do so, you can build a relationship with your pet that’s loyal and long-lasting.
please don’t tell your kids to shut up when they’re trying to tell you something or if they’re upset. don’t ignore them. don’t invalidate their feelings. talk to them. listen to them. never tell your kid(s) their thoughts and feelings don’t matter.