she is my favourite of every female character

Common experiences of lesbians who don’t know they’re lesbians yet

 Out of curiosity, I recently googled “Am I lesbian quiz”. Half the “Are You a Lesbian” quizzes just asked outright, “Are you attracted to women?” as though that isn’t the very answer a questioning lesbian is trying to figure out. The other half marked me as heterosexual for things like owning more nail varnish than dogs. I hope this list will give you more nuanced ideas to think about as you explore your identity.

These experiences are all really common among - but not universal or exclusive to - people who later realize they’re lesbians and find a comfortable home in the lesbian label and community.

It’s mostly stuff that I and other lesbians I know have wished we knew when we were first coming to grips with our lesbian identities, because the fact is it takes a long time to discover how common a lot of these experiences are among lesbians, and not knowing what to look for when trying to figure out if you’re a lesbian can be hard.

‘Attraction’ to men

  • Deciding which guys to be attracted to – not to date, but to be attracted to – based on how well they match a mental list of attractive qualities
  • Only developing attraction to a guy after a female friend expresses attraction to him
  • Getting jealous of a specific female friend’s relationships with guys and assuming you must be attracted to the guys she’s with (even if you never really noticed them before she was interested in them)
  • Picking a guy at random to be attracted to
  • Choosing to be attracted to a guy at all, not just choosing to act on it but flipping your attraction on like a switch – that’s a common lesbian thing
  • Having such high standards that literally no guy meets them – and feeling no spark of attraction to any guy who doesn’t meet them
  • Only/mostly being into guys who are gnc in some way
  • Only/mostly being attracted to unattainable, disinterested, or fictional guys or guys you never or rarely interact with
  • Being deeply uncomfortable and losing all interest in these unattainable guys if they ever indicate they might reciprocate
  • Reading your anxiety/discomfort/nervousness/combativeness around men as attraction to them
  • Reading a desire to be attractive to men as attraction to them
  • Having a lot of your ‘guy’ crushes later turn out to be trans women

Relationships with men

  • Dreading what feels like an inevitable domestic future with a man
  • Or looking forward to an idealized version of it that resembles literally no m/f relationship you’ve ever seen in your life, never being able to picture any man you’ve actually met in that image

  • Being repulsed by the dynamics of most/all real life m/f relationships you’ve seen and/or regularly feeling like “maybe it works for them but I never want my relationship to be like that”

  • Thinking you’re commitmentphobic because no relationship, no matter how great the guy, feels quite right and you drag your feet when it comes time to escalate it

  • Going along with escalation because it seems like the 'appropriate time’ or bc the guy wants it so bad, even if you personally aren’t quite ready to say I love you or have labels or move in together etc.

  • Or jumping ahead and trying to rush to the ‘comfortably settled’ part of relationships with guys, trying to make a relationship a done deal without investing time into emotional closeness
  • Feeling like you have to have relationships with guys and/or let them get serious in order to prove something, maybe something nebulous you can’t identify

  • Only having online relationships with guys; preferring not to look at the guys you’re interacting with online; choosing not to meet up with a guy even if you seem very into him and he reciprocates and meeting up is totally realistic
  • Getting a boyfriend mostly so other people know you have a boyfriend and not really being interested in him romantically/sexually
  • Wishing your boyfriend was more like your female friends
  • Wishing your boyfriend was less interested in romance and/or sex with you and that you could just hang out as pals
  • Thinking you’re really in love with a guy but being able to get over him in such record time that you pretend to be more affected than you are so your friends don’t think you’re heartless
  • After a breakup, missing having a boyfriend more than you miss the specific guy you were with
  • Worrying that you’re broken inside and unable to really love anyone

Sex with men

  • Having sex not out of desire for the physical pleasure or emotional closeness but because you like feeling wanted
  • OR: preferring to 'be a tease’ to feel wanted but feeling like following through is a chore
  • Only being comfortable with sex with men if there’s an extreme power imbalance and your desires aren’t centred
  • Using sex with men as a form of self-harm
  • Feeling numb or dissociating or crying during/after sex with men (even if you don’t understand that reaction and think you’re fine and crying etc for no reason)
  • Being bored with sex with men/not understanding what the big deal is that makes other women want it
  • Doing it anyway out of obligation or a desire to be a good sport/do something nice for him
  • Never/rarely having sexual fantasies about specific men, preferring to leave them as undetailed as possible or not thinking about men at all while fantasizing
  • Having to make a concerted effort to fantasize about the guy you’re “attracted” to

Early interest in women

  • Not recognizing past/current crushes on women until you’ve come to grips with your attraction to women
  • Being unusually competitive, shy, or eager to impress specific women when you’re not that way with anyone else
  • Wanting to kiss your female best friend on the mouth for literally any reason (”to practice for boys” included)
  • Getting butterflies or feeling like you can’t get close enough when cuddling with a close female friend
  • Looking at a close female friend and feeling something in your chest clench up and being overwhelmed with love for her - love you may read as platonic
  • Having had strong and abiding feelings of admiration for a specific female teacher, actor, etc., growing up that were deep and reverent
  • Having had an unusually close relationship with a female friend growing up that was different and special in a way you couldn’t articulate
  • Thinking relationships would be simpler “if only I were attracted to women/my best friend who would be perfect for me if she/I weren’t a girl”
  • When a female friend is treated badly by a man, having your protective thoughts turn in the direction of “if I was him/a man I’d never do that to her/my girlfriend”
  • Being utterly fascinated by any lesbians you know/see in media and thinking they’re all ultra cool people
  • Having your favourite character in every show be that one gay-coded or butch-looking woman (like Shego from Kim Possible or Starbuck from Battlestar Galactica)
  • Feeling weirdly guilty and uncomfortable in locker rooms etc., when your female friends are less clothed than they normally would be around men and being more careful not to look than they are

The 'straight’ version of you

  • Thinking that all straight girls feel at least some attraction to women
  • Thinking that your interest in seeing attractive women/scantily clad women/boobs is an artificial reaction caused by the objectification of women in media
  • Being really into how women look “aesthetically”/“just as artistic interest”
  • Thinking it’s objective and uncontested that almost all women are way more attractive than most men
  • Being a really intense LGBT+ “ally” and getting weirdly emotional about homophobia but assuming you’re just a Really Good Ally and v empathetic
  • Having like half your friend group from school turn out to be LGBT+
  • Getting emotional or having a strong reaction you don’t understand to f/f love stories etc.
  • Having had people think you were gay when you had no suspicion you were gay

Exploring attraction to women

  • Feeling like you could live with a woman in a romantic way, even if you can’t imagine doing anything sexual with a woman
  • Feeling like you could enjoy sexual interaction with a woman, even if you can’t imagine having romantic feelings for a woman
  • Thinking you couldn’t be a lesbian because you’re not attractive enough, cool enough, or otherwise in the same league as most of the women you know
  • Interacting with het sex/romance in media by imagining yourself in the man’s position or just never/rarely imagining yourself in the woman’s position
  • Really focusing on the women in het porn
  • Being really into the idea of kissing/being sexual with a woman 'to turn guys on’
  • Being really annoyed when guys actually do express interest in watching or joining in when you do that
  • Only feeling/expressing attraction to or sexual interest in women when you’re inebriated or otherwise impaired

Gender Feelings

  • Having a lot of conflicting gender feelings that are only possible to resolve once you understand you are/can be a lesbian
  • Thinking that being gnc and feeling a disconnect from traditional womanhood mean that you can’t be a woman even if that’s what feels closest to right - many lesbians are gnc and many lesbians feel disconnected from traditional womanhood since it’s so bound up in heteropatriarchy
  • Knowing you’re attracted to women and not being able to parse that (esp + any gender nonconformance) as gay, taking a long time to figure out if you’re a straight man or a lesbian
  • Being dysphoric about the parts of you that make straight men think your body is owed to them, having to figure out what that dysphoria means for/to you
  • Knowing you’re attracted to women, but feeling weirdly guilty and uncomfortable trying to interact with them as a straight man, and only later realizing you’re actually a trans lesbian
  • Knowing you’re gay, but experiencing a lot of the symptoms of comp het when you try to interact with men romantically/sexually, and only later realizing you’re a trans lesbian and not a gay man
  • Being nonbinary and taking a long time to sort through being able to respect/understand your nonbinary identity and your lesbianness at the same time

Considering lesbianism

  • Wanting to be a lesbian but feeling like if you don’t already know you are one you can’t be
  • Feeling guilty about wanting to be a lesbian, feeling like you’re just attention-seeking or trying to be trendy
  • Suppressing your lesbian dreams because you think exploring that desire would mean you’re a bad/homophobic person using lesbianness selfishly
  • Wishing you were a lesbian to escape the discomfort of dating men
  • Fantasizing about how much fun it would be to be a lesbian and just be with women/a specific woman, but thinking that can’t be for you
  • Worrying that some of your past attraction to men was actually real so you can’t be a lesbian
  • Worrying that bc you can’t be 100% sure you’re not attracted to men and can’t be 100% sure you won’t change your mind, you can’t be a lesbian
  • Worrying that you only want to be a lesbian because of trauma and that means your lesbianness would be Fake
  • Worrying that trauma-induced complications in how you experience sex (e.g., a habit of self-harming via sex w men or a fear of any sex at all) mean you’re not a Real Lesbian

Every item on this list is common among Real Lesbians. It’s all Normal Lesbian Stuff. If you’re worried that you can’t be a lesbian even though it’s the life you really want for yourself, I hope this gives you permission to explore that. You are allowed to be a lesbian. 

And if you’re not sure yet – if you took the time to read this entire thing because you’re curious about your identity, if you identified with a bunch of items on this list – you may or may not be a lesbian, but friend, you almost certainly aren’t cishet. Welcome.

(I’d love to hear other things lesbians wish you’d known were A Thing when you were first exploring your identity!)

BOOK REC (Sci-Fi with PoC and wlw)

Why you should read The Long Way To A Small Angry Planet by Becky Chambers:

  • IT HAS A HUGE EMPHASIS ON FOUND FAMILY and also on moving forward and how you sometimes need different people at different stages of your life
  • The alien cultures, man, they are like nothing I’ve ever seen before on this scale. It’s not just surface stuff, it’s down to the belief systems and social interactions and how they view things like motherhood and violence and even board games! Also, FEMALE ALIENS WITHOUT BREASTS WHO ARE CONSIDERED VERY ATTRACTIVE TO HUMANS CAN I GET A HELL YEAH
  • Gender and sexuality are definitely way more fluid, one of the crew members is a species that changes gender across their lifetime (plus there is a crew member that goes by they pronouns, though not exactly in a nb way, it’s hard to explain)
  • Imagine Firefly, except in a universe full of aliens like Guardians of the Galaxy, and the crew aren’t criminals (for the most part) and are just generally a bit nicer. And by nicer I mean, as someone else more eloquent than me said about this book “they’re not all good people, but most of them are trying to be”. They care about each other despite all the cultural differences that sometimes have them screaming
  • most of the humans on the crew are not white
  • TWO FEMALE MEMBERS OF THE CREW BECOME A COUPLE I’m not gonna say which because it totally took me by surprise and that was an incredible thing cos I already adored this book and then it gave me the one thing it was missing that I hadn’t dared hope for 
  • polyamory is discussed frequently and is a base part of one of the alien cultures and it’s very normalised and respected
  • seriously everyone does their hardest to be respectful of each other’s culture and all the differences and even though sometimes they fail or really struggle they really TRY and that’s what makes it so great
  • the book is genuinely hilarious (“What do your crazy speciests do?” “Live on gated farms and have private orgies.” “How is that any different than what the rest of you do?” “We don’t have gates and anybody can come to our orgies.”)
  • there’s plot but it’s very character driven in a way that works really well
  • Kizzy - my favourite character who is just a joy (imagine Kaylee Frye if she was Chinese, hyped up on extreme amounts of caffeine, and totally eccentric)
  • REALLY AMAZING PLATONIC MALE/FEMALE RELATIONSHIPS
  • like seriously every damn relationship in this book is so incredible and important and well done
  • I’ve never done a book rec on here before and the fact that I feel the need to do this should in itself say something about how amazing it is

In summary: 

  • SPACE GIRLFRIENDS NEED I SAY MORE
  • amazing and compelling alien cultures
  • a crew/found family that are so beautiful in their differences and how they do their best to respect and accommodate them
  • it’s really fucking funny
  • “Ninety percent of all problems are caused by people being assholes.” “What causes the other ten percent?” “Natural disasters.”

spitefuller  asked:

for the fandom meme: miraculous ladybug ((if you know that show))

Oohh, yes, I adore Miraculous Ladybug!!! I went through a craze a few months back XDDD

Favorite Male Character: Chat Noir

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Do Chat and Adrien count as two different people? ‘Cause if they do, I prefer Chat. He’s adorkable and sweet and he loves Ladybug so much <3 <3 <3 I wish we got to see more of this side of him as Adrien.

Favorite Female Character: Ladybug

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One of the few series where the main characters are actually my favourites, surprisingly. I adore how sassy and confident she is as Ladybug <3 And like with Adrien, I just love when you see her confident side as Marinette. I want to see more playful banter between their civilian selves T^T

Least Favorite Character: Chloe Bourgeois

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I hate bully characters like her, and ngl, I’m still bitter about her getting the bee miraculous.

Favorite Ship: Ladynoir

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And every other side of the love square!! Though Ladynoir is definitely my favourite side <3 They’re just so badass and I love the easy camaraderie between them!!

Favorite Friendship: Marinette and Alya

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They just??? Love each other so much!?!?!? They would go to the ends of the Earth for each other and they always have each other’s backs and I adore them so much <3 Nino and Adrien come at a very close second!

Favorite Quote: “ Geez, it’s hard to be creative under pressure.” As an author, this quote speaks to my soul.

Worst Character Death (if any): I don’t actually think there are any…does Ms. Agreste count? It’s the only death I can think of, but it does make me rather sad T^T She looked so sweet and loving, and poor Adrien…

This made me so happy you have no idea Moment: 

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Listen, I know it was just because of an akuma but???? I WANT THEM TO KISS SO BADLY???? PLEASE bring us a kiss, s2!!!

Saddest Moment: Basically the entire Bubbler episode?? I’m just…poor Adrien!!! And Nino just loves him so much and he just wants his best friend to have fun and have a birthday party and just enjoy himself. And then Gabriel just has to go and be a fucking douchebag. Poor bby T^T

Favorite Location: The Dupain-Cheng Bakery

It’s just such a beautiful, gorgeous place, and honestly, I would kill to live there. Marinette’s little balcony is gorgeous and it would be so awesome to be able to go up there at night and watch the sky and drink a nice hot cup of cocoa.

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endless list of my favourite female characters: liesel meminger (5/?)

“Jesus, Mary …”
She said it out loud, the words distributed into a room that was full of cold air and books. Books everywhere! Each wall was armed with overcrowded yet immaculate shelving. It was barely possible to see the paintwork. There were all different styles and sizes of lettering on the spines of the black, the red, the gray, the every-colored books. It was one of the most beautiful things Liesel Meminger had ever seen.
With wonder, she smiled.
That such a room existed!

I don’t ship Kara and Mon-El because in my mind they were always supposed to be sibling-like. Some of my favourite interactions between them are the ones where they’re goofing around, doing similar things to what Kara and Alex do together. With Mon-El, Kara can finally complete her life mission, to protect someone and be a guiding hand in this new world, like she was meant to with Clark. Instead, we have a situation where every major male character other than J’onn have had crushes and kissed Kara, reinforcing the absurd idea that male-female friendships are impossible because someone will always fall for the other. Give me a platonic Kara and Mon-El relationship over this half baked lovey dovey crap any day.

HARUNO SAKURA IS MY FAVORITE CHARACTER

I love naruto, that is a fact. All the characters in the series are amazing in their own way. But let’s face it, majority of them are unrelatable. I cannot relate to Naruto, Sasuke , Kakashi or Hinata in an emotional level.Most of the fandom cannot. Because unlike them, I have never been hated by the world for something I cannot control, I never had my most important person betray me by killing everyone I love, I had never lost everything I held dear and my family never treated me like shit for being average. But I can relate to Sakura. I can relate to what it was like to be 12 and dealing with a crush. Like Sakura I also tried to get the attention to the boy I liked by growing my hair long and acting girly. Every girl goes through that phase once in their life. I know what it’s like to live in a sheltered and protected environment. Above all I know what it’s like to go through something , you think your ready for, but your not. When Sakura became a genin, she thought she was ready for the ninja world but came to a horrifying realisation that she was not. She was unprepared and absolutely terrified. She tried hard to overcome her shortcomings in the begining but it wasn’t enough. When I left my town to study in a university miles away, I thought I could do it. I could live on my own and be independent. Oh how wrong was I. I was completely unprepared and scared. Almost every day I wanted to give up and just go home. But I didn’t. Because I knew I had to do this or I will seriously regret it for the rest of my life. Watching Sakura accept her weaknesses, working hard to overcome them and becoming THE most BADASS female character in series hit me home. And that’s why I absolutely adore her. She reaches me in an emotional level that no other character can. This is why she is my most favourite character.

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anonymous asked:

I'm so pissed at Sara for keep giving us hint of "jumping back in" and "hold on" and "taking a break" stuff and then suddenly get vanished from all the GA talk, I mean that show made your life, at least if she has moved on from the show she could have just make a statement so that the hopeless fans stop their fantasy. I mean you can't always say she is still not ready and unsure, am sure she is well aware of the fact that fans wants Sara/ Callie back. She is very much active in social media.

Hey, no – you don’t get to blame Sara for not coming back to the show or for “leading us on”. She hasn’t done anything wrong here.

First of all, we don’t know what prompted her to make the decision in the first place – we have no idea why she needed a break. But she did, and that’s her prerogative. Second, I firmly believe she used the wording she did (taking a break, the doctor is on hold, etc) because she DIDN’T KNOW what she planned on doing. When she left and announced it on Twitter, I honestly don’t think she knew at that moment whether she’d be gone half a season, a whole season, three seasons, or forever. She still might.not.know. You said it yourself – she gave a decade of her life to Grey’s – and she doesn’t owe them, or us, anything.

Quite frankly, what she’s choosing to do with her life right now is a hell of a lot bigger and badder than being on a TV show. And I know I’m going to get flak for saying that, and I KNOW that her representation of Callie Torres – of a POC, female, bisexual character – was incredibly, incredibly important, but she has chosen to move on, at least temporarily, and use the fame that Grey’s gave her to stand up and FIGHT. To stand up and fight for our rights, for our representation in the real world, and to fight for queer youth to have better lives. She has joined what (these days especially in the U.S.) seems like a losing fight a lot of the time, and to me, that is admirable. That is brave. That is far more important than me getting to see my favourite character on TV every week.

So no, I’m not pissed at her – and while I understand where you’re coming from, you really shouldn’t be either. Sara cares about us. I don’t know the woman, but I feel certain of that much. She knows how much Callie meant, and she knows how much she changed lives. She knows what a role model she was. She KNOWS how much the fans desperately want her back. And until she is 100%, absolutely, irreversibly sure that she doesn’t want to return to Grey’s Anatomy – I think she is leaving us a life line to hold onto. She is leaving us with the idea that Callie Torres is still out there. 

And if she decides she is truly done, I have to believe she will come out and tell us herself. I still don’t think she knows. And that’s okay.

Just came back from “An Evening with George Smiley” at the cinema and it was a lovely experience. John Le Carré is such a great storyteller and it was amazing to hear him tell the story about him and George Smiley’s service as a spy in his own words. So witty and funny. I could have listened to him for a few more hours. I imaigne he is the kind of old guy you love to visit and he always tells you a new story and they are all super fascinating and you are never sure whether they really happened or not. He implied so many anecdotes that were close to unbelievable, about spies and political leaders and actors. I don’t mind if he lied about every little one of them. I was totally lost in them.

After the talk there was also a Q&A and it was equally great. My favourite moment was when they talked about his new book and a female love interest in it and the interviewer said that she is such a great character that he can only imagine that she had existed in John Le Carre’s life. He started answering and then a few moments later he noticed what the question implied and let out a cute high-pitched scream and giggle that was so endearing. It was sucha  childlike and honest expression. I think I fell in love with him tonight. I want him to be my grandfather and tell my six-year-old me bedtime stories.

He also gave some great advice for writers. Talking about how he doesn’t care that Smiley should be dead by now. He (the writer) is alive, and if the character tells him he is alive, then he will continue to write stories. He also talked about how he needs to write all the time and they he has a schedule, but that he mainly writes for himself and he would write even if he wouldn’t ever get published. 

Before the talk started they showed interviews with cast and crew of adaptations of his books (Maybe 30 minutes in total). Nearly died when Tom was on screen. It’s a bit difference to see that face with the lovely curls and beard on a huge cinema screen. ;)

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Olivia Colman was also in it and she was so cute. :D The pride and happiness when she revealed that the producers were okay with her pregnancy and that afterwards Le Carre told her that to him she is now Burr. Simon Russell Beale and some others also talked.

All in all it was a great evening and I’m happy I went to the cinema, despite wrecking my ankle earlier today.

anonymous asked:

Do you hate Sansa?

That’s kind of complicated to answer because there are so many different Sansa’s running around.

Book!Sansa - I really like and find fascinating. She’s probably my second favourite female pov to read after Arya and I enjoy her arc. I disliked her in the first book - but seriously I challenge anyone not to get pissed off reading the GoT incarnation of Sansa. Overall, I think she’s has her flaws but is a great character and very interesting from a psychological perspective.

Show!Sansa - Ehhh. So-so. She’s so inconsistent it’s kind of hard to say tbh. The changes from the book have annoyed me both because of the impact on her own character and others. But she’s ok.

Fanon!Sansa - Loathe. I know every character has it’s extreme fans, but because Sansa has so many stans on Tumblr and I read/follow a lot of Stark stuff it’s hard to get away from her. I’m sure fanon Tyrion, Cersei and Dany are just as annoying but they’re less obvious and in your face. But fanon Sansa is everywhere and drives me crazy.

And that’s sad because that’s started to seep into how I view the character as a whole. But the non-stop “Sansa for Queen of Westeros/the North/the world, the entire jonsa mess that’s what happens when you adopt a crack pairing as canon, the problem of Sansa fans being under attack so much outside of Tumblr that they’re very defensive and dominating within this space, constantly making Arya subservient to prop Sansa up (the Arya-as-Nymeria theory, Arya as her sword/sworn shield, hell even the number of fics that have Arya constantly serving Queen Sansa in one way or another) and this rise of Gendry/Sansa, is only ever going to make me dislike the character not like her. 

i was tagged by @cinemaocd to list my 10 favourite female characters so here we go ! 

  1. lix storm: honestly my mum. “the hour” was a life-changing tv series in many ways for me, and she will forever remain my role model and a woman i aspire to be. 
  2. anna karenina: i still don’t know why this novel resonated so much in me, but here we go. i’m still waiting for the screen incarnation that i will love from beginning to end, because it hasn’t happened yet. 
  3. kitty butler: another pretty life-changing, self-affirming novel, “tipping the velvet”, which every young lesbian should read i guess ? unashamed sexuality, happy ending, self-discovery is all my anxious self need. 
  4. caroline bingley: my main bitch. i will never cease to defend her, i will never cease to love her, and i will never cease to ship her with elizabeth bennet because of “gay pride and prejudice”, which also every lesbian who loves jane austen should read (you will cry, and you will never want to read another version again) 
  5. hermione granger: there will always be a part of me that will forever love this girl who helped me grow up, who helped me affirm myself as a smart girl and not be shamed by anyone for it. there will always be a part of me that will forever be like her. 
  6. margarita: from “the master and margarita” again, a novel which deeply resonated within me without me being able to pin point why. it’s just a terribly beautiful book, satire, comedy, romance. 
  7. rosalind lutece: from “bioshock infinite” don’t look at me, i just love a badass female scientist with dubious morals. i cannot believe a NPC can have more development than some lead-characters in other games but there we are.
  8. miranda: from “station eleven” a truly amazing book about thriving, how merely surviving is not enough and the importance of art. i cannot thank enough the person who gifted me this book for making me discover it, it’s an awesome piece of fiction with dashing female characters. 
  9. madame lebedeva: from “deathless” honestly, a witch who says “my vainness is my power” ? sign me the fuck up any day, i want to kill men with my make-up, too
  10. sylvia tietjens: from “parade’s end” she truly is a horrible woman, yet i cannot help but love her and defend her, and i forever will. the real tragedy was how much she and christopher loved each other, and how impossible it was for them to be together. 

i had to omit tons of others but oh well. i’m tagging @alicehoffmans ; @nirrrys ; @machiavellique ; @margarettudor ; @mihrsuri ; @lovepollution ; @philomaela and anyone else who wants to do it can steal it from me

the fabulous @mistythunderstorms (thank you, zadok) tagged me to share my top 10 favourite female characters. this is gonna be hard since every single girl and woman is a literal angel, but here we go!

1. Auri (The Kingkiller Chronicle, Patrick Rothfuss)

“She knew. She knew how quickly things could break. You did the things you could. You tended to the world for the world’s sake. You hoped you would be safe. But still she knew. It could come crashing down and there was nothing you could do.”

my impossibly tender girl with a gentle heart. i wish I could take the pain for you.

2. Delirium (The Sandman, Neil Gaiman) 

“I like airplanes, I like anywhere that isn’t a proper place. I like in-betweens.”

a beautifully bizarre family member of the Endless. if only you were understood.

3. Sonmi-451 (Cloud Atlas, David Mitchell)

“To be is to be perceived, and so to know thyself is only possible through the eyes of the other. The nature of our immortal lives is in the consequences of our words and deeds, that go on and are pushing themselves throughout all time.“

her passion for knowledge constantly awakens my desire to know and understand the world.

4. Uhura (Star Trek, Gene Roddenberry)

Kirk: Are you sure you can handle…?

Uhura: Oh, I’ll have “Mr. Adventure” eating out of my hand, sir. And I’ll see all of you at the rendezvous.

my girl. my girl takes no shit. what a precious angel. 

5. Fire (Fire, Kristin Cashore) 

“The moment I began to love you was the moment when you saw your fiddle smashed on the ground, and you turned away from me and cried against your horse. Your sadness is one of the things that makes you beautiful to me. Don’t you see that? I understand it. It makes my own sadness less frightening.”

a bisexual woman of colour. a literal queen.

6. Elizabeth Bennet (Pride and Prejudice, Jane Austen)

“There is a stubbornness about me that never can bear to be frightened at the will of others. My courage always rises at every attempt to intimidate me.”

that marriage proposal scene. iconic. savage.

7. Annalise Keating (How to Get Away With Murder)

“Never take a learning opportunity away from another student. No matter how smart you need everyone to think you are.”

the ultimate badass.

8. Sun Bak (Sense8, the Wachowski)

“Call me a bitch one more time and I will kill you.”

will kick your ass. probably already has. strong and lonely. 

9. Mulan (Mulan)

“I will never pass for a perfect bride. Or a perfect daughter. Can it be, I’m not meant to play this part?”

belongs only to herself. makes people question their sexual orientation. out there saving the world, looking flawless.

10. Elle Woods (Legally Blond)

“What? Like it’s hard?”

what an icon. has no time for your prejudiced stereotypes.

honourable mentions: literally every single female character from Brooklyn 99, Diana Prince aka the Wonder Woman, Chihiro Ogino, Nomi Marks & Amanita Caplan (name a more iconic duo), Cinder (The Lunar Chronicles), General Organa, Hermione Granger, and Lucy Pevensie

I tag @artemis-crimson, @dangerdaymuffin@obvious-fandom-reference and @because–you–are–my–friend

You know what pisses me off?? The fact that the rape is all about Monde. They just used that as an opportunity to separate Frary and to start this disgusting love triangle.

I really think that the writers were in the writing room, someone said “Okay guys, it’s been a long time - it’s time to involve another person in Frary’s relationship! We NEED to hook her up with Conde somehow” Then some sick ass minded person (i guess Laurie) suggested: “Oh, oh guys i know - LET’S GET HER RAPED” and the other writers were like “OH MY GOD LAURIE, BRAVO, YOUR WRITING SKILLS ARE OUTSTANDING!!1!1” 

You know what was the right thing to do? (well they shouldn’t have raped her in the first place) Francis should have been there with her while she was healing, her ladies should have been there to support her, or even Bash bc although they no longer have romantic feelings towards each other, she is still someone important to him ? But no, some fucking arrogant Bourbon guy that came from literally nowhere, named Louis, had to take advantage of her emotional state and pursue her while Mary was blaming Francis, the-guy-that-literally-has-done-the-impossible-so-she-can-be-happy, for every damn thing.
  
They basically raped their main “independent” female lead so they can promote adultery. Good job, Reign. *slow clapping*

▴ get to know meme // favourite female characters  [6/100]

stands with a fist » dances with wolves (1990)

“When I came to live on the prarie, I worked every day… very hard… there was a woman who didn’t like me. She called me bad names… sometimes she beat me. One day she was calling me these bad names, her face in my face, and I hit her. I was not very big, but she fell down. She fell hard and didn’t move. I stood over her with my fist and asked if any other woman wanted to call me bad names… No one bothered me after that day.”

My favourite manga comes to an end.

No need to say I’m crying even my soul.

A wonderful manga comes to an end in a simply wonderful way. After a little loss of pathos, the last ten chapters have been growing and growing in quality e wonderful-ness.

My three favourite characters have been made the most of themselves, breaking my heart.

Easley and Raki have been awesome, two heroes in a war which they didin’t have to be in – an Awakened Being and a human? An Awakened Being and a human killing the villain? They have done. Easley hasn’t been forgotten. Because the true great characters remain forever.

Teresa comments herself on her own. Taken back by Claire’s strength (and Claire’s evolution has never been bilittled) she’s shown the world even the smallest crumb of her might. She’s so terribly profound. Nearly every word of hers have made me cry. She’s an angel. She’s my favourite female character ever and she destroyed the character I hate most, also affecting me. She’s given Claire everything. In the end, she’s given back even her smile, that smile Claire’s taught her the meaning of, so long ago.

And Irene’s alive. Her strength has been used during the battle against Priscilla, and she’s alive. I swear I’ve ever dreamed of an ending in which Claire would have come back to the mountains to give back to a cold grave the arm she borrowed; Yagi’s decided to make me much happier.

These three characters are alive, somehow. And they’re beautiful.

The Organization and the Unicorn are defeated, back to dust, and now comes the joy. Many have given their lives, my tears will never end – but if a delighted future for the warriors I loved so much exists, I just have to thank them. And now let’s get plastered, laugh, live.

Thank you, Claymore. Thank you, Norihiro Yagi. Thank you for one thousand feelings, one thousand tears and one thousand smiles, thank you for a beautiful story, thank you for characters that are gonna stay in my heart forever, thank you for epic battles, for precious teachings, for the models to follow.

Thank you.

anonymous asked:

People like Emily because she's a badass. And people like you who hate her just hate her because she's Japanese.

AHAHAH IS THIS A FUCKING JOKE? Holy fucking shit this is amazing!! No anon, I hate her because she was an awful person.

1. She made Matt carry all of her bags, plus his own, up the mountain because she wants to be treated like a princess.

2. When she walked into the cabin and saw her ex-boyfriend (Mike) with his new girlfriend (Jess) she immediately picked a fight by calling her a slut.. 

3. The second she realized she forgot one of her bags she picked a fight with Matt because he didn’t IMMEDIATELY remember which bag she was talking about. She made some comment about him drooling over the store clerk. Matt said something about how the store clerk was asking about his letter jacket and Emily responded with “Right, because she gave a shit about your letter jacket?” Like where did this come from? She was bitching about her missing bag and it turned into dumping on his jacket.. He probably likes his jacket because he’s proud of his team? idk girlfriends should be supportive?

6. When Emily and Matt run into Chris and Ashley after Josh got “sawed in half” Emily wanted to go get some help and Matt suggested that maybe they should go find the others. Her response was “Mike and Jess are off 69′ing each other and who knows where Sam is.” WHY ARE YOU BITCHING ABOUT YOUR EX-BOYFRIENDS NEW GIRL FRIEND RIGHT NOW? YOU JUST FOUND OUT ONE OF YOUR FRIENDS JUST GOT SAWED IN HALF BY SOME MANIAC AND YOU’RE NOT GOING TO WORRY ABOUT THEIR SAFETY BECAUSE YOU DON’T LIKE THE FACT THAT YOUR EX IS NOW DATING JESS. And if you don’t know where Sam is, maybe you should be concerned that she’s in trouble? Yes, finding help is a good idea, but that doesn’t mean you should just ignore the fact that your friends are out there unaware of the situation or possibly in danger already..

5. When Emily and Matt are both in the Radio Tower and they hear someone climbing up and try to open the door to attack them she screams “OMG, he’s here, he’s coming for me!”… NOT JUST YOU. MATT IS THERE TOO!

6. When the tower falls and they’re both in danger she asks for help, she wants him to pull her up to safety, like anyone would. What pisses me off is the way she says it. She doesn’t ask for help, she DEMANDS it. “Matt you’ve got to do something right NOW! What are you WAITING FOR?!” LIKE EMILY. YOU’RE BOTH IN DANGER, STOP BEING SO DEMANDING, HE WAS COMING TO HELP YOU. 

7. After that Matt gives the player the option to bitch about how he saw her with Mike. That was not the time for Matt to be picking a fight about her and Mike. But if the player picks that option it can bring you to her basically admitting that she cheated on Matt with Mike. She only hints that she cheated on him, so I could be wrong. 

After this part, she separates from Matt and independently goes her own way through the mines. At this part, yes she is a badass. She was a quick thinker, she made the right moves and she was very brave. That being said, her personality throughout this game was still fucking awful. I just don’t think she deserves to be known as fan favourite female character when she acted the way she did towards Jessica, Matt and the others. She was self centered and picked a fight every chance she got. THAT is why I hated her. 

So don’t come to my blog to send some anonymous message, accusing me of hating a character because of her race. You look like a coward and you made me feel the need to waste my time by justifying why I dislike a fucking video game character. I was watching a good show man.. why you gotta be like that.