she is lying under my chair

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“’This,’ said a voice from the depths of the sofa, ‘is too much.’ Nothing had ever startled or frightened her so much, and her mouth went too dry for her to utter a sound. She caught hold of the back of the chair, her knees going weak under her, as Rhett Butler rose from the sofa where he had been lying and made her a bow of exaggerated politeness. ‘It is bad enough to have an afternoon nap disturbed by such a passage as I’ve been forced to hear, but why should my life be endangered?’” -Margaret Mitchell

With all of the stress people are under, all of the mourning and grief, a few tricks from my physical therapist in order to help you relax.

You can do this sitting in a chair or lying flat on your back.

Let your legs relax. Flex your toes just a little. This seems counterintuitive, I know. But trust me. I’ll explain in a minute what she told me.

Let your hands turn out to your sides, palm up, naturally extended and floppy. Think of it like you are doing a ‘saint pose’ on a stained glass window and showing us your palms.

Turn your head slightly to the side. Don’t crank it to the side, just let it relax to one side. Doesn’t matter which one, whichever is more comfy.

Now. Take several long, slow belly breaths, while holding your pose. Don’t flex your toes hard, just enough to be flexing them a little.

After ten long slow breaths, in through your nose and out through your mouth, filling your lungs up and letting your belly rise and fall, just relax everything. All floppy.

Now. What this does - according to her - is it very specifically goes against every piece of fight-or-flight body posture. You’re facing off to the side, your hands are open and your toes are flexed a little - ever try to run with your feet like that? You can’t do it very well.

She taught me this as a way to help decrease my pain by turning down my tension, but I hope it helps others let go of their hurt for a little while.

Love you all.