I came out to my mom almost three months ago, she asked about my pronouns and I told her they were he/him. Though she has asked this, she has never once used my pronouns, and whenever I even slightly wince about her calling me her daughter she acts surprised and asks if we have a problem. Does anyone have any advice on how to get through the constant misgendering, it's really taking a toll on my emotional health. I mean I'm hoping it gets better because she uses my friends pronouns, but I dunno.
I’ve been out to my family for about a year now and my pronouns and name still aren’t used, and it is annoying, I know.
I think perhaps writing it down/texting her etc. would be useful, because then you can explain why it’s bad for you without her not taking it in. It also takes pressure off of you.
As for getting through the misgendering and deadnaming, I’d say just surround yourself with people who respect and use the right pronouns and name. Write down your name (and pronouns if you’d like) on any books you own (reading books, doodling books or note books). Have all of your online accounts have your name on and pronouns in the bio can help your self acceptance.
Remember that you are a boy and you are valid. If you need any more, please let us know. We’re here for you!
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