Do you think if Abby could've, she would've liked to have had more children? Also do you think Marcus would like the idea of being dad!Kane? I don't necessarily mean in the future, I mean do you think he likes even the delinquents thinking of him as a parental figure?
I genuinely have no answer to your question about Abby. I truly don’t know. Whether to have kids, or how many kids to have, is such a personal thing for women, and even with fictional characters I have a hard time looking at a woman and saying “oh, she’d be happier with more kids/fewer kids/no kids/etc.” I think that there’s a version of Abby Griffin who could have had no children and been happy, or never gotten married to Jake and been happy, or married someone else and had five kids and been happy, or been a sexually aggressive alpha power lesbian and been happy (SORRY WHO LET THAT SMUTTY HEADCANON IN HERE), but those are all hypothetical women we never met. What we know is that Abby has a powerful maternal force about her and it’s not just restricted to her own biological child; Clarke is her primary concern, but when she’s worrying about Clarke she’s also worrying about the other kids right along with her. That’s just who she is, and it’s who she would be no matter what, whether all those kids were hers, or none of them were.
In terms of Marcus, I think the show gives us a little more to go on. We don’t know anything about his father, we only know Vera, but the fact that his dad is never mentioned indicates at the very least that his death wasn’t recent; it certainly could have happened when Marcus was young. But there’s a part of me that wonders if Marcus truly understands what being a father or having a father even is, which is why I wonder if he even realizes that he’s doing it. The way he spends so much of season 2 reassuring Abby that Clarke is strong. The way, when Clarke is angry at her mother, Kane is the one she instinctively listens to.
The way he casually calls Miller “Nate.”
The way he runs through the rain to Octavia when she sees Pike shoot Lincoln. The way he makes eye contact with Harper when they pass in the hallway on the way to his execution and you can see just a flash of “you better not be up to something, young lady, STAY OUT OF THIS” in his worried eyes. And most of all, the overwhelming frustration we see him display over and over again at the thought of Bellamy making the same mistakes he made himself. I genuinely don’t think he realizes he’s being a parent. I think he somehow accidentally ended up trying to plan a rebellion with the handful of people he could manage to convince to stay on his side, and they were all kids, so he worked with what he had, and by the time he ends up in Medical tearing his hair out with worry over sending them into harm’s way and Mom Abby has to reassure him, he’s overwhelmed by the realization of what he’s gotten himself into. Because they’re still kids to him, they’re not adults or peers, it’s not like it was when he commanded the guards on the Ark, and he’s in that tricky place parents get into where you’re torn between seeing your child as a child, but also as an adult. We see Abby and Clarke’s relationship circle that theme a lot in Season 2.
The interesting thing about Marcus, though, is that I think his relationship with the kids has the same endearing, heartbreaking one-sidedness to it that his relationship with Abby does; that is to say, he has feelings for Abby but is genuinely taken aback by the notion that she might have feelings for him. You can tell, from the way he asks “What was that?” when she kisses his cheek, that he was completely unprepared and taken aback. And so I wonder if there was a similar moment for him when he realizes that the kids all banded together to save him and Lincoln and Sinclair; he was so ready to die in that scene with Abby, he so clearly did not believe there was any rescue coming … even though we know he would have walked into a burning building if it had been Octavia going in front of the firing squad and him with a chance to save her. I think the reason he maybe doesn’t see himself as a father, as a parental figure to them, is because it didn’t occur to him that the kids care about him, too. He’s gotten more used to giving protection or affection or touch or care, but he’s still confounded by receiving it. I don’t know if he realized, until the rescue, that the relationship went both ways.