anonymous asked:

Haven't you noticed that Mulan is the only WoC that ISN'T sexualized? Is it because she's seen as pure? Jasmine, Nani, and Pocahontas are sexualized.

i’m not sure why that is, i don’t know if i’d say purity has anything to do with. but i’ve definitely noticed.

On a rare occasion, a woman will tell me that she doesn’t mind being objectified by men. To that I say:

That’s nice, but he’s not doing it because you don’t mind. He’s not waiting until he finds you, the (probably) only woman in the area who doesn’t mind. He’s doing it to every woman. He’s doing it because he wants to and he doesn’t care who likes it, and who doesn’t. He doesn’t stick around long enough to ask, he just takes.

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Survey Shows Even Teenage Boys Think Women Are Over-Sexualized in Video Games
Dubious game developers and Twitter trolls will now have to look elsewhere for backup when it comes to telling us "SJWs" that there's nothing wrong with the portrayal of women in video games.

A survey has found that most teenage boys—despite common wisdom to the contrary—don’t want women to be over-sexualized in their video games.

Lauren Stardust

“This is what I was wearing today when two women saw fit to laugh at me in a restaurant while I sat and ordered food with my partner.

It started with one pointing me out to the other.

I watched while the friend "casually” stretched and turned to face me, her head whipping back around to confirm her shared opinion of what I as wearing. They both began to laugh.

I sighed, willing to let it go… but it didn’t stop.

Finally when the friend pulled out her phone to take my photo over her shoulder (disguising it as a selfie) I had had enough.

I got up from my table approached them both and simply asked “I’m sorry but are you both laughing at me?”

They responded that it wasn’t the case, but the obviousness of whole façade made the bullshit buzzer go off in my head.

“Oh good! I was starting to feel really self conscious!” (I finished) and went back to my seat.

What these two women subjected me too today is a symptom of Internalised Misogyny:

“involuntary internalization by women of the sexist messages that are present in their societies and culture.” (for further reading http://everydayfeminism.com/2014/07/choice-feminism-internalized-misogyny/)

I haven’t mentioned the women’s age or what they were wearing because it’s not relevant.

How they present themselves does not affect me.

It doesn’t change my life in any way.

Women are constantly judged for everything. It’s inescapable.

Let me get one thing straight.

I am fully aware that I dress like I’ve been fucked by a unicorn.

I know because I dress myself every morning… and would you believe? It’s deliberate!!!

I don’t wake up and think “Gee, I wonder how I can appeal to strangers today?”

Our patriarchal society makes strangers -of any gender- think it acceptable to humiliate a woman based on how she woke up that morning and got dressed to please herself.

So next time you catch yourself critiquing someone’s appearance negatively (In particular, how women dress) maybe try to think instead of why you feel the need to make that horrible assessment?

Are you intimidated by them? Are you sexualising them? Are you repulsed because they don’t adhere to your standards of beauty?

Then ask yourself why any of those things bother you in the first place.“

#feminism   #feminist   #internalisedmisogyny   #patriarchalsociety

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  • some rando:idk why everyone is saying mad max is so feminist. i mean the first time you see the "wives" they're in like cloth bikinis and rinsing of in a fire hose all sexy-like
  • me:*crashes through a sliding glass door, knocks over a bunch of chairs, flips the bench he's sitting on* HAVE YOU CONSIDERED THAT THIS SCENE STRIKES YOU AS INHERENTLY SEXUAL BC YOU'RE USED TO SEEING WOMEN SEXUALIZED IN THIS WAY? THE "WIVES" HAD JUST SPENT HALF THE DAY IN A WAR RIG IN THE DESERT: THEY ARE RINSING OFF. NOT TO MENTION THE VERY NEXT SHOT SHOWS THEM CUTTING OFF CRUEL CHASTITY BELTS, A VISUAL REPRESENTATION OF THEIR REJECTION OF THEIR PRIOR STATUS AS SEXUAL OBJECTS AND POSSESSIONS. THIS SCENE APPEARS TO BE A CONVENTIONAL SEXIST TROPE BUT IN TRUTH IS A SUBVERSION OF WHAT WE'VE BEEN SOCIALIZED TO ACCEPT AS INNATELY SEXUAL-- MUCH THE LIKE ENTIRETY OF THE MOVIE.
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so today was an interesting experience for me. I received a message from Roosevelt High School saying that since the weather is becoming warmer we must dress appropriately for the season. I decided last night to wear the pants pictured. Mr.Scanga had stopped me going into the school and said that I could not attend my classes because of the holes in my jeans. I then asked to speak with our principal Mr.DeChent about my clothes. I was then told that he was not in the building and would have to get changed or go home. I proceeded to tell Mr.Scanga that I would wait for my parent or DeChent, whoever came first. I was then told I was being insubordinate and would be sent home. Upon arrival of my parental figure Mr.Scanga told my parent that there was a memo sent out to all teachers about enforcing this dress code. When asked for the paper handed out, it was conveniently nowhere to be found. Neither Secretary nor Assistant Principal had a copy. If the said “problem” is distracting for the male student body, they should be taught not to over sexualize the female body so much so that knees and thighs cause a “disruption for the orderly process of teaching and learning”. My outfit does not violate any aspect of the student dress code within Yonkers Public Schools Code of Conduct Page 5 Section 4 Paragraph 1. Roosevelt High School needs to stop this arbitrary dress code and sexist, or dare I say misogynistic practice.

A school observation about dress codes...

So as some of you may know, I’m currently working as a teacher. Since the weather has been warm for nearly two months now, I have seen lots of dresses, skirts, hot pants/short shorts, crop tops, and borderline see-through blouses and tops.

Apparently, according to many in North America, this should be a huge distraction for me as a male teacher. However…

THE MOST DISTRACTING THING IS WHEN STUDENTS AREN’T PAYING ATTENTION AND TALKING TO EACH OTHER IN CLASS.

THAT’S IT. 

THAT IS MY BIGGEST IN-SCHOOL DISTRACTION.

WHY IS THIS SUCH A HARD CONCEPT FOR OTHER PEOPLE TO GRASP?!?!

Legit Tip #159

So, there’s no reason you shouldn’t write sexy female characters. That’d be kind of dumb. But it can be kind of confusing when you hear complaints about overly sexualized female characters and how that’s a Very Bad Thing. So what’s the real deal? How do you write legit sexy female characters without making them “sexualized” characters? We’ll look at a few factors you can keep in mind. 

1. Character Agency

So why did your character choose to dress up in a skintight, cleavage-baring bodysuit? 

If this is the “costume” your character chose for herself and she has a LEGIT reason for making that choice, then you’ve got a sexy lady on your hands. But it is important to make it clear that this is her decision, and it’s a decision that makes sense. No female warrior is going to choose a skin-baring barbarian get-up for the battlefield. Not unless it’s her first day going to war and she’s not going to have a second. 

But a character like Catwoman, who needs to get around all slinky-like and who maybe, just maybe is hoping to distract a certain Bat before he can unleash his Bat Attack on her kitty cat ass most certainly would have good reason for choosing the costume that she does. 

2. Identity 

A person’s sexuality is never the core of their identity, so when you write characters who could be summed up as the “sexy chick” or the “sl*tty broad* you know it’s time to take a step back and look at what you’ve done. 

It’s fine for a female character to be promiscuous. It’s even okay for her to be dangerously promiscuous, if the story calls for it. What’s not okay is for that to be your character’s sole identifier. 

3. No Excuses

Please, please, please don’t explain away your character’s sexual habits and proclivities with some sort of excuse that “absolves” them of their “sins”. By doing so, you’re actually taking away agency and ownership - essentially, having the character wear their promiscuity like a costume. I said you don’t want to make a character’s sexuality the core of their identity, but you don’t want to strip it from their identity either. 

4. Power

It can “feel” like you’re empowering a character by letting her use her sexy to get whatever she wants. But the problem with this is that if you’re not careful, it can come across as you saying that’s the only weapon she has in her arsenal. Go ahead - let her use her sexy to get what she wants. But be sure she has other traits and attributes as well. 

5. Universality

Remember - there’s no single, universal kind of sexy. Even a supermodel isn’t going to turn the head of everybody who’s into girls. So with that in mind, don’t write characters who literally entice everybody. Allow your female characters to develop strictly platonic friendships with straight guys/lesbians/bi peeps (…etc, you get my drift). Make sure there’s someone who sees beyond the sexy. If you give them that, the reader is much more likely to see beyond the sexy, too. 

I’m sure there are a lot more points I could go over - this is just a starter to get you thinking a little more critically about sexy vs. sexualized. 

The thing is, I really don’t like this argument that we can’t have sexy female characters, whether it’s in video games, or movies, or books, or comics, etc. It’s self-defeating and, really, beside the point. What needs to change is the way we write about these characters. 

And it’s not that female characters can’t be overtly sexualized, either - sometimes that needs to happen for plot. (Think: Slave Leia in Star Wars). The difference being that this is something that is internal to the story. It happens for a reason and you’re not necessarily meant to enjoy her sexualization. Keep all this in mind in order to start writing more sex-positive stories. 

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I was reading some posts about how Dolls Kill is currently selling a sexualized “Native American” Costume. I went searching to see if they had any more, and surprisingly no. But seeing all the sexy style costumes made me think of Yandy.com, a lingerie website that is very much into Halloween costumes.

 I thought hey, let’s give them the benefit of the doubt here. I liked them on facebook and they never posted appropriative costumes and I’ve never seen any sourced to them on facebook. I bet they totally realize the dangers and horrors of these costumes and fetishization like that.

 Oh man…was I wrong.

I can’t even fit them all in a photo set, and every word of this sentence is linking ONLY to the “Native American” ones.

Of which there are 55 costumes, oh sooo easily accessed through this category on the homepage and side bar

They don’t stop here. They have dedicated categories including Geisha Costumes, Eskimo Costumes, and G*psy Costumes.

 And don’t forget the rest of them that may not have their own racist category, but are still there, scattered and hidden in other categories such as the 7 Day of the Dead costumes they have, and the “Aloha Hula Girl” and “Tahitian Sweetie” I also found, unfortunately. I don’t even know how the hell i found this “Dragon Lady” one, that surprisingly is not in the Geisha category.

 The costume names range in each categories from ridiculous shit like “Chief Hottie Body Costume” to “Native American Temptress”, and “Japanese Entertainer Costume” to “Asian Persuasion”.

  I honestly don’t understand this crap. How can people seriously fucking do this? How do you think it’s okay? Before even finding out about the proper terms like cultural appropriation and fetishization, before i even had any idea that this was a widely recognized thing by others, I almost always looked down on these costumes. I didn’t know that they were actually as horrible as they truly are, but I always had that sort of sense within myself you know? How can you just throw on someone’s culture and not give a fuck about it whether its a sexualized costume like these, a less sexualized one, or even a legitimate cultural garment.

  I could continue going on and on but I’m just so tired of this shit. Just.Fucking.Stop. Whether or not YOU agree with it, costumes like this hurt people. It promotes stereotypical fetishization that becomes the leading reason behind countless rapes. Culturally appropriative costumes in general hurt the people that are part of that culture. By wearing this shit, you are taking a part something that is so important to so many people and destroying it, showing us what a gross racist asshole you are in the process.

  There are a million perfectly fine things you can dress up as, so why the fuck do you have to do this to my culture? Go be a fucking octopus or something I don’t even care.

***For colored girls who have been called “thicker than a Snickers” and other dumbass colloquialisms when being called “attractive” was not enuf.

I do not enjoy being referred to as “thicker than a Snickers” and if you think I’m being nitpicky feel free to go and tell that to someone who cares. I do not enjoy being reduced down to the rack near the cash register at Walgreens. The years I spent learning to love myself and the messages I have received from other young women as thanks for having inspired them are more valuable than f*cking nougat. My body is not a piñata favor. My confidence is not confection.

I know what you’re thinking. I’m like Raven Baxter or Dionne Warwick or something. I know you’re thinking “I mean, it’s just something people say! Chill! It’s no big deal!” It’s only “no big deal” because you haven’t realized how…how…stupid it actually is! Not only is it offensive to compare a woman’s body to something that will probably kill you over time, it doesn’t even make any sense! Thicker than a Snickers??? Whet? In my expert opinion, Snickers bars are relatively average in size in comparison to other candy bars. They aren’t necessarily “thick”. Not even in consistency as compared to competitors. So wtf are you saying to me? In that case I’m thicker than a Milky Way too. And don’t you dare say it’s because “thicker” and “snicker” rhyme. Two words rhyming doesn’t justify them being put together to describe a human being. In that case, all of you loud ass n*ggas are officially louder than some chowder. Do you see how f*cking stupid that is? I dare you to put your ear to your next bowl of New England clam and make that sh*t make sense. I hope you scald your ear off.

I’m really proud of what I’m building for myself and I am proud of every woman (or man, I’m completely gender and identity friendly) who took a look at an image of me or anyone else and at least considered wearing that pair of shorts she told herself she has too much cellulite to wear. Body positivity is real and it’s hard. And I expect to be sexualized frequently along the way (a whole ‘nother topic), but for the love of God, stop stuffing this progress into a chocolatey outer shell! If you see an attractive women, tell her she’s attractive. Tell her she’s beautiful. Tell her she’s gotdamn fine. But do not tell her she’s 27g of sugar. Appreciate her life a little more than what truncating her down to food suggests. Her confidence is not confection. Stop trying to melt it in your mouth.

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Israeli women do ‘Gaza Strip’ for IDF

After thinking long and hard of a way to boost morale among IDF soldiers engaged in combat, a new Facebook page is attempting to bring a fresh and uplifting meaning to the words “Gaza Strip.”

Over the past few days, dozens of women have begun posting racy photos of themselves online, with messages in support of Israel’s troops inscribed across their scantily clad bodies.

The Facebook page, titled “Standing With the IDF – Maintaining a Protective Edge” (in a rough translation from the Hebrew), was created Wednesday night and has already gained over a thousand likes.

The page’s creator, Gavriel Beyo, explained that it was his sincere concern for the soldiers’ morale that motivated him to embark on the unusual campaign.

“We have two bountiful resources in Israel that are impossible to compete with, Israeli minds and the most beautiful women in the world,” Beyo explained in a post on Facebook

“We also have a military front so… why not combine the two?” he added.

“Besides, what chance does Hamas have in the face of our women?”

Beyo stated that the responses to his endeavor were overwhelmingly positive, with many troops expressing to him their great joy over the images.

“Think of these pictures any time it gets hard (in any way…),” Beyo advised the soldiers.

“Remember what you’re fighting for and what is waiting for you back home.”

You’ve got to be fucking kidding me.

(h/t to arkkon)

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What if Marvel drew its male heroes like its female ones

 In an effort to complicate the all-too-common “notion that women only exist to titillate straight men,” writer and co-host of the podcast “Matt & Brett Love Comics,” Brett White, decided to give male superheroes some sexy variant covers of their very own.

As White points out in his introduction to the images, the issue isn’t with sexiness itself; rather, it’s with the fact that female superheroes — and women more generally — are disproportionately subject to sexualization in a way that men and male characters are not.

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