• Guy on train:I'd fuck you if you didn't have so many tattoos.
  • Me:*turns up music*
  • Guy:I said I'd fuck you if you didn't have so many tattoos!
  • Me:*takes off headphones* Leave. Me. Alone.
  • Guy:Why the fuck do you have so many tattoos?
  • Me:
  • Guy:Are you fucking deaf as well as a piece of trash?
  • Lady by door:Hey. Leave her alone.
  • Guy:Are you her trash girlfriend? Fucking dykes, all tattooed like fucking men. Disgusting waste of pussy.
  • Lady:*moves forward, carefully moves jacket so only I can see the badge on her belt* Are you okay?
  • Me:Fine. Just wish he'd go away.
  • Lady cop:I can make that happen.
  • Guy:Oh, yeah, bitch? Who the fuck are you? I'll kill you!
  • Lady cop:And that's what I was waiting for. *grabs guy, holds him against the door* Harassing women on the train was enough, but you just threatened a cop. You're battin' a thousand tonight.
  • Entire train:*applauds*
  • Eminem:raping lesbians whilst they're screaming let's just be friends
  • Eminem:bitch I’ll punch Lana Del Rey right in the face twice, like Ray Rice
  • Eminem:if i can't batter the women how the fuck am i supposed to bake them a cake then
  • Eminem:yeah i laugh when i call you a slut, it's funny
  • Eminem:i kick a bitch in the cunt and it makes a queef like a fucking whoopee cushion
  • Eminem:put that shit away, Iggy you don’t wanna blow that rape whistle on me
  • Eminem:if i do decide to ever murder my daughter's momma, ima sit her up in the front seat and put sunglasses on her and cruise around with her for seven hours through california
  • Eminem:jaws all on the floor like tommy just burst through the door and started whooping [pamela anderson's] ass worse than before
  • Eminem:i'ma tie her to the bed and set this house on fire
  • Eminem:i'll be nicer to women when aquaman drowns and the human torch starts swimming
  • Media:...
  • Media:give him ALL the grammys lyrical genius
  • Azealia Banks:I guess this cunt's getting eaten.
  • Lana Del Rey:My pussy tastes like pepsi cola.
  • Media:that is absolutely VULGAR. wtf ???
  • Media:we are so sick of artists using shocking lyrics just to get publicity.

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Please note: This comic contains discussion of sexual assault, rape, and rape culture

This guy, this fucking guy, still sticks in my brain. It’s been years since I’ve been online dating. It was an interaction of messages that culminated in this exchange over about 2 weeks.

He’s so forgettable in every other way, but I am just still so aggravated by this weird smug privileged obliviousness around constant social demands on women and femmefolk to be both constantly available to men and at the same time perfectly take all necessary steps to prevent their own rapes. 

It is STUPID and AWFUL that we are expected to constantly be smart, aware, strong, reactive, proactive, and sober enough to prevent our own assaults. It is STUPID and AWFUL that if we do anything, ANYTHING, like have a glass of wine, or walk home, or smile at someone, or not smile at someone, that we are somehow in that way shouldering responsibility for someone deliberately, maliciously harming us. 

And it is ridiculous to ask someone to shrug all of that social pressure and blaming and responsibility off because it’s vaguely insulting to you that someone has to think about the possibility that you’re not a great person. 

Dude, thanks. You saved me a lot of wasted time with that message. I mean it. 

White guys are so proud of their ability to be not offended. When one of them tells a rape joke or uses a racial slur, they wink and pat themselves on the back and give endless attaboys for their superior skills in being not offended. They decry the “politically correct” society they find themselves in and look down on anyone who has the lack of fortitude to be offended by anything.

Of course, what allows them to be not offended at rape jokes and racial slurs is that they are not targeted at them. For white guys, these are fun toys to play with; while for much of the rest of the world, they are tools of violence and oppression. Not just relics of the past, but very much alive and well today. So, then, the magical quality that allows these guys to remain so aloof and above-it-all is, quite simply, privilege.

And if you want to watch hypocrisy and cognitive dissonance in action, simply bring up privilege to these not offended white guys and see how fast and hard they become offended. Privilege is a concept so simple and obvious that most social scientists take it as axiomatic, but the mere mention of it gets these guys worked up into a rage. They’re so proud of their ability to be not offended by oppressive language and stereotypes, but they’ll be damned if you point out why. Funny. It’s almost as if they are the beneficiaries of systems of oppression and want to subtly encourage those systems so as to continue benefiting, while simultaneously stifling all mention of those systems, so as to mollify their fragile egos and underused consciences. 

But by all means; continue to congratulate yourself on your superior ability to be not offended by oppression and cruelty. 

Here’s a sure-fire way to know that you hate women: when an incident of intimate partner violence in which a man knocks a woman unconscious gains national attention and every question or comment you think to make has to do with her behavior, you really hate women. Like, despise.

There is no other explanation. There is no “I need all the facts.” There is no excuse. You hate women. Own it.

Now, you probably don’t believe you hate women. You probably honestly think you’re being an objective observer whose only interest is the truth. You are delusional.

We have this problem in our discourse around the most important challenges we face where we feel we have to be “fair to both sides.” But sometimes, one of those sides is subjugation and oppression. If you’re OK with legitimizing that side in the interest of “fairness,” you’re essentially saying you’re OK with oppression as a part of the human condition. That’s some hateful shit.

—  Mychal Denzel Smith, "How to know that you hate women"
You’re cute–I could hook you up with one of my friends: marry rich. Just pretend to love him and fuck him when he asks–that’s barely a job–you’d be maximising your children’s opportunities.
—  Business Graduate Student

According to Ubisoft technical director James Therien, Assassin’s Creed Unity will not include playable women because it would be too much work.

No, really, that’s what he said.

"It was on our feature list until not too long ago, but it’s a question of focus and production," Therien explained. "So we wanted to make sure we had the best experience for the character. A female character means that you have to redo a lot of animation, a lot of costumes [inaudible]. It would have doubled the work on those things. And I mean it’s something the team really wanted, but we had to make a decision… It’s unfortunate, but it’s a reality of game development."

All those female NPCs milling around in the cities of Assassin’s Creed? The plot-relevant secondary characters? Sure, Ubisoft can design, model, rig, animate, and voice-act them. Not a problem. But a playable woman, with character designs and animations no doubt similar to the other Assassins? That doubles the workload! How could the company be expected to surpass such an insurmountable obstacle, with such limited means?

"Again, it’s not a question of philosophy or choice in this case at all I don’t really [inaudible] it was a question of focus and a question of production. Yes, we have tonnes of resources, but we’re putting them into this game, and we have huge teams, nine studios working on this game and we need all of these people to make what we are doing here."

Tonnes of resources, huge teams, nine studios, no room for playable women. Not in the budget (that they wrote), not in the plan (that they made). No, it’s not their fault! It’s a reality of game development, not a flimsy justification for excluding women in a medium desperately in need of better representation.


No female leads in Assassin’s Creed Unity ‘unfortunate but a reality of game development’ - Ubi.” (Steven Burns, Videogamer.com) 11 June 2014.

Uh, I go to university. Even if I’m not a woman, I definitely know more about women and rape than you [four women] do. Women being socialized to fear rape isn’t an excuse to treat every man like a potential rapist. It’s sexist.

Junior Psychology major, submitted by fuffuster

[He later went on to say that women who take precautions against rape are sexist, while at the same time if a woman does NOT take precautions against rape, then she deserved it for not being more careful. See: the literal definition of “mansplaining”.]

You may not be sexist at all but if you laugh at sexist jokes, either just to be sociable, or in what you think’s an ironic way - men and women - what you’re actually doing is validating people in the room who are sexist and misogynistic. And hearing gales of laughter simply encourages them to behave in a sexist or misogynistic way.