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“Why People Think Video Games Are Just For Boys” from Adam Ruins Everything (2015)

Examples of problematic tumblr activity timeline:

2013: Defending sexism in a bad TV show
2015: Using the bones of the dead to make potions
2017: Literally owning a child slave

There are people who complain about gender/race/sexuality being “the defining characteristic” of female characters, LGBT+ characters, and characters of color, but have no problem at all with the fifty billion straight white cis male characters whose defining characteristic is being a straight white cis male.

It’s pretty messed up that non- straight/white/cis/male characters are automatically accused of “forced diversity” or “pushing an agenda” but straight white cis male characters are just allowed to be.

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14 Reasons Why You Need To Be Watching "Baroness Von Sketch"
"It's a women's product. Of course there's butterflies."
By Kat Angus

1. When the cast satirized how women are treated by the media.

4. When they made sure women knew a product was made just for them.

6. When they imagined a future with only women in charge.

13. When they took their games very seriously.

Men are allowed to do whatever they want, allowed to behave however they want. And it doesn’t matter. Whether it’s Sinatra [blowing up over] a belt, or another chip on their shoulder … you know, women can do nothing and some story is still made up about them being bitches, or having catfights, or how difficult they are, maybe just because they happened to be in a bad mood one day.

That’s something that still applies today, absolutely. I hear it on sets all the time, or when a female director comes in and there’s a conversation about how her personality is. That conversation doesn’t happen when it’s a male director.

I want to address the, “emotionally unavailable man with a tragic past meets woman who falls in love with him, and then after suffering through great lengths of the consequent emotional abuse, finally helps the man find his breakthrough and they have perfect sex and live happily ever after” trope.



Popular media and societal norms tell girls that it’s normal for dating to be a struggle. They learn that it’s normal to expend copious and consistent efforts of emotional labor without receiving anything in return because men are so emotionally lacking or otherwise “hyper masculine.” On tv and in movies girls are shown that if they truly love a man they should never give up on him because behind his emotional unavailability is a dark past that only she can heal. So they hold out for the moment when he—and only because she finally breaks through his strong exterior with the perfect words—speaks from an emotionally vulnerable place for one short monologue and tells her everything that she has wanted to hear. Then they have perfect sex and that is what young girls grow up romanticizing.


On the flip side, boys grow up learning that they are not supposed to be emotional beings. They are told not to cry when they are hurt, they are taught that emotional impenetrability is “strong” and admirable. They are mocked for expressing love and are made to feel embarrassed for receiving it in front of others. And for boys who feel this pressure to deny emotion, any traumatic events in their past go unaddressed, and the toxic behaviors just keep repeating. Then they’re warned to mistrust women, told that they’ll deceive him and trap him and steal from him, but are reassured that “the right woman will come along” and she will create the perfect environment of understanding and support in which he can finally let his guard down.


Women have romanticized emotionally unavailable, broken, and unhealthy men all their lives, they are attracted to these types of men in real life and become deeply emotionally attached (because this is who the girl always ends up with in the movies, right? This is going to be the happily ever after). But for the men who are like this in real life, their pain isn’t just part of a script, it (whatever it is) actually happened to them and they don’t know how to deal with it. It has instead created a defensive foundation of distrust and emotional detachment. So they hold out for their “perfect woman.” A woman who will adjust her actions and words and efforts to gently break down his walls. And these real-life women will desperately try everything to be that for him but the catch is that there is NO SUCH THING as this elusive “perfect woman.” Perfection is unattainable, first of all, but more importantly there is no secret code or big-screen-worthy speech that can instantly disintegrate the years of unaddressed pain, one incident after another, like bricks in this proverbial wall.


Men and women must both be held responsible for dealing with their pasts and any residual unhealthy behaviors. Men and women are both responsible for taking themselves out of abusive or toxic relationships. And we all as a collective must hold ourselves, our actions, words, and the media we create, accountable for what kind of messages we are sending to others, and especially impressionable youth. Because while it makes for dramatic story lines and happy endings in hollywood, all it does in real life is teach men and women that stunted emotional development and emotional abuse are both fine and it’s all a normal part of heterosexual relationships.

Hey women, POC, LGBT, etc., did you know that instead of nagging Hollywood studios and executives to acknowledge that different types of people exist and therefore deserve to be represented in popular media, you can just solve the entire problem by making your own shit? I mean, it really is that easy; it’s not like there are any systemic barriers in place. I really can’t believe no one has ever told you that before. You’re welcome. 

So pick up your camera (whatever you have around the house is probably fine) and stop whining about how the film/television industry is dominated by straight white men on- and off-screen so we can all enjoy “Manly Straight White Men Run Around and Fight Each Other 53: Just When You Thought There Were Enough Of These We Made One More” in peace.

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They’re still angry about Doctor Who, lads.

(with thanks to @mariocki for three of these!)

Badass Rosaline

Them : Oh my god, Rosaline betrayed Benvolio for her sister. I am so sad for Benvolio.

Me quoting Count Paris and wondering in which language you’re watching Still Star-Crossed :

[…] But the Prince of Verona is alone, my lady. Surrounded by my men, in my camp. And I can kill him, and you, and Benvolio Montague, like that. So I suggest you do exactly what I say, if you ever want a chance of getting home alive. And when we’re back in Verona, remember, I have spies everywhere, even at the palace. If you breathe a word of me, any word at all, Livia will be the one to pay. As much as it hurts me to hurt her. So I suggest you don’t scream. Not now, not ever.                           

May I resume? Verona in the 16th century :

  • Rosaline defended Benvolio as a witness facing Prince Escalus.
  • Rosaline ran with a condemned man in the middle of the night without her sister. 
  • Rosaline did not sleep to catch a coward friar.
  • Rosaline sacrificed herself at the tavern to let Benvolio run away.
  • Rosaline lied to save time and tried to save Escalus AND Benvolio AND Livia her sister AND Verona.

But you are still not happy?

Ok, you know what?

Black women are not your mule.

hollywoodreporter.com
Drama Actress Roundtable: "Rage, Sorrow, Grief" and Sexism in Hollywood
Six complex women — including Nicole Kidman, Jessica Lange, Elisabeth Moss and Chrissy Metz — debate the power and pain of strong females (onscreen and off-) amid a culture of discrimination in the industry and beyond: "I don't think we've ever seen this much misogyny."