In conclusion, I feel you. I feel you so much, dude. At the end of the day, all you can do is try to gently educate them (probably not with this salty post though) and if they still refuse to look beyond their sexist, heteronormative stereotypes, well…
Don't you think that a post-gender society would eventually end up giving up separating men and women in language? I mean, race is still a thing, but we don't even use different grammatical constructions for black and white people.
But we do differentiate them with “black” and “white” don’t we? Sexual dimorphism is universal among all humans, so there’s your reason.
As for a “post-gender society” impossible to say for certain. We’re talking about revolutionizing thousands of years of human thinking. And incidentally we haven’t gotten there yet with race either.
If you’re an LGBT, black lives matter or feminist ally and you become aggressively homophobic, racist or sexist when you have a disagreement with a marginalized person, make no mistake, you are a homophobe, a racist and a sexist.
All women want the same thing. Equality. They want it in the home. They want it in the workforce. They want it formally established in today’s society.
And they deserve it.
But there are reasons why they don’t get it. Tons of reasons. I would love to simply touch on a theory.
Take it back to the 1st grade. You’ve had minimal schooling. All of the social construct you’ve been adapted to has solely been reserved to your personal home. Now they’ve added the social construct of a classroom, and then there is the independence of recess. We have these children, mini adults, put in their first real social situations.
The most interesting thing is that studies showed that girls are significantly more sexist than boys. Boys were very accepting of boys and girls joining in games, and even joining their personal social groups. Girls were complete opposites. They would stick to their own groups and very rarely welcome anyone new into them.
There was an observation done where a group of girls were playing with a jump rope. Two boys came along and asked to play. And they were rejected.
They were boys. They had “cooties”.
So now the boys know that you can reject someone for their gender. By the time the girls grow up and realize that they were mean and that wasn’t right, it’s too late.
Me via thoughts: I am a deeply flawed human being and am attempting to be better in overcoming my prejudices in the hopes that one day systematic bias against people who are discriminated against in this society will not be such a large factor in what I think and say. I hope to be as accepting of others as possible and ideally will achieve equality in what I believe of people but I have a lot on which I may improve