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anonymous asked:

what steps to stop procrastinating and reach your full potential?? heeeLP

hi friend! first and foremost I would advise you to stop punishing yourself for procrastination and feeling bad about lack of productivity. im not just saying this to be nice (though you SHOULD be nice to yourself) but because it is the first step in being able to do work. stop thinking of your “procrastination” as procrastination, stop thinking of time you spend not working as some sort of wasted bad thing that you do. Admit to yourself it is not possible to work all the time and create modest blocks of time for work.

this is the secret: doing a tiny bit of work is better than promising yourself you will do 10 hours and doing 0 because it feels impossible to start.  If you tell yourself “I will do 30 minutes of work or finish one task today and then i can fuck around for the rest of the night” then it becomes a lot easier to start because you can think “it’s just 30 minutes! I can do it and then I’m free” and then you don’t feel guilty for falling short of some unrealistic goal. I intentionally build in lots of time in my work schedule to scroll tumblr or whatever.

it’s all about developing good habits. you start with baby steps like: I’ll work for one hour a day, even if I don’t feel like it, and then I don’t have to do anything else. OR I’ll start working on this project three times today even if I stop after ten minutes each time I just promise myself to start it three times (you’d be surprised how much you get done that way). set small goals and force yourself to do just a little bit. reward yourself for doing that little bit. gradually it becomes easier, it really is just a habit.

as someone with adhd who relied on deadline adrenaline until literally last year and loved it and did really well with that system…there is no such thing as full potential. If procrastinating and doing things last minute works for you just do it that way and stop feeling bad. since you’re asking though I assume you also feel anxiety or dissatisfaction with procrastination, in which case I’d advise patience, kindness, small goals, a nice work space, lots of built in free time, the recognition that it will take a while for this to become a habit

30 Day Studying Challenge

I just found this challenge (here) and I’ve decided to give it a go!

I didn’t want to do a challenge for posting studyblr stuff each day because I won’t have the time realistically and my phone is broken (probably a Godsend) so I can’t take any pics. 

Day 01: Find something that inspires you to hit the books.
Day 02: Clean up and organize your study area.
Day 03: Add an extra half hour to your study time today.
Day 04: Make 10 flashcards for a subject of your choice.
Day 05: Write a page of notes that has at least one diagram or flowchart.
Day 06: Make yourself a nice cuppa of whatever.
Day 07: Prove the Pythagorean Theorem (a^2+b^2=c^2) in three minutes.
Day 08: Think of favorite celeb/OTP while studying and see how it goes.
Day 09: How long can you concentrate in one studying session?
Day 10: Eat with your non-dominant hand while writing/studying. No spills!
Day 11: Spend one full hour on your most-hated subject.
Day 12: Ask a question that you’ve previously thought was too stupid.
Day 13: Teach someone a concept you are learning right now.
Day 14: Preview tomorrow’s lessons or things you plan to learn.
Day 15: Compare the effects of rap and classical music while studying.
Day 16: What is your best subject and why are you good at it?
Day 17: Share your favorite inspirational quote.
Day 18: Try out the Cornell note-taking system if you haven’t already.
Day 19: Carefully record how you use your time and make a time log.
Day 20: Open up Tumblr or something else. Study in front of the screen. Do not touch or do anything. See if you can focus on your work.
Day 21: Watch an OCW video and take notes.
Day 22: Show us your favorite stationery for studying.
Day 23: Try speed-reading a news article and summarize it.
Day 24: Organize your notes.
Day 25: Plan your work beforehand and finish it before the day ends.
Day 26: Don’t bring questions home… solve all questions before leaving school.
Day 27: Put on a queue and stay off all social networking sites for 12 waking hours.
Day 28: Healthy eating: no junk food today.
Day 29: Set a large goal and reward yourself if you finish it.
Day 30: Celebrate and see how far you’ve gone ;)

Its a new year!

Here are some excerpts from my Law of Attraction Planner I thought people would find helpful to copy down and fill out. I would do this every year, as you, your situation, and your goals change.

AWARENESS & SELF DISCOVERY

1. What do I want to experience in life if time and money were not an issue?

2. How do I want to grow?

3. What do I want to contribute to this world?

4. Who am I? Why am I here?

5. Where am I going? How do I want to be remembered when I am gone?

6. If I achieve all of my life’s goals, how would I feel? How can I feel that along this way?

7. What is most important in my life? What do I value the most? What am I most passionate about? 

8. What brings me the most joy & sense of peace in my life?

9. What does a successful life look like for me?

10. What do others admire in me? What unique gift do I want to share with the world?

11. What are my top 10 achievements in life?

GOAL SETTING

1. Choose 50 goals to achieve in all areas of your life.

2. Choose 5 top goals to achieve this year, next year, until you have 5 years of 5 goals/year. Set rewards for each goal. 

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Self-harm Recovery: Some advice 

- Think about why and when you harm yourself and write a list. Are there specific times, events, feelings or people that lead to self-harm? (Examples: At night, after fights, when you feel angry, after talking to a certain friend). The list will help you to find healthy alternatives and to avoid triggers. 

- Write down some reasons why you want to recover. No reason is silly or unimportant! (Examples: I deserve better, I don’t want more scars, I will not lie to my friends anymore). This list will motivate you when you feel like recovery isn’t worth it. 

- A relapse is not a failure. Don’t let your mind trick you into “I relapsed, so i might as well give up on recovery”. This is not true! It’s one step back but that doesn’t make all the steps forward you took disappear. Allow yourself to be sad or upset for a while - and then take the next step forward. 

- Make an appointment with yourself. “I’ll stop self-harming on (date).” The appointment will make you less likely to tell yourself “Just one more time” again and again and again. (Choose today or tomorrow as a date, not some date that’s weeks away.. You may lose motivation or talk yourself out of recovery if you wait too long). 

- If possible, tell a supportive friend that you are in recovery from self-harm. They can support and encourage you, and knowing that they root for you makes you less likely to relapse or give up. 

- Reward yourself! Set specific goals after which you earn rewards if you stay “clean” until then. (Of course those rewards need to be something that’s not harmful for you! Choose things like “I’ll buy a new lipstick after two weeks”..Small, affordable things that give you something to look forward to and will not trigger you in any way). 

- This is a no-brainer but: Unfollow any blogs that glorify, promote or encourage self-harm, if you are following any. You seriously don’t need to see such content while you’re trying to recover, you’ll just make it harder for yourself. If you run such a blog, delete it. They’re not a healthy coping mechanism! 

- Try out different alternative (healthy!) coping mechanism. A healthy coping mechanism is something that neither physically hurts nor mentally harms you or anyone else. Look at your list (see above) for inspiration. Examples: “When i feel angry, i’ll go for a run instead” or “I’ll call a friend instead when i feel lonely”. Sometimes, it may also simply be “I’ll keep my hands busy by holding a book and sit around until the urge goes away”. 

- Talk to a doctor or therapist. I write this one last because you may not want to hear it and might’ve skipped reading this post if i wrote it first but it’s actually the most important piece of advice i can give you. Self-harming behavior is in most cases a symptom or a result of a mental or physical illness (Yes, physical, too as some physical illnesses get your emotions out of whack!). Therapy and/or medication will help with the underlying health problem and so make it much easier for you to stop harming yourself. 

2016 - the year to get your shit together

1. USE A FUCKING DIARY!!
Use a book you write in or a diary, use it to set out the week days and write everything you need to do down.
Create a legend to help organise the homework and things you have to do.

2. SET GOALS + REWARD YOURSELF
They don’t have to be big goals, they just have to be goals that are possible to reach.
When you complete a goal (because you will, trust me) reward yourself with something nice. This could be a pamper night, a day out with someone or a night in watching a movie.

3. LOOK AFTER YOURSELF (I mean it)
Try and keep a healthy lifestyle.
Drink lots of water (it’s good for your skin). Drink tea, drink smoothies, drink cloudy apple juice (because that’s the best apple juice ever)
Eat foods that are wholesome and nutritious. Go out for meals that will make you feel good, don’t binge on fast food.

4. MAKE TIME
Make time. Enough said.
Make time for your loved ones. Make time for relaxation. Make time to make a good meal (like lasagna). Make time to exercise.
Make time. It doesn’t have to be a lot of time, but enough to relax and feel good.

5. TIME MANAGEMENT
Be aware of the time.
Create deadlines. Don’t get carried away.
Start assignments when you get them, you don’t have to finish them but give them a start.
Make sure you know your cutoffs and deadlines.

6. DONT ALWAYS BE A PEOPLE PLEASER
Put yourself first sometimes. Make sure that, you feel happy and alive before you make sure someone else feels happy and alive.

7. HAVE SOME ALONE TIME
You don’t always have to be around people.
Read a book, go for a walk, write down your thoughts, make yourself a smoothie, have a bath.
Do things on your own, relax.

8. BALANCE
Yes, it’s very hard to have a balanced lifestyle but give it a try.
Balance work, school, uni, exercise, family time and friends.
Prioritise. Which is more important? Which should you complete first?

9. HAPPINESS IS BEST WHEN SHARED
Share your happiness. Don’t be afraid to give someone a ring to tell them your good news. Share why you are happy.
Share your happiness, it might make someone else happy.

10. LIVE
Live. And live to the fullest.
Remind yourself of why you’re here (whether it’s to get your dream job, get into your dream uni or create a family), remind yourself that you are here for a reason. You are worth it.

- 2015 might have been really bad for you, but 2016 is a time to restart. Give life another shot. Fall and the world will catch you. Have an amazing New Years Eve and here’s to a fresh start in 2016. Make it worthwhile Xx

anonymous asked:

Hey do you have any tips for getting ahead for the next acad. year?

I would take a look at your schedule and see if there are any subjects you can start preparing for. If you’re taking a language, brush up using Duolingo or your old textbook. If it’s literature, start on the reading list. 

If there aren’t, you can prepare by squaring away some other things! Clean your room and declutter to create a relaxing environment to study in. Create a new organizational system to make things easier later on. Set some goals and rewards to motivate you throughout the semester. Get creative with it!

Reading all these autobiographies has me thinking about “success”… Success is often equated with popularity or financial attainment. But, another definition according to Websters dictionary is “accomplishment of an aim or purpose”.

There are those personal goals which we set and work towards. (I saw a cool car with the liscence plate “Work Hrd”. Such a positive message! )

But I know individuals that work very hard, set SMART goals, and at times don’t accomplish their goals or find financial reward.

I was at a restaurant a few weeks ago, a woman and her right year old son were sitting outside. She asked me for money to buy herself and her son food. Perhaps her success that day was to have the strength and courage to ask for help. Her need allowed me the opportunity to share, to learn, and grow.

I think our physical, spiritual, and emotional needs are not meant to be obtained in isolation. We are here to help one another. Even through the tragedies, so there is a purpose in them as well.

So perhaps success is just being the authentic You?

Life Rehab

I think the hardest part of changing your life is coming up with realistic and achievable goals. I’ve been through the fix. I’ve done without sugar. I’ve gone through so many different fitness programs that I cannot possibly name them all. This time around, I’m trying something a bit more doable. We have revived our gym memberships and decided to commit to 3 days of gym workouts a week (more if we choose to). Going along with that goal, I’ve decided to set a few non-food rewards in place. If we can hit this goal for 1 month, hubby is getting a new game, and I’ll be getting this amazing burlesque crop top. For 3 months, I wish to take a group weekend to Atlanta and party. Along with a goal/reward system, we are sticking to a altered 21 day fix system with an incorporated cheat meal (not day) weekly. It’s only been 6 days back, but I hit my fitness goals for week 1 which thrills me. I feel stronger and ready to continue, but not overworked. Other things in life, @curvesandtigerstripes and I have finished our 2nd week of burlesque 201 and go to our 3rd Tuesday. We have some delightful Geeklesque planned in the near distant future, but more on that later

Originally posted by teamcoco

Clear goals give you focus. Goal setting should be a part of every adult's life.

Frequent check-ins around your goals are also vital. You want to be able to course correct when you start to get off track. You also want your goals to be self-rewarding. Setting big goals and then setting smaller goals that incrementally lead you there will help, and having goals for each area of your life help you live in multi-dimensionally. I like to leave my big goals vague and my small goals specific.

My 2017 Goals (aka my goals revised for time and degrees of success in each category).

Personal:

BIG GOAL - To feel happy and satisfied.

- Commit myself entirely to my relationship with Thorin. Continue to remain his faithful, exciting confidante and lover. Continue to be spoiled and appreciated.

- Spend at least 2 weekends a month with my family, just relaxing. Thorin can come and is welcome, but his availability is not contingent on my relationship with them.

- Focus my extra energy on fulfilling friendships only. Unapologetically remove myself from friendships which are one-sided or disingenuous.

Health:

BIG GOAL - To feel and look better.

- Lead a whole foods plant based lifestyle. Reduce ordering out to only once per week.

- Increase my yoga practice to 5 times per week incrementally.

- Sleep at least 7 hours per night.

- Reduce alcoholic intake to 2 nights per week, 1 night for date and 1 night for friends turning up. Limit turn up to 3 beverages.

Fiscal:

BIG GOAL - Be ready to purchase a home and have a wedding with Thorin by 2018.

- Reduce online purchasing and pleasure shopping to once per month. My favorites are The Limited, The Body Shop, BetaBrand, and Trestique. Overall spending limit of my own money on pleasure is $200.

- Pay off all credit card and student loan debts. No exceptions. I make more than enough money to do this now.

- Build a rainy day savings account that is 50% more than its current balance.

Professional:

BIG GOAL - To move upward, always upward.

- Negotiate for 85-90k for this new promotion.

- Continue to cultivate mentoring and positive close professional relationships with the highest echelons of my organization (which has already begun).

- Be beyond reproach. Come to work on time, prepared for each day, be completely present in each task I am doing. Let every day be my “best work day”.

I’m ready.

Originally posted by beamlyus

10 Tips for Developing a Healthy Self-Esteem

1. Invest your time and energy in your passions.
2. Set yourself some achievable goals, then reward yourself when you reach these goals.
3. Be aware of, and challenge, your negative self talk. Instead of self criticism practice self-compassion.
4. Don’t fall into the comparison trap. Make a list of, and affirm, your personal gifts and strengths.
5. Make sure you make time for some fun exercise. It may feel like an effort but you’ll reap the benefits.
6. Be kind to other people, and be quick to compliment. You’ll feel so much better if you’ve made another’s day.
7. Fight the pressure to be perfect all the time. Good enough is good enough!!! You don’t need that kind of stress.
8. Notice when a person offers you a compliment – and believe that it is genuine, and something that they meant.
9. Treat yourself from time to time – and splurge and buy that stuff. You deserve to feel you’re special, and are truly valuable.
10. Develop healthy boundaries, and don’t get pushed around. Healthy self respect is crucial for a healthy self esteem.

undeadfoxxie  asked:

Hey! A basic "how to study" would be so rad. (I was one of the "gifted kids" and now college is kicking my butt cause i don't know how to study.)

I plan on eventually making a big “how to study” masterpost with tips that link to my previous posts for more in-depth explanations. The problem is that I haven’t written enough content yet, so that masterpost will likely not be coming out anytime soon.

Generally, though, my studying process looks like this:

  1. In school: Gather all information needed by taking good notes, participating in class, and communicating with the instructor.
  2. For homework: Practice what I’ve learned by doing the readings, practice problems, essays, and other assigned work. Immediately seek additional resources/help if anything doesn’t make sense. Use scores and feedback from returned assignments to identify gaps in comprehension.
  3. Preparing for tests: Implement active studying techniques— my favorites are flashcards, the “blank page” method, and teaching the information to others. You could also try studying in a group. Create mnemonics, draw diagrams, research opposing viewpoints, etc. For easy multiple-choice quizzes: I might just use flashcards to memorize a pile of facts (keep in mind I’m only in high school; I assume rote-memorization assessments are rare to nonexistent in college). For harder tests where I have to actually implement the concepts: I’ll do a variety of practice problems to see the different ways in which information can be applied, practice writing short-answer or essay responses, and maybe turn my notes into mind maps to see how everything fits into the bigger picture.
  4. In general: I manage my time wisely and plan ahead to make sure everything fits into my schedule. I focus on studying better, not necessarily studying more.  I organize my materials/study space to clear my mind and save time looking for things. I stay disciplined by setting goals, avoiding procrastination, and giving myself rewards. And I make sure to take plenty of breaks, sleep well, eat well, stay active, and journal to avoid burnout and stress.

I can totally relate to being the “gifted” kid too. I had to essentially learn how to learn from scratch when I hit high school. The thing to keep in mind is that “studying” isn’t this elusive, mystical process— of course I switch up techniques depending on mood/class/subject, but it really boils down to a cycle of plan, learn, practice, implement, reflect, rinse and repeat. You’ve definitely been doing at least part of the process for your entire academic career, and the rest is straightforward (albeit often tedious and difficult) to implement.

So the best advice I can give for “how to study” is to follow the general process outlined above, don’t expect yourself to be a superstar studier right away if this is new for you, continually adjust your methods based on your results and goals, and stay tuned to this blog for more strategies you can test out! Let me know if this was helpful or if you have questions about anything I mentioned. Best of luck in college and beyond. xx

Also, I’ve been listening to more podcasts lately on my walks and I listened to this one about creating habits with Abel James (fat burning man) and Gretchen Rubin. They said that when trying to create a habit and giving yourself goals and rewards to encourage yourself, you should only set rewards that put you deeper into the habit.
So if your goal is to run 4 times a week, your reward is new running shoes. If your goal is to cook healthy food, your reward is a new cooking appliance. If your goal is to take your lunch to work/food prep, your reward is new Tupperware or lunch box and so on!
This is so obvious but something I’d never really thought about before. When I’m doing well with my diet, I always want my reward to be a pizza or something like that. This completely undermines the idea of making this lifestyle an everyday habit!

I hope I don’t frighten you + Goal 1 acheived!

I can finally show little Nayalee! 
She’s an obitsu head modded to be a cyclops! Hurray!

I’ve actually had her done for over a month, but I had to earn her body. See, I’ve gained a lot of weight since having my son, among other things. I decided to finally take back charge of my weight and get in shape! I set goals for myself, with rewards that aren’t food or clothing related! So I have a closet full of goal things that I’m not allowed to touch until I hit a weight goal! I hit my first goal of 15lbs lost! Its taken 3 months to get to this point, but I’m very happy and feeling better already! :) Next goal is -10lbs, and my reward is a DDH-01 head! Can’t wait to earn it!

-Jade

anonymous asked:

Do you ever get so stressed that you can't focus on anything? This happens to me a lot before exams and I can't really afford to put studying away to feel better at such times. Do you have any advice?

oh boy, this was me during my exams!!! the way i conquered it was by staying away from social media, set routines and plan ahead. 

firstly, you have to ask yourself, what’s stressing you out? i suggest writing down a list so you get it off your mind and chest. you’ll feel so much better. write everything from the fear of getting bad results, procrastinating, fear of not remembering any information, waking up late on the day of the exam, etc. after that, you basically just let out everything that’s stressing you out. it’ll keep your mind off it for a while. 

secondly, set a routine. morning and night. in the morning, i usually do a 5 minute stretch, wash my face, drink water (as soon as i wake up), eat a heavy breakfast (protein and carbs) then start my day by studying for 2 hours through the pomodoro technique (25 minute study sessions then 5 minute break, repeat 4 times). this has helped me focus and somehow retain information better. BUT before i start studying, i write down what i want to get done that day. this gives you something to do and motivation to get them all ticked off. 

during my breaks, i do a 5 minute guided meditation on calm.com, stretch and/or go for a 10 minute jog around the block. this will keep you focused, release some endorphins, and feel a bit of alive and active. it has helped me a lot during my exam block.

rewards!! rewards are also important. set yourself goals and rewards after achieving them. for example, if i study for 7 hours today, i will watch 2 episodes of the office. this way, you have something to look forward to after working hard instead of scrolling through social media.

music!! music for me, is vital to studying. without it, i wouldn’t be able to concentrate and focus and i tend to get a little stressed out when it’s too quiet. so i put on some classical music (there are many playlists on youtube, spotify and 8tracks) as they are quite relaxing but encourages productivity.

to overall avoid stress:

start early and avoid procrastinating - which is something we all struggle with. but remember the 5 minute rule. force yourself to do something for 5 minutes, and if you make it through, it’s likely that you will continue studying for longer. 

so remember:

  • take adequate breaks
  • set a routine
  • make time for yourself
  • plan ahead
  • eat healthy
  • be active
  • avoid procrastination as much as you can

here are some of my favourite study-based youtubers!! check them out, frankly thomas frank who has helped so so much. 

i hope this helps, and if you have any more questions please dont hesitate to ask! xx

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On My Way to Hateno.

I think it’s really cool that there are other little towns in this world.  Some guy on the road to Kakariko told me about Hateno, and I totally Liz Lemoned “I want to go to there…”

Almost killed myself getting here, but it was worth it.  Setting your own goals and meeting them is really rewarding. I’m sure I have to come here for story reasons soon enough, but my adventurous spirit just took over when I heard there was a town to the east.

Fun Fact:

Hateno is (more or less) Japanese for “at the end” so, Hateno Village (果ての村/ Hate no Mura)is the Village at the End, obviously because it is located at the eastern edge of the world.

30 Day Study Challenge

I don’t start college for like another month so I thought I may as well do this to keep me motivated while I wait. I’ll start tomorrow since it’ll be Monday and that’s satisfying.

I’m reposting this mainly for reference, but feel free to use it if you want to join me.

Day 01: Find something that inspires you to hit the books.
Day 02: Clean up and organize your study area.
Day 03: Add an extra half hour to your study time today.
Day 04: Make 10 flashcards for a subject of your choice.
Day 05: Write a page of notes that has at least one diagram or flowchart.
Day 06: Make yourself a nice cuppa of whatever.
Day 07: Prove the Pythagorean Theorem (a^2+b^2=c^2) in three minutes.
Day 08: Think of favorite celeb/OTP while studying and see how it goes.
Day 09: How long can you concentrate in one studying session?
Day 10: Eat with your non-dominant hand while writing/studying. No spills!
Day 11: Spend one full hour on your most-hated subject.
Day 12: Ask a question that you’ve previously thought was too stupid.
Day 13: Teach someone a concept you are learning right now.
Day 14: Preview tomorrow’s lessons or things you plan to learn.
Day 15: Compare the effects of rap and classical music while studying.
Day 16: What is your best subject and why are you good at it?
Day 17: Share your favorite inspirational quote.
Day 18: Try out the Cornell note-taking system if you haven’t already.
Day 19: Carefully record how you use your time and make a time log.
Day 20: Open up Tumblr or something else. Study in front of the screen. Do not touch or do anything. See if you can focus on your work.
Day 21: Watch an OCW video and take notes.
Day 22: Show us your favorite stationery for studying.
Day 23: Try speed-reading a news article and summarize it.
Day 24: Organize your notes.
Day 25: Plan your work beforehand and finish it before the day ends.
Day 26: Don’t bring questions home… solve all questions before leaving school.
Day 27: Put on a queue and stay off all social networking sites for 12 waking hours.
Day 28: Healthy eating: no junk food today.
Day 29: Set a large goal and reward yourself if you finish it.
Day 30: Celebrate and see how far you’ve gone ;)

study tips that 100% work for me:

  • aesthetically pleasing studying environment
  • get fresh air whenever you feel like your head’s going to explode
  • make to-do lists but set small goals and reward yourself when you can cross something out
  • listen to the submarine soundtrack a lot
  • stay hydrated and eat real food, energize with coffee tea or dark chocolate
  • look back at your past achievements and remind yourself what you’re capable of; don’t let someone do this for you because you’ll just end up feeling like people have high expectations of you that you might not live up to
  • if you can’t fall asleep at night because you feel guilty for not doing enough get out of bed and do something productive for 10 minutes write a couple more senteces on that essay then try again
  • enjoy your morning, don’t jump straight into doing stuff, take your time and have coffee/tea, have a nice breakfast, just enjoy your morning even if your morning is at noon or later