seriously that's all i could hear

anonymous asked:

I'm an INTP, and I need some help. How can I comfort people when they're seriously upset? Last time my friend was rlly miserable, I found it totally impossible to console them (without feeling fake as hell) and all I could do was shoot them logical solutions and advice - and whilst that's useful and everything, it probably wasn't what they wanted to hear, or at least they wanted more from me.

How to comfort people

It really depends on the person. You’ll know what kind of support each person needs as you get to know them and observe. Here are some examples:

My ESFJ friend just wants to be able to rant and listened to, and for me to side with her to show that she still has some support in her life. She doesn’t want someone to point out when she’s being irrational - she usually realizes that herself after she gets to rant and process her thoughts as they’re pouring out.

The ENTJ definitely doesn’t want any back patting. When he’s stressed out from work or dealing with uninspiring people, he tends to go into the inferior Fi grip. He would need me to be logical and tell him how irrational his thinking is right now (exactly in these words). It always help to logically analyze how situations could go for him, and tell him what he should be focusing on.

My INTJ best friend also wants similar logical analysis, but definitely not in person. If you try to ask questions in person when he’s upset, he’d either avoid them or let out an angry rant. He has a much easier time pouring his thoughts out through texts. We’d be chatting for a lot time during these times. He’d usually know all the answers already, but just need confirmation from a second reliable source.

Another ESFP friend, who usually has relationship problems, just wants to hear that you know she’s a strong person, that you know she already knows what’s best for her (she does). But she just needs encouragement from a friend to give her the courage to stand up for herself and make a change. Some logical steps on what to do are usually appreciated, after you already make her feel supported.

As you can see, there are no “stock” responses. It doesn’t help anyone to be fake and indulge in someone’s victim mode by saying “Aww poor you! Don’t worry, everything will get better!!!”

Another import tip: If you don’t know what the person needs, just ask them! Say, “I really want to help you, but I don’t know how. Tell me how I can make you feel better right now.” This usually works, and it shows that you do care. Some people might not know exactly what they need at the moment, but they will come back around to tell you.

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how dazai got kicked out of the port mafia

Mori: *explaining what happened to the boss* he succumbed to illness

Dazai: yeah, worst case of stabbed-in-the-neck-itis I’ve ever seen. 

Mori: *glares at dazai* ANYway, he wrote a will proclaiming im the new boss of the port mafia. He told me this in his final breath

Dazai: of course, it was a bit hard to hear exactly what he was saying. His words were kinda muffled due to the scalpel pressing down on his throat and all that. Mori-san must have good hearing, because all I could make out were some vague choking noises and a scream of agony

Mori: … you’re kicked out of the port mafia

Dazai: thats fair

deaf Michael part 2

**not my picture**

alright so this is unedited (no surprise there) and i wrote it in over like 3 days so if its confusing… sorry.  if it sucks… sorry. and yeah OH AND I HAVE NO IDEA HOW TO PUT THE ‘READ MORE’ THING IN WITH THIS NEW UPDATE SO IF ANYONE WANTS TO HMU THATD BE GR8

part 1

part 3

masterlist

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word count: 2242


DEAF MICHAEL AU PART 2

you- so you’re not aloud to live by yourself??

you asked, flabbergasted at the extreme heights of protectiveness his friends went for him

M- nope. i live with my three best friends.  Calum, Luke, and Ashton.  They’re kind of annoying sometimes even if i cant hear them.  

you smiled looking over at the boy that you’d met two weeks ago.  You and Michael had gone out the first time two days after you started texting, and then again the next day and then again two days after.  It switched on and off from a friend date and a date date.  You had both admitted you had feelings for one another but hadn’t seen the trouble it was worth to take on a relationship right now.  

you- can i meet them?

Michael frowned, looking up at you taking a sip from your hot chocolate.  He shook his head, making you crease your eyebrows.  you typed back

you- what? why not?

Michael mentally sighed, looking at you for a few more seconds than usual.

M- because you’re pretty

you blushed, stopping yourself as you saw him continue to type

M- and they bring home a lot of girls
M- because they can actually talk to them
M- … and do other things i cant

this time you rolled your eyes, sending him a playful scowl

you- Michael i’m pretty sure your hearing has nothing to do with your “game” or ability to sexually pleasure someone

he blushed

you- and incase i haven’t already told you this, i kinda like you and I’m pretty sure that some guys that live with you aren’t going to change that, you loser
you- plus guys who can hear are wayyyyy overrated

you winked and he tossed a piece of scratch paper at you, laughing lightly under his breath.  

M- fine i guess you can meet them but don’t ooogle at them and like do stuff with them because i kinda like you too and that would kinda suck if you did do stuff with them

You smiled, leaning over and kissing the corner of his mouth.  you leaned back, watching him look down at his lap, attempting to cover his obvious blush.  

* * * * *

Naturally, you swung your intertwined hands back and forth, walking up the stairs of Michaels apartment complex.  Michael invited you over to watch movies and finally meet the guys. You were a little nervous to be honest.  You and Michael had only known each other for 3 weeks now and had only just started being more boyfriend/girlfriend like then friend like.  Neither of you have comforted it but you both knew that it would probably happen eventually.  Michael led the way to his apartment, dropping your hand to dig in his pocket.  He pulled out his key, unlocking the door and grabbing your hand once again.  You flinched at the sudden yells of anger coming from the home and ,not coming to a shock, Michael didn’t even move his eyes, happily dragging you through the hall and into another room.  Your eyes widened at the enormous television mounted on the wall and a black leather couch, filling the whole room.  A boy with messy black hair tilted his head towards the both of you.  Michael waved and the boy paused the game of Fifa.  He stood up walking towards you.  “hi I’m Calum, Michael has told me a lot about you” you smiled grabbing his hand and shaking it.  “oh well all good things i hope, I’m (y/n)” the boy laughs nodding “well he might not be able to hear but i think he forgets that we can here him moaning your name at 2 in the morning” your eyes widen, a blush covering your face.  He winks, signing something to Michael.  Flustered by whatever he was just told, Michael began tugging you out of the room.  “it was nice meeting you (y/n)” you yell a ‘you too’ stumbling behind the tall boy pulling at your hand.  He led you to a door with pounding music coming from inside.  He knocked twice entering the room, knowing that he couldn’t exactly get acknowledgment to enter.  A sweaty boy glances at the two of you before stopping the music and jumping off the treadmill.  You could feel Michael tense up on your hand, hoping you wouldn’t “ooogle” at his friend.  You had to bite your lip from laughing.  The floppy haired boy signs to Michael and he nods.  “hello I’m Ashton” he flashes you a bright smile in which you return.  “I’m (y/n), Michaels um- friend” he giggles. nodding his head.  “well sorry for being all sweaty the first time you meet me, Michael said you were pretty but i didn’t think he meant model status” you almost choke on your own spit, laughing at the fact that he used ‘model status’ in a sentence.  Michael frowns signing at Ashton.  Ashton shakes his head waving his hand.  You stop laughing telling Ashton that it was nice to meet him.  Michael pulls out his phone texting you

M- what did he say to you?

you roll your eyes, smirking and typing back

you- he said once Michael falls asleep you should come in here and I’ll bang you all the way to Beijing. what do you think he said

Michael frowns not thinking your joke was very funny but nevertheless, pulling you down to another room.  After he told you that his other roommate wasn’t there, he pulls you down to the one room your haven’t entered.  Michael’s room was not what you were expecting.  You figured it would be dull and clean but to your surprise it was full of color and a lot more cluttered than you thought.  He had movies and video games and books, a lot of books, and three gigantic bean bag chairs and a TV.  But what really made the place look unexpected were the post-it notes.  Covering just about every surface you could see were multicolored post-it notes.  Written on front to back.  Michael waited for you to take everything in,  giving your hand a nervous squeeze.  You reached down to pick a green post-it up.  

green day
Nirvana
ACDC
Blink-182
Mattallica

The list went on.  You picked up another and it had lists of songs, another with movies, another with shows.  You stood up with a handful on post-its, raising an eyebrow at him.  He holds up a finger, motioning for you to hold.  While he’s typing you pick up and read a few more notes that were sitting on his desk.  

Michael-  They’re things i want to hear if i ever get my hearing back.  movies i really want to hear, specific orders of songs that i want to listen to in, peoples voices i want to hear…. that kind of stuff

You smiled, still looking at the notes, picking some more up off of random places.  They were incredibly cute. Especially the one that listed animal sounds.  You laughed pointing to it, making a dark red blush paint his cheeks.  He grabbed them jokingly out of your hands, tackling you into the bean bag chair. You laughed loudly as he tickled your sides, looking up at you to make sure he wasn’t hurting you.  He stopped abruptly, pulling out his phone.  

Michael- you’re cute

You blushed at the random compliment, kissing his nose quickly and pushing him off of you gently.  He fell back into the bean bag, watching you look through the pile of movies.  You found one, handing it to Michael to put it in.  He set up the subtitles, grabbing a blanket and wrapping the two of you up and squeezing your body lightly into his.  

* * * * * * *

You squeezed your eyes shut in frustration, twisting and turning but no matter how much you tried to get comfortable, this bean bag was not comfortable.  Giving up, you opened your eyes, searching for Michael was sprawled out on the floor where you probably pushed him to.  You grabbed your phone to check the time.  3:03.  You groaned quietly, getting up and tip toeing to the door.  Right when you opened it someone immediately yelled ‘fuck’ making you jump back and look at the boy sleeping soundly on the ground.  Remembering that he couldn’t hear it anyway you rolled your eyes, searching for the voice that woke you.  You found Calum and a blonde boy who’s name you didn’t know in the living room playing a game.  You cleared your throat getting their attention.  The blonde looked startled to see a girl hear and that made Calum giggle.  “hi (y/n) did we wake you?” you walked around the couch plopping yourself in an empty spot.  “yeah but the bean bag i was laying on wasn’t very comfortable anyway” you joked, the blonde made a noise “you’re the famous (y/n)” you tilted your head laughing a little “famous?” he nodded popping a handful of chips into his mouth “I’m Luke, one of Michaels roommates and best friends,” you shook his hand “he tells us about you all the time he never shuts up about you i mean it’s always ‘(y/n) told me about that’ or ‘(y/n) is so cute’ and i think he forgets we can hear him moaning your name at night” this makes you blush and the two boys giggle.  “thats pretty interesting” you laugh.  “in all seriousness though he really likes you so you better not take advantage of him” you nod pursing your lips. “i would never, i will do like Michael” you could feel your face getting red as you were talking about him.  You really did like him.  “i hope so cause i know he likes you, hell he’s even going to that doctor that we’ve been trying to get him to go to for years” the boys laugh it off but you were confused “doctor?” Calum nods “yeah theres this procedure thing he can do to get his hearing back, only half of the people who do it actually get it all back but its not deadly or anything so i don’t know why he hasn’t done it earlier” you furrow your eyebrows.  you really didn’t know why he hasn’t done it earlier or why he was doing it now.  “wait why do you think that it has to do with me?” Luke scoffed “please ever since he met you he’s been complaining about how nervous he is because he doesn’t think anyone could fall in love with a deaf guy, trust me i don’t like how all he thinks about is you but we truly think that he needs to go through with this hearing thing, he would be so much happier”  and with that you went back to Michaels room.  You didn’t know why it upset you so much to hear that but it did, it did.  

The next morning Michael woke up before you, he made pancakes and watched ‘the fairly odd parents’ waiting for you to wake up.  Once you did you thanked him for breakfast and watched TV with him.  You wanted to talk with Michael about this whole doctor thing but you didn’t know how to bring it up without worrying him about you talking to the boys.  You pulled out your phone.  

you:  hey
M: hello gorgeous

you rolled your eyes at him, making him giggle.

M whats up
you: so last night after you went to sleep i couldn’t sleep so i went into the living room and saw that Luke and Calum were still awake and we were talking about us and stuff and they mentioned how you were going to do some hearing thing???

Michaels face fell, reading your message and not bothering to look up before he replied

M: uh yeah i was looking into it
you: they said you’ve never been interested before, why?
M: i guess i was just scared that it wouldn’t be as great as i think it is,  i haven’t talked in over 15 years i’ll barely be able to form a sentence
you: so why now then

you were still having trouble understanding and by the looks of it Michael didn’t know how to answer your question

M: i was just thinking that maybe it wont be so bad, i mean ill be able to have an actual conversation with you, i know its cheesy but ill be able to hear your laugh and your voice and the music you like and everything will just be
M: normal

you looked up at Michael who was playing with the skin around his fingers, not wanting to look up at you

you: Michael, if you think that i’ll like you anymore than i already do just because you can hear youre absolutely insane, i like you michael, i really like you, whether you can hear or see or walk or dress yourself properly.  i like you and theres not much thats going to change that
M: so you think i can make you fall in love with me?

you look up confused only to see that signature smirk upon his lips, you smiled

you: i guess we’ll have to see about that

It may not be healthy to fall in love with a boy you’ve never had a proper conversation with but you felt yourself falling in love with him with every second that passed.  

no but girls that dont like phil dont make sense to me, like look at this man

seriously he is like a freaking confused kid he’s just adorable

and i mean how can you resist that face, he just looks really happy and his eyes are really pretty here????? and look at that smile dont tell me thats not the cutest thing ever

and i mean you cant even hear him laughing here but his laugh is gorgeous ayy?

and even when he’s not laughing he’s still ridiculously cute

and like no joke but

phil

nobody said you could be this cute and sexy at the same time

all i wanted to say is that phil is amazing and idk what youre doing with your life if you only like dan and not phil but basically just enjoy this pretty man’s laugh and you should subscribe to him if you’re not because he’s almost to 2mil

haha, byeeee

(look at fetus phil, so kawaii)

Ok but some people weird me out so much?? Like, today I went to buy snacks and on my way home I noticed a little kid sitting on the sidewalk and crying his eyes out. What surprised me the most that there were people walking past him (including mature women and men) and not even looking at him, NO ONE EVEN STOPPED. Like, boy, I don’t like kids, I don’t want kids. Yeah, they are annoying and can cry from any reason at all. But that kid could have been SERIOUSLY HURT OR LOST or any other bad bad thing! Of course I run to him, asked whats the problem and ended up hearing that he just fell a bit and bruised his knee. I put a band ai for him and gave him my chocolate bar (as thats the best medicine, right?). Luckily it wasn’t anything serious but ayy people. Please don’t become any more cold-hearted. Asking whats the matter a crying kid won’t hurt you.