seriously ace

Asexuals are allowed to enjoy sexual things.

Asexuals are allowed to enjoy sexual things.

ASEXUALS ARE ALLOWED TO ENJOY SEXUAL THINGS.

ASEXUALS! ARE! ALLOWED! TO! ENJOY! SEXUAL! THINGS!!

There are many different types of asexuals! Just because someone identifies as Asexual DOES NOT AUTOMATICALLY MEAN THEY HAVE TO BE COMPLETELY REPULSED BY SEX!

STOP DISCARDING US FOR ENJOYING SEXUAL THINGS!!

when making ace characters/headcanons please remember:

  • not liking romance =/= being ace
  • not liking sex =/= being ace
  • ace =/= cishet
  • ace = no sexual attraction
  • “lol their sexuality is pizza” fuck you
  • but seriously ace people are not obsessed with food
  • some ace people like sex. some are just neutral. some are sex-repulsed. it’s not a unanimous thing.
  • “I think this character is ace” “but they’re gay!” yeah what’s your fuckin point
  • being ace =/= not gay
  • don’t infantilize ace people. being ace doesn’t make someone uwu pure
  • it’s okay to headcanon kids as ace. it’s not like you’re not allowed to be ace until you hit a certain age. If I had more information about what being ace was when I was a kid, I have no doubt I would have been calling myself ace way earlier.
  • however: your reasoning for headcanoning a kid as ace shouldn’t be because they’re not having/interested in sex. Well, yeah, duh. Of course they aren’t. They’re a kid.
  • ace people can’t be “cured” by “the right person”

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if you think that asexual people don’t belong in the LGBT community and think that asexuality is a mental disorder or doesn’t exist, please unfollow me right this instant. I mean it. I don’t like you and your ignorance and your acephobia is not welcomed here, thanks

that ‘reblog if you’re an ace-positive exclusionist who supports aces but just doesn’t think they’re lgbt!!’ post is really fucking cute because like.

at least 8-10 ish people with ‘aphobe’ or 'aphobic’ in their url (as in, 'person who hates ace people’) have reblogged it and claimed to be 'ace positive’.

NUMEROUS people who i’ve seen posting hate, discourse, or triggering messages in the 'ace positivity’ tag (a non discourse tag that’s literally just there to make ace people feel good about themselves) have reblogged it and claimed to be 'ace positive’.

dogsanddiscourse, aka the person who made the 'hurting an ace’s feelings is so easy it’s hilarious’ post, has reblogged it and claimed to be 'ace positive’.

this is why performative activism is useless. just saying 'oh but i support you!! you’re all valid you’re just not lgbt uwu uwu!!’ means absolutely nothing when your day-to-day actions are directly dedicated to making ace people (including lgbt ace people) as miserable as possible. don’t claim to be 'ace positive’ if you actively dedicate yourself to hurting ace people for kicks.

21 things black men don’t hear often enough

1. I love you bro. We don’t tell each other as men how much we mean to each other. There is no weakness in that. Only strength, solidarity, and power.

2. You don’t have to be perfect. You just have to commit to getting better.

3. Someone is depending on you, to be exactly who you are.

4. Read more. You have time to read 12 books a year (which is more than the average American). We also aren’t average.

5. Showing and sharing your emotions isn’t a sign of weakness. Paying attention to how we feel helps us become more in tune with what’s actually going on.

6. Your mental health matters. You can’t “work yourself” out of your mind. Emotional trauma is very real and worthy of our time. We’ve been through a lot recently.

7. Living is an act of resistance. You are going to live, get out all these dreams, and thrive – despite the odds.

8. You are a descendent of kings. Seriously, don’t bow your head to life. You were built for this.

9. Their opinion won’t pay your bills, or build your dreams. They won’t always see your vision. Not everyone is supposed to.

10. Failure isn’t a tattoo. Learn how to take the Ls and move on. Adapt and overcome.

11. Getting this money, and doing good, aren’t mutually exclusive. You just have to be clear on your non-negotiables and stand by them.

12. You don’t have to ask for permission to be excellent. Go for it.

13. “Everybody eat’s b” – Ace Boogie. Seriously, we can all get what we want to out here. Helping people doesn’t make you a sucker. Do have boundaries though.

14. There is absolutely nothing wrong with working for someone else (even if you’re from Harlem), but it pays to think like an owner. Signing the front of a check is very different than the back.

15. #BLACKLIVESMATTER

16. If someone knocks you for your 9-5, they (1) aren’t your friends and (2) they don’t know about your 6-10. Keep going.

17. Start owning when you can. Pay yourself first. These loans ain’t loyal.

18. We don’t need to prove anything to anyone. You’re excellent and it’s perfectly okay to still be warming up.

19. Try to take care of yourself. I love Popeyes, but what we put in ourselves can actually kill us. Exercise, eat well, and get active. Put some $$ on your jumper, and invite your team out!

20. Learning how to cook is a great look. Seriously. Watch a couple Youtube videos, hit Home Goods, and start cheffing.

21. “Someday” is never going to show up on the calendar. Write that book, send that tweet, record podcast. Don’t opt out, especially not right now.

Just Asexual Things

-Getting distracted by how pretty someone is and thinking that’s what people mean when they say “hot” or “sexy”
-Actually finding out what “sexy” means
-Humans are gorgeous but like in the way an overwhelming sunset is gorgeous.
-When I look at you I feel the same things I do when looking at a particularly awesome piece of artwork.
-“finding the right person” Oh brother.
-When people suddenly stop telling their dirty joke because they remember you’re asexual
- Like, no Chad. I wanna hear the rest of that joke. I’m asexual, not a four year old. Now take it from the top.
-That one person that keeps checking in to find out how anyone couldn’t want sex.
-That one person that keeps checking in to see how some asexuals want sex.
-Feeling like some kind of mutant
-Realizing being a mutant is pretty freaking cool
-Developing a love of purple things
-The mini-lecture you have to give 90% of the time you come out to people
-Seeing ace discourse and feeling ready to puke
-When people are excited about a hot person or are obviously horny and you’re just sitting there like…. Okay? Uhhhhhh….. What do I do here?
-Ace puns.
-So many ace puns.
-Pretending you knew what people were talking about when your friends started having “those feelings” as teenagers
-Seriously. Ace puns. It’s like 50% ace puns. We do a pretty ace job of it.

You know, Ace Attorney has some really fuckin’ weird merch. Like, there’s all the normal stuff like figurines and cell straps and keychains and DS/3DS accessories and all that, but then there’s stuff like

Fancy Miles Edgeworth teacups?

A rose-scented Miles Edgeworth candle??

Grape juice Wine and a Blue Badger wine glass????

Toilet paper??????

Toronto Pride told Toronto Police they’re no longer welcome to march in Pride in their uniforms or as an institution (eg a police float), but they’re welcome to join in as civilians. The reason for this is the history and continued oppression of LGBT people by the police, particularly PoC. Many Pride attendees feel unsafe or uncomfortable by the high police presence at Pride in recent years.

Toronto Police is now demanding the city pull all funding to Pride ($260,000 worth) until Pride becomes “inclusive” again. 

This is what happens when LGBT people try to keep their oppressors out of their spaces. This is why organizations like GLAAD have to accept cishet aces. Because otherwise we have to deal with the backlash of a temper tantrum by cishet people who should have never been allowed in the space to begin with, and lose our resources as a result. This is why I take ace discourse seriously.