serious mental illness

nobody wants to admit that ADD/ADHD is a serious mental illness that can be literally debilitating because it’s always painted as not as serious as depression or whatever, but people with ADHD that takes over their whole life, people who can’t focus to save their lives, people who get overwhelmed by two people talking, people who randomly burst into tears with sensory overload, and people who can’t go five minutes without their ADHD being a dick exist and are real and valid. their mental illness is valid. ADHD is a mental illness just as real and valid as depression or anxiety. it’s not “omg i’m so adhd and random x3”. it’s a mental illness that often requires serious medication, therapy, and behavioral exercises. stop brushing adhd under the rug in favor of fetishizing sadness & depression Thanks.

There are some bad parts about being borderline, but there are also some perks!

- The way you make people feel when you idealize them is something they’ll never find in anyone else. You make people feel so cared for and loved, and on top of the world. There’s a reason people are so drawn to those with BPD

- The amount of love you are able to give another person is unreal

- You’re able to sense immediately if something is off or wrong with another person. And therefore can react to make them happy quickly or be there for comfort.

- You work well with children and are able to empathize with them when they are hurt. You’re not one of those adults who treat children as if they need to suppress or suck up their emotions.

- When you do feel empathy (because it’s something I occasionally struggle with), you can genuinely empathize with others and truly make them feel like you understand and you’re listening.

- The love you feel for your friends can border on obsession, but they will ALWAYS know you care about them.

- When you are happy, you’re on top of the world! It’s such an amazing and euphoric feeling!

- When you find something you like, and hyper fixate on, just thinking about it can brighten your day! Which is so simple and great, that you don’t have to go to extra lengths to feel happiness from it

I’m sure there are so many more! Please feel free to add on!!

(Also, just because somethings aren’t necessarily healthy or considered healthy in society doesn’t mean they can’t be good things! Me being obsessed with the person I like isn’t healthy, but it can be a good thing if that means it makes another person feel special and happy!)

anonymous asked:

Is there any point seeking therapy for disorders and problems that have no solutions or cures.


I’m going to use an example from my area of expertise- serious mental illness, particularly schizophrenia spectrum disorders. Historically people have thought that schizophrenia was incurable and that people diagnosed with schizophrenia would get worse over time. But that was totally, completely wrong. Although there is no schizophrenia “cure,” many people do regain significant functional ability and see huge improvements in symptoms, sometimes to the point of complete symptom remission. What we now are seeing is that early intervention, person-centered care, and integrated, whole-person treatment are huge components to success with schizophrenia treatment

So my first point is: Sometimes the psychological/psychiatric/etc community initially believes there is no “cure,” but then innovative methods of treatment are successful. I would hate for anyone to give up because we haven’t figured it out yet. 

My second point is: people respond all different kinds of ways. The variability between people with the same diagnosis or general set of mental health issues is huge. So while “schizophrenia” might be considered a chronic disorder, many people experience a single psychotic episode and then never have another, or have schizotypy but never have a psychotic episode, or have occasional psychotic episodes but are able to function the way they want to all or most of the time. Many of these people do not require treatment continuously or maybe not at all. The idea that all people with a specific diagnosis will necessarily follow the same trajectory is totally wrong. 

My third point is: Psychological issues are not the same are medical issues. We are often not looking for a “cure” in the sense of an immunization or antibiotic. We’re looking for something closer to a management strategy, like people with diabetes use. Saying “management strategy” makes it sounds very dire, and I don’t want it to come across that way. To continue with diabetes, many people with diabetes live lives that are essentially indistinguishable from people without diabetes, as long as they continue with good self-management of their illness. That doesn’t mean it’s not hard and scary and frustrating, and it doesn’t mean there are aren’t sacrifices or hard times or points with more symptoms, but it does mean that even if the illness never goes away, life can still be enjoyable and interesting and exciting and meaningful. It can be the same for people with mental health problems that are unlikely to be resolved. Management can make life way better, and I believe is worth it even if it is not a “cure.”

My third point, part 2 is: in self-management, psychology has already found a model that focuses less on symptom remission and more on quality of life- the recovery model (in this post). Recovery was born out of people being frustrated by providers telling them that they were never going to get better and to give up now, and refusing to have a life built around institutions and medications. Instead, recovery is about pursuit of personal values, empowerment, and autonomy, whether or not symptoms continue. This gives people the ability to work on symptom related goals if they choose while still being full members of their chosen communities and pursuing lives that are valuable to them. 

A (Serious) Note about Panic Attacks.

I don’t make a lot of posts. I also do not enjoy making serious posts. Period. I go onto tumblr to feel good. It lets me escape the big scary world for five seconds and absorb myself in superheros, MBTI, Doctor Who and video games all at the same time. However, I have never needed to make a post as much as I need to make this one. 

1.  ANXIETY AND PANIC ARE NOT THE SAME THING Trust me. I have both. Anxiety can be a constant, on-going issue that never seems to go away. While it is nerve-wrecking, I would deal with my anxiety for months on end than have a panic attack as often as I do. I am NOT discrediting anxiety. It is a very scary state of being. Your body is literally in a fight or flight state all the time and there is no stopping the worry that comes in even the slightest situation.

2. PANIC ATTACKS Words can not describe how truly terrifying a Panic Attack is. I’m not entirely sure I can describe it accurately. Someone I know once compared it to  being underwater and never coming up for air. A better representation may be being underwater, chained to the bottom of the pool while people who can help you swim by you and watch while you slowly suffocate to death. Trust me, this is NOT an exaggeration. I have never felt more horrified, more alone, more betrayed by the world in my entire life as I have felt during a large scale panic attack. I can literally not process anything. My brain shuts off besides these thoughts: I need help; I can’t tell if this is real or not; Oh god I am going to die; I don’t want to live anymore; Please someone help me or end everything now I can’t take this. I feel so alone in the world that I don’t think the feeling will ever go away and that I am worthless. And yes, my panic attacks can include A LOT of tears and even an asthma attack- but I can’t think to find my inhaler, so I usually end up on the floor unable to breathe.

3. PANIC ATTACKS LEAVE EMOTIONAL SCARS. TAKE THEM SERIOUSLY. One thing most people do not understand about panic attacks is the severity of it NEVER diminishes the more times you have panic attacks. They will ALWAYS be this severe and they NEED to be taken seriously. Nothing is more harmful to a person with a panic disorder than being asked if it was “Just a Panic Attack”. DO NOT ASK THIS QUESTION. PERIOD. Take your friend seriously when they message, call, or ask you for help-Or even to just talk to them. It can be EXTREMELY painful to them if they feel ignored or belittled. I do not know about other people in the following instance, but I loose touch of reality slightly during my panic attacks. I NEED someone there to talk to me and tell me I’m going to be okay. I need someone to help me bring myself back to the world around me. If I trust you enough to be that person, that is a HUGE thing. I trust very few people. It is so painful when those people ignore me or dismiss what is happening to me. It leaves you in a giant uncertain emotional state afterwords that is very VERY difficult to fix. Panic attacks are scary as hell. They’re even scarier when you feel like you’ve been abandoned. The emotional scars that can come from that may never go away

. TAKE A PERSONS PANIC ATTACK SERIOUSLY. The words”Panic Attack” have been so overused (as with any mental issue) that they have just become another “trend” the general public views as common and insignificant. I hope I have been able to describe in some sense what a panic attack truly is. Mostly, I just needed to create this post for me. Processing what happens to me during a panic attack is nearly impossible at the time. This post is shorter than I expected it to be, but if I sat down and wrote everything there is to say about my panic attacks and the repercussions they have, you would be reading a 30 page essay. 

Here goes.

Can we normalize talking about the mental illnesses that make others uncomfortable.

The ones that involve gripping your knee so you don’t kill your cat, or choke your friend. So you don’t hurt yourself because you just want to see what it would feel like.

The ones that make you crave sex in insatiable amounts.

The ones that make you hear voices and see things that aren’t really there.

I’m saying normalize this because as someone who has to try everyday to not kill my cat, or see what it feels like to stab myself in the leg, it’s disparaging when people change the conversation when one tries to open up about these things.

It’s unreasonably pathetic to think that people would rather ignore the mental illnesses that ANYONE could have, including someone in their family/they’re close to, simply because it makes them uncomfortable.

Normalize talking about mental illnesses in a serious light.


- borderline personality disorder + Aileen Wuornos & Jeffrey Dahmer 

After a psychiatric analysis, they were both diagnosticated as borderline. Borderline personality disorder  is a serious mental illness marked by unstable moods, behavior, and relationships.

symptoms of BPD 

  • Extreme reactions—including panic, depression, rage, or frantic actions—to abandonment, whether real or perceived
  • A pattern of intense and stormy relationships with family, friends, and loved ones, often veering from extreme closeness and love (idealization) to extreme dislike or anger (devaluation)
  • Distorted and unstable self-image or sense of self, which can result in sudden changes in feelings, opinions, values, or plans and goals for the future (such as school or career choices)
  • Impulsive and often dangerous behaviors, such as spending sprees, unsafe sex, substance abuse, reckless driving, and binge eating
  • Recurring suicidal behaviors or threats or self-harming behavior, such as cutting
  • Intense and highly changeable moods, with each episode lasting from a few hours to a few days
  • Chronic feelings of emptiness and/or boredom
  • Inappropriate, intense anger or problems controlling anger
  • Having stress-related paranoid thoughts or severe dissociative symptoms, such as feeling cut off from oneself, observing oneself from outside the body, or losing touch with reality.
Eliot’s Party - a glamour spell to make you look more collected than you feel.

Originally posted by shmazarov

*inspired by Elliot’s cool and collected exterior even when he’s falling apart*
(this spell cannot and should not be used to mask a serious mental illness from others when you need help; if you try to do this the spell will not work. Its simply for days when you dont quite feel your best and need to be on your toes i.e.: didn’t sleep well but need to look good for an important meeting.)

- White + Purple Candles (Calm, Regality)
- Tigers eye (self- control + Balance)
- Obsidian (secrets)
- Smokey Quartz (glamour)
- Lavender (oil, lotion, face mist, fragrance, what ever you have)
-  a mirror

- light your candles
- set your stones out in front of them. 
- Take your Lavender out. set it in front of the crystals. 
- pull energy from your candles, and push it into the crystals. 
- move your crystals so they surround the lavender and let the energy get sucked into your lavender. 
- if its an oil, diffuse it or put it in a carrier oil. 
- For a diffused Oil, walk through the mist once or twice. 
- For a lotion, fragrance, or face mist, apply as you would normally. 
- Put yourself together as you would for the event to which you are going. 
- come back to your candles, and meet your eyes in the mirror. 
- Say/think : “ i didn’t sleep well, I’m not feeling right, i tried really hard, but i still lost the fight. Regardless i have things to do, I’ve got to move, so even if I’m not up for calculus, I know i look damn fabulous.”
- blow out your candles and take your amazing self out to conquer the world. 

- Aesa <3 
This is my original spell, please do not repost without my explicit permission. Reblogging is okay, Reposting is not. 

To those living with depression, anxiety, bpd, autism, anorexia, bulimia, physical disabilities, severe phobias, schizophrenia, trauma or any other mental/serious physical illnesses: thank you for being strong, extraordinary human beings. I know you hear this often (at least I certainly hope you do), but you are beautiful, resolute people, and you deserve so much more support & appreciation than you receive. Thank you for coming this far, and I’m rooting for you as you continue to fight.

On Writing Dark Fiction

Anonymous asked: “I was looking through writing tips and saw something about writing dark stories. It says how “dark” does not mean twisted, brutal, or gory. Then I wondered, what is it exactly?”

Hmmm… That was probably not one of my writing tips, but whoever said it is kind of right. Dark when applied to fiction kind of has its own connotations and it’s not really synonymous with horror at all. 

Keep reading

Myth: bipolar disorder is just another name for mood swings.
Fact: bipolar disorder is a serious mental illness with mood swings that interferes with one’s function.

Myth: psychiatric illness is result of a bad relationship.
Fact: psychiatric illness has a genetic and environmental component. Bad relationships being one of several factors.

Myth: is once you have depression you will never achieve your full potential.
Fact: some of the most successful people have depression. Like Oprah Winfrey.

Myth: all patients with schizophrenia are dangerous.
Fact: only a small portion are.

Myth: ADHD is a new way to explain bad behavior.
Fact: ADHD is a psychiatric illness with proven treatment.

Myth: suicide is not a problem in the US.
Fact: suicide is the 10th leading cause of death in the US.

Source: global medical education

To Heal Ancestral Wounds

Ancestral wounds can be seen in cycles of abuse, genetic predisposition to addiction and mental illness, and the current, lingering impact of old traumas from times of war or hardship.

The following is NOT a solution or cure to serious mental or physical illness, but rather intended to aid in the healing process. By focusing on breaking the chain of hurt on an emotional and spiritual level, you can begin finding peace for yourself, and for those who came before you–whether your immediate family, or your great great great great grandparents and beyond.

Begin your meditation or ritual in the manner that works best for you. When your mind is focused, repeat these words until you begin to feel some relief:

Untie the knot sewn by my ancestors’ pain. Unravel the fear** woven into my blood.”

When you’re ready to stop (ideally when you feel better, but also if the emotions become too intense), conclude with this:

All will be healed, all is healing.”

After you’re finished, do something grounding and mundane. Watch a tv show, eat, wrap up in a blanket. It’s important to give yourself time to rest after doing emotional work.

If you’re like me, a lot of times the actual effects of this kind of meditation won’t be seen and felt until later. Don’t be discouraged if you don’t feel different right away. Healing doesn’t happen in a single session, and alleviating wounds passed onto you by your predecessors is a long (but worthwhile) process .

**Replace this word with whatever you are seeking to release.


Depression is a serious mental illness, if you are going through something like this or know someone else, please seek therapy and/or try medication. And it’s important to make sincere Dua and to put your trust in Allah.