sensible reason

Back to waiting

I mentioned while I was on my talking tour a few weeks ago that we were a couple of days out from announcing some of the casting for Good Omens. Which I said because that was what I’d been told was happening, and because I’d just written my quotes for the press release.

I just learned that the BBC and Amazon are holding off on announcing because of reasons. (Sensible ones.)

You probably have a month left to speculate, place your bets, and hypothesise. Who will play Crowley? And who Aziraphale? And what about Witchfinder Sergeant Shadwell?


“How to love your depressed lover.

Last night I thought I kissed the loneliness from out your belly button. I thought I did, but later you sat up, all bones and restless hands, and told me there is a knot in your body that I cannot undo. I never know what to say to these things. “It’s okay.” “Come back to bed.” “Please don’t go away again.” Sometimes you are gone for days at a time and it is all I can do not to call the police, file a missing person’s report, even though you are right there, still sleeping next to me in bed. But your eyes are like an empty house in winter: lights left on to scare away intruders. Except in this case I am the intruder and you are already locked up so tight that no one could possibly jimmy their way in. Last night I thought I gave you a reason not to be so sad when I held your body like a high note and we both trembled from the effort.
Some people, though, are sad against all reason, all sensibility, all love. I know better now. I know what to say to the things you admit to me in the dark, all bones and restless hands. “It’s okay.” “You can stay in bed.” “Please come back to me again.” -Thank you Donna-Marie Riley for the quote and inspiration, and thank you to my amazing boyfriend for helping these images come to life ❤️


I knew a lady very like your sister — the same impulsive sweetness of temper — who was forced into, as you put it, a better acquaintance with the world. The result was only ruination and despair. Do not desire it, Miss Dashwood.

➥ Vocabulary Tips - Adjectives Part 1

Appearance Adjectives

「height / stature / size

  • tall - very tall, quite tall, six feet tall, long, high, big, colossal, gigantic, huge, immense.
  • short - not very tall, petite, low-set, compact, little, small, squat, tiny, miniature.
  • medium - average height, middle height, half tall, half short.

「weight / skin

  • thin - quite thin, slim, slender, skinny.
  • fat - medium-build, overweight, rounded, chubby, corpulent.
  • skin - pale, pallid, light, dark, tanned, olive, white, brown, rosy.
  • shape - broad, crooked, curved, flat, narrow, round, square, wide, massive, straight.

「hair / eyes

  • color - dark, black, red, brown, blond, chestnut brown, white, gray, blue, green, light-blue, dark-gray, grayish-blue, amber, caramel.
  • style - long, short, medium-length, shoulder-length, afro, asymmetric cut, beehive, bob cut, bowl cut, bunches, buzz cut, cropped, curtained hair, dreadlocks, fringe/bangs, hime cut, pixie cut.
  • hairdo - straight, curly, wavy, thick, thinning, bald, shiny, smooth, neatly combed, dull, tousled, disheveled, ponytail, braid, updo, bun.


  • young - kid, baby, toddler, newborn, preteen, teenage, teen, junior, minor, infant, tween, youngsters.
  • old - elderly, older, mature, senior, experienced, middle-aged, adult, grown up. 
  • number - twenty years old, in her thirties, about forty.


  • intelligent - broad-minded, sharp, keen, bright, quick, agile, wise, clever, smart, precocious, gifted, witty, ingenious, savvy. 
  • stupid - narrow-minded, silly, foolish, idiot, fool, ignorant, slow, dumb, dull, brainless, dummy, moron, imbecile, uncultured.


  • friendly - pleasant personality, good-tempered, good-natured, easy-going, sociable, outgoing, extroverted, energetic.
  • independent - strong, tough, mature, autonomous, self-confident, self-reliant, self-sufficient.
  • honest - dependable, reliable, trustworthy, reasonable, sensible, honorable, sincere, direct, downright, truthful.
  • disciplined - organized, hard-working, careful, prudent, cautious.
  • modest - shy, timid, wary, humble.
  • observant - attentive, alert, perceptive, insightful, thoughtful, considerate.
  • humorous - amusing, funny, comical, laughable.
  • generous - unselfish, kind, kind-hearted, gentle, benevolent, sympathetic, tolerant, helpful, careful.
  • interesting - fascinating, exciting, entertaining, stimulating. 
  • elegant - exquisite, graceful, refined, fine, tasteful, neat, high-class, fancy, glamorous, dressy, magnificent, important, powerful, famous, rich.
  • beautiful - attractive, gorgeous, handsome, ravishing, pleasing, glorious, splendid, goddess, god-like, pretty, beauty, resplendent, fine, stunning, good-looking.
  • adorable - lovable, lovely, sensitive, adorable,sweet, angelical, angelic, cute, precious.
  • glowing -  shiny, vivacious, sparkling, twinkle, shining, vibrant, radiating.
  • code - formal, official, informal, relaxed, casual, old-fashioned.
  • hostile - aggressive, violent, offensive, hateful, bitter, ferocious, furious, savage, fierce, bloody, grotesque, boorish.
  • unfriendly - unsociable, bad-tempered, pushy, selfish, egotistical, inconsiderate, arrogant, moody, stubborn, imprudent, stingy, miserly, snobbish . 
  • dishonest - unreliable,  unreasonable, unpredictable, irresponsible,  impulsive, greedy, dull, undisciplined, disorganized, careless, greedy.
  • strange - odd, weird, eccentric, crazy, clumsy.
  • boring - tedious, tiresome, uninteresting, wearisome.
  • emotional - moody, melancholic, touchy, mushy.

➥ Vocabulary Tips Masterlist

if you have other adjectives that fit this topic, just send me a message. 

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where there’s smoke, there’s usually fire. 

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The highway whizzes past the tinted windows of your cousin’s car, tuning out the sound of his girlfriend singing obnoxiously loud in the passenger seat for favor of the smoke blowing from the boy’s lips beside you. It’s a quiet night, the four of you deciding to ditch the rest of the group in order to have some real, unchaperoned fun. He hadn’t driven up there with the rest of you guys, but there was something alluring about being able to sit in the tiny back seat of your cousin’s car with him that caused you to insist you were completely fine scrunching up, watching puffs of vape leave his puckered lips.

Namjoon’s lips.

It smells of candy, the vapor cool and tickling the skin of your legs as they bump against his in the cramped space. Kim Namjoon had only been a recent acquaintance, a friend of your cousin’s that he had introduced you to, but it was fairly obvious the two of you had the potential to become good friends quickly, understanding one another in a way most people couldn’t after just one brief ‘hello’ and ‘how are you’.

He’s tall, broad yet lanky, with a quiet attractiveness about him that seems to continuously be bringing you close throughout the night, like a magnet or a moth drawn to flame. Everything he says feels like it means something more, like there’s something between the lines he’s expecting you to be reading. Like a book, full of words in black and white that lay out every detail, yet so completely open to interpretation depending on the audience. With a low sigh, you let your head loll to the headrest behind you, seeing a concerned look pass from Namjoon’s face to you out of your peripheral just as you begin glazing over into your thoughts.

“You alright?” Namjoon asks, lips parted slightly to reveal the white of his teeth.

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FICTION: In ITV’S Victoria, the young queen is seen thinking, from their first meeting, Albert was unattractive, awkward, dull, and even a “stupid boy.”

FACT: Victoria was smitten with Albert the moment she met him. On his first visit in 1836, she wrote

 “Albert, who is just as tall as Ernest but stouter, is extremely handsome ; his hair is about the same colour as mine ; his eyes are large and blue, and he has a beautiful nose and a very sweet mouth with fine teeth ; but the charm of his countenance is his expression, which is most delightful.”

After she got to know him, she was enchanted by his lovely charms

Dearest Ernest and dearest Albert are so  grown-up in their manners, so gentle, so kind, so amiable, so agreeable, so very sensible and reasonable,  and so really and truly good and kind-hearted. They have both learnt a good deal, and are very  clever, naturally clever, particularly Albert, who is the most reflecting of the two, and they like very  much talking about serious and instructive things  and yet are so very very merry and gay and happy,
like young people ought to be ; Albert used always to have some fun and some clever witty answer; he used to play and fondle Dash funnily, too.

On the day of Albert’s departure she wrote

Dearest Albert was playing on the piano when I came down. At 11 dear Uncle, my dearest beloved Cousins….left us, accompanied by Count Kolowrat. I embraced both my dearest Cousins most warmly, as also my dear Uncle. I cried bitterly, very bitterly.

Often one does not affiliate Taurus, Virgo or Capricorn with mystic qualities because they are earthbound, heavily relying on touchable substance and the practicality of their worldly senses. “I need to see it to believe it” could be their unspoken motto. Earthy temperaments are well capable of encountering spiritual closeness however, as they are more likely than anyone to approach mystic practices carefully, reasonably, sensibly and thoughtfully, retaining good-judgment and applying their senses accordingly, even beyond the physical realm. 

Taurus ~ Governs resourcefulness, wisely utilizing the senses in both domains. Governs value, to understand and develop appreciations, whether material or impalpable, to see with clarity what is authentically beneficial and strengthening to their spirit.

Virgo ~ Of two worlds, the dual mind (mercury), grounded body (earth) and interested in any forms of their cultivation, refinement, purification and improvement whether it be physical, mental, or spiritual.

Capricorn ~ Ruled by the archetypal Wizard, Alchemist and Sage (Saturn) able to master the human and spiritual experience and develop timeless wisdom regarding both worldly and intangible disciplines.

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Outlander music: Claire lies awake in bed, breathing heavily as she thinks of Jamie in their room at Lallybroch

Go Go ‘Power Rangers’ (2017 Review)

Is this good? Is this bad? Will my inner-child allow me to judge this appropriately?

“Power Rangers” is a reboot of the classic 1990s action-packed children’s show “Mighty Morphin Power Rangers,” which in turn is based on the Japanese tokusatsu “Super Sentai Series.” It’s directed by Dean Israelite and stars a cast of young actors, as well as Bryan Cranston, Bill Hader and Elizabeth Banks. The film is set in the small, fictional town of Angel Grove, where local high school students Jason Scott, Kimberly Hart and Billy Cranston (Dacre Montgomery, Naomi Scott and RJ Cyler, respectively) are all caught up in detention. Through a series of shenanigans, they come across Trini and Zack (Becky G and Ludi Lin, respectively) as they all discover an ancient, otherworldly construct. It’s there where they meet Zordon (Cranston) and his robot assistant Alpha 5 (voiced by Hader), and attain the responsibility of becoming a powerful team known as the Power Rangers, and to stop the destruction of an ancient, powerful witch known as Rita Repulsa (Banks). 

This is the absolute perfect “what if” movie. The answer to “what if they remade ‘Power Rangers’ for adults” question. This is the film we asked for, albeit cautiously. We really owe it to franchises such as the “Transformers” series, because without them, this film would be seen as an impossible reach.

Being a millennial, I was very much a child when “Power Rangers” had its long television run, and I stayed true through each incarnation, from “Mighty Morphin” to “Lightspeed Rescue,” and considered myself a retired fan after “Dino Thunder” (I was already in middle school at the time). So yes, shameful as it is, I know my shit. As you can see, I want this to be good. But was it?

Yes. Surprisingly, it was pretty good. It’s not shockingly “I thought this was going to be shit but it ended up being amazingly amazing” good. It’s just good.

Here’s one thing that the film does better than the TV show: the acting. In a great departure from the “Saved by the Bell” mood that the 90s actors gave us, we now have grounded, realistic, rebellious teenagers. These new actors fit the “teenagers with attitude” description way better than the 90s actors ever did. You have Montgomery as Jason, playing the rebel who ends up having to deal with the most responsibility. Scott plays Kimberly, the girl who does a good job of not just being the obligatory female casting, or the fighting damsel-in-distress, unlike the original. The dialogue between these two is usually filled with charm, whether its casual banter or a proclamation of their contempt for Angel Grove. 

But they do something different with the rest of the cast, which helps to modernize them. Cyler as Billy provides the humor and keeps the grittiness from ever getting lower and lower. Of the five teenagers, he is the one with the most charisma But he also serves to represent autistic teens everywhere. Yes, unlike the television counterpart, they made the Blue Ranger autistic, which is a pretty bold and commendable step for something based off a children’s property.

To keep the ball rolling, they then make Becky G’s Trini represent lesbians and confused, oppressed teenagers everywhere. Okay, this film had me at shedding light on autism, but encouraging more LGBT representation? Hats off to you, Lionsgate and Saban. Despite this, I found Becky G’s performance to be slightly annoying until about halfway through the movie, when they developed her much more, and gave her a more integral role in the plot. 

While I praised the rest of the cast, I’d have to drop the axe on Ludi Lin as Zack, the Black Ranger.  Compared to all these convincing performances, Lin’s is absolutely haphazard. The way he is introduced is to set up how much of a cocky outsider he is, so naturally he’s by himself. He then starts speaking to himself, which is one of my absolute biggest pet peeves in a movie. I despise movie moments where normal-functioning people start speaking or quipping to themselves, the only sensible reason being that the writers assume the audience is too dumb to know what the character is thinking. I get it if a character has schizophrenia or another mental illness, or if the words are limited to comedic inner-banter, but not in this case. He’s someone with decent social-competence and no reason to quarrel with himself, other than provide exposition to the audience.

But like Trini, I did find him to be much less annoying when he opened up. They gave him a pretty touching backstory with his own troubles, and they make his motivations really apparent. And just to keep the ball rolling, he’s also the most foreign one of the group, being bilingual, unlike the original black ranger. Now that I think about it, many of the Power Ranger series’ casts don’t feature any overtly foreign characters, apart from maybe of an alien race. 

That is precisely why this casting works. Whether or not you find these characters annoying, you can’t doubt that they’re there for a good reason, and you might even warm up to them as the movie progresses. They also help to introduce bouts of political correctness, but they aren’t preachy or condescending about it (which is really the only good way to go about political correctness). They represent people of various colors, mental states and social capabilities, showing (but not telling) that everyone is capable of extraordinary things as long as they have camaraderie.

I can’t say much about Cranston as Zordon. It’s a great homage, seeing as how Cranston has actually been a part of “Power Rangers” since the original television show, where he voiced many of the villains they face. I do love his voice-work here, and while it took some getting used to, I ended up really liking how they presented him. Rather than a chubby, floating head in a tube, they made him manifest into a wall, kind of like one of those pinpression toys. Not to mention they could have easily made him a one-dimensional character. But they went above and beyond to give him his own arc, his own set of feelings and doubts, and a world of lore behind him.

If you thought Alpha 5 was annoying in the television show, then you can rest your worries because Bill Hader fixed him up good. The original’s voice was so high-pitched and screechy; basically in typical 90s fashion (or how the 90s thought Aliens would sound like). This time, he just kind of does the same thing he did as Fear from “Inside Out,” except less screaming. His design had me slightly worried but I got used to it.

Now, Elizabeth Banks as Rita Repulsa has me split down the middle. On the one hand, I do like that at least ONE person in this entire film is trying to recall the absurdity and campiness of the original series. At the same time, I found her to be over-the-top, and incredibly outlandish compared to the rest of the grounded cast. She is guilty of overacting here, which is both a blessing and a curse. The prosthetics on her are amazing though, from both start to finish. She starts out as an outright horror character, which is something I didn’t expect to see even in the gritty version of a children’s property. 

If you kept up with me for this long, you know that a recurring theme here is that this film takes several risks that are rather uncharacteristic of a children’s property. Sure, there are hints of silliness to try and match the youthful appeal of the original, but they also throw in more mature bits of humor, about things such as drug tests and jacking off a cow (no joke). Me personally, I welcome these jokes. If anything, this is much more of a film for the adults who grew up watching “Power Rangers,” rather than children. The maturity really shines through in the form of character development and chemistry.

I must say that if you are bringing a child to watch this, keep in mind there will be mild swearing, and several mature jokes.

A common criticism (ad nauseam, pretty much) is that this film is a forced collision between two different movies. Two thirds of the movie is essentially the origin story, which focuses mainly on character development. At the same time, this is the section that appeals to the audience the most, whether you’re fans of the original or not. No one comes into anything titled “Power Rangers” and expects to feel for the characters. But through one particular scene where all the characters develop a kinship, we develop a peculiar attachment to each of them. It was at this moment that I’m glad these people are the ones I’m spending five more movies with (Yup, that’s right).

But when it sticks to the original, it definitely sticks, and that’s where the last third of the movie comes in. If you’re looking for cool looking suits fighting monsters with martial arts and gymnastics, you will get it. If you’re looking for giant robot dinosaurs battling another giant monster, you will get it. And MOST OF ALL, if you want to, at least once, hear the iconic theme song, you will get it. In all it’s pure, epic goodness.

But this is where I have to defend my appreciation for this movie, because many people will come in accusing me of being “blinded by nostalgia.” Despite having these borrowed features from the original show, there is really nothing nostalgic about it. The action here is far better than most of the show’s episodes. There is no silliness to be had apart from what would be silly by realistic standards (as opposed to having two obligatory bully characters).

Even some elements taken from the show are vastly different. Case in point: Rita, who in this film is actually getting shit done by herself rather than sitting up in some moon tower yelling at everyone.

Even the formula of the show is broken up here. Back then, everything was so fast-paced to where every time a new series was brought in, the new team of Power Rangers would unrealistically form intimate familial connection and extraordinary abilities within 20 minutes. This film actually shows you that the Power Rangers had to train for this, both physically and mentally. They didn’t just have these abilities bestowed upon them as a result of the plot rushing it together. You see them work for it, which is something I really appreciated about it.

I had to bring that up because many of the people who didn’t like this film will be quick to see reactions like mine and guilt me for “nostalgia.” But that “tone difference” that they’re faulting this for is the reason why you can’t pin nostalgia on this. All that means is that everything I liked about this film has been on its own merits, maybe (at most) perpetuated by quick little homages to the original. 

I suppose before I wrap this up I should mention one more thing. Not really a problem, but more like something I wish happened: I wish they played the theme song more. It was wonderful hearing the iconic theme song, perfectly borrowed from the 1995 film, and at the height of its “Power Ranger-ness.” But I felt that if they really were gonna throw it in there, they should have totally owned it and at least left it playing for a bit longer. If not that, then at least make an instrumental cover to play in the background during the climax, rather than GODDAMN KANYE.

This is a film that has fans and critics alike split down the middle, but it’s pretty clear that everyone who hates it is hating it for the same two reasons: (1) It has a massive tone-clash towards the end, and (2) It caters way too much toward product promotion for Krispy Kreme donuts. I do agree with the latter, make no mistake. But when I hear people complain about this tone-clash, it reminds me of people who complained about the “slow parts” of every other superhero film, whether it’s “Captain America: Civil War,” or “Batman v Superman.” Apart from being a “Power Rangers” movie, this is also an origin story film. And for something as ridiculous as “Power Rangers,” it definitely requires a slow initiation process. To get us going on a six-movie deal, the creators will have to help casual viewers acclimate to the premise, because chances are the naysayers are the ones who skipped out on this franchise as children, and therefore missed their window of opportunity. Ironic how a movie based on a children’s property requires a mature level of patience from the audience.

As I said before, if you came into this wanting to see colored suits, martial arts, explosions and giant robots, you will get it. If you’re dragged into this film but appreciate elements like character development and chemistry, you will get that too. As someone who enjoys both, I actually would go so far as to say I loved this movie. I don’t care if I’m alone on this, but I can comfortably say that I loved the “Power Rangers” movie.

About Storytelling
  • Max: You know from the set-up, from the initial set-up of the series that Kvothe is alive. He's troubled but he's alive. So whenever he's in mortal peril it lets some of the air out of that tension because you know he makes it through. And it's an amazing feed of storytelling how much your pulse still races because you've given him this very specific fears of his hands being damaged, his very few prized possessions being taken from him...
  • Pat: And that's the conventional thought process. And honestly, you know, a lot of writer go into it, too. It's like you need to threaten somebody's life or else... But here is the thing and it's very sensible: it seems very reasonable, but if the only, if the best tension, came from fear of the protagonist's death nobody would ever read a book twice. [...] There are so many other ways. It's harder and one of the things I'm most proud of. It's easier to kill somebody and break your heart as the reader. But it's like I will break your heart because somebody's shirt got ruined. [...] What breaks your heart is that there is this boy, who wants nothing more than to get in the Archives for his whole life and he can't. It's like I will break your heart over a fucking library card.
  • (Max Temkin and Patrick Rothfuss on "Unattended Consequences", 07/14/15)

Previously on Supergirl Virtual Season: Cat’s kidnapping from Act I, brought to life by @supergaysupercat (ao3 | tumblr). Please leave comments on the art here or their tumblr ask box. You can comment on the AO3 chapter too.

Now on to today’s installment:

Taking a sip of her tea, Kara waded through her research into the Alien Amnesty Act. Her dealings with Mon-El, if nothing else, had given her some more insight into why humans might feel so reluctant to embrace every ungrateful alien who fell to Earth. If he’d been her first impression of humans, she might never have stayed. Growing increasingly annoyed, Kara forced him from her mind.

Snapper had no idea Cat had given Kara an office, one she’d insisted Kara keep after she’d made the choice to become a reporter. Maybe Cat was being kind, leaving Kara one last parting gift with the space, or maybe it amused Cat to know Kara was pulling one over on Snapper since he wouldn’t even let her have a chair. Either way, settling into her secret office made Kara feel closer to Cat somehow.

Out of habit, she clicked her CatCo news tracker to see if her former boss was making any headlines today. Kara missed knowing everything Cat was up to before Cat even knew herself. Her work calendar was blank now, Eve having cancelled all her CEO meetings and trips with immediate effect. All the new articles that cropped up were paparazzi fodder and content generators. Kara barely skimmed them, the pictures too distant and grainy to tell much. Only on the last one did she notice the location. Kahului, Hawaii. Weird. Cat was the only person Kara had ever met who hated Hawaii, and not for a sensible reason like how many damn sharks were in the ocean around the place.

Read the rest of Act II on AO3.

Parenting Mistakes

I think all the talk about participation trophies is bs, mostly because I saw in real-time how Conservatives in the US constructed the myth in the 80s and how it has always been used to attack both the idea that children should feel good about themselves about anything other than pushing around and policing other kids, and the idea parents should be good to their kids; while promoting the idea that kids were properly property that parents ought to be able to treat however they damn well please with zero outside intervention. But also because I frankly never saw the damn things to begin with. I saw plenty of trophies, and all the ones I saw were given out for perfectly sensible reasons, visibly appreciated by the kids receiving them.

BUT, having said that, I DO think there is a certain well-intentioned tendency in the parenting of securely middle-class parents (can’t speak to other classes because this is the only parenting I ever saw) of the Boomer and X gens that had some unintended negative repercussions, and that is the tendency to play down mistakes.

Let me lay a scene:

A child is doing something and they make a mistake. They say to their parent “I’ve made a mistake”. Now these parents, interpreting Dr. Spock’s advice through their own experiences of(almost invariably) having been raised by real assholes whose idea of “parenting” was mean-spirited insults and physical abuse and even worse, respond to this by doing the exact opposite of what they’re parents would have done, they Negate it. “No, NoNo,” the parent says, “it’s fine, it’s Fine! You’re doing perfect :)”

Now, what the parent THINKS they’re doing in this situation is building the child’s confidence in their abilities. What they are REALLY doing, though, is teaching the child to doubt their own ability to assess situations, and particularly their own performance. The child had an idea in their head of how things should have turned out, likely based on instructions. Things didn’t turn out that way and maybe they also realize they didn’t follow the instructions correctly. So they say, based on the evidence, “I made a mistake”. Yet the parent -from a place of kindness!- tells them they didn’t. So they learn that their judgement is flawed. Is it any wonder that kids constantly exposed to this grow up to be perfectionists, to NEED to know they’ve done everything possible in their minds to make something right because they can’t trust how they think or feel about it, who always ask for the opinions of others, particularly superiors, on how their work turned out before moving on?

Instead, I feel like they should have responded like this:

Kid: “I made a mistake”
Parent: “You think so buddy?”
K: “Yes”
P: “Why do you think you made a mistake?”
K:”Because of this.”
P: “Hmm, could be. What do you think you did wrong?”
K: “I think I did this wrong. I was supposed to do THIS, and I did this instead.”
P: “Hmm, well, that makes sense. But Even though you made a mistake, that doesn’t mean everything’s messed up.”
K: “It doesn’t?”
P: “Nope! We can fix it *optional head ruffle* :] *proceeds to troubleshoot the problem or start the project over again with supervision, to avoid the mistake together*”
-End Scene-

This is just as positive, affirms the child’s judgement, teaches them to pay attention to and think critically about their feelings and thoughts and actions, and it shows them that mistakes aren’t this terrible and shameful thing to be avoided, but rather normal, everyday obstacles that can be overcome with dedication, a calm mind, and thinking things through.

There is an alternate to this that is worse. The child, while doing the project, is confused about something and asks for parental advice; the parent says “do it this way.” This way doesn’t work out, and the child says “I made a mistake” or “I did this wrong and it didn’t work”(because, of course, it’s a very rare child who will say to a parent “your advice was wrong” from the get go). The parent then says, “No no; it’s fine, it’s Fine; it’s perfect: Everything is Perfect, you’re just worrying about nothing, don’t beat yourself up about it.”

This is worse because, not only does it do all that the first example does, but it also teaches the child that the parent expects to be treated as if they’re omnipotent and incapable of making mistakes. This has a whole host of other, terrible, repercussions all its own: the child now feels responsible for their parent’s emotional state, they will be anxious over questioning the parent in other, possibly more urgent, situations, they will learn that one shouldn’t admit mistakes and errors leading them to react negatively to them -and moreso to being called on them- in future, and it will make it difficult for them to question authority figures generally, since humans naturally conceive of authority figures through familial/parental metaphor.

And of course, both bad -but well meaning!- responses put the child in a position of having to argue for their mistakes and flaws, against your “defense” of them as something they can never be: a perfect person. AND of having to go against your position if they want to repair the mistake to their liking. These are really shitty positions to put anybody in, let alone a kid.

I mean, I get the impulse, I really do, and obviously there are much worse things parents can do to their children, but it’s really no surprise that a gen raised this way would display the perfectionism, self-doubt, preference for outside input, difficulty finishing projects, and anxiety over performance in formal settings that so often get associated with Millennials.

I was reading a thing about how to know when to get various mobility aids, and the section on wheelchairs was basically ‘look no one wants a wheelchair for no reason, if you are thinking ‘should I consider getting a wheelchair’ then it’s probably well past time for you to do so’

and just

called out. called out by a blog post. how dare.

The Raven King, Chapter 13 – The Birth of Responsible Neil Josten

In which our favourite angsty runaway finally starts being useful, Andreil engage in some hot ab-touching, Wymack Knows™ things and I sense yet more Hufflepuffs dawning on the horizon.

Sounds good? Then it’s time for Nicki to read The Raven King.

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deltapairofsocks  asked:

Why do you say Hope is the strongest Aspect? I could see other aspects being able to beat it quite easily. Say Light the more you innately know the less belief there is. A good light player could potentialy trick a hope player into not believing in them selves eradicating ALL OF THERE POWER.

Oh buddy. 

You are thinking about this totally the wrong way. That is to say, you are thinking about this the way any sensible, reasonable, well-adjusted person should think about it.

Hope is not a sensible, reasonable, or well-adjusted aspect.

For a normal person, believing something is based on evidence. You see the evidence, you come to the conclusion. For example, “Ah, that chair over there is blue! I know this, because I can see it. With my eyes.” If it turns out the evidence was faulty, or that evidence goes away, so does the belief. “Oh! I thought the chair was blue, but you turned the lights off and now it looks white. It must have been a blue light. My mistake!” A Light player (or hell! even Void or Mind players!) could handle that easy and take them out just as you described.

Hope does not work like that. Hope works the exact fucking opposite of that. Hope takes the end goal first and then finds evidence for it. Hope decides the chair is fucking yellow and will pull out six different degrees in batshit to prove their point.

Which is a fucking. bitch. to try to fight against. 

Ever argued with a little kid who wants their own way? Ever argue with someone who insists that they’re the reincarnation of Jesus? A cultist or a racist or a narcissist or hell, literally anyone who refuses to see reason? You can’t win arguments with Hope players, because Hope players are off their collective rocker and we will. not. budge. 

Hope players will read A Series of Unfortunate Events and be certain of an upcoming happy ending. Hope players will look at the fact that Homestuck is over and still expect Nepeta to come back. Hope players can watch the seconds tick down until certain death and know that they’ll be all right, without reason, without evidence, not because it’s sensible but because it’s us

If you actually believe something, it doesn’t feel like belief. It just feels like that’s how the world is. You believe the sky is blue. You believe you’re a human being. You believe you have certain limitations and that things are the way they are for whatever reason. A Hope player is powerful because they see a completely different world that relates in absolutely no goddamn way to ours, and they can have a million different people telling them they’re wrong for a million different reasons, but they’ll drag their version of reality into ours and plant over the top through nothing but force of will. 

There’s only one truth. But there are an infinite number of ways to be wrong, so god dammit a Hope player’s gonna compile every fucking one of them into a single cardboard tube and thwap you over the head until you admit they’re right.

It doesn’t matter if they actually are right. What matters is they won’t stop thwapping until you admit it. Until reality itself fucking admits it.

I hope you never actually have to go up against a Hope Player. We are terrifying and cannot be stopped. God would not have mercy on your soul, for there would be no God outside of the one the Hope player fucking decided for you. We are the strongest aspect.

We. *thwap* are. *thwap* the. *thwap* strong-. *thwap* -est. *thwap* as-. *thwap* -pect. *thwap*

Hope this helped! ^U^

things that were absolutely wonderful and fantastic about tonights episode: showing that robert is well within his rights to still care and be concerned about aarons wellbeing by having aarons family see his altogether sensible reasoning, all the while giving aaron the space to say robert can’t really dictate how aaron deals with this breakup. also, giving aaron a positive support system rather than having him run himself into the ground. 10/10, ed.

faux amis #2

again, the weird noise you hear is me laughing at you. not soz. good luck.

faux amis #1

- spectacle (m) : show / montrer, v : to show / montre (f) : watch

- entrée (f) : appetizer, entrance / plat (m) principal : entrée

- principal-e : main (adj), headmaster (n) / main (f) : hand 

- chat (m) : cat / conversation (f) : chat

- animal (m) de compagnie : pet / pet (m) : fart

- lunettes (f) : glasses, spectacles / glace (f) : ice cream, mirror (fam)

- rendez-vous (m) : appointment

- tissu (m) : fabric / fabriquer, v : to build

- facture (f) : bill / facteur/trice : mailman

- étiquette (f) : label / label (m) : label (music thingy)

- licenciement (m) : redundancy (job loss) / redondant-e : duplicative

- risque (m) : hazard / hasard (m) : randomness, chance / chance (f) : luck

- infect-e : vile / ville (f) : city

- engagement (m) : agreement, commitment / fiançailles (f) : engagement

- ignorant-e : unaware of

- foot(ball) (m) : soccer / pied (m) : foot

- désavantage (m) : handicap / handicap (m) : disability 

- pneu (m) : tire / tirer, v : to pull, shoot/fire

- voiture (f) : car / car (m) : bus, coach / coach (ep) : physical trainer

- facilité (f) : easiness, ex : c’est d’une facilité enfantine!

- magasin (m) : store / store (m) : blind / aveugle (ep) : blind

- nouvelle (f) : short story, news / roman (m) : novel

- avertissement (m) : warning / publicité (f) : advertisement 

- défaut (m) : flaw

- habits (m, pl) : clothes  / habitude (f) : habit

- conducteur/trice : driver / chef-fe d’orchestre : conductor (music)

- soulagement (m) : relief / relief (m) : landscape

- confidence (f) : secret / confiance (f) : confidence, trust

- aptitude (f) : ability / habileté (f) : skillfulness 

- personnage (m) : character / caractère (m) : personality 

- apologie (f) : praise / excuse (f) : apology

- douche (f) : shower

- draguer, v : to flirt with / traîner, v : to drag / entraîner, v : to train 

- allée (f) : aisle / aile (f) : wing / aller, v : to go / ruelle (f) : alley

- délai (m) : wait, time limit / retard (m) : delay

- four (m) : oven / quatre : four

- laisser aller, v : indulge / indulgence (f) : leniency

- fichier (m) : file / file (f) : queue / filer, v : to run away (fam)

- délivrer, v : to set free / livrer, v : to deliver

- tombe (f) : grave / grave, adj : serious, ex : il a eu un grave accident

- reprendre, v : to resume / résumé (m) : summary

- problème (m) : issue / issue (f) : exit 

- prise (f) de courant : socket / socquette (f) : short sock / globe (m) oculaire : eye socket

- physicien-ne : physicist / médecin : physician 

- prendre sa retraite, v : to retire / retirer, v : to withdraw, take off

- heurter, v : to hit / faire mal, blesser, v : to hurt

- embrasser, v : to kiss / enlacer, v : to embrace

- assumer, v : to take responsibility for/be proud of / supposer, v : to assume 

- itinéraire (m) : route / route (f) : road

- chemin (m) : path, way (if you’re lost) / cheminée (f) : chimney

- tape (f) : slap / taper, v : to hit 

- scotch (m) : tape / bourbon (m) : scotch

- phrase (f) : sentence / locution (f) : phrase

- exiger, v : to demand / demander, v : to ask

- fournir, v : to supply / supplier, v : to beg

- clairement : definitely / définitivement : once and for all

- pénible : onerous / onéreux/euse : expensive (rare)

- cher/chère : expensive, dear (chère maman, …)

- fou/folle : maniac / maniaque : fussy, clean freak

- gentil-le : nice / aimable : gentle

- grand-e : tall / grandiose : grand

- raisonnable : sensible, reasonable / sensible : sensitive

- ancien-ne : old / antique : ancient

- chanceux/euse : fortunate / fortuné-e : wealthy 

- formidable (ep) : terrific / terrifiant-e : horrific 

New Wincest Fic: A way to keep busy

Title:  A way to keep busy

Pairing: Sam Winchester/Dean Winchester

Rating: E/NC17 

Warnings: underage - Sam is 17

Summary:  Fora prompt from @glass-closet: Dean is feeling angsty, but Sam knows the perfect way to cheer him up. Hope you like it!!


Dean’s been acting like a dick all day. Sam got home from school hours ago to find a moody, sullen brother sulking at the kitchen table, pulling apart the empty cereal box left over from the morning. The local newspaper (Local man gets lucky with giant marrow) is already shredded next to him.

“Hey,” he’d said, throwing his backpack down on the spare chair. Dean had just grunted in response, not raising his eyes or otherwise acknowledging Sam. There were none of the usual questions: how was your day? do you have much homework? were people nice to you or do I need to beat anyone up?; just Dean staring at the table in silence.

Sam had shrugged and headed towards their room to do their homework, used to occasional moodiness from his brother. As he walked through their small rental house, it had become blindingly obvious why Dean was in such a bad mood: their Dad’s stuff was gone and Dean was not. Clearly, Dad had gone on a hunt that hadn’t required Dean’s presence, which always left Dean feeling useless, and therefore angry. Sam had dealt with this before and he knew it would pass.

But now, hours later, Dean is still sat at the same spot at the kitchen table. Sam’s homework is finished and his reading done; but Dean doesn’t appear to have moved.

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