sense of inferiority

sorting kids by ‘intelligence’ and ‘giftedness’ is literally useless, even harmful by promoting a sense of superiority/inferiority, and strongly works to reinforce the class system thru the lie of meritocracy, and all kids deserve the same quality of education and to be treated with an equal capacity for learning thats my hot take for today

Inferior Se

What people think inf Se is like:
-Hiiisssss! Sunlight!
-Noooooo! Me no like outside!
-Excercise? Eww.
-“Can you turn down that music? It’s stressing me out.”
-Parties/Concerts/Conventions/Clubs = THE DEVIL INCARNATE
-99% of the time=never think of sensor things, 1% of the time=drinking, sex, and all that jazz
-Leaves the house naked on accident


What inf Se is actually like:
-I was gonna diet, but nah
-Sorry can you repeat everything you just said, I wasn’t listening
-You’re birthday? Hon I forgot how old I was yesterday bullshit I remember YOUR birthday
-Exercise for fun? Why?
-Now where did I put my self-control?
-I thought I was fine, but I’m actually freezing!
-I should write this down
-Man check out this bruise! -Fuck it, why not?

Sometimes I feel such strong love for a person, it’s like a violent attack. I need to do something to vent it, be it in the form of affectionate touch, creating art, gift-giving, or maybe just throwing something at them.
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INFP thoughts

affectionate INFP violence is real.

Virgo - Fragile Bird 

“If I look perfect, and do everything perfectly, I can avoid or minimize the painful feelings of shame, judgment, and blame.” - Brenne Browne 

An emphasised focus of the Virgo’s journey is the purification process. Virgo is the sign of cleansing and detoxing. A proportionate part of the Virgo nature relentlessly and tirelessly attempts to erode their sense of shame. The ego finished construction in Leo, and it certainly wasn’t built to last. It faces its first conflict in Virgo. After the glare and applause of Leo the star was discarded. And Virgo is suddenly overwrought with guilt, like the lights have gone out and the whole time they didn’t hear anyone suffering. Now it seems to be all that the Virgo can hear. It becomes important for Virgo to develop awareness of the world beyond the ‘only me seeing eye’ produced in Leo. Instead of seeking the acclaim of centre stage, the individual takes a step back and retreats to the back of the show. Virgo can feel so consumed with shame and disgrace that she decides out of sight is out of mind, and attempt to remain invisible as possible. Virgo is a sign associated with responsibility, self discipline, and self regulation. The Virgo can feel intense and disproportionate shame for the most mundane of human activities like eating, sleeping in, or accidentally spilling something. There is an ego fighting wildly in Virgo, aware of its inevitable departure. And it resides with the heart and hands of a saint whose active will is pure altruism and entirely void of ego. It can create the confusing internal conflict confronted by Virgo as they endure the ego’s cracking whip and the heart’s seemingly inherent sense of strain and disgrace, desiring only to recognise and assist people that they feel deserve the rest and rectitude, that being anybody but themselves. The blinding image of perfectionism conceived by the Virgo mind flashes continuously, hauntingly, and only increases the sense of inadequacy and inferiority. 

Virgo is being punished by the ego. Leo was already fatally wounded by her ego. In Leo the ego was crowned and grandiosity balloons into disproportion. It toyed with Leo by pumping her full of praise and compliments, then it suddenly switches off the bright lights and taunts its victim cruelly. Leo is at the ego’s its hostage and it wants to be recognised and appraised. It tells Leo she will be nothing without it. In Virgo, it’s the opposite assault occurring. The ego desires to dissolve any semblance of self worth and value until she becomes a shell of herself, trapped in the ego’s unrealistic demands and feeling to worthless to even put up a fight. The Virgo can undergo this punishment because it’s her obligation to begin the corroding process, the battle that she will begin and Scorpio will finish. She must recognise, understand, and integrate the conditions and needs of other people into their own personal experience. Despite all of this, the Virgo is also being reprimanded by the inner saint for the acknowledging the ego at all, and her supposed selfishness and self gratifying behaviours. Yes, even the divinely saint inside Virgo is a perfectionist. This is why the Virgo can become very self restricting and critical. She can view herself as contaminated or poison and sense body aches, pains, and diseases that don’t exist. Perceiving herself as inherently defiled, the individual feels alien and revolted in her own body. She can force herself through destructive conditions like hardline routine, famine, compulsive exercise, exhausting work scheduling, extremely high goals in schooling, basically wherever she can direct obsessive and anxious energy into the pursuit of unattainable images. Through all of this, Virgos will drop everything in a moment to help somebody in need. And sometimes the greatest act of service she could do for us would be taking a moment for herself to reflect on the qualities that endear and delight loved ones. The qualities like wit, proficiency, reliability, and intelligence and quirkiness that make her a real saint. She needs to realise that without her flaws she would cease to exist at all. In recognising her greatness she serves humanity. 

-C.

INFJ vs INFP: 5 Ways To Distinguish Them

So guys most of the people who are interested in MBTI and Types are often confused about the differences between INFJ and INFP. Those two are the most easy to be mistyped. Personaly I’ve been mistyped as an INFJ but now it’s clear I’m an INFP.
In this post I’ll write some important differences to tell them apart.

1. Judging and Percieving
These types may seem to be the same, but that last letter changes everythings. The INFJ uses Judging which means they are more methodical, they need some restrictions, orders, rules. They work with a plan and maybe they tend to make a to-do list.INFP however, uses Percieving which means they work in a more playful way. They don’t see the importance of so many rules and they want to express themselves, so orders and plans are not their thing. 

2. Cognitive Functions
INFJ = Ni > Fe > Ti > Se                                                                              

INFP = Fi > Ne > Si > Te

The INFJ might be a Judging type, but they are driven by a Percieving function which is called Ni (Introverted iNtuition). Ni is their dominant function and it is about understanding the big picture of humanity. They take in information first and judge or form conclusions second. They percieve information from symbols, patterns etc. After that, they sum everything up and conclude. INFJ see the world for what it means and they fill the gaps. On the other hand, the INFP uses Percieving but they are driven by a Judging function, called Fi (Introverted Feeling). Fi is like a personal compass of right and wrong. It judges first and percieves ideas second. Fi wants to decide based on strong, personal values and it has a powerful ethical code it should follow. INFP wants to decide first and take information later. They see everything in a personaly way (Fi). 

What is more, INFJ’s auxiliary function is a judging fuction, called Fe (Extraverted Feeling). Fe wants to create harmony and maintain balance in social norms and relationships. It won’t be happy until everyone else is happy. However, INFP’s auxiliary function is Ne (Extraverted iNtuition), a percieving function. Ne wants to brainstorm. It sees all possible outcomes and all the options. It jumps from idea to idea, without considering if those ideas have something in common. 

As for the tertiary functions, INFJ uses Ti (Introverted Thinking) and INFP uses Si (Introverted Sensing). Ti is about understanding how and why the world works. It is very logical and seeks consistency. Si is about recalling past experiences and comparing them with the present. It seeks nostalgia and comfort. 

Last but not least, the INFJ uses Se (Extraverted Sensing) as their inferior function which means that under stress the INFJ avoids external stimulation because it is so into its head and it loses touch with the world around it. Also, INFJs might enjoy sensory pleasures (food, alcohol, addictions, sex) when under stress and they hate intense things such us weird smells, tastes, many colours, noises etc. The INFP uses Te (Extraverted Thinking) as its inferior function and Te wants think things through a lot, but without doing anything to make it happen. INFP under stress can also be extremely critical, harsh, overly directive, sarcastic and may be obsessed with fixing errors, correcting others, mispellings, giving orders, grammatical or vocabulary mistakes etc.

3. Absorbing and Mirroring emotions
The INFJ tends to absorb emotions. This means that when someone has a problem, the INFJ won’t just listen, but they will absorb other’s emotions into their heart… They focus on other peoples’ emotions. They actually feel exactly the way you feel. Due to their aux Fe, they know what you feel. They see your feelings more objectively.

The INFP tends to mirror emotions. This means that when someone has a problem, the INFP won’t fully feel the way you do. They do imagine your pain though and they really understand your feelings, but due to their dom Fi, they feel things in a personal level only. They see your feelings more subjectively.

4. Social chameleon or different snowflake?
Yes, both INFJs and INFPs seek interpersonal harmony. Yes, they both avoid conflict. Yes, they both are complex and think in a different way. However…
INFJs are social chameleons. They keep everything balanced and they try to maintain harmony no matter what that means, even sacrifing personal convenience. Moreover, INFJs seem a lot more like extraverts because they need relationships and people (Fe). Many times, when in a conversation, they prefer to change their bodies’ language, tone of voice etc., in order to feel more “bonded” and comfortable with others. They may also change the way they talk, the way they move and they look like people who modify their behaviour depending on who they talk with.

INFPs are different snowflakes. They do care about harmony but they will never sacrifice their individuality and internal values just to fit in. They will not be as they must, just for the sake of the greater good. INFPs advocate for staying true to yourself, even if that means ruining the atmosphere. And it’s not about being selfish, but being real and following your heart and your personal ethics only (Fi). When they love something, they’ll talk passionately about it, even if their opinions don’t suit with others’. They want to help people become their most authentic and true self.

5. Desire to be Understood or Validated?
Although both types feel misunderstood, they feel it in a different way.
INFJs feel marginalized. They fear that they don’t fit in and that others don’t get them in a suitable way. This is happening because while they fully understand other people well, other people rarely truly understand them, due to the complexity of their characters. INFJs do not want to change your opinion or to convince you for something. They just want you to understand what they say, what they think. They don’t ask you  to adopt their beliefs, they just want to be understood

INFPs feel similar. They fear that no one could possibly ever get them, but what they fear even more, is that someone may fully understands them. They don’t really want to be understood, because if someone understands them, it means they lost some of their individuality and now they are the same with others. INFPs want to be validated from others that their motives and intentions are good when it comes to their actions and ideas.

To sum up, both types are highly emotional intelligent, complex, sensitive, altruistic and have a lot to offer to the world. Hope now you can type yourself better and understand the things that tell them apart, in order to be a better person..

INTJ Problems

INTJ: *puts something in bag*

30 seconds later

INTJ: Wait, did I put that thing in my bag or nah? 

INTJ: *tries to remember* Shit, I totally didn’t!

INTJ: *checks* Fjdjbds I knew it! I didn’t put it here. Where did I put it omg

INTJ: *randomly checking different zips* 

INTJ: Oh! It was here all along. I knew I wasn’t a careless person who can’t take care of their things

2 hours later

INTJ: Where did I put that thing

Inferior Se overindulgence

A side effect of inferior Se is the helpless way INTJs and INFJs handle cravings. Physical pleasures such as food, relaxation and, ahem, OTHER pleasures, all satiate our senses. Our Se prefers this method of Sensory input but doesn’t know how to regulate it so we often fall victim to overindulgence of such pleasures. I myself am terrible at resisting delicious food and watching hours and hours of Internet content.

INTJ Overstimulation

When I was in 8th grade, my mom forced me to go to the 8th grade dance. Her reason being, “You should go to these things!” and “It’ll be fun; all of your friends will be there!” (Please don’t make your kids do things just because other kids enjoy it.)

At the dance, I ended up sitting in the corner just watching everyone else. I was dreading every moment, and willing people to stop coming up to me and asking what was wrong and if I wanted to join them. (I also remember seriously contemplating whether or not to ask the DJ to turn the music down considerably, but decided against it since that’d mean walking closer to the speakers.)

My few friends eventually dragged me out onto the dance floor, and I almost started crying. The music was so loud I had to cover my ears to stop my head from pounding, and the bass was so strong I could feel it reverberating in my stomach. It made me feel sick and I couldn’t understand how everyone else was jumping around enjoying themselves in the hurricane of noise and people. All I wanted to do was crawl back into my corner and curl up. Which I did, when my ISFJ friend saw my eyes watering and let me go.

That, my friends, is what happens when inferior Se is overloaded and not well developed. I spent the whole day after reading alone in my room, unsure about why I was so exhausted. I haven’t gone to another dance since.

anonymous asked:

Could you describe how the inferior function works for each type? I read about them but I feel I relate to more than one. I must be missing something. Thanks.

Inferior Fi (ExTJ): Lower awareness of what is meaningful to the self; potential to come across as insensitive, harsh, or as lacking an emotional sensitivity; can tend to push one’s own values or emotions aside, sometimes not feeling very comfortable in dealing with or managing them; lower confidence of the internal self; may struggle with needing to focus extensively on others’ emotional needs; may be particularly drawn to things which have affected them personally at some point.

Inferior Fe (IxTP): Low comfort in socially disharmonious situations and in being naturally aware of the general emotional atmosphere; slower to take in and adapt to a socially accepted role; unlikely to “play a role” in situations with others; desire for inclusion or being one with the group; desire to find external harmony; can be held back by fear of creating disharmony; low energy for bending to the needs of others and keeping track of them; may struggle with reaching out for help or advice.

Inferior Ni (ESxP): Lack of foresight in situations in favor of the full, present experience; can neglect to read more into things; low desire to see one thing through to the end very thoroughly and deeply at time; failure to recognize future potential outcomes or consequences; might have less than strongly true feelings of being sage-like counselors and act on this, due to the draw of the inferior function; can be come self-righteous or overly prideful.

Inferior Ne (ISxJ): Preference for staying with what is tried and true; less likely to seek many different possibilities; potentially more closed to or uncomfortable with change and a lot of variation; may unhealthfully seek possibilities in ways such as through gossip about others; desire to explore a playful personality, now and then being very spontaneous and outgoing about their ideas when enthusiastic about them; may enjoy things that incorporate an importance for details and a need for creative brainstorming, such as puzzles big or small.

Inferior Ti (ExFJ): May have lack of structure internally, depending more on social structure with an absence of internal logic; desire to be seen as independent; lack of self awareness in favor of group awareness; may act on social expectations and too easily neglect an internal reasoning about them; drawn to appearance of self-sufficiency.

Inferior Te (IxFP): Tendency to place less value on external organization; dislike or difficulty with social or external structure; low comfort in matters of applying discipline or keeping logistical things such as finances or a schedule in order; draw to the rational but also elusiveness and not great comfort unless more mature in personality; struggle with quantifying practical external things such as time needed.

Inferior Si (ENxP): Little concern for details and particulars; may be less comfortable following the standard ways of doing things, preferring to brainstorm very different possibilities; may struggle with being in tune with one’s own needs and physical self, especially based on past experiences; more subconsciously seeks to incorporate important details of the past; experience tension between the new and different and the standard or conventional; potentially feel torn between sticking to what they have known or know is accepted and chasing a completely different thinking or lifestyle.

Inferior Se (INxJ): Low awareness of the present, especially the physical sense; effect of being lost in the mind and not very present; desire and struggle to put conceptual visions into reality; Ni-Se draw to quality/aesthetic; easily neglecting one’s own physical needs, such as eating or drinking, when more naturally absorbed in the mind; sometimes extremely caught up in in-the-moment activities, but not in a very healthy way most often; disconnect from realizing the negative effects of a situation until it may be too late and overwhelm has already hit.

Thank you for asking, and I hope this is helpful for you!

Se, The Best Inferior?

I have thought this for a while and am very interested to hear what other people have to say on the matter:
Do INXJs have the best inferior?

Inferiors are nearly never a good thing to notice but some are far more detrimental than others. Inf Fe looks exhausting, Inf Ni is scarily dangerous, Inf Fi is kind of sad, but Se isn’t all that bad. It’s worst trait is probably that it is a ‘lazy’ inferior. It’s like a grabby child demanding sweets and naps at in opportune times but is rarely harmful. We also are not often outdoorsy or exercise junkies but that’s no crime or heavy burden.

Name a better inferior to live with, I’ll wait.

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Asking Kodaka Kazutaka about 7 Years of Dangan Ronpa

It’s been about 7 years since Dangan Ronpa 1 came out in 2010. Since then that new IP has grown to include anime, stage shows, manga, and other media and become a beloved series. While the series has been spreading since the release of the first game, the man who birthed it, Kodaka Kazutaka, has become a name that echoes throughout the industry. For Kodaka, who has said he is taking a break from Dangan Ronpa, he looks back over the seven years he has continued the franchise and what he plans to do in the future.

No direct spoilers, just really goddamn long.

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Osomatsu-san PS Vita game translation - Ichimatsu 10 - The human who wanted to become a cat

Ichimatsu: (I said I was going to Hello Work and went out, but… I don’t want to go to Hello Work on such a nice day, and I’m sleepy… ) And there’s no way I’ll be able to get a job in the first place. 

Cat: Meow.  

Ichimatsu: You think so too, Cassie? 

Cat: Meoow, meow. 

Ichimatsu: How kind of you… 

Cat: Meow, meoow. 

Ichimatsu: If only I were a cat, I’d make lots of friends… God, can’t you make me a cat…? I want to be a cat, I want to be a cat, I want to be a cat, I want to be a cat… 

Ichimatsu: … …Zzz …Zzz. 

Cat: Oi, Ichimatsu. Wake up, meow. 

Ichimatsu: Hmm… Meow? !? Soft fur and fluffy legs, ears, hands… This is… !! I’ve turned into a cat. 

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Remembering Order of Functions of an MBTI Type

Okay so someone might have already figured this out, or it may have been common knowledge, but I figured out a way to memorize the order of the cognitive functions for every type. Like for example ENTP is Ne - Ti - Fe - Si and INFJ is Ni - Fe - Ti - Se

It’s hard to memorize because there is 16 types and a distinct order of 4 functions for each type. So I came up with this formula thingy that I use to remember them.

Okay so this is the formula, I am going to try to explain it the best I can. There are four cognitive functions that each type uses. They come in sets of four. 

Let’s start with the dominant function. There is 8 dominant functions you can choose from, which is basically all the functions that exist. So: Ne, Te, Se, Fe, Ni, Ti, Si, Fi  For this purpose, let’s choose Ne as an example.

So far we have Ne - _ - _ - _ 

This is where we will organize the 8 functions into 4 categories (already known categories, I didn’t come up with these)

Extroverted Perceiving Functions: Ne, Se

Extroverted Judging Functions: Te, Fe

Introverted Perceiving Functions: Ni, Si

Introverted Judging Functions: Ti, Fi

In our example here, we chose for our first, or dominant, function to be Ne which is a Extroverted Perceiving Function. Since the first is an Extroverted Perceiving Function, the second is a Introverted Judging Function.

(so if the first function was an Introverted Perceiving Function, the second would be a Extroverted Judging Function)

We have two to chose from in this case. The two Introverted Judging Functions are: Ti and Fi

If we chose Ti, then our example would be: Ne - Ti - _ - _ This is an ENTP.

If we chose Fi, then our example would be: Ne - Fi - _ - _ This is an ENFP.

Our first two functions describe what type we are. Here is a list of all of them.

Ne - Ti -> ENTP

Ne - FI -> ENFP

Se - Ti -> ESTP

Se - Fi -> ESFP

Te - Si -> ESTJ

Te - Ni -> ENTJ

Fe - Si -> ESFJ

Fe - Ni -> ENFJ

Ni - Te -> INTJ

Ni - Fe -> INFJ

Si - Te -> ISTJ

Si - Fe -> ISFJ

Ti - Se -> ISTP

Ti - Ne -> INTP

Fi - Se -> ISFP

Fi - Ne -> INFP

As you can see in all of these types, the second function follows the pattern. If the first is an Introverted Judging Function, the second is an Extroverted Sensing Function. If the first function is an Extroverted Judging Function, the second is an Introverted Sensing Function.

Okay the next two functions are pretty easy to find. Let us go back to the example here:  Ne - Ti - _ - _ 

Ti, the second (auxiliary) function, is an Introverted Judging Function, the third (tertiary) function has to be an Extroverted Judging Function. There are two possibilities for the tertiary function then (Te, Fe), but one of them is extraneous. You cannot have  Ne - Ti - Te - _ because you can’t have two thinking in one MBTI type so it has to be  Ne - Ti - Fe -

The last (inferior) function has to do the same, but it corresponds to the first (dominant) function. In this case we have Ne, an Extroverted Sensing Function. Therefore the last (inferior) function has to be an Introverted Sensing Function. You cannot have Ni, so it is Si. 

There you have it. The complete function stack is: Ne - Ti - Fe - Si

Another way to think about this is like this:

Extroverted Perceiving Function - Introverted Judging Function - Extroverted Judging Function - Introverted Perceiving Function 

or

Extroverted Judging Function - Introverted Perceiving Function - Extroverted Perceiving Function - Introverted Judging Function

or

Introverted Perceiving Function - Extroverted Judging Function - Introverted Judging Function - Extroverted Perceiving Function

or 

Introverted Judging Function - Extroverted Perceiving Function - Introverted Perceiving Function - Extroverted Judging Function

The first and last functions are both judging functions or perceiving functions. The middle two functions are both the opposite. So if the first and last function were judging functions, then the middle two are perceiving functions and vice versa. Also they switch from introverted and extroverted. If the first function is extroverted, the second is introverted, the third is extroverted, and the last is introverted.

So let’s apply this formula to something you might want to do. Let’s say you’re making a post and can’t remember the functional stack for INFJ, how would you go about it?

First you would think of what the dominant function is. It is Ni.

Since you know that Ni is an Introverted Perceiving Function, you know that the second function is an Extroverted Judging Function. You have two options for the second function: Te and Fe. You know that since it is an INFJ it has to be Fe. If it were an INTJ, then the second function would have been Te.

So far you have Ni - Fe - _ - _

Since Fe is an Extroverted Judging Function, the next (tertiary) function has to be an Introverted Judging Function or in this case Ti, because Fi can’t work.

The last function depends on the first, which is Ni. Since Ni is an Introverted Sensing Function, the last function is an Extroverted Sensing Function or in this case Se, because you can’t have Ne.

I hope this makes sense, and if someone already came up with this whole thing, then I’m stating right here and now that I don’t know about it at all. Also, if it is confusing, shoot me a message to my inbox and I’ll answer it. :) 

Thank you so much for reading this ultra long post and I hope it helps. 

Trying to explain inferior Se

I’ve never been certain about how inferior Se works, most likely because I am so out touch with my sensory side.
This is the closest I can get to explaining it:
I do not usually take note of where I am or what I’m doing and I barely ever remember these things. However, when there is a moment of silence and still, I find myself just soaking up my surroundings. Listening to the traffic out my window, the temperature of the air around me, the smells the scene, all of it. And for a moment, it is very pleasant and perfect. Then I become swept up I my thoughts again.

Mistyping and Inferior Fe?

I have quite some history with mistyping myself. When I started getting into MBTI I did what everyone else did and just did a load of tests to see what I generally got. I still remember my first test result being INTP and I remember reading about that type briefly, going “yeah it’s me but not close enough so let’s keep digging” and doing more tests. This would be the start of a long journey of mistyping myself. Being a person with very weak/underdeveloped social skills I also did not have a clear idea of how I generally am as a person. Now, some of you probably understand this problem and how it’s a bit on the not-so-good-idea side of doing more personality tests. I did a lot of tests, found out how to get the results I wanted from letter-typing tests (not very difficult), and just completely lost the point. I typed myself as an INTJ my first year after doing that first MBTI test, asked my mum about what type of person I am since I knew I had absolutely no idea about how I am, and tried to read more about the topic. But, since my brain loses interest in things it can’t understand quickly I kept reading about cognitive functions (and enneagram on the side) little by little, and in the process tried typing people around me to further understand. I was way off, and so where they when I sent them test after test after test, asking about how and why when they got their results. It kept going, and I kept doing tests myself, asked for help with typing (here I think?), and got into ISTJ after a while. (Note: I mistyped myself as INTJ for about a year and then ISTJ for about a year.) The ISTJ online profiles somehow actually fit me, with the poor social understanding of others, off-beat humor, good memory of how things are/have been, and all the threatening what ifs in stressful situations. It was me, but a twisted portrait of me, and one I’ve come to understand doesn’t really fit most actual ISTJs. 

As a person who really has turned themselves inside-out to find out what the truth actually is, about me and about how my brain works, I must say it’s been a wild ride. Actually just typing this I was analysing how this explanation works into the Ti-Ne frame of thought.

What I really wanted to write about though, is the weird way someone with inferior Fe is often portrayed as quite careless about what others think of them and tertiary Fe still cares a lot about what others think. I’ve discussed quickly with a friend with tertiary Fe about how we use the function, because she’s generally good with people and often stays outwardly neutral, knows how to deal with them but generally doesn’t care what they think of her. Her wish has been for people to actually dislike her so they don’t need/want anything from her. My wishes has almost always been the exact opposite. I wouldn’t say I’m good with people, especially those I don’t like, and it’s often visible on me that I don’t like them. Especially if you contrast with people I do vibe with. I can’t fake an interest too much, and usually won’t unless I know I will need something from these people in the future, and I know it’s easier to get if they like me. But I still want people to like me, so that I can get what I want from them (validation?) and still stay important to them. I want people to like me, but I don’t want to like them. My friend wants to like/stay indifferent to people, and wanted for them to not like her. 

The friend mentioned above of course does the same as me sometimes (who doesn’t), but our motives and thoughts about people differ quite a lot. I’m not saying all IxTP/ExTP work with their Fe the way we do, but I do find the contrast funny since it’s often portrayed the other way around.

Inferior functions pull at us, because we’re aware of an imbalance.

A Ne-dom has a sneaking suspicion they ought to be better about details; a Se-dom feels the same about needing a personal vision for their future; a Fe-dom knows they should be less defensive and more analytical; an inferior Fi senses they should have a better connection to their emotional center and values; inferior Ne’s think they should be more creative / think outside the box more; inferior Se’s believe they need to ‘get out’ more and be more proactive; inferior Te’s know they should figure out how to make what they want happen; and inferior Fe knows they have a ‘relationship’ handicap and want to be liked.

There’s two kinds of people for each type, in that sense: those who ignore their inferior function altogether and do not bother to develop it (since it’s hard) and those who realize it’s a weak spot and work on it (often with success). That is why you will find one IXTP who is good natured, cares about others’ feelings, and has a “soft” approach to others, mindful of what they think of them; and another IXTP who is an obnoxious asshole who doesn’t care how people feel.

Or… an ENXJ who knows their logic could be better and reads more to strength it / engages in logical discussions vs the one who throws tantrums if you prod at their weak logic; or the EXTJ who tries to center themselves in projects that matter most to them and consider their relationships with others, vs the one who controls everyone without caring for their feelings; or the ESXP who works on framing a long-term ideal for their life while enjoying the present / thinks about the consequences of their decisions, vs the reckless ESXP who leaves people in the dust as they chase every new possibility; or the ENXP who makes an effort to keep track of details / ground themselves in choosing which ideas are most achievable in the short term vs the one who never finishes anything, or leaps in before they consider the amount of detail involved, and is a flake.

Or the ISXJ who expands their knowledge base and openness to new / different ideas through experiences and research / reading / seeking out Ne people, vs the one who shuts down anything that remotely threatens their small world; or the INXJ who learns to balance their lower sensory impulses with regular sensory stimulus vs the one who either becomes a monk who hates and preaches against anything to do with the sensory world (Gandhi?) or someone who routinely indulges in self-destructive ways; or the IXFP who starts to engage their logical centers and uses them to break down tasks into which order will lead to completion, vs the one who never strives toward any goals.

Tertiary functions often go to war with our auxiliary function.

Your EXTP friend feels being likable is a pain in the butt, because it gets in the way of logical detachment. As an ENFP, I feel like having strong emotional responses / being sensitive is a pain in my butt, because it gets in the way of efficiency (Te). Follow the logic further: as each tertiary function develops (often in your late teen years / 20′s / 30′s) it threatens the function above it; for awhile, people do not instinctively know how to integrate it and cause it to work together with the higher function.

People can shift into an “extreme” and choose a preferred function / use the other one badly (hating Fi so much, I’d rather use Te even if it’s worse… or hating Fe so much, let’s stick with Ti, because it’s better…) which will not help their functions work properly (each function needs its counterpart) or they can struggle for awhile to bring them into harmony, and eventually succeed.

Ti and Fe: you need people to like you, to get things done, and you need logic to back up your ethical judgments in order to remain objective / factual.

Fi and Te: you need the capacity to bring your passions into reality, through logical application and planning, but you also need to be in touch with what you are doing / care deeply about it, or you will not succeed.

Ni and Se: you need to be ready to jump on an opportunity when it arises, even if you have not much time to plan ahead, so that you can bring your vision into reality, and the objectivity to decide if your vision is possible, but you also need to have a vision.

Si and Ne: you need to open yourself up to new ideas and possibilities, in order to gain a better perspective on reality and see the truth of things; but most success relies on one’s ability to attend to necessary details.

- ENFP Mod

05/17 Esquire Duo-Interview, Part II

Link to Part I here.

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Shin: Just like their namesake, idols are idealized beings. Beautiful beings that have been created in the most ideal form so that it’s impossible not to be loved by everyone. And since it’s hard to achieve that kind of existence, once you do get created in such a way, it’s only natural to be afraid to shed the skin of an idol. Of course you’d want to settle with what you’ve got. So the more Jonghyun reveals of himself, and the more he reveals his desire to go out and meet the rest of the world, it could actually make the people around him more anxious.

Kim: To be honest, it’s madness (to try to reveal my true self).

Shin: So why (are you doing it)?

Kim: The reason I had no choice but to do it was because I had (emotional) scars. I’m not just talking about the scars that have been inflicted on me as an entertainer. I’m talking about scars I’ve received as I’ve lived my life. The scars I collect as I continue to live my life. In the words I often use — growing pains. You know how people get stretch marks when they suddenly have a growth spurt? I have stretch marks on my waist, too. When I was young, I once wondered why it was that people had to grow. It was because I didn’t like seeing these stretch marks on myself. ‘If only I could have just stayed the same as I was when I was little, I wouldn’t have gotten these unsightly stretch marks. I wouldn’t have had to go through these growing pains. Why is it that we’re forced to grow?

Jung: You were already a philosopher at that age.

Kim: Ever since I was young, like a dreamer I would imagine things that made absolutely no sense. I found myself engrossed in philosophical questions that had no answer. I think the reason people continue growing even in the midst of pain and suffering is simply to survive. In order to survive, we inflict wounds on ourselves and persevere through the pain. I, too, got scars from trying to grow and I felt a need to bare those scars.

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