selfes as self care

7 Tips for Overcoming Feelings of Inadequacy

1. Remind yourself that you are not who other people think or say you are.

2. Remind yourself that everybody makes mistakes at times, has areas of weakness, and things they want to change.

3. Remind yourself of ways in which you’ve grown and changed with time. You’re not who you once were - so celebrate how far you’ve come.

4. Also, the ending isn’t written and the future isn’t fixed. You’re free to change your image, and an old identity.

5. Identify the lies you have believed about yourself – and work on changing them so they’re more accurate and true. Also, don’t reinforce those lies by acting like you think they’re true.

6. Remember that your feelings are not the same as facts. Don’t live based on your feelings … as that will keep you trapped.

7. Hang out with those who see, and who appreciate, your worth. And take their words to heart, and let them help to build you up.

Positive Message of the Day

Recovery is tough. It’s not a steady climb uphill, it’s not something that just “comes to you” when its ready. It’s a difficult decision that you have to make every single day.

There’s going to be difficult moments. Moments of weakness, moments of shame, moments of setbacks. Don’t give up!

Even if you feel like you’re moving two steps forward and one step back, remember that at the end of the day, you’re still one step forward from where you were and that’s what really matters.

How to Make Friends

People ask me pretty often how I have so many friends. There’s nor right or wrong ways to make friends, but I think there’s several basic principles that help you out. :) With school starting, I thought I would share!

  • Be interested: Show people you care about their lives and you would like to learn about them. Sometimes it can feel a little awkward asking people about their lives, and there’s definitely a point where it looks desperate, but if you are genuinely interested in people and who they are, they will be sure to sense that. Humans sort of like to talk about themselves, haha.
  • Find common ground: Honestly, there is something you’ll have in common with everyone. Sometimes it’s fried okra. Sometimes it’s books. Other times it’s Damon Salvatore. You just have to find it!
  • Be confident in yourself: Confidence is so incredibly attractive. I have developed crushes because people were so adorably and admirably confident about themselves. Also, be yourself – be as quirky as you want. I am a total weirdo but people still talk to me, and since I started out being a weirdo, they are used to it! You should never have to pretend to be someone with your friends.
  • Initiate: I know this can be terrifying for people. Even for me, this is a nerve-wracking step! But you have to spend time with people to get to know them! So talk to them! Say the first hello! Invite them places! Start with something casual and easy – for example, you’re talking about how freaking good gelato is with a friend. You then exclaim, “Okay, now I really want some gelato! Do you want to come with me?” (I mean, honestly, I will go anywhere if there’s gelato involved.) Also, don’t be offended if they say no. Keep it casual, but make that step.
  • Keep in touch: Is it just me or does friendship seem to accelerate once you get social medias? I’ve gotten so much closer to this one girl ever since I’ve gotten her Snapchat. We now talk all day and have like so many bullet journaling dates. It’s epic.
  • Be happy to see them: So one thing I am really blessed to have in my closet friend group is people who make a big deal out of my arrival. I will show up or they will see me and they’ll say “Hannahhh!” and hug me. Do you know how incredibly loved and wanted this makes you feel? if you want to make friends, show your happiness when you see people – even if it’s just a big grin and a “Hey!”

This is not a complete list… there’s plenty of other things you can do to be friendly. I hope this helps you in some way, though. Happy friend hunting. :D