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Those who love you are not fooled by mistakes you have made, or by dark images you hold about yourself. They remember your beauty when you feel ugly; your wholeness when you are broken; your innocence when you feel guilty; and your purpose when you are confused.
—  Alan Cohen
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Don’t save your best dance moves for your bathroom mirror! Get out there and rock that dance floor! Shake them hips! Do those body rolls! 
#TwerkItOutGurl #BustASeam XDD

How to Recover From an Accidental Screw Up

1. Although it’s natural to feel stupid or bad, don’t stay in the pit of self hatred and despair. It doesn’t mean you’re evil, or that nobody should like you. It just means you are human, and this time you got it wrong.

2. Try and gain perspective by looking for exceptions – and remembering those times when you felt proud of yourself. The picture’s not all black – we have good as well as bad days – and other people screw up, and get it wrong, as well.

3. Accept responsibility for what you said or did – but that doesn’t mean you have to also feel ashamed. Often, saying we are sorry or admitting we were wrong will earn respect from others – so they’re happy to move on.

4. Related to this, communicate as fully as you can with those affected, and try to do your part to put things right where they’ve gone wrong. Being part of the solution will change how others see you. So don’t just withdraw, be as helpful as you can

5. Also, no matter how bad the consequences of your actions, the chances are that things will get better over time. Even if things fall apart, and are awful for a while, you can still start again – it doesn’t mean this is the end.

6. Hold your head high again and don’t keep thinking of what happened. You have goals to work towards, and a great future to create.

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2016 has been a tough but very important year so far.  I’ve found a lot of strength, health, & inner peace this year.  I’ve learned to love my small, crooked mouth, my lopsided eyes, my long lashes, my cute tummy, my little breasts, my big, jiggly bum, my frazzly hair, my eye bags, my blue-grey eyes, & my derpy faces.  Loving myself after hating myself, body and soul, for such a long time has been so heavenly & peaceful.  Even on ugly days i can still find things i care about, & i want to protect and respect myself, beauty or not.  I deserve happiness, i deserve love, i deserve comfort.

For those of you who aren’t familiar with art school life, I studied at a prestigious design school internationally ranked the best. As soon as I got there, I was surrounded by hundreds of others from all over the world (but mostly from Korea and for some reason, New Jersey) who were just as skilled, if not better than me and it was intimidating.

Imagine having a limited time to use all your wit, brain-power and research skills to come up with a concept as fast as you can, and then spend HOURS crafting, designing, measuring, illustrating, building, creating. Whether you’re proud or unhappy with your work, when the time is up you have to display in front of your professor and peers and listen while they talk about everything that’s right or wrong with it. And if they ask you questions, you have to arm yourself with intelligent, non-defensive answers. That’s just for one studio class. You’re taking three (sometimes four if you have a time turner) every semester along with writing essays, reading Machiavelli, and memorizing art history dates. That’s more hours of work than someone with a 9-5 spent on projects that might just get criticized when you only want praise and validation. Could you handle that?

Yes you could, if you separate judgement from critique. When you receive a comment, no matter how much it hurts your ego to hear, you have to try to filter the negativity and judgement from it and listen to the message. And when you give a critique, you try to do it objectively and without judgment. It’s not about developing a thick skin, it’s about taming your ego. That’s how you grow.

I’m writing this because so many of you think humility is about wearing turtlenecks and pretending like you hate yourself when really it’s about recognizing the flaws and working to improve.

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Hello, I’m aiden. My tumblr/Snapchat is aiden-ec Instagram/Kik is aiden.ec you can message me on any of those. I’m 16, pre everything. I have no trans friends so no one I know really gets how things are being trans or LGBT+ in general so it will be cool to meet other trans guys.

My experience cosplaying Rey at WW Austin

- some guy: “You know, you’re a real ‘Rey’ of sunshine” *winks* (ugh)

- SO MANY ADORABLE KIDS POINTING AND SAYING “Rey! Hiii Rey!”

- Finding hermit Luke and him not saying anything at all while we took a picture it was beautiful Mark would be proud

- Finding Anakin and Obi-Wan and asking to take a quick picture but then everyone started freaking out and there was a whole crowd taking pics of us for 5 minutes AND ANAKIN LEGIT LOOKED UPSET I’M SORRY YOU WERE CUTE THOUGH

- Fangirling over other Rey cosplayers

- Going to William Shatner’s panel and having all these Trekkies look at me like lol why are u here

- Every single Kylo Ren there stopping to take a pic and flirt or just staring me up and down I DIDN’T LIKE THAT AT ALL WHAT SHUT UP

- Running into the same Kylo Ren multiple times and making come at me bro gestures

- Just feeling the love from other SW fans

anonymous asked:

How about when the crew's s/o just out right files of somewhere else (lets pretend they have their own ship aight not a lion just a smol ship ) to cool off and calm down after a big argument, and it ends up taking them some time to come back, how would they react to finding out they left, and when they come back

Lance:
- he feels so fucking guilty once he finds out you got up and left!! it’s dangerous to go out alone…lord knows how he’d react if you got hurt
- when you come back he immediately has an apology prepared, maybe even a letter! he just wants you to be safe

Keith:
- he might just fucking go after you if someone else doesn’t stop him. like…he knows you’re upset but in his opinion thats a stupid fckin decision to go out alone
- he might scold you a little when you get back tbh. like what would of happened if the galra caught you? he’s sorry for the argument but its hard for him to apologize

Hunk:
- are you trying to give the man a heart attack……he’s going to be grumpy af until you get back. he also feels guilty but mostly grumpy bc he’s not allowed to follow you
- he’s gonna apologize after everyone is sure you have no injuries!! healing comes first

Pidge:
- fuck the rules they are following you even if you specifically say not to. i hope you have a good relationship w/ the green lion bc shes comin after your ass
- probably going to apologize once she finds you. one, for arguing, two, for following you even though you asked her not to jfc

Shiro:
- PANICS……he, out of everyone, knows how dangerous it is to leave alone. he knows you can defend yourself but no one alone can handle a whole fleet of galra or a galra monster if you managed to run into one
- when you come back, he scolds you hard, but the lecture doesn’t end until he’s able to soften up a bit and apologize formally. he feels guilty for fighting, lets not forget