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The Picture of Dorian Gray by Oscar Wilde

“…to influence a person is to give him one’s own soul. He does not think his natural thoughts, or burn with his natural passions. His virtues are not real to him. His sins, if there are such things as sins, are borrowed. He becomes an echo of someone else’s music, an actor of a part that has not been written for him. The aim of life is selfdevelopement. To realize one’s nature perfectly - that is what each of us is here for.” 

What You Should Never Say On A POT/SD Date!

This is going to be one of my rare ‘’shorter’ posts.

Again, a lot of my self help/ relationship advice doesn’t just apply to the sugar community. It applies to everyone that wants to work on their appeal, attraction and confidence.. male or female.

So there are four main things I would avoid talking about on a first date.

1) Weight

Sometimes, as girls, we have the tendency to bring up issues on our weight or body shape  or  body size. The problem with this is that it always comes across as insecure so just ignore that whole area. You want to exude confidence not insecurity. Think of it like this, when I say “Don’t think about a pink elephant” whats the first thing you imagine … a pink elephant right? It’s the same with your body. When you bring up something about yourself that you dislike, suddenly a man that may not have paid any attention to it before, now notices it.

2) Your Ex’s

In the beginning, when you are having a conversation with someone you are interested in and you are getting to know each other there is no room to talk about your past relationships. This is a new relationship so don’t go into old partners. Now i know that I will get asks from anons saying “well what do you say if he asks what your last sugar relationship was like”. To which my response is, even here, don’t make it about your past sugar daddies. You don’t need to start giving him information on what your previous SD did for a living or how he snored terribly. Simply layout what the relationship entailed, (like shopping, movies, trips, etc,) but it’s not necessary to go into the gory details.

3) Why you are still single?

When a man asks “Why are you still single?” or “Why don’t you have a sugar daddy yet?” don’t say “Well I just don’t get approached” or “ sugar daddies keep arranging to meet with me but then they just flake”. Because all this says is that you are UNDESIRABLE! So just avoid that topic by saying something more charming like “Well i just haven’t met anyone that meets the standards that I set for myself and for a relationship”. What this does is create a sense of worth and he now thinks “ ahhh, this is a high value woman”.

4) Rejecting Compliments

It actually amazes me how many people don’t even realise they do the following. Someone gives you a compliment on your hair or your clothes etc, and you say “ thanks but that’s not true because … ( there’s a hole here, I feel unattractive in this, I actually need to fix my split ends … you get the jist)”. Stop taking compliments badly. Just smile and say “Thank you”. After all, a man wants to compliment you but he doesn’t want to reassure!


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xxx

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