selfdeveloper

The Picture of Dorian Gray by Oscar Wilde

“…to influence a person is to give him one’s own soul. He does not think his natural thoughts, or burn with his natural passions. His virtues are not real to him. His sins, if there are such things as sins, are borrowed. He becomes an echo of someone else’s music, an actor of a part that has not been written for him. The aim of life is selfdevelopement. To realize one’s nature perfectly - that is what each of us is here for.” 

EDITORIAL

Lets be honest, the environment we live in does not teach us how to love ourselves. Many of us grow old never learning how to appreciate the one person they spend most time with. But as much as this society does not promote self love, it is OUR responsibility to take the vow and say YES to ourselves. Building a healthy relationship with ourselves should be the first thing we learn in school. People who love themselves are healthier, know their boundries, are more fearless, and know what they want!

Instead, most of our lives we focus on living up to expectations from what society put on us. Now..I don’t say we should run away from our responsibilities. I am just saying we should take responsibility for our own dreams, health and goals. Imagine how amazing life will be when you wake up every morning feeling totally happy with who you are and having faith in what you do. Imagine the things you can do, the things you can create!

A few years back I reached rock bottom in my life. I went through some pretty nasty stuff that left me anxious, insecure and emotionally burned out. I just came out of an abusive relationship, dropped out of school, and I couldn’t keep a job. I thought so low of myself that I considered myself incapeable of functioning in society. I was sure something was wrong with me.

I spend two years at home, having almost no contact with other people. Everything tired me, until one day I decided that I was sick of being like this. I thought to myself; is this really how I want to spend the rest of my life?

From that day on, I dedicated my time to find something I lost in my  relationship; myself.

My journey has brought me through the earthly realms of witchcraft, which I adored as a younger child. I learned to appreciate nature and see the magic in everything. Occultism, Chakra’s, crystal, tarot, yoga, you name it. They all teached me a ton, and for that I am grateful, but I did not find myself here.

Eventually I found out that what I was looking for was not something outside of myself. What I was looking for had always been there within me.

It was then that I realized the importance of self love, self discovery and letting go. So I let go of all the concepts of beauty that I knew, I let go of wanting to prove myself to others and unrealistic expectations.

This valentinesday I want to take a moment to appreciate the hard work that I have done. I have broken myself down and rebuild myself many times along the way. I have lost pieces of me, but gained more then I could ever imagine.

I want to inspire you to

Stop and say no to living in a negative spiral of fear, regret and insecurity. To take back your power and be the incredible ray of sunshine that you are!

This valentinesday…take a vow to love yourself more everyday.


Fall in love with your darkness

                                       Picture Via darkbeautymagazine.com

Do you dare to look inside of yourself and face the truth of your current state of wellbeing? Or do you always try to run away from your feelings, thoughts, yourself?

Alot of us fear what we cannot control. We fear change and the unknown. These days everyone is distracting themselves constantly from what is going on inside and outside of them.

Honestly, the main reason why i am where i am today is not because of light and love..those were the fruits that grew from the hard and painful work i had to do in order to find happiness, truth and peace.

I know quite a bit of people who actually really enjoy self development work. But more then often i see, and i saw this with myself as well, that people do not like to question themselves objectively. For when they do…they might not like what the answer is..and their reality would break.

What i learned from psychedelics and 5 years of self development work is that “breaking” your current perspective on reality as often as possible is the highest form of intelligence.

Developing awareness of everything you do and say and think…even being aware of every movement you make..can teach you so much about the nature of reality and life.

“ People are often afraid what they find when they start to really look. I say embrace the unknown! “

In fact.. the truth lies in the unknown. In darkness we thrive, like the seed of a tree starting in the dark cold wet ground. We rise up from the darkness. It is our base, our home.

Hear me when i say, fall in love with your shadows. Get to know them.
Do not be afraid of what is uncomfortable. Cause it might lift you up.

“ I help people finding their divinity, cause this is everyone birthright. “

Universekissesxox

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