I saw Beauty and the Beast today and I kept thinking about how this is one of GRRM’s favorite stories, and how one of the themes is that “beauty is found within,” which is definitely a major theme GRRM incorporates into his own writing

which got me to thinking about the YMBQ prophecy again

“Queen you shall be … until there comes another, younger and more beautiful, to cast you down and take all that you hold dear.”

and the (tragic) irony here imo is that Cersei keeps thinking of a shallow, surface beauty, when I think the prophecy refers to inner beauty (kindness, empathy, love, self sacrifice). 

Like, Cersei worries over Margaery’s appearance (“Only a fool would ever claim [Margaery] was more beautiful than I”) when it’s Margaerys kindness and charity work winning over the smallfolk that are the true threat to Cersei and House Lannister.

And rumors of Daenerys, “the most beautiful woman in the world,” are reaching Westeros, when the most beautiful thing about Daenerys is her willingness to fight for everyone, to save everyone. It’s such a contrast to Cersei, who is so selfish and who doesn’t care how many bodies she has to step over. 

100% certain Dany will be the YMBQ

i feel so bad for wynne. a brilliant woman, imprisoned in a tower, and the only way she could accept it was by devoting herself to the welfare of others. therefore, she empathizes with the grey wardens, who were also forced into a life of self-sacrifice. wynne should have been free to choose her own path–i’m sure she still would have chosen to help people, but not at the cost of subsuming her own needs.

vibe-aurore  asked:

Don't sacrifice your self worth and mental state for someone who doesn't care, it'll only hurt you in the end, and you will be the only one noticing the sacrifice. I have learned that from experience. Heartbreak to heartbreak. I care too much for people. What I'm trying to say is, I was in the same boat as you. It took me *Years* to recover from my friend leaving me. I feel your pain.

It hurts..a bad blow..a back stabber… But I’m trying… I’m just so tired of pretending to be strong..

Most of my life has been spent trying to shrink myself. Trying to become smaller. Quieter. Less sensitive. Less opinionated. Less needy. Less me. Because I didn’t want to be a burden. I didn’t want to be too much or push people away. I wanted people to like me. I wanted to be cared for and valued. I wanted to be wanted. So for years, I sacrificed myself for the sake of making other people happy. And for years, I suffered. But I’m tired of suffering, and I’m done shrinking. It’s not my job to change who I am in order to become someone else’s idea of a worthwhile human being. I am worthwhile. Not because other people think I am, but because I exist, and therefore I matter. My thoughts matter. My feelings matter. My voice matters. And with or without anyone’s permission or approval, I will continue to be who I am and speak my truth. Even if it makes people angry. Even if it makes them uncomfortable. Even if they choose to leave. I refuse to shrink. I choose to take up space. I choose to honour my feelings. I choose to give myself permission to get my needs met. I choose to make self-care a priority. I choose me.
—  Daniell Koepke

It took me a long time to realize that you can do everything right and still end up unhappy. You can say all of the right things, do exactly as you are told, follow in the footsteps of all the people who swore by their success and their strategy surrounding it, and you can still end up displaced — because you didn’t ever choose to simply listen to yourself.

The best thing I ever did for myself was simply listen to what I actually wanted. I drowned out the guidelines, the advice, the “shoulds.” And I messed up. I made mistakes that I’ll never forget. I hurt people I loved, and I got hurt.

See, self discovery isn’t this comfortable, miraculous thing. It can get ugly, it can get confusing. It’s gritty, it’s hard. It’s difficult to confront yourself sometimes, it’s difficult to be the person who does things differently, who doesn’t settle.

But it’s the greatest gift you will ever give yourself. It will push you towards figuring out what your own personal version of happiness looks like; and when you grow on your own terms, when you figure out what actually matters to you, and when you carve out your own path, you live on your own terms. You love on your own terms. You become the person you have always wanted to be, rather than the person you were always told to be, and that is beautiful. Because when it comes down to it — life is about making yourself proud on your own terms. It’s about finding a happiness that works for you.

(Source: thoughtcatalog.com)

Simple made simple

One of the advantages of getting older. You learn. For some age comes with wisdom. For others age comes alone. When you do good say less. When you do horrible say even less. 

When information is requested use the who, what, when, where and why approach. Giving clarity inside the information. Always go with the bottom line up front (BLUF) method. No need to beat around the bush. Just say it. 

So the same applies to fitness and exercise. They are great free videos on line use them. Even if we think we know it all. And we don’t. A lot of the beginner videos explains the what, when and why’s as you view them. Then it all comes together and makes sense. Why you should keep your foot flexed a certain way to work certain mussels? Ah simple then its explained why. Don’t fear networking. Some know how to articulate better than others. There 100 ways to do right. Find what works for you have fun while in temporary pain. People will notice your body of work. Pun or no pun intended lol

The Terrible Life of the People Pleaser

Some people are just genuinely self-sacrificing and willing to do anything to make you happy. These kind souls are the sweetest, best people in the world and most people just stomp. the. shit. out of them. Besides people walking all over them, the people pleaser is doomed to an existence of no one truly giving a shit about their needs. Your needs are helping people right? You have no feelings other than empathy. You are never angry or sad, need advice, or space. And if you speak up and let people know they’re being assholes, or stand up for yourself in any way, the people who you have broken your back for will usually cut and fucking run. At least you’ll know who your real friends are. The remaining people who have your back - those are the people who are worth keeping in your life.

So are you a people pleaser?

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