self-image

Confession- Honestly I’m tired of my natural hair I know it’s on my head and there’s nothing I can do to change that but I still hate it. I know people will try to tell me all the positives about 4c hair and how thick it is or versatile it is and I get that but it’s not easy for me too just fall in love with my hair. I’m young and impressionable and people may think that my want for loose curls and straight hair will just leave the next month. But it won’t that amount of times I have looked up how to go from 4c to 3a knowing I won’t find anything but still do it anyway. Looking up natural hair youtubers but only finding loose kinks and curls making Me wish mine was like theirs.

I honestly understand that people can love their own 4c hair and that’s fine. but I hate mine and in some wierd way I kind of got used to it and just look after it. It’s not a matter of oh I just haven’t found the right methods believe me I’ve tried but I guess me and my kinks just won’t get along

Small Ways To Improve Your Life
  • make your bed to immediately make your room look more put together
  • water first, then coffee or tea
  • pray or meditate, even just for ten minutes, to set the tone for your day
  • browse the news headlines ( & read the articles that interest you when you’ve got time)
  • wear something you feel b o m b in
  • listen to music while doing your daily activities-commuting, cleaning, cooking, exercising
  • smile at at least two people
  • smile at YOURSELF
  • call or message someone you love
  • eat food that makes you feel radiant
  • make lists of things you need to accomplish for the day
  • stretch for 10 minutes
  • record in your phone the positive thoughts you have so you can remember them
  • carry water with you (always always always)
  • shut off your phone for an hour and have some ME time
  • take a hot shower or bath at the end of a stressful day
  • try to make plans to spend time with someone at least once a week
  • think about 3 things you are grateful for at the end of each day
  • do something calming, relaxing, and non-electronic 30 minutes before you sleep
  • sleep pants-less
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This 5th Grader Was Bullied in School for Her Weight So She Started a Plus Size Fashion Line
10-year-old Egypt "Ify" Ufele was constantly bullied for her size. Instead of internalizing the taunts, she turned the teasing into passion.

“I was bullied, and they called me all kinds of names,” she told NBC. So she began to design clothes and sew them with the help of her grandmother. Ify’s Chubiiline features inclusive fashions that represent the types of bodies you don’t often see on runways.

This season she made her debut at New York Fashion Week with plus size styles in Ankara prints.

“I turned from negative attention into positive attention,” she says. Keep up with Ify on Instagram.

Watch the video here

GO IFY GO!

if you find you are surrounded by toxic people… 

  • CUT. 
  • THEM. 
  • OUT.

“Comedian and actress Aidy Bryant is one of the youngest people ever hired on Saturday Night Live. She is a fan favorite and plays a wide range of hilarious roles (our favorite is “Lil Baby Aidy”). She gets asked regularly about how her size affects her career and her life (and occasionally openly ridiculed for it), and she is consistently positive. 

In an interview for Bust magazine in Oct. 2015, she said, “I had a sense that I was different. I felt like what made me different is what made me prom queen. I’ve been lucky to, thus far in my life, feel like my size or my personality are assets to me that made me unique from the pack. And so far it’s been pretty easy for me to keep that perspective as opposed to being ashamed of those parts of myself.” We love this perspective. While Aidy isn’t defined by her size or shape, she owns it as one of her characteristics that has made her who she is.” 

As seen on the Beauty Redefined Facebook page

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This Body-Positive Lane Bryant Campaign Was Rejected For The Worst Reason
A 30-second Lane Bryant ad for their spring 2016 "This Body" campaign was rejected by major networks like NBC and ABC for “indecency."

A 30-second Lane Bryant ad for their spring 2016 “This Body” campaign was rejected by major networks like NBC and ABC for “indecency.“ The ad features several plus-size models kickboxing, rocking denim, posing nude, and affirming what their bodies can do. “This body is made for love,” one model says while breastfeeding. “This body is made for proving them wrong,” says model Precious Lee. “It’s made for being bold, powerful, and sexy,” says Sports Illustrated cover girl Ashley Graham. It’s a holistic, celebratory ad, portraying women in love with themselves and their bodies. Of course they didn’t let us have this one. God forbid we air anything that’s actually body-positive, right?

A representative from NBC claims the ad was rejected “as part of the normal advertising standards process” in order to “comply with broadcast indecency guidelines,” but it’s hard to believe that no bias was involved in the rejection. The ad features no more bare skin than your run-of-the-mill Victoria’s Secret commercial. Graham herself made this point in 2010, the last time a commercial of hers was rejected, telling CBS: “Victoria’s Secret commercials are airing all throughout the day, but when it comes to a Lane Bryant commercial, we have a little bit of extra, you know, overflowing, and then everybody freaks out.”

There’s a lot hiding behind that insidious term “indecency.“ Sexuality runs rampant in advertising; networks have no qualms about running lingerie ads in general. The thing they actually find “indecent” (read: threatening) is an ad showing women celebrating their selves and their sizes, even when those sizes aren’t the size zero we’ve all been told to aspire to.”

Read the full piece and see the ad here

You deserve flowers on your doorstep and coffee in the morning. You deserve notes left on your dashboard and ice cream at 3am. You deserve honesty everyday and to be kissed every hour. You deserve to be reminded how beautiful you are.
—  Unknown

“Behind the glamour, behind the make up, behind all those flashy clothes, there’s an ordinary girl who just happens to have an extra ordinary job. I have seen young girls follow celebrities and try to be one of them. They try to attain perfection, have the perfect body, perfect skin tone. They aren’t fully aware of the fact that behind the looks there are a lot of designers, make up artists, and photoshop/video editing. Their whole sense of beauty is flawed. There is no good to looking good if you are conscious all the time about how you look. You should be care free. Love the real you. The way you are so that even if you are without makeup, you can look into the mirror and with a big smile embrace your imperfections. Just imagine if you don’t even love yourself how do you expect anyone to love you. So first and foremost learn to love yourself by being who you are and not what the world wants you to be. All you need to do is have a great heart and be compassionate towards others. I hope you spread the message and let the world know that you value inner beauty more than the outer appearance.” 

Scarlett Johansson on her Facebook page 

Body Positive Parenting

“How to talk to your daughter about her body, step one: Don’t talk to your daughter about her body, except to teach her how it works.

Don’t say anything if she’s lost weight. Don’t say anything if she’s gained weight.

If you think your daughter’s body looks amazing, don’t say that. Here are some things you can say instead:

"You look so healthy!” is a great one.

Or how about, “You’re looking so strong.”

“I can see how happy you are – you’re glowing.”

Better yet, compliment her on something that has nothing to do with her body.

Don’t comment on other women’s bodies either. Nope. Not a single comment, not a nice one or a mean one.

Teach her about kindness towards others, but also kindness towards yourself.

Don’t you dare talk about how much you hate your body in front of your daughter, or talk about your new diet. In fact, don’t go on a diet in front of your daughter. Buy healthy food. Cook healthy meals. But don’t say, “I’m not eating carbs right now.” Your daughter should never think that carbs are evil, because shame over what you eat only leads to shame about yourself.

Encourage your daughter to run because it makes her feel less stressed. Encourage your daughter to climb mountains because there is nowhere better to explore your spirituality than the peak of the universe. Encourage your daughter to surf, or rock climb, or mountain bike because it scares her and that’s a good thing sometimes.

Help your daughter love soccer or rowing or hockey because sports make her a better leader and a more confident woman. Explain that no matter how old you get, you’ll never stop needing good teamwork. Never make her play a sport she isn’t absolutely in love with.

Prove to your daughter that women don’t need men to move their furniture.

Teach your daughter how to cook kale.

Teach your daughter how to bake chocolate cake made with six sticks of butter.

Pass on your own mom’s recipe for Christmas morning coffee cake. Pass on your love of being outside.

Maybe you and your daughter both have thick thighs or wide ribcages. It’s easy to hate these non-size zero body parts. Don’t. Tell your daughter that with her legs she can run a marathon if she wants to, and her ribcage is nothing but a carrying case for strong lungs. She can scream and she can sing and she can lift up the world, if she wants.

Remind your daughter that the best thing she can do with her body is to use it to mobilize her beautiful soul.“

- Sarah Koppelkam