anonymous asked:

Why am I so useless?

You aren’t. What makes you feel like you are? How can we help?

Sometimes when I feel useless, I find it helpful to list the things that I’m good at or ways I’ve succeeded in the past. When I feel really useless, I need to ask someone I know and trust to help me build that list because it’s hard to see myself objectively. Is there someone you know who could help you build a list?

We’re here if you want to talk further about this, anon. A therapist can help with this, but so can a friend or a family member or a teacher who you feel you can talk to about this.

Stay strong.


we are all our own worst critics, so don’t be so hard on yourself, okay? :))

stop begging and fighting for people to love you the right way. stop investing time in people who don’t mind if you stay or leave.
—  Reyna Biddy

A few important things you should know:

  • It wont be easy but it will be worth it. 
  • Time heals a lot. 
  • Being kind to yourself is lifesaving.
  • You are worth more than toxic relationships.
  • It’s okay if you need to cut off family for your own well-being and safety.
  • You are under no obligation to say yes. 
  • It will be okay. 
  • You’re quite lovely.  

Be confident with who you are and if you find you are in the company of those who cannot see how great you are, don’t be afraid to cut them off, okay?

sometimes your heart will hurt. sometimes your smile will ache. sometimes your light will dim. sometimes your spirit will break. sometimes your entire world will come crashing down with no warning, and no signs.. but no matter how destroyed you feel - you have to be willing to dig deep inside of yourself to find some ambition to get you back right. you have to look out for you. you have to let go. you have to place your focus primarily on YOU. nothing about losing what’s familiar feels good.. but uncomfortable places can be beautiful. growth is beautiful. you are beautiful. you shouldn’t have to wait around and pray for someone to love you. you should love you. you should let go - because nothing worth holding onto will ever destroy you. and holding on is destroying you. trying to love someone into loving you - is destroying you. let go because you have to get a hold of you. you have to retrace your steps and figure out where you let YOU go. you have to take time to yourself to reflect on when and where you lost yourself. you have to let go of what no longer is - and accept what may have never been.. then you have to pick yourself back up. you have to release any negativity clouding your mind and you have to rid yourself of hopeful feelings. cleanse your soul. listen to your intuition. learn yourself. let go of any bad habits you’ve picked up along your journey. and start over. no matter how bad or how much it hurts.. let go and start over. holding on is destroying you.
—  Reyna Biddy

You are worth so much more than you realize. I promise.