• Buy a matching set of bras & panties or lingerie
• Sweep/Vaccum your floor and make your bed
• Clean off your bathroom counter
• Set out an outfit for the next day
• Shave your legs and apply coconut oil
• Then put on cute pajamas
• Light a warm scented candle
• Wash your face, use a face mask, apply toner & lip balm
• Make tea or hot cocoa
• Write a to do list
• Sit down on your made bed and watch TV because fuck yes baby girl you got this
it’s important to take care of your studies, but you need to take care of yourself! focus on little every day things that will keep you happy and relaxed!
1. drink water. hydration will keep you healthy, alive, and functioning to your best ability! in between studying, make sure to continuously drink water. this will make sure your brain is active. if ever you feel really dull, wash your face and chug a glass. you’ll feel rejuvenated immediately. (but do not drink too much water or you’ll deplete yourself of important body resources.)
2. eat fruits. even a simple banana or apple will do the trick. rather than drinking the sugary juices you can buy in stores, cut up a fruit and eat it while you do something. this will not only prevent you from munching on unhealthy snacks, but your skin will become fresh! don’t overeat the snacks that are full of calories. studying requires being pretty much physically inactive while our brain does all of the work. eat fruits, get your vitamins and important nutrients, stay healthy, and keep your skin glowing!
3. keep moisturized. drinking water will do half the trick, but make sure to apply some form of moisturizer. some acne breakouts are due to allergy, but most of them are due to dry skin. dry skin will force the face to make more oil which will clog the pores and cause a breakout. however, if you are already moisturized, your face will not produce extra oils. Make sure to wash your face at least three times (moderate based on skin type) a day aside from your shower to keep any grime from sticking to your lotion/cream. coconut oil is an amazing alternative that will keep your skin glowing, eyebrows healthy, and eyelashes long. (not for everyone)
4. smile. smiling will relax your facial muscles and make you feel (somewhat) better. you’ll feel positive and others will feel nice by looking at you too! radiating a smile from inside will project a good feeling outside, keeping you motivated at all times. try to be positive!
5. keep organized. organization will make you feel less cluttered and stressed both outside and inside. you will get the feeling that you have your life under your hands and be able to find everything-do everything-you want. organization will create great habits for your future, too. try to follow a certain aesthetic (colour, furniture, etc.) that you love and this will guide you to a more organized, beautiful, and neat environment.
6. do things that make you happy. studying all the time will only get you good grades, which does bring some level of happiness. but pursuing a hobby will make you feel a lot better as well. take care of your plants, knit a sweater, go jogging. be active outside of studying, especially while doing something you love. meet someone nice, call a friend, hang with family. or just chill by yourself! all of this will cumulate into a healthy lifestyle.
7. think about you! think about your past, present, and future. worry about the things you haven’t done and comfort yourself with a plan to fix the problems. think about your goals and try to set them in place. plan and focus. remember all the great things that have happened and continue down the road of goodness. this, no doubt, will keep you always happy! and remember, do not stress. just breathe and think things through.
Staying healthy during the academic year is VERY important!! I’m on the quarter system at UCLA which leaves NO time for students to get sick and miss class. Thankfully I haven’t had any medical issues that have kept me from missing weeks of class, but prevention is key!
Here are some tips I followed last year to feel my best for schoooooool.
As with all these things, your mileage may vary, but I thought this was better than the lists I’ve seen on ADDitude. (On a side note: Buzzfeed is apparently full of people with ADHD. I’m not surprised).
A few of these I actually do. (Like writing everything down and keeping my keys by the door). Others I’ve never thought of, and would like to try.
So I never post on Tumblr anymore but I felt like this needed to be put here.
I’m really bad at infographics, but someone asked a question in a group I’m in that merited this one being created.
We always talk a lot about why certain organisations are bad and others are good in the autistic community, but what we don’t usually do is establish where most of those good organisations are and what the GREAT ones are doing on top of that.
Here’s a handy guide we can use when examining local and national organisations! It is in no way comprehensive, of course.
(And yes, it does have a copyright with my real name on it because I really don’t want this being shared without proper credit.)
[Image description: Infographic with title ‘A Guide for Identifying Good Autism Organizations (and how they can improve!)’.
Your coochie deserves as much attention as your face when it comes to taking care of it. Maintaining proper hygene and going the extra mile to ensure everything is perfectly healthy and balanced down there will minimize your risk of bacteria, infections, bad smell and dryness. Your partner will also thank you!
Here’s what you should do.
-Neveeeeeeeeer use soap/ bodywash on or near your kitty. The harsh chemicals and the high pH level will disimbalance the delicate flora of the vag and can cause long term issues as well as leave you exposed to threats like yeast infection. Vagina is a self cleaning organ. You can use a femine wash though I would advice for simple, plain water.
-Do not use hair removal creams! I would avoid them all together but if its your preffered method of hair removal at least keep them away from your coochie as they will cause a yeast infection!
-Avoid douches at all costs! They might make you feel fresher but they won’t help with odor or cleaness plus they actually increase the risk of infections.
-Drink your water! Do I even need to say more? Just do it… Jesus…
-Cranberry extract. You’ll find it at the drugstore, usually in a softgel form. Cranberries are very beneficial as they strengthen the urinary tract and prevent UTI. Also they will make your kitty taste and smell delish.
-Pinapple juice. This will also help with vag odor and taste.
-Probiotics. Consume foods with probiotics like greek yogurt, kimchi, kombucha, etc… You don’t have to take supplements unless you feel extremelly imbalanced or you’re taking/recovering from antibiotics. If you seek supplements look for the ones that are suitable for the vaginal flora.
-ACV baths. Once in a few weeks pour 1-2 cups of apple cider vingar in a warm bathtub and sit for 20 minutes or longer. This will help lower your pH.
-Always use a condom. If latex condoms make you sore or give you a rash switch to latex free.
Hello journalers! This post is going to explain how to begin a bullet journal that will help you take care of yourself and manage your mental/physical health. I will go in depth and share various ideas to add to this kind of journal.
How To Start:
1. Like all bullet journals, make sure you have a journal that fits your needs. Dot grid, square grid, blank page, or lined are the options for basically all journals. Pick one that you can see yourself using for a while and that will conform to your needs.
2. Make an outline on a separate piece of paper of the things you want in your self-care journal. Nothing is more cringe-worthy in my bullet journals is when I get lazy on design and layout. Figure out which lists, trackers, challenges, and calendars you will need.
3. Start like you would with a normal bullet journal with the index. My rule is that I need to have 3 pages for my index, otherwise I run out of room to keep track of my pages and I get overwhelmed.
Things To Add:
1. Future Plans/Goals
Pump yourself up for the future! You are going to accomplish many incredible feats during your lifetime, but it helps to take the first step and actually write down your goals and plans. I have two resources for you for this section. [Here] is a post about Goal Oriented Pages. Here is a picture of my bucketlist from my last bullet journal:
2. Fitness Log
If you are ready to get in shape or just be healthy, this is something you really need to stay motivated or keep track of your exercising habits. You can add checklists, hydration logs, running countdowns, etc.
3. Daily Affirmations
When dealing with stress, mental health, and anything else that can get you feeling less than the amazing person you are, it’s good to remind yourself how truly fantastic you are. Here is a [link] to my 30-Day Affirmation Challenge.
4. Gratitude Log
Being thankful for what you have will give you so much peace in your life. If you’d like some ideas for yours, click [here] for my 30-Day Gratitude Challenge.
5. Things That Make You Happy
List everything that makes you remotely happy and keep adding things as you go through your life. Below is my first journal that had my “Things I Love” page. It got filled so fast.
6. Meditation Diary
I honestly loved this idea and used it like crazy. [Here] is a link to how I set my diary up.
7. Habit Trackers
Keeping track of your actions will always help you feel at peace and there are many different kinds of habit trackers out there: medicine, sleep, reading, exercise, etc. If you’d like to be even more motivated for getting things done, [here] is a link to my Habit Tracker Reward System.
8. Alternatives to Self-Destructive Acts
Many of us have negative habits that can be more extreme than others. But even the smallest self-destructive act will have a huge negative effect on your life. Here is a list of some ideas to do instead of thinking bad things or hurting yourself: do a puzzle, go exercise, take a nap, listen to music, watch funny videos, watch a movie, write, make lists, color a picture, bake something, etc.
9. When I Feel Triggered…
Anything can make us recall traumatic events, toxic people, or just make us feel anxious. Make a short list of maybe 5-10 things you can do to help yourself calm back down.
10. All About Me
Writing and doodling things that represent yourself can be very therapeutic. I made a post about this recently that can be found [here].
11. Self-Care Ideas/Me Time
Sometimes we don’t know how to make ourselves feel better. Write a list of things you could try to do to help yourself become a healthier you. Examples: take a warm bath, go for a walk, drink a glass of water, watch a sad movie, etc. You can also make a page to keep track of how long each task you complete and where you completed it.
12. A Year In Pixels
I did not come up with this idea, but [here] is a post about where I found it and a picture of my page.
I found a few more ideas, but you can check this [link] for 100 more!
Self-control: CONTROL YOUR HABITS, CONTROL YOUR LIFE! Try turning some of these 100 Life Changing Actions into regular habits in your life to become a happier, less stressed and more organized individual.
Ants - Patience, stamina, planning, perseverance, organization, self-discipline, teamwork, energy, and
Bats - Rebirth, accessing past lives, new ideas, transition,
initiation, changes for the better, moon magic, understanding grief, and the ability to observe unseen.
- Introspection, healing
and inner knowledge, wisdom, defense, revenge, change, death and
rebirth, communication with spirit,
solitude, power, mother cunning, healer, gentle strength,
transformation, astral travel, strength, unconscious mind, grounding,
of the soul, earth magic, and facing fears.
Beavers - Building, gathering, persistence, shaping, and structure.
Bees - Female
warrior energy, reincarnation, communication with the dead, service,
gathering, community, connection to the Goddess Diana, helping
earth-bound spirits move on to their
proper place, concentration, and prosperity.
Birds - Associated with death and transitions, unity, freedom, and individuality.
shit working class leftists and ppl in general don’t need to hear:
- you making fun of our schooling
- you belittling us for working actual jobs instead of going into higher education
- you complaining that we don’t “do enough about our situation”
- you looking down on us because we might not have the time or the patience to read heaps of irrelevant political theory
- again, these fucking jokes about us having no idea about politics when we’re the ones living them
- you patronizing us about health, parenting, and literally anything else
- you asking why our families didn’t just buy a house (that happened more often than you’d think)
- you making fun of our dialects and mannerisms
- you using a lack of education as an argument against your political opponents
- you pitying us like we can’t be proud of our roots
- you ignoring our self-organization and community work because it doesn’t live up to your ideological standards
- the fucking LEFT in general being classist as fuck which should be a paradox but isn’t
for real I’m just really fed up with the academic left sometimes and y'all should really look at yourselves first when you ask why the new left is so out of touch with working people.
We don’t have to read Marx to know that capitalism sucks. Believe us, we know.
[ image description: A screen shot of a post that reads “Don’t cross oceans for people who wouldn’t cross a puddle for you.” Someone has crossed this out with a big grey X and underneath added “No, do it. Do cross oceans for people. Love people, all people. No conditions attached, no wondering whether or not they’re worthy. Cross oceans, climb mountains. Life and love isn’t about what you gain, it’s about what you give.” End of descripton ]
I hate this post, I hate it so much. And let me tell you why.
At first it seems like a pretty good post, right? You should love people and do things for them because you want to or because it’s nice, or just because you love them, not because you expect something in return. Yeah. We learn that as kids. But listen. Listen to me. It is not that simple. Yes you should do nice things for people. Carry in your grandmother’s grocerys even if she forgets to say thank you. Sure. But you should never, never, pour yourself into someone who does not give back to you.
Doing everything for someone who gives you nothing in return is not love.
A friend of mine worded it really well “The point of the original post was to emphasise that your own mental/physical health is more important than someone’s selfish needs.” It’s not romantic to run yourself into the ground for someone who can’t even be bothered to care about you. And not only is it not romantic, it’s unhealthy.
I have, on more than one occasion, “crossed oceans” for people who I do believe loved me, but who didn’t even come close to crossing them for me. And do you know what I got out of that? The first one I lost 10 pounds because I was so miserable I could barely eat and I was throwing up what I did eat. And I was still doing whatever I could to be with them, and make them happy, even though they didn’t seem to be willing to put any work in themself. Why bother, I was always there. The second one I ran my own mental health so thin that that literally could not do anything for him, all I could do is sit in the bathtub and think about how I coudln’t feel anything. But I still refused to turn my phone off and ignore his messages. I still made myself avaible to him because he “needed me.”
There was nothing romantic about either of those situations (note: only one was a romantic relationship but the idea of giving and giving and giving when you’re gettin nothing back is romanticized whether it’s in a romantic or platonic relationship.) There was nothing beautiful or selfless about it. It was miserable. I was miserable. I can remember one of my friends telling me he missed me because all I could talk about was the person I had allowed to become my whole life.
And in the end, both of them stopped talking to me.
Don’t believe anyone when they say the second part of that post. It’s bullshit
and I’m really tired of seeing it romanticized. It tells people (especailly young girls) that this is an okay way for a relationship to be, that this is what they should be doing.
There is nothing selfish about demanding that your emotional labour be reciprocated. That’s what makes a relationship (romantic, platonic, or otherwise) healthy. That’s what love is. Both people giving. Both people supportin each other. Not one person giving until they have nothing left for themself.