self healing reflection

When someone special walks out of your life, it may feel like you’re walking with only one leg, or beating with only half of a heart. But remember that you are still the same amazing person who you were before your relationship, and you are very capable of living an amazing rest of your life, with so many more opportunities coming your way!
—  Nicole Addison @thepowerwithin
When you realize that you’re not as happy as you want to be, you wish to change things. That’s where I am right now, trying to figure out how to modify myself in order to make this world easier to live in. How much of a heart can I have? How can I make the word no taste as sweet as the word yes? What can I do to keep a smile on my face? A part of me always seemed to feel selfish whenever I weighed my wants and needs against someone else’s - like the thought of pleasing myself shouldn’t even exist. But after a while, you realize you matter too.
—  You matter too. // Maxwell Diawuoh

any gardener will tell you that tending plants can teach you many, many lessons that you can translate to your everyday life.  to be observant, to try to anticipate problems before they occur, how to deal with problems and come up with creative solutions… gardening teaches you about patience, timing, action, etc… 

however, when i look at my cacti and succulents i keep in my home, i remember the valuable lessons that they have taught me unlike any plant i have kept in my summer garden.  

that, sometimes, to be nurturing, to be a real caretaker, means letting things be.  the lesson that omission is an action.  inaction is an action.  withholding water, letting the plant sit in its dry soil, letting it search for the few drops of moisture it wants, is better than regular “care” and watering, like other plants need.  the succulent leaves seem full to bursting with water, dark green and happy with life, but that is only when i care for them by “not” caring for them.  

makes me pause and think about how adaptable we have to be in our approaches to love and interpersonal relationships.  not everyone needs the same kind of “care” to bloom and be healthy… we are all programmed to need different kinds of care… in varying amounts…

Originally posted by thisiskayleigh

How to keep a relationship healthy, passionate & strong

1. Take responsibility for your own emotional triggers ALWAYS
2. Communicate openly, often, and transparently
3. Have ‘enlightened sex’ as much as possible (while committing to #1 and #2)
4. Make sure each of you feel seen, heard, appreciated, respected and loved (if not, ask your partner what you need to feel loved and visa-versa, and make agreements - The 5 Love Languages is an excellent read for this)
5. Open your heart ALWAYS, even when you’re afraid to
6. Continue working on your individual self and following your deepest heart’s desires
7. Spend intentional time apart from each other for integration and self reflection

~Jack Rousseau

Among all of the many things that may be going on in your life, you must remember to make time for yourself. Nourish yourself. Make sure that you are well taken care of. How would you be able to live your beautiful life to its fullest if you yourself are not taken care of?
—  Nicole Addison @thepowerwithin
Stop allowing them to change your perception of yourself.
A flower does not lose its beauty once someone stops admiring it.
You are just as wonderful now as you were when they were still around.
Act like it.
—  Maxwell Diawuoh, Once a Day (10/366)
Please, be kind to yourself.
Don’t give in to the darkness in your head.
You’re much brighter than you think.
—  Maxwell Diawuoh, Once A Day (103/366)
Dear 2015,
I will keep this brief.
I’ve been through a lot with you.
I leave you bearing scars and an abundance of memories both good and bad.
The journey wasn’t easy, but we’ve made it to the end.
Thank you for breaking me.
You might not know it, but you’ve made me stronger than these words could hope to explain.
Now, it’s time to take the next step to greatness.
Thanks again, and goodbye.
—  Maxwell Diawuoh, “2015”

Got these adorable little wooden boxes from work yesterday, and after cleaning them was able to paint them, and fill them with #nature #crystal #candles and #bones to start making little #witch boxes that will be available when I reopen my etsy shop! What would you guys want in a witch box? I’m thinking of doing different ones based on the needs of some people such as love, money, beauty, and self reflection, and healing! Perhaps even doing some tarot card readings included 💀💚