You will meet many types of people in your life. You will meet delicate flowers, raging oceans, quiet forests, towering mountains, and colourful skies. You will meet thunderstorms, you will meet lightning. They will knock you down, they will leave you breathless. You will meet sunrises, you will meet gardens. They will give you light, they will take you on adventures. Explore them. Get lost with them. They all have something to teach you.
Ask yourself: what’s good about this moment right now? Is the sun out? Can you hear birds? Are you drinking coffee? Can you smell freshly cut grass? Is your bed soft and warm? These little things are oh so precious and yet seem so arbitrary.
I helped myself.
wiped my own tears.
put balm over fresh wounds.
plastered parts of my heart that still were hurting.
gave myself time.
read books that soothed my soul.
heard music that calmed my nerves.
watched movies that made me smile.
bit by bit, piece by piece, I put
myself back together again.
and I gave myself a second chance
because I know that if I didn’t,
A plus sized girl finding genuine love for herself is not just some inspirational story.
It’s not “omg that poor fat girl can somehow love herself even with her burden of fatness”.
Please stop talking about fat women like their bodies are a tragedy and it’s so inspirational for them to be able to love their “horrible” body. Their bodies are beautiful. Every body is beautiful. No body is a tragedy.
Work on your relationship with yourself. Work on your relationship with the moment. You have to live with both of them every day for the rest of your life. Get to know them. Put the time in. Understand them. Learn to work with them. Become best friends with both and you’ll know heaven.
it’s so easy to get lost in negative thoughts and comments. it’s okay to have them, it’s normal. take a moment and a deep breath, think of something nice, something cute, or something soft. tell yourself something nice. it’s small, but it’s a start.