self fullfilment

As I began to love myself…

As I began to love myself I found that anguish and emotional suffering are only warning signs that I was living against my own truth. Today, I know, this is “authenticity”.

As I began to love myself I understood how much it can offend somebody if I try to force my desires on this person, even though I knew the time was not right and the person was not ready for it, and even though this person was me. Today I call it “respect”.

As I began to love myself I stopped craving for a different life, and I could see that everything that surrounded me was inviting me to grow. Today I call it “maturity”.

As I began to love myself I understood that at any circumstance, I am in the right place at the right time, and everything happens at the exactly right moment. So I could be calm. Today I call it “self-confidence”.

As I began to love myself I quit stealing my own time, and I stopped designing huge projects for the future. Today, I only do what brings me joy and happiness, things I love to do and that make my heart cheer, and I do them in my own way and in my own rhythm. Today I call it “simplicity”.

As I began to love myself I freed myself of anything that is no good for my health – food, people, things, situations, and everything that drew me down and away from myself. At first I called this attitude a healthy egoism. Today I know it is “love of oneself”.

As I began to love myself I quit trying to always be right, and ever since I was wrong less of the time. Today I discovered that is “modesty”.

As I began to love myself I refused to go on living in the past and worrying about the future. Now, I only live for the moment, where everything is happening. Today I live each day, day by day, and I call it “fulfillment”.

As I began to love myself I recognized that my mind can disturb me and it can make me sick. But as I connected it to my heart, my mind became a valuable ally. Today I call this connection “wisdom of the heart”.

We no longer need to fear arguments, confrontations or any kind of problems with ourselves or others. Even stars collide, and out of their crashing new worlds are born. Today I know  that is “life”.

—  As I began to love myself, Charlie Chaplin

so i was thinking about how taako thinks he’s a bad person. and to some extent, he kind of is. but only because he’s convinced himself of that. he’s being a self fullfilling prophecy. he’s self destructive cuz he doesnt believe he deserves better and all he can do is put up a performative facade of havin his shit together.

but with lup around, she doesnt let him believe that. he has that self destructive tendency and she is always there to tell him no, you are a good person, don’t let yourself believe you’re a bad person.

without her around, he doesnt have someone to remind him that he’s capable of more than what he thinks he is.

People always talking about Dr. Doom’s parents setting him out to be a villain by naming him victor von doom but what the fuck you expect to happen when your child is named Killmonger? You expect ya boy to become a motherfucking dentist? I dont care if its ya last name, change that shit! I legit believe bout a quarter of the villains in comics are the way they are because of their self-fullfilling prophecy names. 


anonymous asked:

Hey, I just listened to the Russian version of "Belle" and MAN that seems like such a self-fullfilling prophecy! Like roughly "I'm a man cursed to never be loved. I'm fated to forever suffer hellish suffering"(no joke, they used three different words for suffering in this line SO EXTRA). And of COURSE the chorus:"I'd sell my soul to the devil for a single night with you"...I know you said that this song for Viktor is just about Desire, but I cannot help but wonder and theorise XD Love your fic!

The Russian version of Belle is so good, I love it so much! 

Whitney Wisconsin abuses animals

I hate this bitch officially . She makes me sick to the point I can only compare here to pedophiles. PEOPLE LIKE HER ONLY SEEK SELF FULLFILMENT IN THE WORSE WAY BY HARMING OTHERS AND ANIMALS. She is truly sickening in the worse way!

From Takedownman on youtube

Note I hope this is not in violation of anything BECAUSE things like this is deeply disturbing and need to be spread for the safety of others and in this case ANIMALS . She did post this online for everyone’s consumption and I found it disturbing enough to raise a flag on here .

Now I know bestiality is a no no fetish even on fet (THANK GOD) and its a huge no no in our vanilla lives. This is an act that is against the law much like pedophilia. YOU DO NOT DO THAT SHIT. She is implying that the act of animal cruelty is okay and that animal (especially her dog) will not “complain”. If you read the comments below takedownmans youtube page you will also see that she has (allegedly ) also video taped or photo herself doing these acts of cruelty .
Quoting here:
“ This chick also has a Reddit where she links her having sex with K9s
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On top of this shit she gives a lot of wrong information.

** You will get STD/STi from sexual animal contact, many of which is not curable . If you proudly admit to these acts you will get in trouble jail time in some state (I better not know where this bitch is from because I will report her). This is one of many fetishes I just do not get. I am literally sick. It freaks me out and maybe its why I kinda cooled it from this site . Its just twisted individuals such as this chick and ones similar to her are on here (fet) and they don’t care who they hurt as long as there sexual needs are met. If this is the kind of community in which the sick out weigh the true fetishes I have no business being here .

I am all for fetish, don’t get me wrong. I might even act on some but this is disgusting. If you are a person who knows where she lives, please report her to the appropriate authorities. I highly doubt she lives in Wisconsin . If you are a hater and choose to berate me with insults go ahead because you sure as hell couldn’t do it to my face !

Fucked up thing is I use to admire some of her picture on Fetlife and now I can’t look at IT …

Good day!

Update: According to her facebook page she still continues the videos and also does them with friends. Report the friends as well!

fear of failure has been leading me to put off the work that would allow me to succeed. i need to spend as much time as possible prepping for my prelims, but if i think about the actuality of prelims fear grips me and i loose all motivation to prepare, this self-sabotage needs to end now. i have about 5 weeks before the earliest exam date, so if i buckle down and ignore the pit in my stomach i know i can pass. my fear of not passing has been pushing me closer to actual failure and that’s a self-fullfilling prophecy that i’m done perpetuating.

I rewatched Alice Through the Looking Glass, in 2D, with a friend today and, yep, still loving it.

And yes, still bitter the hat scene didn’t make it.

We see Tarrant picking up ribbons and flowers when Alice asks for his family - ribbons and flowers that don’t appear to be hanging about his jacket when he goes to his family in the throne room. (Which makes me wonder what Alice did with the hat in the meantime, since she wasn’t wearing it….)

Also. I came to believe that Alice could have changed the past, if she had chosen not to go. The two movies are a casual loop, a self-fullfiling paradox, because for Horovendush Day to happen, Alice must try to prevent Iracebeth from hitting her head. It had to happen, because she’s always known it had happened. You can’t change the past, when you were always a part of it.

When Alice greets Tarrant, he says he feels like he should know her. Because he met her when he was a boy. A boy that wanted to be a hatter and was ready to make her a hat. Hence he made her one now, even if he couldn’t remember her beyond that vague feeling of knowing her.

When Alice returns to Underland and goes to Hatter’s house, he expects her to know about the blue hat - because she was there when his father tossed it away. She saw it happen. Which is why he believes she’ll believe him, and why it nearly kills him that she doesn’t. But for Alice, it was the first time she saw it. It hadn’t happened for her yet.

Tarrant telling his father he was a hatter, wasn’t unnecessary. The Hightopps may have known Mirana had chosen him as her royal hatter, but he wasn’t on speaking terms with his family. It was important for Tarrant to say aloud that he is a hatter. (I also feel like Chessur might have been the reason why Mirana chose Tarrant. Because he had gotten himself stuck at the tea table for vexing Time about an Alice not coming for tea.)


Well, that’s exactly how I expected the episode to go.

Greg was terrified that Rebecca would walk away from him at any second and go back to pursue Josh. And that fear turned into a self-fullfiled prophecy, because by trying to protect himself from another heartbreak, he ended boycotting his relationship with Rebecca. I can’t blame him for being afraid, tbh, given previous experiences. But if he’s ever going to make it with Rebecca he needs to overcome those fears, and for that I think 1st he needs to learn to love himself a little, and believe he deserves something good and that he CAN have it if he really tries (”I could if I wanted to”). Only then he’ll be ready to fight for Rebecca for real.

On the other hand, Rebecca is still naively looking for a fairytale. She’s so caught up in that dream, that it feels in a way right now it doesn’t exactly matter much with who she gets it. That’s why she went with Josh. She’s in love with the fantasy, more than with a specific person. I don’t doubt she has real feelings for Greg. She tried to make it work with him, but I feel her efforts were rooted in the wrong reasons (and of course Greg’s behavior didn’t help at all, as I said above). Among other things, Rebecca needs to learn that real relationships aren’t fairytales, and that a romantic story isn’t the “solution to all her problems”. And when she understands that, when she doesn’t ‘need’ a relationship to be happy, what will stay with her are her feelings for Greg, which are imo much more real than her feelings for Josh.

I realize what I’m saying here is nothing but exactly what the episode showed us, but I guess I wanted to put it in words.

Both are hot messes in progress, and they need to grow and learn a lot before being able to make it work together. Good thing is, we have a 2nd season, and I feel confident the show is invested not only in Rebecca’s growth, but also Greg’s, and they will find their way back to eachother.


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boyfrienddean replied to your post:Everytime when I see posts like : ‘Sam is made of…

I think its that hes been through a lot and he needs puppies and happiness because he deserves to be protected from the everything horrible in the world. he deserves so much more than a crappy hunter life you know? But he’s so badass ily him

Yeah but you know, if someone will talk about me and say ‘she must be protected by all cost’ the only thought that will go through my mind is 'dude I can protect myself?!' 

Of course he deserves happiness, but he also deserves self fullfillness, and doing something he feel good with doing. which, I don’t think he will while being cuddled with puppies? 

Blast From the Past - Season 4 - "Too Far Gone" (408)

Daryl Dixon is not an alpha male nor is he interested in being the sole leader of the group. His natural pattern of following someone else’s lead emerged at a young age when he started blindly following the only family member that gave a damn about him and that was Merle. Whether or not this was developed due to low self esteem or it’s simply a natural personality trait is debatable BUT its obviously a comfortable position for Daryl and at this point in his life more instinctual than cognitive.

He earns his self-worth and his purpose through relationships with other people which is something Carol recognized in him early on and understood as something he “needs” for both confidence and full blown self-fullfilment.

Daryl’s need for “belonging” and family is why she didn’t let him pull away from the group and why she gently encouraged him to find a niche role for himself by Rick’s side.

Before the apocalypse Daryl followed Merle and did his bidding BUT once he was gone and after Shane’s death, Rick needed a right-hand man and while Carol had her reservations about Daryl falling into the henchman role, it didn’t take long for the men to develop a working dynamic of watching each other’s back.

As the alpha in this relationship Rick is usually the one making the final decisions and basically directing Daryl in what needs to be done.

Rick knows Daryl is the best possible asset to the group and the biggest weapon they have BUT there have been instances where those exact accolades were misused by Officer Friendly and circumvented them towards something that was more beneficial to them rather than him.
The biggest and best example is the frustrating, manipulative way he dealt with Merle’s return after the Woodberry rescue and of course Carol’s banishment.

Up until Too Far Gone we had seen Daryl follow Rick unilaterally and while he meekly voiced his objections regarding the Merle complications in Season 3, Rick’s decision to exile Carol was powerful enough to force Daryl’s dominant side.

In the past he had never verbally argued with Rick with this level of fierceness - even when it came to how Merle was handled within the group or when he chose to leave with Merle into the wilderness, Daryl’s aggression towards Rick was never fully visible AND he never objected to a decision this strongly before either.

Why? Because this time Rick took away CAROL…

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Okay so I just read through the tags on “how to make an INFJ jealous” post and just...

what the hell. You guys talking about “doorslamming” and “walking out?” Being nasty about this? What the fuck. This makes me not even want to date any of you. 

I cannot fathom the level of arrogance it takes to be someone who gets jealous over someone connecting with another person on a deep level. 

In retrospect, the INFJ I pissed off was probably upset because I was hella vibing with an ISTP at a bar (the INFJ and I weren’t dating) and he proceeded to be a total douche to me afterwards. Like no chill, at all. He got so bad I fucking doorslammed him. You want a doorslam, look at an ESTP 8w7 you’ve pissed off. I was his good friend for four years and I peaced the fuck out because of his jealousy. 

Jfc I cannot handle those tags. You would break up with your SO or hurt your friend because of a deep connection? Are we supposed to stay inside and be hermits?? WHAT IS THE INFJ OBSESSION WITH BEING THE CENTER OF SOMEONE’S EMOTIONAL UNIVERSE? Apparently it is more than an obsession based on the comments on that post - it’s a necessity. It’s disgusting. 

Like at the level where you’re getting mad even thinking about it? Don’t you have other better things to get upset over? I don’t think you realize how you can conjure up a self fullfilling prophecy by being so controlling and demanding. I hate this. I hate it so much. I’m probably going to end up ranting more later because I literally cannot even. I can’t. What the fuck is wrong with you people.