self confidence is up

you can be a good person with a kind spirit and still tell people to go fuck themselves when needed… always remember that love comes first but never take crap from anyone

I know it’s hard for you to talk to anyone right now, but how much do I wish I could tell you this: love isn’t everything. You don’t always have to live on the feeling of being in love. You are not a half of a whole seeking for your perfect other half; you are whole. You could be capable of creating masterpieces if you tried to reach for the sky. So please don’t get stuck in your hopeless circle, waiting for love - you are so much more than that person you said you are.

You’ve come a lot farther than you often think. You’re doing so great! :))

People are going to laugh at you when you tell them what you want to do in life and they’re going to try to tell you to be realistic. Let them think whatever the hell they want because anyone is capable of anything. If you don’t believe you can do something, you can’t. Believe in yourself, have faith, be dedicated and always keep your expectations of yourself higher than other peoples because yours are the only ones that matter. I believe in you but more than that I hope you believe in yourself.

Today I will lay
on the floor with my arms out.
Palms spread.
Toes pointed.
Somewhere along the way
I forgot how to take up space,
but I am slowly stretching out again. 
I am allowed to exist
at my fullest,
and if I do not fit in you,
I will find somewhere I do.
—  Stretching, V.P.

It’s okay to have fat and not feel confident about it.

It’s okay to have stretch marks and not feel comfortable with them.

It’s okay to have cellulite and dislike it.

Self confidence is hard and no one just woke up one day and fully loved themselves. It’s a journey and don’t let anyone shame you for being on that journey.

Everyday you are growing
more and more
into the person you are meant to be,
expanding infinitely to fill the life vessel
that is your unique being.
So if right now
your overall sense of self
is one of uncertainty,
ambiguity,
and vague confliction,
worry not, for
you are only just beginning to meet
yourself.
—  d.c.
Confidence and Insecurities

Being insecure and lack of confidence is something we all go through and it often stops us from living life to the fullest, so here are some tips on how to beat your insecurities and gain confidence.

  • Remember- not being insecure doesn’t just happen over night. It’s a gradual process that takes time.
  • Realize everyone has flaws. It’s probably one of those things that you’re tired of hearing but it’s true  
  • Learn to embrace your flaws
  • Spend time naked - don’t rush to put on clothes after a shower (unless you’re late) or when it’s hot out and you’re in your house, don’t be afraid to strip down to your undies
  • Show your body some extra love in the shower…caress it like the ladies in the soap commercials if you have to
  • take time to correct negative thoughts about yourself mentally and physically. For example: the classic “I’m not short, I’m fun sized” or don’t like the way your hair look? Style it differently. 
  • Take care of yourself and show your body love daily
  • Positive affirmations are key - tell yourself you’re beautiful daily and say it like you mean it

Building Confidence

  • Workout. You’ll feel better by knowing you’re making the effort 
  • Try clothes you didn’t think you would like. You’d be surprised by what you look great in
  • If you’re someone who likes to wear makeup, practice until you achieve the look you want
  • Wear clothes that make you feel sexy regardless of what other people think about it 
  • Think and act positive
  • Stand tall and walk with a purpose 
  • Smile 
  • Help others. When you help others you feel good because you help them 
  • Empower yourself and others
  • As always- fake it till you make it. By acting confident on a daily basis you gradually become more confident