Breaking Down the Breakup
There are plenty of challenges I am currently untangling. One of them is my recent breakup. Two weeks ago I parted ways with my girlfriend of a year and a half.
It hasn’t been easy but I now have the opportunity to practice the many things I advise others going through a breakup. I figured why not share this experience with you all. Maybe you’ll find something useful in it.
Things that I am practicing:
- Coming back to myself. Relationships get us accustomed to being one half of a whole. We are used to saying good morning and goodnight to someone. There is a constant other presence there. When that is gone, it can leave us feeling rootless.
- Coming back to yourself helps us to forgive, let go, and be grateful.
- This act of greater self-presence and self-remembrance aids in centering and reorienting ourself in our naturalness.
- Reclaiming energy leant out. There are parts of our energy that we invest in our relationships. If that relationship ends, the lingering energy can get us stuck in certain cyclic experiences and habits. Calling back that energy helps both parties to move on.
- How exactly to accomplish this abstract practice is a matter of personal discovery.
- Art, energy work, and breathing techniques are a good place to start. Also burning things.
- Reorienting my intentions for the future. It is time I re-evaluate why I would seek a romantic partner and what I would seek in such an individual.
- At the moment, I have my focus on my studies anyway. I am not actively seeking anything or anyone.
- Priorities, standards, and desires should be examined and accounted for.
- I am not controlled by the need for emotional validation, sex, or possession over another person. As such I can use this time to gain a clearer vision of what my ideal relationship might be like.
There are moments I still feel a sadness. But where I feel that sadness also reminds me of where my heart is, and that it is still working. And for that I am grateful.
Namaste my friends.