self awareness

If you inherently long for something, become it first. If you want gardens, become the gardener. If you want love, embody love. If you want mental stimulation, change the conversation. If you want peace, exude calmness. If you want to fill your world with artists, begin to paint. If you want to be valued, respect your own time. If you want to live ecstatically, find the ecstasy within yourself. This is how to draw it in, day by day, inch by inch.
—  Victoria Erickson
Questions for Knowing Yourself Better

1. If you could change one aspect of your life or personality, what would it be?

2. Are you “your own person” or are you defined and pushed around by others?

3. Is there any area of your life where you feel out of control?

4. Do you feel more comfortable in an organised or chaotic environment?

5. How comfortable are you with spontaneous ideas, or a last minute change in plans?

6. Do you feel renewed by being around others, or is it crucial for you to have time on your own?

7. Are you motivated, or undermined, by competition?

8. Do you work well under pressure, or do you tend to fall apart?

9. Are you better at praising and complimenting others, or at consciously affirming and building yourself up?

10. Are you a morning or an evening person?

11. Do you persevere, or do you give up easily?

12. Do you like to go with the flow, or take control of your own life?

13. Are you more of a thinker or a feeler?

14. What are your passions and goals?

15. What would your perfect day look like?

What does it Mean to be Self Aware?

Healthy self-awareness means:

1. Being aware of our changing emotions, and knowing who and what tends to trigger them. Then, using that knowledge to choose how you respond.

2. Being aware of our negative, destructive thoughts patterns, and challenging our tendencies to jump to wrong conclusions … or to over-exaggerate how terrible things are.

3. Being aware of what is happening, and changing, in our bodies so we know when we are stressed, or are reaching breaking point.

4. Understanding our habits and behavioural patterns – so we’re not at their mercy, and they don’t control our lives.

5. Being aware of our assumptions and expectations, and knowing how they influence various aspects of our lives – like the goals we set, and the things we say and do.

6. Being aware of how our actions, our words and responses affect and influence other people in our lives (in both a positive and negative way).

After several mornings of relapse over conditional love, something changed today. It was the way I saw myself. It’s when you become aware that you are made from love. I realized you don’t honor me in the way that someone with true love in their heart would. Love feels warm and in all of the forms it comes in, you don’t reflect any of them. You don’t mirror my soul and I have to know and love what I am looking into.

“The only thing we can perceive are our perceptions. In other words, consciousness is the matrix upon which the cosmos is apprehended. Color, sound, temperature, and the like exist only as perceptions in our head, not as absolute essences. In the broadest sense, we cannot be sure of an outside universe at all.”