selena and val

Realities of a Gay Teen Mom

Ok, this is my first attempt at blogging ever.. No harsh criticism.

To some, my title in life may seem bizarre; to others, it may be somewhat inspiring.. My name is Valerie, or Val. I am 17 years old, mother of a two year old boy, Shaun, and partner to my girlfriend, Selena of almost two years. In a generation such as ours, homosexuality is becoming much more accepted, but prejudice always finds its way. Well, if you are or aren’t prejudice, give me a chance to educate you a bit on our alternative side of life.

I had my son at 15, with his father who I had dated in grade school, pretty crazy, right? Well, yes. Teen moms are often viewed as irresponsible girls who threw their life away with one crazy mistake. Pregnancy at a young age, of course, isn’t very smart… Shit happens. No one has the right to judge these girls for their choices. Many, like myself, continue with school, and maintain a decent life for their child. We’re GOING TO fuck up, and need some help occasionally, but who doesn’t?! Most of these girls are even forced to face it alone, in horrible circumstances. I was lucky enough to have the full support of my son’s father, and my mom. At one point I had to do it all alone, when Shaun was still a newborn till about 5 months; I would take him to school with me, ride endless buses, and depended on no one. My heart goes out to all of you who have and are still been persevering for your children!

Having said that, I wasn’t always gay… obviously. I met Selena my sophomore year of high school -At that point, I no longer had Shaun in my care.. I was locked away in a group home, and his dad left with full responsibility.- I never pictured myself with a lesbian partner. I had nothing against gays, honestly. I just never thought I’d end up as one.-Selena was one of those people that I believe was born gay, and never gave up who she had been from the very start.- We started dating within a few months of meeting, spent a whole summer together, and started another school year never letting go of each other. As melodramatic as it may sound, we fell in love. I found myself hoping this wasn’t a teenage hormonal phase, and praying she’d stay in my life for good. So to all of you couples, gay or straight, when you really think you’ve found that inescapable infatuation for someone who feels the same way, treasure it, and don’t let society tell you it’s all bullshit emotions. I am in absolute surrendered love with my darling son, and an incredible punk rock dyke! She loves him, and he loves her. His innocence holds no prejudice for her abnormal image, or for my adolescent choices.

Beyond all the rude criticism, and arrogant judgements, I’m happy. Yes, life is always going to suck in some way, but it’s important to seek our light of day. Since my freshman year pregnancy, I’ve dealt with physical ailment, depression, substance abuse, addiction, group homes, homelessness, foster homes, and more than enough relationship problems. Now a senior in high school, ready to graduate(early if I wanted to!) and prepared for my future raising Shaun right, and hopefully starting a family with Selena along the way. I don’t care for society’s opinion. I am proud to be a lesbian teen mother. And hope that if you actually read this far, you took something from my ramble. Thank you.

A beautiful day with my son and girlfriend.

She is his best friend and second dad(since he can’t tell she’s a girl sometimes) ; and he is her best friend, even at two years old. It’s a wonderful, undeniable friendship, and it couldn’t make me happier as his mom <3