seek therapy

Part of the stigma against seeking therapy is perpetuated by scene after scene where it’s made out to be a teeth pulling exercise and/or combat

Where the character mistrusts and acts as though they are only there because they are being MADE to be there






To the asexual boys

You are not broken because you do not experience sexual attraction.
If you are interested in dating, you’re not alone! There are many lovely people who will share or accommodate your sexual orientation.
If you’re aromantic, that’s completely fine.
You don’t need to be “fixed”. (But if you want to seek therapy, you deserve support.)
You’re a cutie 💕

I don’t want to be angry anymore. I want to be calm. I want to stop hurting people and blowing up all the time. I hate myself for it. It’s straining my relationship. It’s made my mom cry. I just lose it and blow up on anyone that’s near me when I’m mad and I know it isn’t fair but I feel like I can’t control it, and every time I go off I just get more angry at myself and it makes it worse. My anger is out of control and I don’t know how to fix it. I feel like the worst piece of shit.
—  Posted by Anonymous

Dear Zindagi deserves all the fucking awards in existence. Alia was phenomenal and Shah Rukh will never understand what his taking on of Dr. Jehangir Khan’s role meant to me, as someone who is mentally ill and a humongous fan of his.

To see SRK’s face validate your mental illness and say that it’s not any less real cause it’s in your mind and to touch on fears that plague you, is an indescribable feeling.

For a Bollywood movie to touch on mental illness and normalize those of us who seek therapy is an indescribable feeling.

11/10 stars for this movie, it is a must see.

When Asian American students seek therapy…their mental health issues–overwhelmingly perceived as intergenerational familial conflicts–are often diagnosed as being exclusively symptomatic of cultural (not political) conflicts. That is, by configuring Asian cultural difference as the source of all intergenerational disease, Asian culture comes to serve as an alibi or a scapegoat for a panoply of mental health issues. These issues may, in fact, trace their etiology not to questions of Asian cultural difference, but rather to forms of institutionalized racism and economic exploitation. The segregation of Asian American health issues into the domain of cultural difference thus covers over the need to investigate structural questions of social inequity as they circulate both inside and outside the therapeutic space of the clinic.
—  David L. Eng and Shinhee Han, “A Dialogue on Racial Melancholia,” Loss: The Politics of Mourning, pg.355-6 (x)

anonymous asked:

hello are u ok

not in the slightest. episodic depression. but I just found out I will be approved for health care in a week which means I can finally seek therapy and medication so I’m looking forward to that

hey friends, conversion therapy is a VERY specific thing.

i have read accounts of aspecs having a difficult time in therapy due to shitty therapists and claiming it to be ace conversion therapy. while their experiences are valid and they have a right to be upset about the poor mental health care they received, only a single account that i’ve read out of numerous had the possibility of coming close to being ace conversion therapy.

this is because all except one of these accounts described consenting adults seeking out therapy for mental health reasons (not to fix their asexuality) of their own free will.

that is not what conversion therapy is. the vast majority of the time, this “therapy” is forced onto a person, typically by a parent or institution. these therapies have historically used aversive conditioning techniques, including but not limited to electric shock, nausea-inducing drugs, castration, and verbal humiliation and bullying (calling patients “worthless”), as well as lobotomy. other used techniques could include invasive procedures like rectal massages and bladder washing.

in conversion therapy, the only focus of the treatment is either both eliminating “homosexual feelings” and creating heterosexual attraction, or exclusively the former.

practices of this today include sending children to conversion “camps,” where strict and abusive disipline is used as a conversion tactic, and intensive psychotherapy.

it is important to note that even in cases of “consentual” conversion therapy, the absolute focus is on eliminating the patient’s “homosexual feelings/attraction/behavior.”

the one account from an ace person that could even remotely qualify did not have much information. it said that the person’s mother had employed their priest to try and councel the girl in an attempt to rid her of her asexuality.

while this is not okay and my heart goes out to this person, this is STILL not conversion therapy because conversion therapy is defined as a “psychological treatment or spiritual counseling designed to change a person’s sexual orientation from homosexual or bisexual to heterosexual.”

this term is used to describe a specific practice that has been historically used to violently oppress LGBT people on a systemic level. please stop saying that ace conversion therapy is a thing when this is a term specific to this situation.

I had a dream last night that JKR was developing a TV show with HBO and it was called “The Malfoys ”, that portrayed the difficulties an adult Draco Malfoy faces as he tries to balance the conflicting requirements of his home life and his job,  struggling with his past (choices he made, why he did it), seeking help in therapy. It was basically The Sopranos with magic. I imagined all those amazing episodes titles like “A pure-blood walks into a psychiatrist’s office” and “I dream of Hermione Granger”.

Guys, It was the best! The show totally broke the “Slytherins are evil” stereotype.

anonymous asked:

I recently had the opportunity to meet the creator of the character I'm kin with. I was excited to tell her about it but when I did she basically told me that I'm not, and that she doesn't want me to think or claim that I am anymore and said the character is based on a specific person in her life. She also told me that I needed to "seek therapy" and "maybe be medicated". I'm disassociating so hard now. That is my identity and it was so important that she accept me but she ripped it away from me

I’m so sorry she did that. Regardless of the kin things, she telling you to get therapy and medicated is just… really rude, and shows how uniformed she is. You can’t help being kin with a character- you’re not hurting anyone by doing it.

Being in a relationship/ in love with someone who has mental health issues, and encouraging them to recover and then they emotionally and verbally abuse you anytime they get frustrated or angry… has been a journey. It’s even sadder when all you’ve ever wanted for them is to recover and to start practicing self love. This year I learnt the concept of loving someone so much that you want them to be happy even if that doesn’t include you, you want them to recover even if that means you taking a step back and this doesn’t remove the love you still posses for them. I also learnt that there’s a thin line between love and hate and it’s called misunderstanding. I’ve learnt the importance of communication and patience. I’ve learnt to accept an apology I may never receive and to not allow that to have an impact on the love that still remains. I’ve learnt to follow my heart and ignore the inexperienced advice from people around me. I’ve also learnt that I wasn’t prepared for such an encounter and it revealed the negative sides to me that I wasn’t aware of and has highlighted the personal issues that I am beginning to resolve. I’ve learnt that seeking therapy and talking to someone isn’t something you should scared of. And I’ve learnt what it’s like to be a helping hand even though it probably will never be appreciated or needed. I’ve learnt the lengths love will take you when you see the light in someone and just want them to be free. I’ve learnt to never give up on people - even if they have given up on me or even worst, themselves. Ive learnt the true meaning of “I’m here if you need me” and I’ll always stick to that. I hope you’re reading and I’m sorry I didn’t understand you all these months. I hope you see the importance of true self love and start your recovery.

anonymous asked:

I'm sorry if this is a sensitive question you don't have to answer it. I just wanted to know if this is sexual abuse. I'm 15 and my brother is 18 when I was young like 6 he would make me make out with him and he would touch me saying 'all grown ups do it' and he would say he just wants to try something. I would always say no but he'd convince me. I don't like thinking it's sexual abuse because he's my brother and I was a child, I didn't understand and he didn't. I feel disgusted remembering it

It does count as sexual abuse. Depending on the age of your brother he would most likely not be found criminally responsible. And it’s ok for you to seek help or therapy for this without blaming your brother if you do not feel he is responsible in anyway.


100 Pounds

This morning was a special milestone in my weight loss journey–I have lost 100 pounds. I began my weight loss in August of 2015, and on March 9th, 2016, I underwent gastric bypass surgery.

Some people believe that weight loss surgery is “the easy way out,” and I’m here to tell you it really IS NOT. This has been the most difficult thing I have done in my life. Perhaps the most difficult part of the journey itself is the emotional roller coaster I have been on over the last year and a half. I may be biased in this regard (as I am a psychotherapist), but I cannot stress enough how vital it is to seek therapy when you know you have an unhealthy relationship with food or your body. I have learned a lot about myself in regard to how I used food as a coping mechanism (albeit an unhealthy one) and where that need to self-soothe through food came from in the first place. I have seen myself through binge-eating disorder complete with shameful eating in my car to avoid judgment and hide my binges. Now I actually struggle to eat in the first place; I’ve lost my appetite since the surgery so now I have to actively remind myself to eat and meet my macros. The last thing I need is for this to turn into a different eating disorder–and I have talked about that fear with my therapist.

The next hurdle in my emotional journey is coming up soon as I approach my lowest adult weight ever. I find myself having more and more questions (some quite irrational):

  • What will I look like below 260 pounds?
  • What if I am misshapen in some way?
  • I plateaued at 260 before; can I get past that mark and continue losing?

The biggest conclusion I have come to regarding my weight loss journey is that no matter what happens, I absolutely cannot beat myself up about anything–food decisions or body image inclusive.

Part of why I ended up as heavy as I was was because of how I was treating myself internally. I was my biggest critic, and I never gave myself constructive criticism. The most destructive thing in my life wasn’t the food I was eating (to an extent), instead, it was how I spoke to myself. Being body positive DOES NOT equate to fat acceptance–I have always understood I needed to lose weight to be healthier, but until I started appreciating the body I have and loving myself with all of my scars, folds, stretch marks, and fat, I couldn’t really commit to bettering myself.

Wall of text aside, here are my parting words:

  • Be kind to yourself; self-loathing and destructive criticism is not going to help you get better.
  • Talk to someone! Weight loss is as much an emotional process as it is physical.
  • Accept your body throughout all its changes.
  • Embrace and own up to your mistakes. Should I have eaten that? Probably not, but it’s okay, I’m going to have a protein shake for dinner.
  • You can do this.

We live in a society that preaches normality for people who suffer from mental illness. We are told to seek help. “Go to therapy”, “take medications”, “don’t be ashamed of your conditions”, “it’s a chemical imbalance.” Yet there’s still a negative stigma associated with the words ‘mental illness’ and 'therapy’.

Wake up people. It’s 2016, going to therapy and taking medication for a chemical imbalance doesn’t make you weak. Taking these steps to help themselves grow shows just how strong and brave an individual actually is.

Suffering from Back Pain? Try Exercise.

Approximately 31 million Americans suffer from low back pain, according to the American Chiropractic Association (ACA). It’s the most common cause of worker disability worldwide, costing billions of dollars annually in both direct and indirect costs.

While many people who suffer from back pain struggle to perform otherwise simple tasks, mustering up the energy to exercise could prove beneficial. According to new guidelines published by the American College of Physician, individuals suffering from chronic low pain should seek non-drug therapy first, which includes heat wraps, massage therapy, and exercise.

Heat wraps work by stimulating blood flow to the affected region. When heat is placed over a body part, more blood flows to that region. This, in turn, encourages faster healing times while subsequently reducing pain and associated symptoms.

Massage therapy works in a similar fashion by also encouraging blood flow to the affected muscle or region. Furthermore, massage therapy “works out” muscle knots that could be the root cause of back pain.

So, how exactly does exercise offer relief of lower back pain? When you exercise, muscles are stretched and worked. It also promotes more blood flow; thus, speeding up recovery times. The bottom line is that exercise does in fact work to reduce lower back pain. It’s not 100% effective in all cases, but when used in conjunction with a healthy lifestyle, exercise can certainly help to relieve lower back pain.

Given that most patients with acute or subacute low back pain improve over time regardless of treatment, clinicians and patients should select nonpharmacologic treatment with superficial heat massage, acupuncture, or spinal manipulation,“ the American College of Physicians says in its new guidance.

Of course, there are other steps you can take to relieve back pain, some of which include the following:

  • Avoid bending over and performing other motions that strain your lower back.
  • Take a non-steroidal anti-inflammatory drug (NSAID) like aspirin or ibuprofen.
  • Maintain a healthy diet, focusing on lean meats with fresh fruit and vegetables.
  • Be conscious of your posture, keeping your body upright whether seated or standing.
  • When lifting objects, bend your knees until they are almost parallel to the floor, at which point you can grab the object and extend your knees back straight.
  • Avoid prolonged sitting or other long periods of inactivity.

Kid-quisitor [ 20yrs later / Companion AU ]
★  Maybe

A collection of Older Varian doodles because @shoddymoddy & @niklisson motivate me to draw him in a happier tone. 20 years after Corypheous though.

( Aerys Lavellan belongs to @niklisson // Mavis & Al’Has Lavellan belongs to @shoddymoddy )

Touch Repulsion Dialogue Prompts/Asks

“Why did you push me away?”

“Maybe you should seek therapy.”

“If you don’t touch people, what would you do if you were dying and someone had to resuscitate you?”

“Can’t you give me a hug just this once? We’re meant to be family!”

“I’m not coming onto you or anything, don’t be dramatic.”

“You should be over this by now.”

“It’s okay, you don’t need to feel obliged to touch if it makes you uncomfortable.”

“Ah! It felt like it burned when I touched you!” (for powers which make touch difficult)

“Tell me why you think I’m obligated to hug you?”

“This is really awkward, but I don’t want to cuddle or anything. It’s not me being cold or anything…”

“This isn’t normal.”

“I hate being this way, but I can’t help it, so shut up about it!”

“I’m not abnormal, and you need to get over it.”

“Get the fuck off of me!”

“Hey! Keep away from them, they don’t like it.”

“You really hurt their feelings when you refused to hug. You should apologise.”

“It’s a pleasure to meet you. Uh… I don’t shake hands. It’s personal, I’m sorry.”

“My reasons are my own and I don’t have to explain myself.”

Admitting that you need help is incredibly difficult. Seeking help and/or therapy for the areas of life in which you need that help is arguably even harder. Working on finding healthier and more effective coping strategies for those struggles and fostering an understanding of the underlying causes of those struggles is harder still. If/when you add mental illness to this equation of sorts, everything becomes seemingly impossible. If someone you know has the courage to say, “okay, so, things are really not okay right now and I need help finding a way or a reason to get out of my bed in the morning so I’m going to take this humongous step and give this fight for happiness/contentment all I’ve got,” please respect them and cheer them on. Support them! If you are one of those people who’s said that and is seeking a solution: I am so proud of you, I believe in you so much, and I know that you can do this, you can fight this. We will get through it all and we will be okay. We are strong. We are important. We are good enough. We really, really are. Promise. <3