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How to celebrate the New Moon 🌑
  • Channel lunar energy and store it in a crystal for later use
  • Make new moon water
  • Perform any spells for new beginnings, cleansing, renewal, rebirth, peace, love, and healing 
  • Leave offerings for the moon 
  • Cleanse any tools, crystals, or other witchy items 
  • Cleanse yourself in the bath or shower - visualize any negative energy being washed down the drain (using soaps, shower gels, or bath oils that consist of scents like citrus, lavender, lemongrass, or anything else you associate with cleansing)
  • Cleanse your home
  • Put up new wards or renew wards that are currently in place
  • Take a ritual bath using herbs and oils that represent the moon (jasmine, lemon, sandalwood, honeysuckle, for example)
  • Alternately, use herbs and oils that represent rebirth and renewal instead (cedar, grapefruit, lemon, lemongrass, lime, etc.)
  • Light incense that corresponds to the moon
  • Start a new creative project 
  • Seek out new friendships or relationships 
  • Put in applications for employment, college, etc.
  • Break old or bad habits 
  • Treat yourself
When you are your own best friend, you don’t endlessly seek out relationships, friendships, and validation from the wrong sources because you realize that the only approval and validation you need is your own.
—  Mandy Hale 
When you are your own best friend, you don’t endlessly seek out relationships, friendships, and validation from the wrong sources because you realize that the only approval and validation you need is your own.
—  Mandy Hale
When you are your own best friend, you don’t endlessly seek out relationships, friendships, and validation from the wrong sources because you realize that the only approval and validation you need is your own.
—  Mandy Hale
being an ambivert (intro/extrovert at the same time)...

1. I love the idea of being in social settings, meeting new people but sometimes small introductory conversations are not my cup of tea.. I end up stuttering & saying dumb shit like “I really like the shape of your head, really nice, defined..” So I’ve just given up seeking out new friendships. 

2. I’ll dead ass wake up in the morning feeling like “hummm.. this is a good day to hibernate & not to see humans, imma sleep in, pamper myself, read a book, cook, smoke myself up tonight, etc.” but by 12pm, my soul is craving a party, a  kickback or something of the sort.. 

3. I can go from binge watching Netflix for 2 days straight with an introverted friend to hitting that milly and shaking my ass at the club with a bunch of extroverts and have just about the same amount of fun with both. 

4. I can easily read people, put myself in others’ shoes and understand multiple points of views. 

5. I can do some wild, versatile shit like chop off all my hair, or dye it blue, have bodacious makeup on, dress a little out of the ordinary, perform in front of 100s of people etc. but standard conversation with strangers makes me extremely nervous/uncomfortable. 

6.I’m  Indecisive as fuck! 

7. I’m the person that will make plans with you, be hella excited to finally step out, hit the town and just have a great time but if you happen to cancel? Better believe I’mma enjoy this bed of mine just as much. I got Netflix && Hulu plus, faack you mean? 

8. I’ve questioned wether or not I’m bipolar several times. 

Sometimes things are great! Sometimes… they’re really, really not. This is my personal plan for fixing everything when I don’t know what to do, and I thought other people might find it helpful. If you identify with this sentiment, but don’t think this is the right way for you to work on the problems you’re facing, that’s totally fine, and sometimes these aren’t things to work through by yourself.

This is what works for me, but really consider what your goals are and consider this as less of a how-to and more of possible framework to figure out where you want to go. A lot of this also refers to managing things within my apartment that aren’t super applicable if you aren’t the one responsible for your own groceries say. Use what’s useful and skip what’s not. You’ve got this.

Step One: Breathe, baby. This probably feels awful, whatever’s going on. Icky maybe. And that’s something that should change, but before the visible problems can shift, take a look at how you’re taking care of yourself right now. This step is the reset button - just a beginner’s step in areas that are central and maybe stressing you out. Stop the cycle of whatever was throwing you off.

I like to start with the executive function stuff. There might be a lot you feel like you have a lot to do - it’s been a while since things have been good about notes on all those readings, right? But unless there’s something absolutely 100% immediate and pressing, this first:

  • Drink some water. Wash your water bottle or a cup you like to drink from. Just one dish. The rest of them can wait just a little bit longer. Keep remembering to drink water. You’ll feel better.
  • How’s your room? Can you do some laundry? Get some things in the trash? Make your bed? Start with a single task that will get some things off the floor, but doesn’t feel scary. Leave the rest of it. You can fix it later.
  • When was the last time you ate something? Has it been a while? If there’s something at home, good. Eat that. If there isn’t, go pick something up from somewhere you feel safe. Worry about vegetables later. Eat anything right now.
  • Find somewhere you feel comfortable. Pick something acheivable. Do that thing. Whatever you’re ready for. Nothing scary. Nothing heavy. Spend some doing enough work that you feel like you’re being productive again; like you’ve finished something because you have! Then come back. Do you feel better?

In the interest of space, the rest is under the cut. :)

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Capricorn the Late Bloomer

Capricorns are very much about soliciting their real place in the ‘real’ world. His gifts await in the realm of organization, pragmatism and ensuring efficiency found within the existing structures. Capricorns are a unique sign of the zodiac. This is partly courtesy of their curious tendency to ‘age backwards’. Considered ‘late bloomers’ in astrology, Capricorn people really burst into life when they can sit back and finally enjoy the revenue of many years of hard work. He wants to build something important in the world that stands as testimony to his dedication and effort, and becomes eternally illuminated when these projects finally see fruition. The comfort that comes with age is usually enough to free the Capricorn from his inborn feelings of responsibility, duty and unworthiness. By the time they are elders, Capricorns have the ability to really let go and delight in simple things in a childlike way.  

The Capricorn life is filled with many lessons leading to the attainment of will power. Their ruler, Saturn is a powerful ally that throws multiple, time consuming obstacles in his path, though Saturn, the alchemist always provides the promise of immeasurable success once these are overcome. The early life of the Capricorn seems harsh, with many conflicts arising not only with authority but also within himself. Typically reserved as children, he was scared of expressing his true feelings and emotions. Young Capricorns are eager to shoulder adult responsibilities and feel more comfortable around people older people, and will seek out friendships with people outside their peer group on purpose. Sometimes Capricorns only allows himself to express his inner child when he is almost too old to enjoy it.

In their 30’s, following the first Saturn Return, Capricorns finally begin to release hold of all the self imposed restrictions and limitations. He slowly allows himself to relax into life a little more and start growing into his own skin. The Capricorn youth can be plagued by the monologue of a vicious inner critic; the inner judge that is always quick to criticize and deliver a well timed reality check. As Capricorn ages, he learns to create that equally opposing voice. This is the voice that tells him how beautiful, intelligent and vital he truly is. With every birthday crossed off the years, the Capricorn becomes lighter, freer and truly blooms as the incandescent flower he is.


anonymous asked:

Please can you explain the Juno signs to me, I don't understand it :((

well i can take my best shot at it!!

Basically, in mythology, Juno is the wife of Jupiter, leading this comment to be more about just that: commitment. Unlike Venus, which Juno is related to more often than not, Juno focuses on “soul mates”, and marriage, relationships, and true love. 

Juno in Aries- Someone with a Juno in Aries may find they need independence to keep a relationship going. Without this independence, they may become upset, since they feel caged. They’re attracted to others who are dominating and assertive. These two bits contradict, because although Juno in Aries wants independence, they also want authority in a partner. People with this placement are always up for adventuring and discovering new things!

Juno in Taurus- People with their Juno in Taurus look for security in their relationships. They want a partner who will be loyal, protective, and trustworthy. Taurus Junos are dedicated people, and they expect their partner to be the same. They look for a solid and stable relationship, and when they find someone offering this, they will put the same effort in.

Juno in Gemini- With this placement, Juno in Gemini natives look for communication, which is a big requirement for the sign ruled by Mercury. They need a partner who is intelligent to sustain conversation. They may not look for commitment in a relationship, but rather seek out friendships. When they have this communication aspect, they are happy and satisfied, but otherwise they may get nervous and uncomfortable. 

Juno in Cancer- Cancer Junos need emotional stimulation, which means they need someone who is caring and they can depend on. They love nuturing others, and they want the same feeling reciprocated. Because of this, they may come off as clingy and dependent. They look for someone who holds values such as family and home near to them, as they do. They may feel the need to commit to their relationships, no matter what it takes. 

Juno in Leo- Just like the sun sign, Leo in Juno wants their love life to be passionate and exciting. They like to be the center of attention in a relationship, but also look for a partner who they could equally be proud of. They look for qualities such as creativity and playfulness.

Juno in Virgo- People with this placement tend to have high expectations when looking for a companion. They may set unrealistic goals, and can even micromanage a relationship. All in all, they want their partner to be perfect. They are attracted to others who are goal-oriented, and well-organized.  If they are given stability in a relationship, they will be loyal. 

Juno in Libra- Libra Junos are constantly looking for balance in their relationships. They’ll want to share plenty of experiences with their significant other, and look to them for conversation. Being ruled by Venus, Juno in Libra looks for well-groomed partners, who are also social and have an eye for beauty. They generally search out others who share their interests.

Juno in Scorpio- Generally with this placement, natives are looking for an emotional and intense relationship. They can tend to be controlling and jealous, but they are also loyal and dedicated all around in a relationship. They look to someone who can stimulate their senses (yes, stereotypical I know, but sex), but also strong and emotionally connected. 

Juno in Sagittarius- Unlike most fire Junos, with this placement people may look for stimulating and intellectual conversations. However, like Leo and Aries Junos, they have a need to travel and explore; to pick up and go on an adventure. They enjoy personal freedoms, and needs a partner who doesn’t need to be dependent on them. 

Juno in Capricorn- Like other earth Junos, Capricorns look for relationships that are traditional, secure, trustworthy and reliable. Those with this placement tend not to be over emotional, and base relationships over interaction and conversation. They look for traits they seem in themselves (loyal, responsibility, etc.) when searching for a partner. 

Juno in Aquarius- Those with their Juno in Aquarius find that they need to be independent from their partner, and cannot be held down. Rather than passionate in a relationship, they’re more playful and friendly, looking to either adore their partner, or have their partner adore them. They need somebody who can understand their dreams/goals, rather than hinder their ability to complete them. 

Juno in Pisces- Pisces in Juno natives look for a spiritual, emotional relationship. Attracted to those who are creative and sensitive like them, they want a partner they can confide in, and who are imaginative and artistic. 

I hope this helped some!!! (just a note, I had to do some research for this, so these aren’t all my own thoughts)

Kid!Phan (2) Masterlist

part one

Ages Through The Years - pasteldanhowells

Summary: Dan and Phil meet as kids, and this is them growing up together.

A Little More Love - crescendohowell

Summary: Dan and Phil met on the first day of kindergarten and from there it was history.  Or rather they became such close friends that many years later, when the feelings began to shift towards something other than friendship, both were terrified.

Babies (ao3) - iguessicantry

Summary: Dan overhears the adults talking about making babies. He soon believes he and Phil have made a huge mistake.

Blue Neighborhood - fluffyloser

Summary: Dan and Phil have known each other since they were kids, but their friendship has always been different.

Buddy System - litsy-kalyptica

Summary: Five-year-old Dan has a hero named Phil; he’s too young to know that heroes aren’t always as strong as they seem.

Childhood Best Friend - phanjam

Summary: Dan and Phil were born on the same day, in the same ward, and lived on the same street. This is the story of them growing up together, from the very beginning.

Did You Hear That? - phanwhenimbored

Summary: kid!phan Dan and Phil are having a sleepover at Dan’s house. They watch a scary movie and while Dan isn’t too scared, Phil is terrified.

Finally Found a Friend - phandabbydosey

Summary: Phil is deaf and when hes a little boy (primary school) and is really lonely but there comes a new kid named Dan who, plot twist, is also deaf.

Gosh, Your Lips Look Delicious - euphania

Summary: Dan and Phil are childhood friends and adult sense something.

Hand Holding Is Not Cool - jilliancares

Summary: Dan and Phil are supposed to hold hands when going to the shop alone, but Phil doesn’t want to.

Happy Valentine’s Day - pasteldanhowells

Summary: Phil hates Valentine’s Day, he thinks it’s a stupid holiday and he wants nothing to do with it. But after a new kid joins his classroom, he thinks that maybe this holiday isn’t so stupid after all.

Hiding Feelings And Seeking Friendship - adorablehowell

Summary: Dan and Phil are ten year olds who have become friends against all odds

Just A Little Bit Of Magic - uhnonniemiss

Summary: It’s Dan’s eleventh birthday, and he’s looking forward to getting his Hogwarts letter. There’s just one problem- Hogwarts isn’t real, so he won’t get one, right? Wrong, if your best friend is Phil Lester, apparently.

Little Lights In My Heart (ao3) - parttimestoryteller

Summary: Dan and Phil are children together, best friends from the offset. Even as they drift apart Phil’s little lights stay with Dan and he carries the theory with him through into old age.

Perfectly Normal (ao3) - TodayWe_Are_Infinite

Summary: Dan was 10 when he realized that the way he looked at his friend wasn’t normal. And people had started to notice. He refused to tell his mother why he was sent to the nurse’s office with a bloody nose. He tried not to tell Phil either, but his friend was excellent at coaxing things out of him.

Scary Storms - jilliancares

Summary: Dan gets saved from a thunderstorm by scary and cool Phil Lester when he was eleven and continues to be protected from them, even as a twenty year old.

The Polar Express - paeracosms

Summary: Children Dan and Phil find themselves aboard the Polar Express.

Wishes on Dandelions - discoveringemily

Summary: Phil has a best friend that no one else can see or talk to, Bear. Bear has been his best friend since he was 3. Phil is now 11 and still best friends with Bear. His parents have started to worry and takes him to a therapist. But what will happen to Phil if Bear is forced away from him?

Put Me first.  Put My friendship above all else.  You cannot live without My friendship.  It is not good that you should be alone.  Seek My Face at all times and in all things.  Seek My open Heart present in the Sacrament of My Love.  I have called you to be My friend.  I have revealed Myself to you as the Friend whom you have always desired, the Friend who will never mislead you, never disappoint you, never abandon you.  Open your heart to My friendship.  Seek My Face.  Converse with Me.  Listen to Me.  Remain in My presence.  Know that at every moment My eyes rest upon you.  My Heart is, at every moment, ready to welcome you.
—  Jesus, as recorded by an anonymous monk in In Sinu Jesu, pg. 26
  • Them: you shouldn't be learning about it, or telling anyone about it!! multiple personalities??? you shouldn't be glorifying it!!
  • Me: [who constantly deals with the negative stigma against mental illness, struggles daily with insomnia, nightmares, flashbacks, amnesia, fear, isolation, who tries to seek out happiness and friendship and community in any way I know how] .....why not?

Two polar opposite fandoms I am in are currently (both) having drama over the age difference of fans…sixteen year olds and 27 year olds and 30+ year olds are trying to both enjoy content on the same platform…their paths are bound to cross. Is it okay for the 27 to 30+ year olds to follow the blogs of sixteen year olds? To see the content reblogged or posted? Should they reply to posts? Should they comment? Should they allow sixteen year olds to follow their blogs?

I realized that I am old. I am 27…almost 28. I am an adult. I’ve been conditioned from the age of 12 to seek friendship, comfort, escape, and creativity online. I grew up with the internet. I grew up with fandoms and online friendship. My first instinct is to reach out to usernames/blogs/artists/writers and befriend them. Squeal over fandom stuff with them. Enjoy the thing we both love. But those people have always been ages similar to mine…until now…now…now I am thinking I can’t do that any more. And I am at a loss. 

Am I not allowed that escape? That comfort? Where is a place for me? Do I need to unfollow blogs that are run by teens but produce awesome content? I don’t know these answers and it’s kind of flummoxed me. I am the old one so I should be the adult. I am the mature one so I need to do what should be done. But…I don’t know what that is? Have I behaved in a way that would have made someone uncomfortable? My age is in my description but not everyone looks at it so am I responsible for making it known that I am a “mature” blog? Even if any interaction I do initiate or receive is professional? Or a tiny bit of squee-ing over the thing we both enjoy?

I am lost. Being the older one means I have to do the hard thing and pull away. I have to grow up. Because I am grown. But I don’t feel like a grownup. I don’t feel like an adult. I don’t want to grow up. I want to love things and get excited about things and share that love with other people but everything is so complicated now.

TL;DR - I am having a existential crises about my age and whether or not I have to “grow up” and start screening who I follow and who follows me so that I  don’t interact with teens

The only way to have a friend is to be one.

Ralph Waldo Emerson

Seek to understand, not to be understood. The only way to have a friend is to be one, and I’m grateful for mine. 

Venus Sign (Part 1)

• Aries: They are ardent, passionate, jealous but inconstancy. It reflect the desire to be in command. Demostrativitate in love, sentimental effusions, passion. Predisposition for love at first sight. Feelings are not sustainable: it starts suddenly, burns like burning straw and then fire dies. 

Taurus: Sensual and seductive. They like to “hunt”, to pursue their “prey”. Wire love, deep feelings and lasting emotions. Attraction for physical pleasures. They are jealous, possessive and need security in a relationship. Express their love concretely. 

• Gemini: Playful, unpredictable. They like to declare their love in the most inventive ways; difficult to maintain because they are constantly in search of innovation. Gentle, sentimental, romantic but full of whims moods. They are attracted by intellectual pleasure. Penchant for intense relational life, but without a strong emotional involvement. Predisposition to flirt. Emotions are “intellectualised”, dominated by a reason. 

• Cancer: Dreamy, loyal, sweet, seductive and devotated. They love to cuddle or be cuddled and have a protective attitude. Gentle, sentimental, romantic but full of whims moods. They are attracted by family idea and they want tenderness and affection. 

• Leo: Capable of anything for the loved person. They like to lead the relationship and associate love with pomp. Egocentrism and the desire to enjoy the life to the maximum. They love sincere, passionate, fiery. They may be materialistic. 

• Virgo: Shy, cold attitude, reserved. They analyze their partner well because they have very precise standards in their choice and they love rational and capable of great devotation people. They express their feelings practical, simple, pure, inocent and devotational. Their feelings may be discreet, modest and reserved. 

 • Libra: Romantic, dreamy and sympathetic. They don’t have too deep feelings and get bored quickly. Attraction to pleasure. They focus on idea of partnership and they want to have someone who looks good; they need to attract atention in society. 

• Scorpio: Passionate, erotic, possessive, jealous with a particular sexual magnetism. They are capable of extreme feelings, going from the most intense love to the worst hate. Attraction for pleasure and sex. They want all or nothing. 

• Sagittarius: Full of temperament, enthusiastic. They want to be in love and express their feelings optimistically, expansive and generous. Instability in the sentimental life, adventurous impulses, the possibilty of having parallel relationships. They can’t guarantee fidelity. 

• Capricorn: Seriousness, loyalty, depth. The foolish actionand the seething passion are missing. They try showing love through deeds, ignoring words.They seek understanding and support more than spiritual warmth. Sentimental side is austere, cold, rigid. 

• Aquarius: They are tactful, fascinating, fun, full of fantasy with a benevolent attitude that avoid imposing rules. They seek relations based on friendship, affinity of ideas, freedom and mutual trust. Manifest sentimentally. 

• Pisces: Dreamy, delicate, romantic, selfless in love. The feelings are deep, impregnated with compassion, dedication and sacrifice capacity. A large dose of romance, tenderness and ability to abandon in love.The ability to give oneself completely.