I have severe eczema all over my body, including my face. There are few things that people do/ say that drive me mental. Let’s go:
1) DO NOT FUCKING STARE AT IT!
You think this would be common fucking sense, but NOPE! The amount of fucking stares I get when I am minding my own business is unbelievable. Imagine if you got a really bad hair cut and everywhere you went people were staring at you. Even when you catch them staring they continue to do so. It makes you feel like you are two inches. Now multiply that feeling by 10 and that is what people with eczema feel like.
2) Do Not Point it Out
Yes I know it is there, I can feel it. I ask you: What good does it do to point it out? It is not dirt; I cannot just wipe it off to get rid of it. This also adds to the anxiety that eczema causes and it is flat out rude.
3) Do Not Say: “It’s gross!” or “It looks painful!” or “It looks dry!” etc.
Look I know how it looks like to the public. I cannot help how it looks. Trust me it looks gross to me as well. However, there is nothing I can do to really change how it looks or how long the recovery takes. Plus, it is painful and no amount of pain-killers will get rid of the pain.
4) “You should cover it up!”
HAHAHAHAHA! It is not that fucking simple man! First of all, eczema heats up really quickly. If someone is the cover the area the eczema will burn said person, until it hits the cold. Secondly, if they were to put say foundation on it both of these scenarios will happen. When eczema is covered, the patch will look hella dry. All it will do is make it look less inflamed rather than be a solution. Let’s say that the person has a lot of makeup skills to make it look invisible, makeup will still hinder it. like covering it up with cloth, the eczema will burn underneath causing the flare to worsen.
5) “You should try this (insert over the counter drug/natural ‘remedy’)”
At this point just shut the fuck up. Let’s start with the drug argument shall we. Do you honestly think I would not be keeping tabs on new products and not testing them out. I know of pretty much all of the drugs out there and they do not work. Correction, they work for those who are extremely mild or for people who think they have eczema when they don’t and only have a normal rash. all those creams do is numthe itch so you don’t scratch. They do not stop it! Now for the natural “remedy” crap. Let’s get this clear, THERE IS NO FUCKING CURE FOR ECZEMA! For those who says “I used this all natural mixture/oil/whatever that my alchemist recommended and it cured my/baby’s/whoever eczema” That is all fucking bullshit! Like with the over the counter, it more or less nums it. A lot of the ingredients they use are mild moisturizers. Now moisturizers are need to help the healing process of a flare, but like I said before, there is no cure. These moisturizers just get rid of the dryness which prevents spread, not riding the body of it. With this said, these moisturizers (more or less they are oil based) are mild. These oils are primarily used in adding into things like steroid creams. It adds to the moisture content on top of the pre-moisturized area and working power of the steroid. This argument drives me more nuts than the over the counter one because of my Teta. I know they are trying to help, but you are not a doctor, do not try to act as one.
6. “Have you tried taking cold showers?” or “Have you tried moisturizing?”
Of course I have! I personally hate cold showers, but because of the eczema, it is the only option I have unless I want it to spread. It is one of the advices you receive from the doctor along with the application of moisturizers once your eczema starts flaring.
7. “OMG! DON’T USE STERIODS! THEY ARE SO BAD FOR YOUR SKIN!”
No shit sherlock! I know they are bad for you, however they are all I have right now. There is no other way to really treat it currently without harmful medication. So unless you are researching a cure for eczema, do not preach to me about how bad they are and what they may cause, because I already know.
8. “DON’T SCRATCH IT! IT WILL MAKE IT WORSE!”
I already know that. However, it is a mental issue. Role-play time again! Imagine that you have a feather lightly going over your skin. After a while, you want to bat it away. Now imagine if you were not allowed to bat it away. It would eventually dive you nuts and you will knock it way. Again multiply that feeling by ten and that is what a person with eczema had to deal with. The point of which we need to scratch is our breaking point. Eczema legit will drive us mad, to the point we will do anything to stop it, even if it means worsening it.
Those are only some of the thing people with eczema have to deal with. I probably missed a tone of comments that drive us nuts. If you know of someone with eczema DO NOT do/say these things to them. If you have some things that dives you nuts feel free to add. If you do not have eczema and have questions please feel free to ask me.