As an anti-feminist, what is your opinion on male feminists? I've read about how feminists recruit young women to join their side, but what about men?
Feminism teaches young women to be helpless, hopeless victims of men, that’s an obvious fact. Another obvious fact is where there’s a damsel in distress, there’s always going to be a white knight to save her. The problem we have here though is these damsels aren’t really in distress and they don’t really want to be saved by the enemy.
The enemy of feminism is the patriarchy (men), male privilege (men), toxic masculinity (men), rape culture (men), mansplaining (men), the male gaze, (men) - so in order to be an “ally” or to simply be seen as a decent human being in the eyes of a feminist, the man must confess his guilt for being born with a dick, his deep shame for having testosterone and turn his nose up with repulsion at his once fellow men as he waves goodbye to his old life and enters the world of feminism.
But why would a man go through all of this nonsense and throw himself into the pack of wolves? Well, he knows that by calling himself a feminist, 1) he can be seen as a more enlightened individual and gain social acceptance in the “cool club” and 2) he thinks it gives him a better chance of getting laid. Sadly, not many women want feminist boyfriends and the ones who do, well they just love showing their “re-educated” pet off to everyone.
It reminds me of a post I made last year:
7 Reasons Why Feminists Dating Feminist Men Is A Bad Idea
1. The sex will suck.
He will embrace the Yes Means Yes standard of sexual consent and any hopes you have of coming home after a long shitty day at work to be swept off your feet by a man overcome with his lust for you can be dumped in the circular file right now. He will greet you at the door, notice you are not in the best of moods (a good start, I admit) and then launch into enthusiastic consent. “May I place my arms around you and give you a consoling embrace? Are you comfortable with me kissing your cheek? May I assist you in removing your coat? This may involve some contact with the upper portion of my body. Do you feel at ease with that?” By the time he has your coat off, you will want to punch him in the face, but because you believe in true equality, you will understand that violence against everyone is wrong and you will refrain from doing so. The rest of the evening won’t get better. By the time he requests permission to remove your panties, you will be choking on disgust and you will go to sleep on the couch.
2. Your confidence will plummet as he encourages you to wallow in your victimhood and blame everyone but yourself for your failures.
When you start to talk about why your day was so shitty he will nod sympathetically and (after obtaining consent) pat you on the back tenderly and make soothing affirmative noises as you search for someone to blame. He will agree that it was the baristas fault you spilled latte all over that Women’s Studies report you had to hand in because she made the coffee too hot. He will agree that the bitch in the next cubicle is vindictive and steals your ideas all the time. He will agree that nothing is ever your fault and in doing so, he will basically be saying that you are a child and your actions are futile and you might as well just give up now because there is no way you are strong enough and smart enough to navigate the world of grown-ups.
3. He will empower you by never letting you fall flat on your ass and you will never learn a goddamn thing.
Your feminist boyfriend will be your constant crutch. He will be there to support you no matter how stupid or irrational or just plain idiotic your actions. He will never hold you accountable and will always make excuses for you. He will demand that everyone make allowances for you and your bad habits will become so in-grained they will become second nature. He will accept you sulking and endlessly repeating the same stupid mistake, assuring you that everyone else is wrong and you are right. He will be supportive, loyal and make sure you never grow or evolve as a person.
4. You will look like hell as he encourages you to “reject patriarchal beauty standards.”
Your feminist boyfriend will encourage you to spend the 20 minutes you usually waste combing your hair and applying the bare minimum amount of make-up you need to look professionally groomed and polished in bed. He will go ahead and shave and keep his hair and neckbeard trimmed and neat but that’s just part of male privilege and it is always and only misogyny to suggest that women need to meet similar standards. He will reassure you that hair and skin oils are perfectly natural and feminine odors are always pleasing, except to those that genuinely hate women. Only insecure men are uncomfortable with a natural woman.
5. Your feminist boyfriend will want to share everything with you. No seriously, everything. He’ll even have sympathy menstrual cramps.
Your feminist boyfriend will reject traditional masculine pursuits such as any sports or entertainment that involves the glorification of violence or unrealistic body standards or the depiction of traditional gender roles. He will reject most movies and television shows as perpetuating harmful gender roles and promoting rape culture and you will have to hide your erotic romance book under the mattress.
6. He’ll actually cut your sentences off and tell other people what your opinion is for you more often than an old-fashioned macho man will.
Your feminist boyfriend will know all the talking points and will insert himself into any conversation with catch-phrases like “wage gap” and “heteronormativity” and “cis-gendered” and “privilege” and when you fail to make mention of these important issues yourself, he will finish sentences for you, because he knows exactly how you feel on every subject and wants to show his support and admiration for you. You will really want to punch him now and you might question whether some people really are “asking for it”.
7. You will be a sad, lonely, cranky, selfish, teetering on the edge of insanity basket case when he leaves you for that hot chick in tight yoga pants who knows how to cook.
Eventually, your feminist boyfriend will decide adults are way more fun to hang around with than giant toddlers who have tantrums and blame everybody else for their own problems. Adults who understand how human sexuality work and who respect the differences between men and women are also a lot more fun to be with. You’ll watch him throw his arm around her (without asking first!), steer her down the street towards the cinemas playing the latest film of the patriarchy and furiously seethe while you tell yourself that he’s proof that all cis straight males are scum. But maybe, just maybe, one day you’ll realize the good men haven’t gone anywhere. They just don’t want anything to do with you.