sassy asian


movies list : My Sassy Girl (2001 - Dir. Kwak Jae-Yong)
“First, don’t ask her to be feminine. Second, don’t let her drink over three glasses. She’ll beat someone. At a café, instead of coke or juice, order a coffee. If she hits you, act like it hurts. It it hurts, act like it doesn’t. On your 100th day together, give her a rose during her class. She’ll like it a lot. Make sure you learn Kendo and squash. Also, be prepared to go to prison sometimes. If she says she’ll kill you, don’t take it lightly. You’ll feel better. If her feet hurt, exchange shoes with her. Finally, she likes to write. Encourage her.”

Writing Black Korean Characters

anonymous said:I’d like to write a female teen protagonist with one Korean parent and one African-American parent. Do you happen to have any advice/links so I don’t write her completely off-base? Thank you!

anonymous said:My main female character is African-American, German and Korean and she’s intelligent and a little snarky because she was bullied in middle school will this make her fall into the “mad black woman” and “Asian-nerd” tropes? What to look out for when writing a half Asian character, thank you!!! ;)

Hello, my anonymous friends! It’s really awesome to see your interest in writing a BlacKorean character. We’ve got some general advice, and then some specific advice for the Anon with the African-American, German and Korean female character. 


So the best way to avoid tropes in your writing is to write realistic characters. If your character is fleshed out, then it doesn’t matter much if she’s similar to certain stereotypes because it’ll be clear that she is more than just a cardboard cutout.

I have no problem with brilliant or nerdy or socially-awkward-but-really-intelligent Asian characters. In fact, that would describe a fair number of people I love. My problem is when there’s only one Asian character in an entire cast, and every time the author describes them, they only describe how dorky or smart the Asian is. It’s like the author is screaming “LOOK MY CHARACTER IS ASIAN, CAN YOU TELL? HE WEARS GLASSES! I AM DESCRIBING HIS GLASSES SO YOU CAN SEE HOW SMART HE IS! WHAT A TECH-WHIZ! AND THEY’RE SO GOOD AT MATH. OH, AND LOOK HE IS ASIAN WITH SHINY BLACK HAIR.”  

That’s the problem. Having a female character with a multiracial background who has experienced bullying but comes through it with a strong sense of snarkiness is not necessarily going to mean she’s half “Snarky (sassy) Black Woman” and half “Bullied Asian Nerd”. What it’s going to come down to is how you create her, how you describe her and what she does in the text. 

Remind yourself that your character’s race does not magically give her certain traits! She is not a terrible driver because she is Korean; she’s a terrible driver because she’s always eating while she drives. She’s not good at dancing because she’s Black; she’s good at dancing because she’s been taking tap/jazz lessons since she was five. See? Your character is allowed to have ‘stereotypical’ traits, but it’s gotta be for a reason. So find out her reasons!

What has she inherited from her family? What has she built up within herself? What personality traits was she born with and which ones were formed out of her upbringing or her environment? What does she like about herself? 

As for what to avoid with Blasians, well, that gets trickier for me because I’m monoethnic Korean. But here’s what I’ve learned!

When you describe her looks, watch out for fetishistic descriptions. Somehow, writers always know how to describe white guys, but as soon as they’re trying to describe a MOC or a WOC, everything sensible goes out the window, and all they can talk about is limpid doe eyes or food-comparisons-for-skin or exotic-desert-this-and-the-other. The reason writers do that is because white men get to be people (so they don’t have to look a certain way), but everyone else has to fit a certain mold. Try to escape that in your writing!

(And please, for the love of everything that is awesome, do not describe biracial Asians as hapa. Again, do not use hapa unless your character is native Hawaiian. Nobody else gets to use hapa so please don’t do it.)

Also, start thinking about their families! For Koreans, family is a big deal. There are a lot of Korean-Americans who are not close to their family, but if so, there’s probably a story there. How do their parents’ families feel about each other? How do your characters feel about their families? Do they live near any of their grandparents/aunts/uncles/cousins?


Many biracial/multiracial people struggle with their identity because it’s extra-challenging for them to fit in. As hard as it is to be Korean-American sometimes, I know that there are a ton of other Korean-Americans. There aren’t many of us in the media, but we exist (and there’s so many more writers/celebrities/creators than there used to be!). Korea, as a country, is also becoming more well-known. I know what a huge diversity of people fall in the range of Korean-American.

Blasians don’t get to have that much of the time. They don’t often get a large group of other people who look like them and can connect with them on things, particularly in their younger years. They may face one parent’s family saying racist or cruel things about the other parent’s family. They may suffer through friends or classmates being racist towards them. They’ve got family traditions that other families around them may not have. And even when they meet other Blasian/Blackorean people, they may not have a lot in common. 

There is also a well-known anti-Black sentiment among Asian American communities and vice versa. Friends, the LA riots were a very real thing. White supremacy often perpetuates and strengthens the anti-Asian/anti-Black sentiments within Black/Asian communities, so biracial children can (and do) get caught in the middle of it. There is a lot of misunderstanding and lateral racism within both communities. So some Blasians/Blackoreans feel very pressured to “choose” allegiance to one ethnicity over the other.

Please keep in mind that biracial/multiracial POC who are *not* white or white-passing experience very different struggles than biracial/multiracial POC who *are* white-passing or have a white/white-passing parent. There’s way too much of that to get into here, but yes, having a white/white-passing parent can give you access to privilege in a way that having two POC parents cannot replicate.

I don’t know how much of a role racism, sexism and microaggressions will play in your stories, but a female character who is both Black and Asian is going to face a ton of that. It’s unfortunately inescapable. It doesn’t mean you have to make it explicit all the time, but it means that your character absolutely knows what racism (and sexism!) feels like in multiple contexts. 

So let’s talk about advice for this character specifically. In general, a good way to avoid writing stereotypes is looking closely at how you describe your character and what they often do in scenes. If your character has built up snarkiness as a defense mechanism, then how does she feel when she’s being snarky? Is it a habit? Does it come out more strongly when she’s feeling vulnerable? 

Remember, your character is not snarky because she is Black. She is not intelligent because she is Asian. That would be stereotypical. She’s snarky, intelligent, Black, Asian and German. She gets to be all of those things and more. So tell us — who is she really?


Famous Blackoreans include Hines Ward, Yoon Mi Rae (aka my favorite MC), Amerie, and Chanel Iman. :)

So, friendly followers! Are any of you Blasian/Blackorean? Do you have any advice for our stalwart writers?

~mod Stella

Today I encountered a Fuck Boi

Nigga slides in my dms and is dry af from the beginning. Trys to make me work for the conversation and I’m like

When I started using one word answers fuck boi’s like you’re kinda boring and I really really wanted to set him straight

But I decided today’s been a pretty good day so I’ll be nice and won’t say anything

Then this nigga responds hours later and calls me a “Stuck Up Cunt” for ignoring him and now I’m beyond ready to rip him a new one 

Lucky for him though my sister reminds me he’s just another fuck boi in the sea of fuck boi’s and my mood switches to 

So this is a reminder to all my fellow queens out there to just keep being radiant af and don’t let little boys put wrinkles on your flawless faces

anonymous asked:

hi! i have a character who is declares he is only gnna marry women from a particular country ive talked to other people about but half of them think its racist lol this character is racist at all but he is biased and prefers women from "that" country because they are known for their beauty... il try and find a reason soon for why hes biased but i just want to see its an okay thing to just prefer one kind over the rest i even got told it was the same as saying "i dont date asians" help me :9

Hi, love!  Thanks for your question :)

So, I’m gonna have to agree with those people here.  That feels like racial fetishism to me – which is a real thing that many people experience, but it is racist.  It plays into the objectification of both women and POC; it creates a stereotype that all women of one race look and act the same, and it diminishes women of other races, basically deeming them less desirable because of their race.  Not only that, but it removes identity from the “desired” women, reducing them to “an Asian woman” or “African women”.

This isn’t to say that women of color shouldn’t be admired for their physical beauty – that’s not going to offend anyone.  What is hurtful is when their race is turned into their identity, their desirability, their beauty.  It becomes no longer about the person involved, but their body – and not even their unique features!  It’s basically saying, “I find you attractive, but only because of the traits you share with other women of your race.”  It’s usually also based on stereotypes rather than purely physical traits – the image of submissive Asian women, sassy black women, hot-headed Latina women – which projects an expectation on the desired women.

There are a lot of reasons and I’m explaining them too quickly, but in conclusion: yes, that would be a racist trait.  Your character, as a human, may have this trait, but it should be recognized as racist rather than promoted or dismissed as normal/okay behavior.

Thanks again for asking!  I hope this helps you moving forward :)

If you need advice on general writing or fanfiction, you should maybe ask me!