sailor wife


“A grand love story between a shipwrecked sailor and his faithful wife during Ireland’s Great Famine”

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Some researches and the “final ones” at the end !

On Sex and Marriage: Gerion (featuring Joy and the Sailor’s Wife)

Gerion’s an interesting case – despite the fact that he doesn’t ostensibly fit into half of this meta’s remit, Gerion’s attitude to marriage, from what we can glean from the text, is very telling about his character and his relationship with Tywin.

For a start, Tywin is likely the only ‘Lord of the Rock’ that Gerion has ever really known – of course, Tytos was still alive when Gerion was born ( indeed, Gerion’s wetnurse became his new mistress after Jeyne Marbrand died - but Gerion himself says: “My lord father would have made a splendid innkeep, [] but old Toad would have been a better lord.” ), but the main authority figure in Gerion’s life was…Tywin. This, and the age gap between the brothers, highlights some key aspects to Gerion’s relationship with authority and what this means for his attitude to sex.

1) Gerion’s the youngest of five siblings, the fourth son of Tytos Lannister. He is unlikely to ever have a keep and is therefore not that much of a dynastic catch, despite having the last name “Lannister”. So Gerion is really the only one of the five siblings who can enjoy being a Lannister, with no responsibilities or expectations. He doesn’t even have to attempt to make a name for himself from under Tywin’s shadow, he can kick back and relax. Which, in turn, means that he has a much more relaxed attitude to sex, since he has no form of dynastic responsibility

2) Joy is a key example both of the friction between Tywin and Gerion and of Gerion’s attitude to the world. We never hear of Briony except for the fact that she gave birth to Gerion’s bastard ( was she provided for? Perhaps, but certainly not at the Rock, after Tytos’ own mistress – Gerion poked the sleeping dragon, he never stabbed it with a pitchfork ) and she and Joy were separated. This last was probably at Tywin’s behest ( fine, have a bastard, but she will be a Lannister bride with all the responsibilities that that entails ) but Gerion certainly, then, showed no signs of taking responsibility for her. He may not have power in any conventional sense, but he still takes his rights as a Lannister and as a man in Westerosi society.

3) The Sailor’s Wife is also interesting in terms of Gerion and his view of sex. It’s not really clear from the text why the Sailor’s Wife has to marry her clients: but it is quite telling from Gerion’s perspective. For him, because he has no dynastic responsibilities, marriage is a means to an end, and he probably didn’t even think of what would happen after he left and went on to Valyria. He drifts in a way that skips over the line from naivety into thoughtlessness.

4) Every canon piece of information we have about Gerion seems to directly clash with what we know about Tywin: Tywin, proudly connected to Casterly Rock vs Gerion, who seems to have spent as little time in the Rock as he could as soon as he was able to travel; Tywin, who desperately hid any sign that he had extra-marital sex vs Gerion who has two known bastards both bearing his look and one named for the emotion he feels his brother lacks the most; Tywin, desperately committed to legacy vs Gerion, who vanished without a trace. So we can suggest that there is something slightly Freudian, perhaps, in the way that Gerion rebels against everything that Tywin stands for: symbolic patricide.

Aw yeah I love the Homestuck ancestors

You know the ones

  • Spooky Psychic Sweetheart Wife
  • Badass Beast-Tamer Bull Husband
  • Sarcastic Sparky Psion Husband
  • Class Ass Crab Husband
  • Feline Fine Sign Wife
  • Matronly Mothergrub Wife
  • Aligned Lawful Lovely Wife
  • Irate Pirate Pilot Wife
  • Lorg Force Horse Husband
  • Mega Mirthful Maniacal Husband
  • Finely Tailored Sailor Husband
  • Fish Witch Bitch Wife 

sonnenblumenmuse  asked:

Sorry if this is out of the blue but I just want to say that I really really admire you. I also have ADHD and it's incredibly frustrating at times and absolutely horrendous at the worst moments. But reading your Wife Loving Dork and ADHD Life posts gives me hope that one day, even though I may not be able to conquer ADHD, I will at least be able to manage it better. Anyways, I hope you have an amazing day together with your wife!

When I saw this I had to go back and check my ADHD Life tag, as it’s not one that I necessarily keep track of, instead just using it when it occurs to me to do so.  Fortunately it looks all right, though I know there are relevant posts I’ve made that are missing from it.   I might have to pay more attention or make it one of my recurring personal tags going forward.

I dunno that I’m worthy of admiration, necessarily.  I’ve kinda stumbled onto everything good in my life by the simple expedient of doing everything wrong until right was the only way left.  I suppose that does still leave me in a position of experience, though ;)   

I could go on and on about how to live with ADHD, but it’s probably all stuff you’ve heard before.  It’s putting it into practice that makes you really understand how it works.  If you really want an essay from me on the topic, I suppose I would work one up, though.

I will say that the key to having a relationship with someone else is getting them to actually understand ADHD.  People tend to dismiss it because of how frequently misdiagnosed it used to be.  A lot of people don’t even believe it exists.   When you try to describe what it’s like to other people they go “Oh, sure, I forget things too” and they have no idea that what you’re talking about would utterly derail their life if they had to experience it.  It is so incredibly important that your partner understand that not only does ADHD exist, you cannot control it.  

Even the wife didn’t really understand until she spent a lot of time around my mother and realized that she exhibits the same symptoms I do.  Without that understanding I don’t think our relationship would have lasted.  It bothers her so much when my eyes refocus and I have to admit that, even though I was holding up my end of the conversation, I have no idea what we’ve been talking about for the past couple minutes.  It’s only because she knows that it’s a mental disorder that she doesn’t feel hurt as though she’s not worth my attention.   

Because she understands this, she can accept this frustrating part of myself and help me compensate to make it less frustrating for both of us.  What could undermine our relationship instead makes it stronger.  We’re partners in overcoming it, as we are in all other things.  

So…uh…that got away from me a bit!  I’m glad the things I’m posting are helping you out, even if only a little bit!

Spending tonight/tomorrow on my final revisions of my portfolio projects for English. Then I have my logic & philosophy final Tuesday & Wednesday ;————————————–;

Drinking coffee from my Chuuya mug (given to me by my amazing bff4lyfe wife @sailor-sadgirl ) in hopes that bae will bring me good luck.

THEN IM FUCKING DONE for two weeks until summer semester starts buT THAT MEANS I CAN WRITE MORE FOR MY BAES AND THE BLOG <3