Degrading Terms

Hey. Can you do something about you and Michael having sex and he calls you something like a dirty slut or something kinky but kinda mean if you’re serious and you tell him you don’t like it when he says that stuff to you. You can decide the ending. Hope it made sense and wasn’t too specific. X

Michael’s fingers trailed along Y/N’s soft skin as he held her down to the back seats with his dominating body. He captivated her skin with his mouth, pressing wet kisses to her neck as he thrust in and out of her at a fast pace. Y/N couldn’t contain her moans. She lifted up her legs and wrapped them around his waist, giving him and easier access to her body. Her hands clasped into his hair and she pressed her lips to his mouth. She closed her eyes.
The two teenagers were in his car. They had been in their boring maths class before Michael had convinced Y/N to skip the next lesson so they could have some fun. Michael was a grungy, bad boy who only ever seemed into sleeping around and partying with his friends. Until he met Y/N. She worked hard in school and was a quiet girl who only had a few important friends. She was astonished that such a popular, attractive boy like Michael would want the heart of a girl like Y/N.
Nevertheless, he did. And this is where they ended up. With Y/N pressed against the back seats of the car, her mouth and legs open for Michael. This wasn’t the first time they had sex, but it was the first time they had sex in a car. Michael trailed his lips down to her chest and clasped her hard nipples in his mouth, licking a thin layer around them. His fingers circled patterns into her clit as she released her pleasure in attractive noises.
“Do you like that?” Michael murmured in her ear.
Y/N nodded.
“Yeah, you do. You love that don’t you, you little slut?”
Michael connected his lips back to Y/N’s neck and started to create large marks that were visible on her skin. Y/N frowned. She didn’t like that name. She felt like it was degrading for women. She opened her eyes and held onto Michael’s shoulders, trying to slow him down a little.
“Michael, stop a second.”
Michael stopped his movements and pulled out, looking up at his beautiful girl. “Are you okay? What’s wrong?”
Y/N avoided his gaze and glanced around at her surrounding then to him. She blushed and bit her lips, nervous about his reaction.
“I just…I don’t like being called names like that.”
Names like slut?” Michael questioned, his face softening.
“Yeah.”
Y/N looked down, frowning to herself. She felt ashamed of her confession even though she shouldn’t have. Michael smiled softly and cupped her gentle hands around her cheeks.
“Hey. It’s okay. I’m sorry I said that. I won’t say it again, okay? I want you to be comfortable.”
He looked deep into her eyes as she sighed with relief and looked up at him. She moved her lips closer to his. She closed her eyes when she felt their lips touch in a soft motion. He kept his hands clasped around her face and couldn’t take his mouth away from hers.
“I love you so much,” Y/N admitted against his mouth. He replied with the same loving confession for the first time. She was the first girl he ever told she loved. He hoped she would be the last.

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Carrying a tradition into the future – the new Mercedes-Benz S-Class Cabriolets.

[Mercedes-Benz S 500 Cabriolet | Combined fuel consumption: 8.5 l/100 km | CO2 emission: 199 g/km || Mercedes-AMG S 63 4MATIC Cabriolet | Combined fuel consumption: 10.4 l/100 km | CO2 emission: 244 g/km | http://mb4.me/EfficiencyStatement]

Hella Long List of Safe Coping Skills

So, I got this amazing handout at a training with 84 coping skills to help increase safety and I thought I’d share:)

1. Ask for help- Reach out to someone safe 

2. Inspire yourself- Carry something positive (e.g. poem), or negative (photo of a friend who overdosed)3. Leave a bad scene- When things go wrong, get out

4. Persist- Never, never, never, never, give up.

5. Honesty- Secrets and lying are at the core of self-harming behaviors; honesty heals them

6. Cry- Let yourself cry; it will not last forever

7. Choose self-respect- Choose whatever will make you like yourself tomorrow

8. Take good care of your body- Eat right, exercise, sleep, safe sex

9. List your options- In any situation, you have choices

10. Create meaning- Remind yourself what you are living for: your children, love? truth? justice? God?

11. Do the best you can with what you have- Make the most of available opportunities.

12. Set a boundary- Say “no” to protect yourself

13. Compassion- Listen to yourself with respect and care

14. When in doubt, do what’s hardest- The most difficult path is invariably the right one

15. Talk yourself through it- Self-talk helps in difficult times

16. Imagine- Create a mental picture that helps you feel different (e.g. remember a safe place)

17. Notice the choice point- In slow motion, notice the exact moment when you chose self-harm behaviors

18. Pace yourself- If overwhelmed, go slower; if stagnant, go faster

19. Stay safe- Do whatever you need to do to put your safety above all

20. Seek understanding, not blame- Listen to your behavior; blaming prevents growth

21. If one way doesn’t work, try another- As if in a maze, turn a corner and try a new path

22. Link PTSD (self harming behaviors) and substance abuse- Recognize substances as an attempt to self-medicate

23. Alone is better than a bad relationship- If only treaters are safe for now, that’s okay

24. Create a new story- You are the author of your life: be the hero who overcomes adversity

25. Avoid avoidable suffering- Prevent bad situations in advance

26. Ask others- Ask others if your belief is accurate

27. Get organized- You’ll feel more in control with lists, “to do’s” and a clean house

28. Watch for danger signs- Face a problem before it becomes huge; notice red flags

29. Healing above all- Focus on what matters

30. Try something, anything- A good plan today is better than a perfect one tomorrow

31. Discovery- Find out whether your assumption is true rather than staying “in your head”

32. Attend treatment- AA, self-help, therapy, medications, groups- anything that keeps you going

33. Create a buffer- Put something between you and danger (e.g. time, distance)

34. Say what you really think- You’ll feel closer to others (but only do this with safe people) 

35. Listen to your needs- No more neglect- really hear what you need

36. Move toward your opposite- E.g. if you are too dependent, try being more independent

37. Replay the scene- Review a negative event: what can you do differently next time?

38. Notice the cost- What is the price of substance abuse/self harming behaviors in your life?

39. Structure your day- A productive schedule keeps you on track and connected to the world

40. Set an action plan- Be specific, set a deadline, and let others know about it

41. Protect yourself- Put up a shield against destructive people, bad environments, and substances

42. Soothing talk- Talk to yourself very gently (as if to a friend or small child)

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Report on torn sign & how to deal with aggression while participating in Rainbow Direction

This morning, the news about an incident at last night’s show reached us:

First and foremost, we would like to offer @curls_andfringe our sympathy and full support. The fact that this happened to you is awful, and also proof that Rainbow Direction is really needed in the fandom. We’d like to thank you from the bottom of our hearts for participating despite the hostile environment - it means the world.

With regard to any concerns that similar things may happen to other participants, we’d like to say the following:

Sometimes bad things happen to good people for terrible reasons. This is why Rainbow Direction exists: LGBTQ+ visibility is important to show that we exist, that we are many, and that we are united. Not everyone will support this message, and unfortunately, some will react violently against it.

If you encounter aggression or physical violence (such as having your rainbow sign or flag torn), remember that you personal safety is paramount. And there are some things you can do:

  1. Do not engage with the aggressor. They are acting out of fear and anger, and you will not be able to reach them with logic. Do not respond in an aggressive or violent manner, as this will only make matters worse. The aggressor wants you to get mad, react emotionally, and make them the victim. Do not give them what they want.
  2. If your personal safety is threatened, remove yourself from the area. Your spot in the crowd is not as important as your safety.
  3. Report the incident to the nearest security agent. Get the name of the agent as well, and ask them what they plan to do about the attack.
  4. If you feel safe to do so, return to your previous place in the crowd.
  5. If you do not feel safe in that location, look around, find a rainbow in the crowd, and go there.
  6. If, after disengaging, you feel your safety may still be threatened, ensure that you depart the venue with a group you trust, or arrange for someone to meet you at a venue entrance. If need be, report your concern to a security agent and ask for an escort from the venue.

If you witness an incident: do not engage with the agressor but offer the participant your support in following the above steps. Help them find a safe spot or a security agent, offer to call one of their friends or family members to escort them home.

More information can be found in our “Safety Concerns” post

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WingLights - Indicators For Bicycles

Their product named WingLights is specially designed for added bicycle safety.WingLights are direction indicators that are easily attached to bicycle handlebars and are meant to function the same as car indicators, signaling the riders position and intended direction.

Lately, there have been shootings in theaters. Is there anyway movie theaters in America could get metal detectors? We already have them in airports bc of 9/11 so why not? I wouldn’t care if my tax money went toward that! Some people might complain that they can’t sneak candy in, but at least you won’t be dead..
And maybe have an alarm when the exit doors are used?

Windows 10′s Parental Controls: Watching and Warning

With Windows 10, Microsoft has made their family account settings more visible and easier to access than ever before. These settings have been available since Vista (requiring separate downloads in Vista and 7, natively available in 8), but somewhat more obscure and not as feature-rich as they are now, and, for the most part? These are really smart, fantastic tools for parents, including things like screen time limitations, web and application filters, and prepaid balances for a child’s Xbox/Microsoft account to allow them to make purchases without having unfettered access to their parent’s credit or debit card.

Unfortunately, the family settings also include (and, again, have always included) activity/web reporting, and there is a very justified concern that this kind of reporting could lead to the careless (and dangerous) outing of LGBTQIA kids to bigoted parents.

To be honest, the way this information was presented made it sound somewhat Orwellian in scope, so I decided that I would investigate by setting up an old throwaway Live account I made to share pictures of my daughter with family as a child account.

Most of the administration is done through the web interface at account.live.com, under the family tab. Once you click through to the child’s account, this is the first screen you see, exactly as it appears on a new child account:

As you can see, both Activity Reporting and emailed reports are enabled by default. Parents have to intentionally turn these features off if they are using a child account.

Somewhat more surprising, web filtering (under the web browsing tab) is NOT turned on by default. I went ahead and enabled it for my tests to see what was allowed and blocked by default (whitelisting and blacklisting sites is very easy).

For some strange reason, my child account would not allow me to take screenshots, but I captured screens with my phone.


This notification greets child accounts EVERY TIME THEY LOG IN, which immediately made me feel better about what MS is doing (more editorializing in a bit). Any time a child logs in to their account, they know if they are being watched, which is a big deal.

Next, I decided to do some testing of blocked and reported content. The parent account had already installed Chrome and Firefox, so I loaded up all three browsers and tried visiting various webpages.

Major news sites largely loaded with no issue, and visits to most of the common gaming sites were no trouble. Strangely enough, Kotaku must have been flagged as having potentially objectionable content, because I got this screen when I tried to visit:

Other sites that were more likely to be outright blocked, such as Reddit, did not return any error at all - they simply did not load. Google.com also did not load (I presume this is because because Microsoft can’t force Google to load only “safe search” results), though Google accounts loaded just fine, as did Google ad services.

Because I wanted to get a good idea of what the parental controls were and were not capable of, I tried to go into InPrivate/Incognito mode in all three browsers. The keyboard shortcuts were disabled, and any options to open new windows in these private modes were simply missing. I didn’t expect so simple a workaround as using a different browser to work, but it’s always worth checking for the basic vulnerabilities in a system first.

Next, I tried to download and install the IPVanish VPN client. I did not actually try to visit any websites with it active, because installation AND program use both require admin privileges, which the child account does not have, so a child wanting to use a VPN would have to either know their parent’s password (in which case these family settings could be bypassed anyway) or have their parents supply the password every time they logged in. Even if the VPN hides their activity, the necessity for parental involvement makes it worthless as a tool to avoid parental invasions of privacy.

Finally, I tried a few web-based proxies (specifically: hide.me and proxfree). Bing will happily search up free proxies for restricted accounts, and using the proxies, I sailed right through to previously inaccessible sites with ease. Kotaku and reddit both loaded right up.

PARENTAL RESULTS

With a nice browsing history worked up, I logged back in to my parental account to see what my snooping eyes could see and found out something interesting: parental accounts do NOT get real-time web reports. All night long, my parental account had a blank screen for web history. The next morning, it had populated the previous day’s activity. This means that parents can’t just sit and monitor a child in real time, so no “catching them in the act.”

The following morning, the parental account had a full history

You’ll notice that it shows attempts to visit questionable websites that require permission, but it does NOT show attempts to visit sites that it simply refused to load, like reddit. You’ll also notice that in the right-hand bar, there are “block” and “allow” buttons that enable instant white and blacklisting.

Here, you see that the hide.me visits are reported. The good news is that, since this reports shows EVERYTHING, including EVERY SINGLE AD AFFILIATE, a parent who doesn’t know what they’re looking for could very easily miss this proxy in the noise. Parents who DO know what they’re looking for, though? Chances are good they’ll see the proxy visits if they take the time to actually sift through the entire report.

Each root site listed can be expanded into a more detailed view. Fortunately, hide.me was as good as its word. Here is the detailed view from those 4 visits:

Parents can block proxies as a child uses them, but there are a LOT of proxies out there, so that is a Sisyphean task, at best.

Another important thing to note is that, while unique URLs visited are reported, a child’s search history on Bing is kept private.


Past the web history, these are the other stats collected on a child account:

There is no explicit data given to parents here (no screencaps or DVRed activity), but parents can easily block apps their children should not be using, and the screen time limit is a very good tool for younger children.


Tim’s Theory:

Once I saw that Microsoft warns child accounts at every single login that they are being watched, I started developing a theory:

Microsoft understands the privacy concern of spying on kids, and they’re trying to get in front of it and give kids the power to protect themselves where they might not otherwise have it.

There have been tools to allow parents to spy on their kids for as long as there has been internet access for parents to spy on. A lot of these tools are just prettied up versions of spyware that you would never, ever want on your computer, but a parent who is determined to spy on their kid usually doesn’t care.

By integrating parental controls that include spying by default, Microsoft can give parents a “safe” monitor while also warning kids that they are being watched. This means the computer and its users are safer (no keylogging, screencapturing, or camera hijacking for third parties to gain back-door access to), a child’s privacy is safer (passwords, even for logging in to the computer, are not revealed to a parent).

By not turning on web filtering by default, MS may be trying to subtly suggest that, rather than blocking your kids, you should be talking to them.

By not blocking even well-known proxy servers when web filtering is turned on, MS is giving kids an escape route from watchful eyes.

I would be far more comfortable if the spying were not turned on by default, but I feel like MS turns it on by default (and makes it sit right at the top of the page in the family controls) to make parents think about what they’re doing to their child’s privacy.

Everyone has to learn how to protect their privacy online, and, unfortunately, that includes kids. There are ways to be smart about “forbidden” websites. Kids at risk of having secrets exposed to their parents need to be made aware of how to be safe.

The biggest and best advice to keep yourself safe when being watched? Do a LOT of “not secret” browsing. Flood that report with “normal” websites, and keep your proxy visits to a minimum. Make it look like noise in the report. When you are on the proxy for something, make sure you go to a non-proxy tab every so often and click through to a new thing.

Also, don’t use just one proxy. Make yourself a list of proxies. Here are a few to start with:

http://hide.me
http://www.proxfree.com
https://www.vpnbook.com/webproxy
http://www.proxy4free.com/list/webproxy1.html

You should not have to protect yourself from your parents, but knowing you’re being watched is a more valuable tool than you might think.

And if you’re a parent reading this? Instead of stalking your kids, try talking to them, instead. They deserve their privacy.

anonymous asked:

I just signed for this language course that's once a week Monday evenings but at the same time I'm really scared of walking home alone in the dark (public transportation doesn't go that way). Luckily it's not all that dark on the evenings yet, but it will be soon and I'm really scared that I'm gonna be attacked or something

Ideally, you could see if someone could pick you up or if you could afford to take a cab home or at least walk with someone else, but if not, here are some tips from somebody who also has to walk home alone at night sometimes:

  • Time how long the walk takes you and tell a friend or relative. When you leave, text them, and text them again when you get home. That way, if they don’t receive a text ten minutes after the amount of time it takes you to do the walk telling them you’re at home, they can call you and if you don’t answer they can call the police.
  • Carry your keys with them sticking between your fingers so that you can defend yourself if you are attacked. Also invest in a personal alarm, and hold that in the palm of your hand.
  • If you can, bring a pair of trousers and flat shoes with you if you don’t go out in them. Attackers look for easy victims and somebody in trousers and flats can run away much more easily than someone in a skirt and heels.
  • If you have long hair, tuck it into your top so that you’re harder to grab hold of.
  • Familiarise yourself with basic self-defence techniques.

I hope that helps!

anonymous asked:

I'm getting super nervouse about the boston show :(

That’s totally understandable, what you are about to do is stand up for something you believe in, which is never self-evident or completely without risk.

That said, remember that the risk is comparatively small: yesterday’s report is one of only a tiny percentage of reports about a negative experience participating in Rainbow Direction. More importantly: every single person who reported a negative experience said they did not regret participating as what had happened to them proved how relevant and necessary this initiative is for LGBTQ+ people to feel safe and welcome in this fandom. 

Let’s not forget how positive and empowering the experience has been for so so many people - if you need a boost, you can re-watch our video report here or read through our “personal stories”, “support” and “thank you” tags. 

Finally, you are not alone! There’s more than 75 signups for Boston and thisicanpromiseyou is thinking of organizing a meetup - perhaps you could contact them? - meeting up with others before the show is really the best energizer and you will get to know others in the stadium who will support you if anything should happen. 

We hope you have a wonderful experience, like most of us did, and whatever happens, you are awesome for participating in any case! 

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A warning against RhiddlerOne

If you follow both Alex and I on social media then you probably already know that I was sexually assaulted this weekend by a photographer I met off Model Mayhem. I’m not making this public because I expect pity or sympathy but because I want to warn other women of a potentially dangerous man. Sadly, I have been in similar positions before. In the past, by the time I chose to spoke up it was too late. I don’t want to repeat that mistake.

The community we work in is small. Word spreads quickly but only if it gets out. I do not recommend working with a photographer that goes by the name of RhiddlerOne on Model Mayhem. He reached out to me to set up a paid gig. I wasn’t impressed by his work but he had worked with models I know, respect, and trust. These are models that anyone who is working as a freelance model or photographer in the pacific northwest would recognize by face or name alone. The night before we were supposed to shoot together, he sent me an inappropriate message that set of some alarm bells. I contacted some of the models he had worked with before and asked about him. I heard some odd things but nothing that would have warned me away so I decided to go through with the shoot.

Amanda​ of Knit Wit Knits was kind enough to let us shoot in her apartment because I was told it would be a boudoir set and we didn’t have another location to do that kind of work. Alex​ was there to be my escort. As soon as he walked in the door, this man made us all uncomfortable. He was rude to Amanda and seemed angry that she was present in her own home. He did not want Alex present when we were shooting together and refused to work with an audience. He had, at that point, not done anything to make me feel unsafe and so the shoot began.

As soon as we were alone together, he started touching me. It started small. He’d ask me to lift my chin and instead of letting me do it myself he’d rush in and physically lift my head up. Then he started running his hands down my arms to “compliment” my freckles and draw attention to my tattoo (as if he thought I wasn’t aware of these features?). I am by nature a non-confrontational person and, more importantly, I am a rape survivor. For those reasons, I was willing to forgive his actions at that point. It wasn’t until I had my back turned to change tops and he reached out to brush off my back and I felt truly uncomfortable. Things progressed from there. I froze up. I should have said anything but I was afraid to. This man had already showed signs of aggressive behavior and held a position of power over me (I was doing a service in exchange for his money, and I was half-dressed while he was fully clothed) and I couldn’t find my voice when I needed it. Eventually I did find my voice. I stopped him before he could go any further and told him not to touch me again. Instead of listening to me, he chose to touch me inappropriately once more before quickly snapping one or two more pictures. He then threw the money on the bed and fled the apartment before I could say anything to the people in the other room.

Unfortunately, it wasn’t until after we shot together and Alex and I went public that I started hearing more stories about RhiddlerOne doing this exact same thing to other models and that is exactly why I am speaking out now. Ladies, do not be afraid to speak up when someone makes you feel uncomfortable. Do not allow yourself to feel shame or guilt when/if someone takes advantage of you or assualts you. It is not your fault, you are not to blame, and you have nothing to be ashamed of. Too often men like him will use their position to silence the women they work with. Let’s not let that happen. I don’t want this to turn into another message sent after the fact so I am letting you all know now that the man who goes by RhiddlerOne on Model Mayhem is inappropriate and potentially dangerous. (I do not want to think about what would have happened if Alex and Amanda hadn’t been in the other room).

This man is now using my image as his profile picture on MM. I don’t want my face to be used as a trap for other women. Do not make the same mistake I did and assume that just because he’s worked with people you recognize, he’s safe. Obviously I can’t stop you from working with him if you want to, but please keep this in mind if you do choose to.

And for all Seattle area models and those traveling through, when Akira Jones​ heard about this he volunteered to work as an escort for anyone who needs one (if he’s free at the time, of course). I’m sharing that information here in case you guys missed his comment on my last photo. He’s a good man and you should not be afraid to reach out to him if you need an escort.

I’ve sent his information to Brennan Hill​ in the hopes that my warning will reach more people than I can through Facebook alone. If any of you have worked with him before and have had similar experiences, please do not be afraid to share that information with me or her. We will make sure your voice is heard.