safe space

It is an album for Black women made by one Black woman. In speaking her personal truth, Solange has created a meditation not just for herself but for so many seeking safe space, asylum, and peace, for those who seek to maintain their dignity and regality in the face of condescension, lies, aggression, violence and murder.

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Today’s Micro-aggression(?)

Nothing puts me in quite a shit mood as when realtors/potential tenants see me in the hallway/elevator of my apartment complex and comment/ask very audibly about me.

“OH! A FOREIGNER! CAN FOREIGNERS LIVE HERE TOO????”

“As you can see there’s foreigners in this apartment complex too, so it’s very unique!”

“Oh, I don’t know if I can live next to a foreigner! Is it okay?”

“Maybe you can ask her to help you with English!”

I’ve taken to turning my head all the way around and glaring while making unimpressed eye contact with the offenders until they are embarrassed and look away. Today I actually stopped and looked around at them and the woman, who was young enough to have known better, made a yelping sound when she noticed.

I swear I’m at the point where I’m going to verbally respond one day.

Why the hell wouldn’t I be able to live here? Why does it matter if I live here. Good luck living next to the prostitutes who live on this floor–living next to me should be the least of your concerns.

I’M NOT A FUCKING ZOO ANIMAL OR A SELLING POINT, JESUS. USE FUCKING TACT AND DISCRETION. AT LEAST ASK WHEN YOU GET INSIDE THE APARTMENT. I CAN FUCKING HEAR YOU. UGHH!

268- Charge

Electric Type: Protection. A spell to strengthen the boundaries of your home, room, or other safe space.

What You’ll Need~

  • A sheet of stickers (or magnets, small trinkets, etc.)
  • Two yellow candles

Procedure~

  1. After choosing what you are going to charge, lay them before you and say “With you I put my heart, and my intention to protect myself an my place.”
  2. Set up the items you want to charge to protect your space in between the two candles, which should be one on your right and the other on your left.
  3. Light the left candle. “I call upon my spark, to electrify my plane marked by these tokens.”
  4. Light the right candle. “No one who intends harm can enter this space without receiving a shock.”
  5. When you are done, you may extinguish the candles, and go about placing your stickers/what-have-you.
  6. As you place each item, tell it that “You hold drive, you have my power.” Do so until you feel you have sufficiently covered your area.

TIPS

  • The main places your markers should go are doorways, windows, or around very specific areas or objects you want to protect. They don’t need to be super obvious, as long as they form some kind of boundary.

It’s actually really telling that a white person will knowingly enter a safe space for black people and try to stir shit up. It’s called a safe space for a reason and honestly HBCUs should pay more attention to who they let in. And honestly I don’t see why a white person who thinks it’s okay to post racist snaps would want to attend an HBCU anyway.

Oh boy,

Tomorrow morning I’ll be in my new small room in my university, starting a new chapter in my life. I’ve been packing since the beginning of this week, but somehow the overwhelming realisation of moving on from being a child hasn’t hit me until now. I’m just a whirlwind of emotion right now; I’m happy to see how far I’ve come and how far I will go, I’m excited for what a new place with new people with new lifestyles will offer me, I’m scared for the ‘negative unknown’, I’m sad for leaving the comfort of my safe space at home and leaving my mum and cat and neighbours and home town to start from scratch. I’m just a sobbing mess right now, but I’m glad I’ve got this far. It was a long and hard journey, but the journey would have been so much harder without the kindness, encouragement and support of you guys. So to those I’ve made close friendships with over this site, to those who have been here from the very beginning, to those that have popping by just to say something, even to those who just got here: Thank you so much, you awesome people. 

:)

anonymous asked:

Uhm... you know gender isn't real? And that trying to categorize every single person into either girl or boy and expecting them all to fit it doesn't make any sense? Please read something honey you're just making yourself look like an idiot xoxo

“Gender isn’t real”. But I’m the idiot. Hun bun, there are two and there always will be. You either have XX chromosomes, XY chromosomes, or you’re genetically mutated.

All these people that say they identify as fucking trashcans cooked thrice in gravy are mentally ill.

Schizophrenia is a mental illness where you can’t tell reality from what isn’t real. Why isn’t believing you’re something other than what you ACTUALLY ARE treated the same? Fuck being politically correct. I won’t tip toe around your feelings just because you’re a hysterical nutjob and the fact that I’m educated hurts you. You want a safe space? Go to a mental hospital.

NDWLWNET

[caption: image shows a cropped version of the lesbian flag with the words “NDWLWNET” over it in black caps lock]

what is the ndwlwnet? 

  • safe space for fem-identifying/fem-aligned people who love women
    • specifically the neurodivergent ones

how do i apply?

  • fill out this form
  • follow me
  • reblog this post! [specify in tags if you’re entering or signal-boosting]
    • likes are for bookmarking

what do i do once i get in? 

  • wait to be added to the kik group
  • send me the picture you’d like to have added to the network page
  • track the tag #ndwlwnet
This blog is a safe space for anyone who is:

Gay
Lesbian
Homoromantic
Bisexual/romantic
Pansexual/romantic
Asexual/romantic
Demisexual/romantic
Transgender
Non binary
Gender questioning
Gender queer
Agender
Demigender
Gender neutral
(The list goes on)


Reblog if your blog is a safe space too! 😁

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BriarHaven is an online safe space in blogging format, designed towards discussion and feedback between users. The site allows image, video, and audio uploads as well as text posts, quotes, chat logs and polls. 

Showing your support for someone’s content is easy; you can share a post to your own feed, or just hit the like button. There’s no concern over sharing posts you shouldn’t - the original poster can set the post to be unshareable or only able to be shared by friends, if they want to, as well as choose whether to only show the post to followers or friends to begin with.

Accounts can be linked to each other and quickly accessed from the sidebar, each with their own set of options, posts and notification logs, perfect for roleplayers or systems. The messaging system also keeps a full, permanent log of any messages exchanged with any other user, which means you on’t lose track of another conversation again. Even better for roleplayers, BriarHaven has a fully fledged forum designed with roleplay interaction in mind. 

Interested? Read more and donate here!

"Safe spaces" for "people of color" sounds a little too much like "separate spaces" for "colored people" for my tastes.

But what the fuck do I know about any of that? I’m half white. It’s not like people of two different races came together to create me or anything.

salon.com
Stop mocking “safe spaces”: What the Mizzou & Yale backlash is really about
People who mock "p.c. culture" are ignoring the racial recklessness—and lack of safety—suffered by people of color
By Brittney Cooper

“The suggestion that Black college students who ask not to be confronted with Blackface on Halloween or not to be called “nigger” as they walk through campus are somehow seeking to undercut the power and importance of the Bill of Rights evinces a poor understanding of American History. If the defense of freedom means always defending the right of white people to engage in racial recklessness at the expense of racial minorities, then perhaps we should consider whether freedom is the thing for which we are really fighting.”

Read the full essay here <- VERY USEFUL FOR DISCUSSING THE ISSUE!

Reblog if your blog is a safe space for:

•LGBT witches
•Young witches
•Old witches
•Male witches
•New witches
•Experienced witches
•POC witches
•Disabled witches
•Witches who discovered magick on their own
•Witches for whom magick is a family/cultural tradition
•Solitary witches
•Witches in a coven
•Witches who practice “dark” magick
•Witches who practice “light” magick
•Witches who practice a little bit of both
•Witches who are religious
•Witches who aren’t religious
•Witches who do magick on a daily basis
•Witches who just use a bit of magick now and then
•All witches in general

🚨 wee woo wee woo wee woo 🚨

Stop right there! It’s the little police! here to tell you that you’re a cutie and to have a great day!

How to be a safe space for trans* people
  1. Never assume someone’s pronouns: Use neutral terms until you are told, or are able to ask for, someone’s pronouns. This applies to everyone – not just people you suspect are transgender or whose gender you are unsure of based on voice or appearance. You should be unsure of everyone’s pronouns until you know what to use, because not everyone can present as they’d like, or feels it necessary to present in a particular way for their pronoun.
  2. Avoid gendered language when talking to individuals: You might think slang like calling everyone “dude” or “girl” is playful and inoffensive, but many people feel uncomfortable with that language because it labels them with a gender they are not, or because it’s overly familiar. In addition, calling someone you perceive to be a woman pet names like “sweetie” can be  very condescending. Calling a stranger “boy” has racist connotations if they are a person of color. This varies by region, but unless you know someone and how they would like to be referred to, don’t say it.
  3. Particularly avoid addressing strangers by “sir” or “miss: Saying "sir” or “miss” to be polite can easily misgender someone; “excuse me”, plus their name if you know it, can serve the same purpose in most situations. If you are going to be talking to that person longer, ask their pronoun.
  4. Use gender neutral language when talking to groups: Saying “ladies and gentlemen” is a start, but not everyone is a lady or a gentleman. Saying “everyone”, or referring to the audience by their roles (student, employee, parent, etc.) can substitute.
  5. If you do misgender someone, be graceful about it: Apologize briefly, use the correct pronoun, and continue. Don’t be long-winded, because that can draw attention to the mistake and rub it in. Don’t find excuses or argue.
  6. Allow people to use the bathroom they are comfortable with: You cannot tell somebody’s gender just by looking at them, and even if they identify as a particular gender, they may feel uneasy using that gender’s bathroom.
  7. Also have a gender neutral bathroom available for everyone’s use: Neutral bathrooms take the stress out of wondering if you are going to be harassed for taking care of a basic bodily function. But in order to be truly neutral, these bathrooms shouldn’t be segregated as “the transgender bathroom”. They should be freely available to anyone who needs them.
  8. Don’t allow sexist, transphobic, or homophobic jokes and comments: People may not mean these comments to be offensive, but they still hurt and make people feel like outsiders. Keep the space respectful of all genders and ways of presenting.
  9. Educate all people in the space on safe space rules: If you designate your space as safe, and then a guard starts telling someone they are in the wrong bathroom, or people are making rude comments about what they presume is in someone’s pants, your space is not safe for trans* people.

Does anyone have other rules, or comments to add?