anonymous asked:

but isn't preventing gay straight stuff in school kinda good? public schools shouldn't cover anything about sexuality, including homosexuality.

Gay Straight Alliances are groups that provide safe and supportive spaces for LGBT youth. They are very important.

And how is learning about how your body works and how to have safe, consensual relationships and sex a bad thing?

I fully support the teaching of sex-education and education on gender identities and LGBT issues. Being informed is important. It helps everyone.

anonymous asked:

it's so infuriating that males, not just men but also trans women, just refuse females their private safe spaces like can you please? please? respect us? why do you have to invade ours? make your own safe spaces. it's understandable that women need their own spaces away from males. we've been oppressed and murdered and tortured and raped by males for thousands of years. disrespecting that is an actual act of violence

Why are you sending me this ask????? Like this is what I don’t even get is like
I don’t even use the women’s restroom, I use gender neutral ones, and in fact prefer to in all possible cases. Just because I’m a trans woman, people impose a certain set of expectations and desires onto me, because I am less than human to them, rather I am a trope and spectacle they think they know already.

anonymous asked:

Probably #TeamNoOne and #TeamGolfNiall are the best choice. I'm usually a bit sorry for Niall, as he seems to get often a position like just being the comic relief and safe space, but I must admit I also enjoy it quite a lot atm. And Niall loves golf so it shouldn't be too bad :D

Golf Niall is actually amazing, he is so humble and embarrassed and endearing and cute. I love it.

anonymous asked:

i really think the james corden interview will be used to address zayn's leaving. couldn't pick a better place to do it than with one of their best friends. i don't think we'll get the truth - definitely not, it'll be lighthearted and brief - but it's a safe space for them to address it with someone who knows what not to ask and what really went on. i don't think zayn's tweet will be addressed unless it's to dismiss it as not a big deal - whether it is or not - to put the fans at ease.

yeah i think they’ll gloss over a lot of it but if anyone could get a slightly better scoop it would be james

The truth is those male feminists are often seen as being way more brave, and way more valuable than female feminists. I’m kind of tired of that. Because the truth is that as a woman, being a feminist is much more difficult. You’re accused of being crazy. People might even stop being friends with you if you speak out too much. You’re told you should be an “equalist” instead. Because ‘liberation’ is a dirty word (like feminism); it has to about 'equality’ rather, because
men feel threatened by the word 'liberation’.
— 

On Autonomy and the Role of Men in Feminism, and Women Only Spaces or Events

By Anonymous

UNSW Tharunka, Special Wom*ns Issue

How to be a safe space for trans* people
  1. Never assume someone’s pronouns: Use neutral terms until you are told, or are able to ask for, someone’s pronouns. This applies to everyone – not just people you suspect are transgender or whose gender you are unsure of based on voice or appearance. You should be unsure of everyone’s pronouns until you know what to use, because not everyone can present as they’d like, or feels it necessary to present in a particular way for their pronoun.
  2. Avoid gendered language when talking to individuals: You might think slang like calling everyone “dude” or “girl” is playful and inoffensive, but many people feel uncomfortable with that language because it labels them with a gender they are not, or because it’s overly familiar. In addition, calling someone you perceive to be a woman pet names like “sweetie” can be  very condescending. Calling a stranger “boy” has racist connotations if they are a person of color. This varies by region, but unless you know someone and how they would like to be referred to, don’t say it.
  3. Particularly avoid addressing strangers by “sir” or “miss: Saying "sir” or “miss” to be polite can easily misgender someone; “excuse me”, plus their name if you know it, can serve the same purpose in most situations. If you are going to be talking to that person longer, ask their pronoun.
  4. Use gender neutral language when talking to groups: Saying “ladies and gentlemen” is a start, but not everyone is a lady or a gentleman. Saying “everyone”, or referring to the audience by their roles (student, employee, parent, etc.) can substitute.
  5. If you do misgender someone, be graceful about it: Apologize briefly, use the correct pronoun, and continue. Don’t be long-winded, because that can draw attention to the mistake and rub it in. Don’t find excuses or argue.
  6. Allow people to use the bathroom they are comfortable with: You cannot tell somebody’s gender just by looking at them, and even if they identify as a particular gender, they may feel uneasy using that gender’s bathroom.
  7. Also have a gender neutral bathroom available for everyone’s use: Neutral bathrooms take the stress out of wondering if you are going to be harassed for taking care of a basic bodily function. But in order to be truly neutral, these bathrooms shouldn’t be segregated as “the transgender bathroom”. They should be freely available to anyone who needs them.
  8. Don’t allow sexist, transphobic, or homophobic jokes and comments: People may not mean these comments to be offensive, but they still hurt and make people feel like outsiders. Keep the space respectful of all genders and ways of presenting.
  9. Educate all people in the space on safe space rules: If you designate your space as safe, and then a guard starts telling someone they are in the wrong bathroom, or people are making rude comments about what they presume is in someone’s pants, your space is not safe for trans* people.

Does anyone have other rules, or comments to add?

DIDA graphic; haley brown September 2013

[A crest promoting the words “DISABILITY SAFE SPACE” with an intersecting banner that reads “Disability, Illness, & Difference Alliance.” The seal is bisected by a giant spoon, dividing it into four corners that each show a representation of disability: a wheel, a white cane, a pair of signing hands, and a profile head and brain.] 

LBGTQ* Safety and Ally Assistance

(photo from University of Richmond’s Common Ground)

(following text from Youth Pride, Inc)

Ten suggestions for reducing homophobia in your environment

1. Make no assumption about sexuality. If a student has not used a pronoun when discussing a relationship, don’t assume one. Use neutral language such as “Are you seeing anyone” instead of “Do you have a boyfriend”. Additionally, do not assume that a female student who confides a “crush” on another girl is a lesbian. Labels are often too scary and sometimes not accurate. Let students label themselves.

2. Have something gay-related visible in your office. A sticker, a poster, a flyer, a brochure, a book, a button… This will identify you as a safe person to talk to and will hopefully allow a gay, lesbian, bisexual or questioning youth to break his/her silence. SAFE ZONE campaign stickers and resources can provide this visibility.

3. Support, normalize and validate students’ feelings about their sexuality. Let them know that you are there for them. If you cannot be supportive, please refer to someone who can be. Then work on your own biases by reading, learning and talking to people comfortable with this issue. And always remember, the problem is homophobia not homosexuality.

4. Do not advise youth to come out to parents, family and friends as they need to come out at their own safe pace. Studies show as many as 26% of gay youth are forced to leave their home after they tell their parents. IT IS THEIR DECISION and they have to live with the consequences. Help them figure out what makes sense for them.

5. Guarantee confidentiality with students. Students need to know their privacy will be respected or they will not be honest about this important issue. If you cannot maintain confidentiality for legal reasons, let students know this in advance.

6. Challenge homophobia. As a role model for your students, respond to homophobia immediately and sincerely. Encourage in-service trainings for staff and students on homophobia and its impact on gay and lesbian youth.

7. Combat heterosexism in your classroom. Include visibly gay and lesbian role models in your classroom.

8. Learn about and refer to community organizations. Familiarize yourself with resources and call them before you refer to make sure they are ongoing. Also, become aware of gay-themed bibliographies and refer to gay-positive books.

9. Encourage school administrators to adopt and enforce anti-discrimination policies for their schools or school systems which include sexual orientation. The language should be included in all written materials next to race, sex, religion, etc.

10. Provide role models. Gay and straight students benefit from having openly gay teachers, coaches and administration. Straight students are given an alternative to the inaccurate stereotypes they have received and gay students are provided with the opportunity to see healthy gay adults. You, as teachers, can help by making gay and lesbian students feel more welcome.

Suggestions compiled by Youth Pride, Inc.

Nope: A Safe Space Zine

Trigger Warning: Assault, Rape, and Abuse are recurring themes in our arts communities.  The Portland Poetry Slam community came together in April 2014 to make this zine, defining, building, and protecting our safe spaces.  The original zine raised over $500 from supporters nation wide to pay for free distribution of copies.  Click the link to view and download the PDF.

Please Help

My friend Grady is having a lot of trouble. He is a trans boy living with incredibly religious parents who are unsupportive of him and his pronouns. They’ve been emotionally and mentally abusing him and he needs out.  

His parents have just decided to send him to an all girls catholic school, where skirts are mandatory. Not only that; but his MOTHER works there, so no one will be able to call him his right name. This effectively takes away his only safe space. 

In our state, when a child is 16 they can go to court and legally remove themselves from their parents custody. Grady wants to do this more than anything in the world, but he cant afford it.

Thats where you come in; if you can donate ANYTHING, anything at all, please help him HERE.  

If you cannot afford it, please please please signal boost. 

Who started this notion that the internet is a “safe space” for anyone or anything?  Seriously, I have a bone to pick with them.  I’m not even that old, I’m pretty much right in the generation of kids that started growing up with the internet (kind of shitty in the 90′s and early 2000′s but got a lot better very fast) and all we were ever told by pretty much every adult ever was that the internet was not safe. Fun? Yeah.  Interesting and informative?  Sure, if you know how/where to look.  But, safe?  Never.  

That being said I honestly worry so much about those who say something like their facebook page, or their tumblr blog, or any online community is supposed to be a safe space for them. I’m just like please, please, no.  It’s not safe, it’s not private, hell it’s not even all that friendly a lot of the time.  Please, I implore anyone who reads this, don’t go on the internet thinking anything more than your own inhibitions will protect you from anything.