WARNING TO ALL FEMALE TOURISTS IN THAILAND (or Southeast Asia)
NOT A JOKE.
IF YOU SEE MEN WEARING SHIRTS THAT SAY “SEX ANIMATOR”….LEAVE.
Specifically: Pattaya, Thailand. It’s a tourism area 2 hours from Bangkok with nice beaches and a sex industry driven night life. Also, an incredible amount of Russian tourists.
We took the ferry out to Koh Larn (Island nearbye) and while on Tiem beach saw this large group of young Russian men–most of whom were wearing bright white t-shirts with red lettering that said “Sex Animator” with a black arrow pointing down. The back of the shirt said something in Russian and had a URL: lesley.ru (this leads to a website all in Russian with a book summary of a fellow named Lesley who wrote about picking up women)
We had seen them the day before getting into a cab, and then before getting on the ferry. We were mildly amused.
On the beach, they formed a line and began chanting and dancing a little down the beach from us. A couple of them filmed the line. They had two chants, one of which was a little indistinguishable, and “SEX, SEX, SEX ON THE BEACH” ….and repeat.
Then they broke and started running up to women on the beach, talking to them, coaxing them, and then eventually helping the women up from their towels and having them join in the dance and chant as they were recorded for round two. So far, skeezy, but consensual.
Dance and chant: Rount 2.
At this point they were on our part of the beach, we were standing in the back, looking on with bemused skepticism.
And then they broke and started running all over the beach, and three of them ran for us.
One said something to us in Russian, Liz smiled politely and shook her head “no thanks”
AND THEN one of them bent over AND PICKED LIZ UP.
“Hey, put me down,” she yelled! Did he put her down and apologize for this HUGE violation of personal space? No. He started running down the beach with her, all the whilst the 6 foot woman in his arms was screaming and HITTING HIM IN THE FACE.
AND HE STILL DIDN’T PUT HER DOWN.
I ran after him, while yelling “DUDE PUT HER DOWN.” I finally reached them, and he put Liz down, and straight up yelled in his face “NO, LEAVE. NOW. LEAVE.”
and all the while he looked amused.
Liz and I stalked back to our towels, shaking with post-confrontation adrenaline (Liz more than me.) Emily thankfully was already gathering our stuff and suggested that we leave the beach. We did.
Later that night when I saw one on the street, I tried to take a stealth photo of him to give you (the internet) a image of the shirt to avoid at all costs. Sadly I was not remotely stealthy and he saw me and blocked my path whilst speaking in Russian and touched my arm as a squeezed past him. The hair on my arm is STILL CRAWLING.
learn from me. Don’t engage them. They don’t speak any English, have an over inflated sense of self, and are VERY AGGRESSIVE WITH NO REMORSE.
All I can say if you are a woman traveling in tourist beaches in Thailand, BE CAREFUL. I’m so grateful I had friends with me, cause none of the people on the beach seemed alarmed that he’d physically accosted Liz.
But these guys skeezed me out so bad, that I quite literally felt safer the moment we got back to Bangkok, and even safer the moment I got back to Shanghai.
Let’s be clear:
DO NOT PICK UP WOMEN WITHOUT THEIR PERMISSION.
DO NOT TOUCH WOMEN WITHOUT THEIR PERMISSION.
ALSO, if you’re stupid enough to pick up a woman without her permission, PUT HER DOWN IMMEDIATELY WHEN SHE STARTS PUNCHING YOU IN THE FACE.
preferably, don’t bother women on the beach. It’s incredibly unnerving to have multiple men stand over while you’re on a towel in your swimsuit. Reading. Just trying to relax.
And I was stupid enough to be mildly amused by a large group of men running around with the words “Sex Animator” on their shirts.
If men in a group are all wearing shirts that seem to indicate they think they’re little sexy stud muffins, GET OUT. Because the sorts of men who wear those shirts are not the kind who respect women.
You have no idea how much I wanted to (and still want to) blister their ears with a detailed description of how inappropriate their behavior was, but sadly I can’t do that because I don’t speak Russian.
So dear Internet, I’m warning you. Stay away from the “Sex Animators” BUT if you speak Russian and feel up to giving them a lecture on consent and respecting their fellow human beings…BE MY GUEST.