rude people

Whenever people say The Beatles are overrated when I proclaim my love for them, all I can do is sigh because their arrogance is too much for me.

If it isn’t their type of music, why do they have to be rude about it? Can’t they just say “The Beatles aren’t really my type”. End of Story.

You don’t have to be a dick about it.

I usually don’t respond directly to these people, rather I just stay silent and change the subject or I’ll make them feel bad in the nicest way by saying:

“Maybe they are overrated but all I know is that music was created to make people happy and The Beatles make me happy. I’m sorry you felt the need to insult them right after I just said I loved their music. Again, all I know is that they make me feel happy and that’s good enough for me”.

Anger Only Makes Things Worse

Something may happen today that upsets you. Someone might be rude, your car could break down, an employee might mess something up despite your very careful instructions. Your instinct may be to yell and get angry. It’s natural.

But just because it’s “natural” doesn’t mean it’s a good idea. Remember Marcus Aurelius’ observation, “how much more harmful are the consequences of anger…than the circumstances that aroused them in us.”

Yelling might make you feel better for a second, but does it actually solve the problem? Of course not. Arguing with a rude person only offers them more opportunity to be rude. Getting worked up over car trouble doesn’t fix the car, it just raises your blood pressure. Berating an employee who messed up? Now they’ll either resent you or they’ll be more likely to screw up again in the future because they’re nervous and self-conscious.

Anger only make things worse. Remember that today.

So I have a story.
Today at work a lady came through my line she looked at me and said “I’m not trying to sound rude or anything but that lipstick makes you look like a whore.”.
I just kinda stood there a bit in shock trying to figure out what to say that wouldn’t get me in trouble.
Sadly the lady took this as a cue to continue “It’s just not a work appropriate color don’t you think?”.
I again just stood there shocked. A couple things running through my head.
1. You did sound rude.
2. Why does my lipstick choice concern you?
3. My mangers complemented my lipstick and said I looked nice today thank you very much.
4. Even if I was a “whore” why would that matter to you?
I said none of that to her though because I knew she’d probably just argue with me and then try to get me in trouble with my managers. So I just told her it was the trend these days and changed the conversation to if she found everything okay.
It’s been a couple hours and I still can’t believe that happened. I’m laughing about it now but I still wonder why it mattered to that lady so much…
(Picture above is the me wearing a fresh coat of the lipstick I was wearing.)

fyeahtutunamayanlar  asked:

Hi! I don't now much about mobile app so correct me if I am wrong. On mobile app it isn't possible to blacklist tags. Is it possible to put those looooong fanfictions under "keep reading" thingy? If it is and if you aren't using it on purpose you are an evil evil person who enjoys mobile app users' agony of scrolling forever. I mean not everybody wants to read Y/N fanfiction on Tumblr.

Okay…I’m trying to stay polite here even though you are very rude.

Every fic I have ever written has been under a read more “thingy,” so as to spare people from having reblogs like that. If something is showing without one, then the app is fucking it up.

Thank you and goodbye.

Things not to say to a retail associate who is leaving work for the day:

* “They let you leave?”
* “I thought you lived here!”
* “Real quick, let me ask you something.”
* “Uh uh, you better turn around. You’re walking the wrong way!”

Whether you realize it or not, you’re implying we don’t deserve to go home and rest or spend time with our families. You’re not funny, you’re extremely rude and you need to stop.

I'm a waitress
  • Me, taking a mans order: what kind of dressing would you like on your salad, sir?
  • Man: Ranch.
  • Me, not sure if the man said "Ranch" or "French": I'm sorry, did you say Ranch, or French dressing?
  • Man, rudely: Ranch, with an "R" as in "red"!
  • Me: thank you, sir.
  • *10 minutes later I bring the salad with Ranch dressing.*
  • Man: um, I ordered French dressing not ranch, do a better job next time this takes out of your tip.
  • What I say: I'm terribly sorry sir, I'll be back with some French dressing.
  • What I mean: when I sleep im not scared of my arm or leg dangling off the bed. Come at demons. I'm already in hell.
No Eye Contact

Rudy and I often train in PetSmart by having him do a 30m/down, this is basically exactly what it sounds like. He stays laying down for 30 minutes. Ideally, he falls asleep, but if he can just stay down that is quite an accomplishment for the little guy. The unfortunate thing about this is that it often opens up doors for people to approach us and talk to us. 

The other day we were performing our down when a lady noticed him. She commented as usually;

Lady: “Oh look a puppy!” *stares at Rudy*

Me: *correct Rudy and tries to get him to focus on me again* 

My Mom: “He’s in training right now.”

Lady: “Oh, okay. What breed is he?” *continues to stare Rudy down*

Mom: “He’s a poodle.”

Lady: *making extended eye contact with my dog* “I’ve never seen a poodle like that before!”

Me: *continuing to correct Rudy and try to get him to look at me*

Mom: “He’s just a puppy and isn’t fully grown yet.”

Lady: “Oh, okay. Well, I’ll leave you since you’re training.” *stands there and stares at Rudy* 

So, at this point Rudy is fed up at being stared at so he lets out a small, ever so quiet, “woof!” Which I correct and get him to look at me, but the Lady’s response.

Lady: *takes a step closer to Rudy* “Oh! Don’t bark at me puppy! You’re supposed to be training!”

Mom: *steps between Lady and Rudy* “I’m sorry. He’s in training can you please ignore him.”

At this point the Lady finally walks away, mumbling about what a cute dog he is and, listen, folks, I get it. He is cute and everybody loves dogs, but this is just another example of how important training is. Grant it, Rudy, once fully trained, should be able to ignore any distraction, yes. But he is only 6 months old, and if you see me clearly struggling to get my dog’s attention back on me because you are making direct, typically perceived as aggressive, eye contact with him, then please, for the love of all that is holy, LEAVE

It’s not like I’m gonna let you pet the dog. Heck, I’m not even going to talk to you, because I’m too busy trying to get him focused on me again. Really, all you’re doing is distracting me from vital training. Just try to be conscientious when talking to someone who is training their dog. That dog isn’t there for you to gawk at it. It’s there to serve a purpose, to work, to learn. You wouldn’t walk into a classroom of college students and eerily stare them in their eyes, so don’t do it to a dog that’s learning, too.  

When you walk into a store/restaurant/coffee shop/a place of business, please leave your attitude at the door. Treat the employees as if you are a guest in their space. Employees are not targets for your personal problems, and they do not turn off with the lights at night. Do not belittle them based on their place in the company, as everyone starts off somewhere. Do not get angry at cashiers for offering store programs as it is their job (imagine how frustrating it must be to be yelled at just for doing your job, repeatedly, throughout the day, for hours)- just politely decline. Just get in, get what you need, be courteous, and leave. Simple as that. Have a wonderful day.
Update: Because People Are RUDE.

Biology - Instersex>Neutrois/Transmale: born ‘hermaphrodite’, no biological genitalia after several events, transitioning into a male based body(Breastless, testosterone)

Identity - Agendered/Genderfluid: does not identify themselves as having a particular gender.(They/Them, SOMETIMES He/Him DEPENDING on the situation, but SHE, is completely unacceptable)

Expression - Androgynous/Fluid: feminine sometimes, masculine sometimes, neither, mix of both.

Sexuality: - Asexual: Some asexual people engage in sexual activity despite lacking sexual attraction or a desire for sex, due to a variety of reasons, such as a desire to pleasure themselves or romantic partners, or a desire to have children. (This is the case with me, although, I do joke to keep people guessing)

Romantics - Omniromantic: Someone who is romantically attracted to anyone regardless of gender identity and/or sex. Can have phases when they are more commonly attracted to a specific group. But is still attracted to all groups. Can be confused with panromantic but generally has a different view of genders, simply that it makes no difference to them.

Other - Misanthropy: the general hatred, distrust or contempt of the human species or human nature. Including myself. And no, I’m not joking. Me joking is me saying that I’m joking about this. If you mean something to me, I will disregard that you’re human. 

And if you’re an alien…please turn me into one so i’m less of a contribution to killing this planet.