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this is just a quick ramble about that “just waiting for the mcelroy culture to go sour” post and like
im not going to sugar coat it, i would be dead right now if it werent for mcelroy content. its helped establish a routine for me and the fact that it’s consistent and always here every week at roughly the same times? works wonders for my friendless, depressed BPD ass like. i need something to look forward to because i hate every aspect of my irl life and like just let me enjoy this content without making me feel guilty about it???
this isnt to say the mcelroys are infallible godlike beings who can never be wrong–hell, i cant even listen to the old MBMBAMs–but like at least they’re trying?? theyre genuine people and theyre NICE and they listen to people and adjust their content to fit needs and to be more inclusive and understanding and like??? just let me have this

anonymous asked:

As much as I liked the reunion, is it bad that I was kind of annoyed about everyone praising Bangel? Like I don't have a problem with people liking bangel, but they only talk about spuffy as an unhealthy relationship and not about spike post-soul? I mean at the end of season 7, their relationship seemed a lot healthier than Buffy and Angel ever was. Plus in the comics right now, which is meant to be canon, Buffy and Spike are in a happy, healthy relationship. It just felt one-sided to me.

tbh, I didn’t mind it all that much because I was way too elated to see them all back together again. But… the first thing I saw regarding the reunion was the cover, and I immediately thought: “I guess the EW people are Bangel shippers, then.” It kinda rubbed me the wrong way. And I’m not saying this as a Spuffy shipper myself. I wouldn’t have liked to see Spuffy on the cover either.

 I would’ve liked to see Buffy alone or the four main Scoobies.

That was what the show was about, the ships were secondary.

anonymous asked:

Your post with the steampunk dress you get upset about the Gender thing, but most people wouldn't know off hand you're nonbinary. Something can't be -"phobic" if it isn't done with malicious intent. Because having a beard is seen as cultural normative for a man people would assume you're a man. And it's okay that you aren't. Something about the added bit rubbed me the wrong way and I guess I wanted to ask if you intended for it to come off as hostile? I don't understand the defensiveness when f

Your post with the steampunk dress you get upset about the Gender thing, but most people wouldn’t know off hand you’re nonbinary. Something can’t be -“phobic” if it isn’t done with malicious intent. Because having a beard is seen as cultural normative for a man people would assume you’re a man. And it’s okay that you aren’t. Something about the added bit rubbed me the wrong way and I guess I wanted to ask if you intended for it to come off as hostile? I don’t understand the defensiveness when fOr many it was probably just an accident. I know why it must’ve frustrating but honestly most people were trying to support you and your decision, and had no idea they were hurting your personhood. I’m sorry off this came off as anything other than curious? I just I don’t understand I guess and so I’m confused?“
(The rest)

Ok. Let’s take this step by step.
First off. Let it be known that my words can be read in two ways. Extremely factual calm and collected. And extremely emotional hostile and angry. While both are simultaneously correct, the most accurate to my tone is calm. But note that I am angry. I am hostile.
“Why?” One asks? Well my friend. It’s because I am tired.

Picture this. You’re walking down the street wearing a name tag that says “hi my name is: Madison” (I’m using Madison bc it’s unisex but picture it as a name that fits your gender)
And for some reason everyone you pass on the street reads your name tag and decides you don’t look like a Madison enough so they all say “oh hey Alex!” (Also a gender neural name). They all smile. They all wave. They are all generally pleased to see you. But one by one they all call you Alex. You know they can’t mistake you for someone else. You know they read your name tag. But they refuse to see you as anything but Alex. You beg and plead but as each person passes buy you get more frustrated. It feels like no one is listening to you.
When you pass person number 568, they say “hey Alex!” And you respond “WHY CANT YOU JUST FUCKING READ. ITS MADISON” they are shook! This is the first and only time they have called you Alex. Why would you be so mean to them? They were trying to be nice! You shouldn’t get so angry. Be more forgiving. It’s not their fault. You are just being difficult.

Do you see? Misgendering me with a smile and a good intention is still misgendering. So it’s frustrating. Accidents happen and I am trying very hard every day to be forgiving and patient. But I can’t coddle all 15,000+ people who have seen it.

2 by “your decision” I hope to god you don’t mean that as my “decision” to be trans. You better fuckin watch that shit.

3 "something can’t be "phobic without malicious intent” good lord. Do you hear yourself. Do you see the issue here at all? “lol I mean it can’t be racist without intent to be racist” uhm sweetie.

within a societal system which punishes the oppressed for merely existing, any participation in that system is “phobic” because it supports the system that wants us dead

4 my beard was a masculine presentation marker. Was the dress not a feminine marker? Tell me. If you mix both red and blue. Doesn’t it make purple? You don’t call it “blue wearing red that is definitely still blue” you call it “purple”

5 this whole ask bothers me and honestly you and people like you annoy this fucking shit out of me. But guess what. I am forced by people like you to play nice. I have to be a soft and kind trans princess that you want to politely educate you and hold your hand while you process things. And if I don’t, you then assume that all trans people are angry and bitter and mean and don’t make sense. So I’m heavily bothered that you force me to hold your hand and make you think. But I am still trying. It’s hard enough to swim on my own without yall bitch ass gray faced dick nozzles clinging on to my back.

but I do it anyways.

anonymous asked:

just going to put this out there bc i'm seeing a lot of girls in your inbox saying they don't orgasm.. ok so i don't know if this will work for everyone, but i talked about it with my partner, and he wants me to orgasm when we have sex, so while he is doing his thing, he encourages me to rub and touch my clit. not because he's lazy, but because I know how to do it really well and he is still learning (we're each others first partners). so talk to your partners girls! they might even do it for u

agreed if u know how to pleasure urself then u should use that to ur advantage

Some of you have been worried about making me uncomfortable with your requests, please don’t! Not much makes me uncomfortable. Abortion requests doesn’t make me uncomfortable, but the gang trying to change a woman’s mind about getting one makes me uncomfortable. I’m very much pro choice, and sometimes abortions are necessary, so I’ll never write one where someone from the gang tries and convinces/ and or forces her to keep it. It kind of goes against everything I believe in. I used to be pro life years and years ago, I was a fully fledged feminist and abortion made me sick and I couldn’t understand how someone could actually get one. Things change, and people’s mindset change. I was raised by women who were entirely against it, they thought abortion was bad so it really rubbed off on me. And then I was fortunate enough to her other people’s stories and I got to hear the reasons for getting them and I also got to hear reasons why they wouldn’t get them and it’s a choice. It’s a choice all women need to have and no one should try and convince a woman who has made up her mind to keep a baby especially someone who is under the age of 20. They’re still kids, I’m twenty and I still feel like a kid and I couldn’t possibly imagine having a child right now.

That being said. Requests are shut in 30 minutes.

anonymous asked:

not to be that bitch but....what do u think of ed sheeran? Honestly?

ksdjkfhds ok like i always think of myself as being like…. quite intuitive? like i think i can read ppls vibe quite well and like.. know that someones shitty before they actively show it themselves. and like ed sheeran has just… always given me bad vibes and like i’m not saying i think he’s some horrible awful person with an evil past or anything like that. i just think he’s just not as Sweet and Wholesome and Pally as people (including himself) make him out to be. like the whole oh i’m just a working class bloke that drinks beer at the pub and plays guitar i’m so normal™ and laddy™ and Down To Earth just rubs me the wrong way and it feels so forced. he reminds me of taylor swift in that his public image is very crafted around a certain persona. i think they both have like, incredible business minds and are both extremely talented but they go about it in almost a deceiving way where they push the idea that they’re sooooo normal and down to earth even when they’re pulling shady moves behind the scenes. i dont know honestly i feel like that rolling stone profile sort of showed that he really isnt just ur typical lad havin a pint and a curry at spoons… he’s more five shots of white tequila in a new york bar on ice thats been left to sit and then had passionfruit poured over it and shaken

Part of me which rubs me the wrong way with Danny Choo’s marketing technique is that he pretends that he designs and sculpts his dolls on his own. I will never forget when his ex-sculptor got extremely upset when he would send Choo the screen shots of sculpting progress, only to have the screenshot full screened with Choo pretending that he was working on it by himself. I wonder if it’s because he only credits famous/well known artists to gain attention?

~Anonymous

I don’t know about you, but something has always rubbed me the wrong way about how much of a smug dipshit Snape acts when Harry can’t answer a question about potions on his first day after NEVER HAVING HAD A SINGLE DAY OF MAGICAL EDUCATION WHATSOEVER.  

idk why but it just rly rubs me the wrong way how much the fandom and even critics hate on archie so much? like i get it, he’s definitely the most boring character on the show (tho this doesnt mean im bored of him…which i cant say for some other characters) but yall go on to call him a “”“”“"fuckboy”“”“”“ (yall killed the word ages ago i didnt kno u folks were still using it lol) and an all around asshole…but for what? he hasnt done shit??? why are critics calling him a douche??? why is the fandom acting like he doesnt exist unless its to ship him with cupholder jones? idk this just seems fishy to me bc yall (certain folks on this website) tend to loooove boring male leads,,,could it be bc u already got ur fix with juggler or something else ?

I’m sorry, but this is complete bullshit. I get censoring out videos that talk about sex and more explicit things - which these restrictions accomplish to some extent - but this does more than just that. 

For example:

  • You know dodie’s “Sick of Losing Soulmates” video? Yeah, the official music video got taken down, but not because of language. The original release of the song on her main channel is still up with the restrictions on.
  • When you look up creators like Connor Franta, Troye Sivan, Hannah Hart, and Tyler Oakley, just to name a few, in the search bar, their channels don’t show up.
  • Mary Lambert’s “She Keeps Me Warm” official video isn’t available. Some videos of her performing it are up, but not the actual music video, a video that has no adult themes. 
  • Evan Edinger’s video on demisexuality isn’t available. Sure, he mentions the word “sex” a few times, but sex ed/human reproductive system videos aren’t down.
  •  MilesChronicles only has eight videos up with the restrictions. All their videos relating to their gender or sexuality don’t appear on their channel.
  • Troye Sivan’s coming out video (2013) isn’t there.
  • All of Melanie Murphy’s videos - except one - where she talks about her bisexuality aren’t available.
  • Only eight of Stevie Boebi’s videos show up on her channel; only one directly relates to being queer, the other is her identity video where “lesbian or bisexual” is in the thumbnail.

Trust me, there are more; you don’t have to look far to find them. But why does it matter? Can’t you just turn off the restrictions? Well yes, if it isn’t locked. YouTube offers an option to lock on Restricted Mode for the browser. A kid who’s trying to figure themself out and is terrified about it won’t have these resources and stories and models to help them if their parent(s) enable this restriction. Their self journey will be so much longer and harder than necessary because of it.

And what about the younger kids. The kids who are in a heavily sheltered environment where the only information they have about being queer is taken-out-of-context Bible verses. They’ll see the very minuscule number of lgbtq+ videos and feel even more isolated and like a pariah.

We need these videos.

Youtube has been a happy place and a space of belonging for me and so many others, we can’t take lose that. @youtube you said you’re proud of representing queer voices, you better fucking mean it.


UPDATE (20/3/17):

As pointed out by Philip DeFranco - amongst others - this is not only an lgbtq+ issue. We should not be viewing this just as *potential* homophobia, but rather marking people who are different from the societal norm as an “other.”

It has been brought to my attention that some videos concerning mental health issues have also been taken down. As @srgtfuckybarnes said, Hannah Hart’s video about living with depression is no longer available with these restrictions.

This is a bigger issue. It takes people who have different thoughts and opinions and placing them in a light that suggests their views are less than. 

I want to make this very, very clear, though: the intent of YouTube isn’t bad. I highly, highly doubt workers at YouTube sat down and at a meeting and said they were going to censor these types of people. That being said, the result/effect is still negative. How it effects people (in this situation) stands out more than whether or not YouTube is trying to separate people as an “other.”


Thank you to everyone (especially @2022hadmefrickinzazzed) for making constant updates to this. That is very much appreciated.

If you ever feel bad about your job performance remember that for all 8 years of his presidency George Washington had to write his constitutional responsibilities on the palm of his hand and frequently checked it during cabinet meetings.

I actually sat down and shut my mouth and actually just listened and you know, accepted every bit of information with no judgement… I knew that it was my job to show, you know, that people that are on the spectrum are just regular people, literally, just how we talk, how me and Becky [Becky G, Yellow Ranger] talk, they feel the same way, they have the same emotions, they wanna be loved, that want people to love, they want relationships they want, you know, connections, and it’s just like I was really excited to be able to play that ’cause I know it means so much to so many people, ’cause all of us are affected by it… and it’s something I feel like we needed to have in this movie to be honest.
—  RJ Cyler, who plays Billy Cranston (the blue power ranger) in Power Rangers (2017).
rinse the blood off my space toga

“Can I see? Wait, there’s no shafts? it just.. grows in two colours?”
“Er. Not exactly.”
“The other humans’ plumage isn’t near this bright. Are you a born leader?”
“HAH. no.”
“It signifies caste, then? Or a mating display?!”
“Not even close. I went out and paid an artisan to apply a harsh chemical to rip out my natural colouration, then apply this artificial one.”
“That sounds.. unpleasant.”
“Yeah it burned like a <<dog?>>, my scalp was tender for days after.”
“If it doesn’t create any advantages, what’s the point?”
“Ah, it just looks <<rutting>> <<cold>>. What other reason do we need?”
“..humans are weird. .. .. .. do you think it would work on feathers?”