rosie powers

Holby City Ladies ~ Current cast with some Louise Delamere & Niamh Walsh action, because who didn’t love Colette and Cara??

Many thanks to all these talented actresses for giving us a plethora of women to admire - all  so very glorious and powerful in their own way. 

cora-san just wants some love tonight
but law just wanna read his book…

You deserve someone who loves you with every single beat of his heart, someone who thinks about you constantly, someone who spends every minute of every day just wondering what you’re doing, where you are, who you’re with, and if you’re OK. You need someone who can help you reach your dreams and who can protect you from your fears. You need someone who will treat you with respect, love every part of you, especially your flaws. You should be with someone who can make you happy, really happy, dancing on air happy. Someone who should have taken the chance to be with you years ago instead of getting scared and being too afraid to try. I love you, I really do.
—  Alex Stewart

anonymous asked:

Rosy, how do you think opinions on Cl would change if L had been male? I've posted here before about how I'm bisexual and Asian so Bellarke actually resonates w/me a lot more than Cl. Ppl love Cl for representation but I can't help but feel that if L had been male, the abusive nature of that relationship would've been way more obvious to ppl and it wouldn't have been heralded as glorious by antis. i mean L literally talked C down so many times and told her how she should lead, obviously that is

obviously that would’ve been really sexist if L had been male…but why is it not seen as problematic at all when L is female? It’s still condescending as hell and upsetting. at least to me it is.

If L had been male it would have immediately been seen as a stereotypical male dominating relationship. It would have had lots of fans still. It would have had very DIFFERENT fans, probably.  People like that dynamic. I do not. 

We would have had a lot more feminists calling it out as problematic. But because of the wlw question, there was a new element to value within the representation. I personally believe that abuse is an issue in both m/f and wlw relationships, so to me this is not about lgbt, but about understanding abuse. But for many people, the lgbt representation was more important than any question of power inequality or psychological abuse, so that took precedence over any other problematic issues. They simply saw it as more important and so invalidated anyone who tried to bring up the abuse issues. 

Please note. I never actually said that no one should ship CL or it was wrong or was bad. I said that it triggered me and I recognized my own abusive relationship in it. And I think we should ALWAYS consider whether relationships we see on screen are healthy. Because there are too many relationships in film and tv and stories that are glamorized and dramatized and made into romantic ideals that are NOT healthy. And it doesn’t matter what gender the partners are.

I regularly imagine characters with alternate genders because it shines a light on their gender dynamics and interactions and the whole “romance” question and power issues and all sorts of things that we don’t recognize because they are expected within M/F relationships.

Switching  or swapping genders in a relationship makes us look at the way the characters interact and how power flows between characters in a way we don’t notice in our generally misogynistic and heteronormative society.

It is a mental exercise that challenges our expectations and assumptions about the way people and characters should act and enlightens our own understanding of our society.

ps. i researched and I still don’t know if i got the terminology right. gender switch/swap? i don’t think i want to use gender bend, that doesn’t seem right. correction welcome.